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March 31, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter