October 3, 2018 • 8 mins
Manhood is a complex word. Big Dog talks about 3 P's and other aspects of being a man. Get it right here.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Uh huh, I show will good morning everybody. You're listening
to the voice and now come on dig me one
and only. Steve Harvey got a radio show one more
time partner, Steve Harvey got a radio show. Man. How
amazing is that? How good has God been to me?
(00:23):
How good has He been to you? Just check yourself sometimes,
just sit up, Just let's run a survey. Just look
at your life, where it's at. It might not be
where you wanted to be, but that's probably some decisions
you made. But really, though, in spite of all the
crazy mistakes I hadn't made. I mean, man, I I
(00:45):
look back at some of the decisions I didn't came
up with, and and and man, it's it's it's just
amazing He let me live. I mean, it's it's and
and and to exist the way I exist, that's nothing
but grace, mercy, favor. All that is. That's my mama
praying for me when I wasn't praying for myself. That
had to be it, because man, I can truly tell
(01:05):
you I have made enough mistakes man, stuff you would
never even know about, and recovered from them all you
can too. And I don't care what you've done. Marvin
Sapp has a song out that says he saw the
best in me when everyone else around me could only
(01:26):
see the worst in me. You know that that's an
important song man especially. You know. I want to talk
to men today because man, being a man is so
so difficult. Please, no, it has been my quest ever
(01:47):
since I was a little boy. My father had one ambition, son,
I don't care what you do both. When I get
through raising you, you will be a man. That's all
I want you to be. Never cared what I did
for a living, and it never made a difference to him.
You're going to be a man. Manhood is difficult now, ladies,
just listening to this, I'm not saying womanhood ain't. I
(02:11):
don't know what it takes to be a woman, so
you know, I'm I'm but I do know exactly what
it takes to be a man. So you know, sometimes
when you talk to people on the radio, you have
to preface things because people are just go he trying
to make it look like womanhood ain't. No, That's not
what I'm doing. I'm just talking to men today to
explain to them. To damn by his self and struggling
(02:32):
trying to figure this thing out, that you are not
alone in your quest for manhood. That is difficult, even
though it's interesting. Yesterday, the Dating game guy, he said
the reason I didn't get to say this on the air,
but I read his profile. He said one of the
reasons he was still single because he was trying to
find himself as a man. He was forted too. But
(02:53):
I'm I gotta I go. I gotta tell you, man um,
manhood is that kind of difficult, and it be comes
even more compounded if a young boy does not have
a male role model. I've said it a thousand times.
I'll say it again. A young boy without a male
role model is like an explorer without a map. Well,
(03:15):
I have a suggestion for everybody that's struggling with manhood
and all of the men out there that are men.
This messages for all of us, and it's for me too.
You know. I was listening to Joyce Myers the other
day and um, she made a statement. She said, sometimes
you gotta do the right thing even when it feels wrong.
(03:35):
You know. One of the difficulties of manhood is pure
pressure and the misguided principles of manhood. See what God
wants us to be as men, and what we believe
manhood is is is sometimes two different things. Give you
an example. I wrote this book for women, right and
(03:59):
I was telling them the three ways that a man
shows his love, and I call him three p's. We profess,
we protect, and we provide. Every man who is a man,
that's how he exhibits love. We're not talkie talkie comforting
with our great nurturers. But when it comes down to
to it, what we all want to do, what is
(04:20):
in our day DNA, is to profess our love for
something you as a woman, to protect you as a woman,
and to provide for you as a woman. That's in
our DNA. Now, sometimes that gets messed up, and I'll
give you an example. Sometimes when a boy doesn't have
the proper, real role model in his life, he takes
that principle of love that we all possess in us
(04:41):
every man, the professing part, the protecting and a and
a and a providing part, and we misplay it. That's
why gangs exist. Gangs exist off those three principles. What's
the first thing a gang member do. He professed, he
claim a hood. That's the first thing you do that's
my neighborhood. I'm duce tray, I'm triple h, I'm due
(05:03):
de dude, I'm purple, I'm I'm red, I'm blue. The
first thing they do is claim that's professing. That's how
we show our love. But it's misguided though. Now we're
professing something that ain't even good for us. Your hood,
your game, your click now, guess what. Now we got
to protect it. So now as a protection part of
(05:25):
our love, here we go. You come down here, We're
gonna do this to you. You go over there, they're
gonna do that to you. You protect your hood. This
is your turf, just all you got. You ain't nobody
coming down here with blue owned. Can anybody come over
here with red on? You can't come over here with
purple on. You can't come over here with black and
gold on. And we and we protect that because that's
(05:45):
in our da name. And then what's the third thing
we provide? So guess what the game needs money? Guess
what we do. We're selling drugs, we're selling women, we're
selling guns. It go back to the same thing. Man,
I don't know how God gave it to me that way.
When I was writing a book, but he showed it
to me along the way. That's how men love well.
(06:07):
When you don't have a role model in your life.
Guess what, not that love is misplaced, its misguided, It's
off track. Ain't no man told you that. Really you're
supposed to take this love and give it to a woman.
You're really supposed to profess, protect and provide for a woman,
not your gang set. Now you're professing your hood, repping
a color. You're protecting your territory, shooting people driving by
(06:29):
coming over you on your street, and then you provide.
Now you are here selling drugs and guns for the
same thing. When a boy does not have a male
role model, he has a misguided way of looking at manhood.
The reason I'm saying is today is cause fellas, this
is what I'm saying. Core tripping yourself out, man and
find out the type of man God wants you to be.
(06:52):
Here's the deal. See, God created all of us in
his image. That means He's put some of our DNA
in him. That's why I's in your DNA to profess, protect,
and provide because guess what, that's what God do for us,
Because we His children. God provides for us. He protects us,
(07:13):
and he professes his love for us. He claims us
he died on the cross for us, He done all
that for us. I'm just talking to me. And right now,
you don't want to be in your house when the
when the cop knocking on the dough. You want to
be laying the PC when my doughbell rang and go
answer because ain't no police coming over here, cause I
ain't done nothing for them to come. You can't go
(07:34):
to your dough like that. When you got weed in
the back, you got crack in the back, you got
cocaine in the back. You can't go answering your dough.
You hear that, you gotta start flushing tarlets and stuff. Man,
that's crazy. I'm just telling you man, I had to
wake up about five years ago. I wasn't doing what
God wanted me to do, and then he shook me.
(07:55):
He said, Man, I'm gonna bring about some changes in
your life. I'm gonna cause some things to happen that's
gonna put you in a position. And this time you're
gonna listen to me, because if you don't, you're gonna
keep living in this pain you've been in. But you
put yourself in this pain. I owe no blame to
no one else but myself. Please know, I know that.
And that's how we really get to manhood. When you
(08:17):
figure out what you hadn't done wrong. You can't blame
this on none of your exes because you're a man.
You can't go my ex dear this. No, No, you're
a man. Partner. You gotta take responsibility for yours and
yours alone. If you got kids, you got to get
to him some kind of way. Write him a letter,
send them the money. If she won't let you see it,
for the money, whatever, send the money to a mama.
(08:39):
Do what you're supposed to do as a man. Do
what God wants you to do, man, because he's not
letting us off the hook for what we're supposed to
be just cause you ain't doing it. And if you
do it, you turn your life around. Just holding at
the fellas today that saw Sorry about that.
Uh huh, I show will good morning everybody. You're listening
to the voice and now come on dig me one
and only. Steve Harvey got a radio show one more
time partner, Steve Harvey got a radio show. Man. How
amazing is that? How good has God been to me?
(00:23):
How good has He been to you? Just check yourself sometimes,
just sit up, Just let's run a survey. Just look
at your life, where it's at. It might not be
where you wanted to be, but that's probably some decisions
you made. But really, though, in spite of all the
crazy mistakes I hadn't made. I mean, man, I I
(00:45):
look back at some of the decisions I didn't came
up with, and and and man, it's it's it's just
amazing He let me live. I mean, it's it's and
and and to exist the way I exist, that's nothing
but grace, mercy, favor. All that is. That's my mama
praying for me when I wasn't praying for myself. That
had to be it, because man, I can truly tell
(01:05):
you I have made enough mistakes man, stuff you would
never even know about, and recovered from them all you
can too. And I don't care what you've done. Marvin
Sapp has a song out that says he saw the
best in me when everyone else around me could only
(01:26):
see the worst in me. You know that that's an
important song man especially. You know. I want to talk
to men today because man, being a man is so
so difficult. Please, no, it has been my quest ever
(01:47):
since I was a little boy. My father had one ambition, son,
I don't care what you do both. When I get
through raising you, you will be a man. That's all
I want you to be. Never cared what I did
for a living, and it never made a difference to him.
You're going to be a man. Manhood is difficult now, ladies,
just listening to this, I'm not saying womanhood ain't. I
(02:11):
don't know what it takes to be a woman, so
you know, I'm I'm but I do know exactly what
it takes to be a man. So you know, sometimes
when you talk to people on the radio, you have
to preface things because people are just go he trying
to make it look like womanhood ain't. No, That's not
what I'm doing. I'm just talking to men today to
explain to them. To damn by his self and struggling
(02:32):
trying to figure this thing out, that you are not
alone in your quest for manhood. That is difficult, even
though it's interesting. Yesterday, the Dating game guy, he said
the reason I didn't get to say this on the air,
but I read his profile. He said one of the
reasons he was still single because he was trying to
find himself as a man. He was forted too. But
(02:53):
I'm I gotta I go. I gotta tell you, man um,
manhood is that kind of difficult, and it be comes
even more compounded if a young boy does not have
a male role model. I've said it a thousand times.
