June 18, 2019 • 12 mins
Dear Mr. Harvey and Ms Strawberry, I am a 22 year old guy and my girlfriend is 21. She still lives at home and she’s a virgin, so we’ve been taking it slow in the sex department. I am falling in love with this girl and I think she loves me. My birthday was two weeks ago and she treated me to dinner. As I was dropping her off at home, she told me to pull over before I got to her house so she could give me a surprise for my birthday. I pulled over a block away from her house.........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let's go. Let's go. Buckle up a hole on tight.
We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Oh lord, subject A father should never have to see that.
Dear mister Harvey and miss Strawberry. I am a twenty
two year old guy and my girlfriend is twenty one.
She still lives at home, and she's a virgin, so
we've been taking it slow in the sex department. I
(00:22):
am falling in love with this girl, and I think
she loves me. My birthday was two weeks ago and
she treated me to dinner. As I was dropping her
off at home, she told me to pull over before
I got to her house so she could give me
a surprise for my birthday. I pulled over a block
away from her house. We started making out in the car,
(00:43):
and then she leaned in and gave me a very
special birthday present. It was something I had never received before,
if you know what I mean. While this was happening,
listen to this though. While this was happening, I wasn't
paying attention to what was going on around me, and
(01:03):
I certainly didn't notice that her dad had pulled up
behind my card. Yes, yeah, yes, okay, I'll read it again. Okay,
yeah right here, yeah, no, all right. So, like he said,
(01:25):
he wasn't paying attention to what was going around going
on around him, and he certainly didn't notice that her
dad had pulled up behind the car, and at the
worst possible moment, at the worst possible moment, her dad
was right there looking through my car window. I screamed,
(01:46):
I need a scream from you right here, Steve. Please.
Oh you can't scream right here too much. I love
the way you scream. Come on, I can't do this show,
I screamed. My girl, all friends screamed, and her dad
yelled for her to get out of the car. He
told me if he ever saw me again, he would
(02:08):
put his boot in my white ass. Excuse me, but
that's what he said. I'm a white guy and my
girlfriend is black. So do you so? Do you think
he had a problem with the fact that I'm white?
Or was he just mad about what his daughter was
(02:28):
doing to me. I have been dating her for a
few months and race has never been an issue. We
have snucked to see each other once. We have snucked
to see each other once since this happened. But I
don't want to get hurt because my girl said her
dad was very serious about what he said. She won't
admit to her dad that it was her idea. And
(02:49):
I don't blame her, but I don't want to look
like the bad guy here. How can I fix things
with her dad? Or should I just stay away from her? Please? Help? Well?
You ask what is he mad about? Is he mad
about the fact that you're white? Or was it what
she was doing to you? And I say to you
all of the above. He's mad at everything. He's mad
(03:12):
at the fact that you were white. He's mad at
the fact of what she was doing to you. You
gotta put yourself in her dad's shoes, if you can.
You roll up on your daughter and she's pleasuring some
guy okay, in her car. I guarantee you you would
feel some kind of way to see your daughter in
that way. But it just produces all kind of shock
(03:34):
and hurt and disappointment from a parent that you can't
even imagine. So I can't say that it's just one
thing that her pops was upset about. Again, I think
he's mad about everything. The fact that you're white. I'm
sure Adam shook. And I'm not gonna lie to you
about that, because I'm sure that played a part. But again,
all of this is just something you know, you don't
(03:57):
want to see your child doing this, just like children
say that don't ever want to see their parents getting busy. Well,
their parents certainly don't want to see it from their
kids busting up in the dodey. Excuse me, I'm sorry, Okay,
a little personal for you, didn't a nephew. I do suggest,
I do suggest, though, young man, that you stay away,
(04:18):
especially until things calm down, and I don't know that
they ever will because of the lie that the daughter
told the father that it was not her fault. So
you know, her dad is just really angry and upset
right now, and you're the last person he wants to see.
So there's nothing you can do now. You know, there's
a saying that says time heals all wounds. Maybe sometime
(04:41):
in the future you can call if you really love her,
because you said you love her, so you know, maybe
you can call and talk to the father at some point.
But right now, my suggestion, my advice to you, is
to stay away from that situation because you will get hurt. Steve,
oh boy, this is boy, boy boy, We got daughters.
(05:15):
I understand everybody in this letter. I understand the boy,
I understand the father. We have a situation here. The
girl gave you a birthday surprise a block away from
her house. Now y'all making out in the car. Then
(05:37):
she leaned in and get you a very special birthday present.
And it was something I had never received before. If
you know what I mean, I'm going back in my
mind right now. Boy, I know exactly what you mean.
While this was happening, I wasn't paying much attention to
what's going on around. You can't. You can't focus, ship focus.
(06:00):
The shot your guys are is open but to shut
because pure facing the back of your head, you're actually
looking at your brain with your eyes and you ain't
never seen that before, so you don't even realize it.
But your eyes is wide open, but you can't see
nothing but your day. I'm praying. I knew you were
gonna Something is happening. This boy been dating this girl.
(06:24):
He twenty two, twenty one, She a virgin. They've been
taking this slow for sex, respectful, but he say falling
in love with this girl things she fallen in love
with you. Your birthday was two weeks ago. She treated
me to dinner. I was dropping off at home and
she told me to pull over for I got to
the house so she could give me a surprise from
my birthday. I pulled over about block away from the crib,
(06:47):
were in a car. We started making out, and here
this way all hell broke loose. She started, Oh, leaned
in and gave me a very special birthday present. You
keep reading that over and over, very very very special,
and it was something that I had never received before.
(07:11):
If you know what I mean, I know exactly exactly
what you mean, because when it first happened, you don't
know what to call it. So you are in here
and it like you're being ravaged. It's like, oh, all
your senses have been taken away. You have drifted off
(07:38):
in two an abyss. The world doesn't stop turning for you.
The car engine ain't o no more. You ain't in
the car, You in heaven as the process continue. Your eyes,
(08:02):
you say in the letter, when this was happening, I
wasn't paying attention to what was going on around me.
Boy boy, we know exactly what you. You can't pay attention,
You can't pay too much of nothing right now, you
(08:25):
don't know where your hands are. You don't know why
your teeth is gritting the way they are. You can't
understand why your eyes is open but you can't see
because your pupils are pointed the other way. You're looking
(08:45):
at your brain and you've never seen it before. Uh.
You just saying things that you speaking in a language
similar to what church folks do back digit careful, liberally,
(09:06):
good to all of this is going on. And then
while you wasn't paying attention, you notice that her dad,
(09:28):
You didn't notice that her dad had pulled up behind
your car at the worst possible moment. Her dad was
right down looking through my mind. What is the worst
possible moment? M h, Well, let me remind you, for
(09:51):
those that have forgotten, the worst possible moment is to
try to clamp the water holes. Why are you washing
the car? But the first yeah, yeah, see you when
you washing the car and you ain't got no niles
(10:13):
alone it and you need to stop that stream of
water from going on your car. You got the clamping shut.
Now you could run the risk of putting a hole
in that hole. Really, it's what I'm saying about washing cars. Yeah,
so you are now at the wash the car moment,
(10:35):
and her damn daddy is looking dead in the window.
I would imagine at this point your head was facing
the ceiling, your foot was nothing but in Adam's apple.
But the words that's coming out am these incoherent nomad.
(11:02):
Her daddy wants to bust that damn car window. And
then her dad was right there looking through my car window.
You notice it because it's somebody having a big black
man looking at you. Why are you at the worst
possible moment, and all of a sudden you scream. The
girl scream and her dad yelled her to get out,
(11:24):
caught told me if he ever saw me again, he
gonna put his boot in my white ass. Now excuse me,
that's what he said, because I'm a white guy, my
girlfriend black. Do you think he had a problem with
the fact that I'm white? Yes, he had a problem
with the fact white right then. And now if you
didn't know it before, you know it now ever can
see you again, I'm gonna put my foot in your
(11:46):
white ass because yes, he's got a problem with you
being white right now. He didn't have to bring it
up before, but now to you down here with his daughter,
he didn't bought it up. I've been dating for a
few months. Out of race has never been in there.