I'll say it again. A young boy without a male
role model is like an explorer without a map. Well,
(03:15):
I have a suggestion for everybody that's struggling with manhood
and all of the men out there that are men.
This messages for all of us, and it's for me too.
You know. I was listening to Joyce Myers the other
day and um, she made a statement. She said, sometimes
you gotta do the right thing even when it feels wrong.
(03:35):
You know. One of the difficulties of manhood is pure
pressure and the misguided principles of manhood. See what God
wants us to be as men, and what we believe
manhood is is is sometimes two different things. Give you
an example. I wrote this book for women, right and
(03:59):
I was telling them the three ways that a man
shows his love, and I call him three p's. We profess,
we protect, and we provide. Every man who is a man,
that's how he exhibits love. We're not talkie talkie comforting
with our great nurturers. But when it comes down to
to it, what we all want to do, what is
(04:20):
in our day DNA, is to profess our love for
something you as a woman, to protect you as a woman,
and to provide for you as a woman. That's in
our DNA. Now, sometimes that gets messed up, and I'll
give you an example. Sometimes when a boy doesn't have
the proper, real role model in his life, he takes
that principle of love that we all possess in us
(04:41):
every man, the professing part, the protecting and a and
a and a providing part, and we misplay it. That's
why gangs exist. Gangs exist off those three principles. What's
the first thing a gang member do. He professed, he
claim a hood. That's the first thing you do that's
my neighborhood. I'm duce tray, I'm triple h, I'm due
(05:03):
de dude, I'm purple, I'm I'm red, I'm blue. The
first thing they do is claim that's professing. That's how
we show our love. But it's misguided though. Now we're
professing something that ain't even good for us. Your hood,
your game, your click now, guess what. Now we got
to protect it. So now as a protection part of
(05:25):
our love, here we go. You come down here, We're
gonna do this to you. You go over there, they're
gonna do that to you. You protect your hood. This
is your turf, just all you got. You ain't nobody
coming down here with blue owned. Can anybody come over
here with red on? You can't come over here with
purple on. You can't come over here with black and
gold on. And we and we protect that because that's
(05:45):
in our da name. And then what's the third thing
we provide? So guess what the game needs money? Guess
what we do. We're selling drugs, we're selling women, we're
selling guns. It go back to the same thing. Man,
I don't know how God gave it to me that way.
When I was writing a book, but he showed it
to me along the way. That's how men love well.
(06:07):
When you don't have a role model in your life.
Guess what, not that love is misplaced, its misguided, It's
off track. Ain't no man told you that. Really you're
supposed to take this love and give it to a woman.
You're really supposed to profess, protect and provide for a woman,
not your gang set. Now you're professing your hood, repping
a color. You're protecting your territory, shooting people driving by
(06:29):
coming over you on your street, and then you provide.
Now you are here selling drugs and guns for the
same thing. When a boy does not have a male
role model, he has a misguided way of looking at manhood.
The reason I'm saying is today is cause fellas, this
is what I'm saying. Core tripping yourself out, man and
find out the type of man God wants you to be.
(06:52):
Here's the deal. See, God created all of us in
his image. That means He's put some of our DNA
in him. That's why I's in your DNA to profess, protect,
and provide because guess what, that's what God do for us,
Because we His children. God provides for us. He protects us,
(07:13):
and he professes his love for us. He claims us
he died on the cross for us, He done all
that for us. I'm just talking to me. And right now,
you don't want to be in your house when the
when the cop knocking on the dough. You want to
be laying the PC when my doughbell rang and go
answer because ain't no police coming over here, cause I
ain't done nothing for them to come. You can't go
(07:34):
to your dough like that. When you got weed in
the back, you got crack in the back, you got
cocaine in the back. You can't go answering your dough.
You hear that, you gotta start flushing tarlets and stuff. Man,
that's crazy. I'm just telling you man, I had to
wake up about five years ago. I wasn't doing what
God wanted me to do, and then he shook me.
(07:55):
He said, Man, I'm gonna bring about some changes in
your life. I'm gonna cause some things to happen that's
gonna put you in a position. And this time you're
gonna listen to me, because if you don't, you're gonna
keep living in this pain you've been in. But you
put yourself in this pain. I owe no blame to
no one else but myself. Please know, I know that.
And that's how we really get to manhood. When you
(08:17):
figure out what you hadn't done wrong. You can't blame
this on none of your exes because you're a man.
You can't go my ex dear this. No, No, you're
a man. Partner. You gotta take responsibility for yours and
yours alone. If you got kids, you got to get
to him some kind of way. Write him a letter,
send them the money. If she won't let you see it,
for the money, whatever, send the money to a mama.
(08:39):
Do what you're supposed to do as a man. Do
what God wants you to do, man, because he's not
letting us off the hook for what we're supposed to
be just cause you ain't doing it. And if you
do it, you turn your life around. Just holding at
the fellas today that saw Sorry about that.
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