What us? Why not? Damn it? Listen? You can email
us or instagram us your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter
(12:08):
and Steve Harvey FM, and I'm sure you'll have a
lot to say. Or you can check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand. Lord, you're listening to the Steve
Harvey Morning Show.
Let's go. Let's go. Buckle up a hole on tight.
We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Oh lord, subject A father should never have to see that.
Dear mister Harvey and miss Strawberry. I am a twenty
two year old guy and my girlfriend is twenty one.
She still lives at home, and she's a virgin, so
we've been taking it slow in the sex department. I
(00:22):
am falling in love with this girl, and I think
she loves me. My birthday was two weeks ago and
she treated me to dinner. As I was dropping her
off at home, she told me to pull over before
I got to her house so she could give me
a surprise for my birthday. I pulled over a block
away from her house. We started making out in the car,
(00:43):
and then she leaned in and gave me a very
special birthday present. It was something I had never received before,
if you know what I mean. While this was happening,
listen to this though. While this was happening, I wasn't
paying attention to what was going on around me, and
(01:03):
I certainly didn't notice that her dad had pulled up
behind my card. Yes, yeah, yes, okay, I'll read it again. Okay,
yeah right here, yeah, no, all right. So, like he said,
(01:25):
he wasn't paying attention to what was going around going
on around him, and he certainly didn't notice that her
dad had pulled up behind the car, and at the
worst possible moment, at the worst possible moment, her dad
was right there looking through my car window. I screamed,
(01:46):
I need a scream from you right here, Steve. Please.
Oh you can't scream right here too much. I love
the way you scream. Come on, I can't do this show,
I screamed. My girl, all friends screamed, and her dad
yelled for her to get out of the car. He
told me if he ever saw me again, he would
(02:08):
put his boot in my white ass. Excuse me, but
that's what he said. I'm a white guy and my
girlfriend is black. So do you so? Do you think
he had a problem with the fact that I'm white?
Or was he just mad about what his daughter was
(02:28):
doing to me. I have been dating her for a
few months and race has never been an issue. We
have snucked to see each other once. We have snucked
to see each other once since this happened. But I
don't want to get hurt because my girl said her
dad was very serious about what he said. She won't
admit to her dad that it was her idea. And
(02:49):
I don't blame her, but I don't want to look
like the bad guy here. How can I fix things
with her dad? Or should I just stay away from her? Please? Help? Well?
You ask what is he mad about? Is he mad
about the fact that you're white? Or was it what
she was doing to you? And I say to you
all of the above. He's mad at everything. He's mad
(03:12):
at the fact that you were white. He's mad at
the fact of what she was doing to you. You
gotta put yourself in her dad's shoes, if you can.
You roll up on your daughter and she's pleasuring some
guy okay, in her car. I guarantee you you would
feel some kind of way to see your daughter in
that way. But it just produces all kind of shock
(03:34):
and hurt and disappointment from a parent that you can't
even imagine. So I can't say that it's just one
thing that her pops was upset about. Again, I think
he's mad about everything. The fact that you're white. I'm
sure Adam shook. And I'm not gonna lie to you
about that, because I'm sure that played a part. But again,
all of this is just something you know, you don't
(03:57):
want to see your child doing this, just like children
say that don't ever want to see their parents getting busy. Well,
their parents certainly don't want to see it from their
kids busting up in the dodey. Excuse me, I'm sorry, Okay,
a little personal for you, didn't a nephew. I do suggest,
I do suggest, though, young man, that you stay away,
(04:18):
especially until things calm down, and I don't know that
they ever will because of the lie that the daughter
told the father that it was not her fault. So
you know, her dad is just really angry and upset
right now, and you're the last person he wants to see.
So there's nothing you can do now. You know, there's
a saying that says time heals all wounds. Maybe sometime
(04:41):
in the future you can call if you really love her,
because you said you love her, so you know, maybe
you can call and talk to the father at some point.
But right now, my suggestion, my advice to you, is
to stay away from that situation because you will get hurt. Steve,
oh boy, this is boy, boy boy, We got daughters.
(05:15):
I understand everybody in this letter. I understand the boy,
I understand the father. We have a situation here. The
girl gave you a birthday surprise a block away from
her house. Now y'all making out in the car. Then
(05:37):
she leaned in and get you a very special birthday present.
And it was something I had never received before. If
you know what I mean, I'm going back in my
mind right now. Boy, I know exactly what you mean.
While this was happening, I wasn't paying much attention to
what's going on around. You can't. You can't focus, ship focus.
(06:00):
The shot your guys are is open but to shut
because pure facing the back of your head, you're actually
looking at your brain with your eyes and you ain't
never seen that before, so you don't even realize it.
But your eyes is wide open, but you can't see
nothing but your day. I'm praying. I knew you were
gonna Something is happening. This boy been dating this girl.
(06:24):
He twenty two, twenty one, She a virgin. They've been
taking this slow for sex, respectful, but he say falling
in love with this girl things she fallen in love
with you. Your birthday was two weeks ago. She treated
me to dinner. I was dropping off at home and
she told me to pull over for I got to
the house so she could give me a surprise from
my birthday. I pulled over about block away from the crib,
(06:47):
were in a car. We started making out, and here
this way all hell broke loose. She started, Oh, leaned
in and gave me a very special birthday present. You
keep reading that over and over, very very very special,
and it was something that I had never received before.
(07:11):
If you know what I mean, I know exactly exactly
what you mean, because when it first happened, you don't
know what to call it. So you are in here
and it like you're being ravaged. It's like, oh, all
your senses have been taken away. You have drifted off
(07:38):
in two an abyss. The world doesn't stop turning for you.
The car engine ain't o no more. You ain't in
the car, You in heaven as the process continue. Your eyes,
(08:02):
you say in the letter, when this was happening, I
wasn't paying attention to what was going on around me.
Boy boy, we know exactly what you. You can't pay attention,
You can't pay too much of nothing right now, you
(08:25):
don't know where your hands are. You don't know why
your teeth is gritting the way they are. You can't
understand why your eyes is open but you can't see
because your pupils are pointed the other way. You're looking
(08:45):
at your brain and you've never seen it before. Uh.
You just saying things that you speaking in a language
similar to what church folks do back digit careful, liberally,
(09:06):
good to all of this is going on. And then
while you wasn't paying attention, you notice that her dad,
(09:28):
You didn't notice that her dad had pulled up behind
your car at the worst possible moment. Her dad was
right down looking through my mind. What is the worst
possible moment? M h, Well, let me remind you, for
(09:51):
those that have forgotten, the worst possible moment is to
try to clamp the water holes. Why are you washing
the car? But the first yeah, yeah, see you when
you washing the car and you ain't got no niles
(10:13):
alone it and you need to stop that stream of
water from going on your car. You got the clamping shut.
Now you could run the risk of putting a hole
in that hole. Really, it's what I'm saying about washing cars. Yeah,
so you are now at the wash the car moment,
(10:35):
and her damn daddy is looking dead in the window.
I would imagine at this point your head was facing
the ceiling, your foot was nothing but in Adam's apple.
But the words that's coming out am these incoherent nomad.
(11:02):
Her daddy wants to bust that damn car window. And
then her dad was right there looking through my car window.
You notice it because it's somebody having a big black
man looking at you. Why are you at the worst
possible moment, and all of a sudden you scream. The
girl scream and her dad yelled her to get out,
(11:24):
caught told me if he ever saw me again, he
gonna put his boot in my white ass. Now excuse me,
that's what he said, because I'm a white guy, my
girlfriend black. Do you think he had a problem with
the fact that I'm white? Yes, he had a problem
with the fact white right then. And now if you
didn't know it before, you know it now ever can
see you again, I'm gonna put my foot in your
(11:46):
white ass because yes, he's got a problem with you
being white right now. He didn't have to bring it
up before, but now to you down here with his daughter,
he didn't bought it up. I've been dating for a
few months. Out of race has never been in there.
What us? Why not? Damn it? Listen? You can email
us or instagram us your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter
(12:08):
and Steve Harvey FM, and I'm sure you'll have a
lot to say. Or you can check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand. Lord, you're listening to the Steve
Harvey Morning Show.
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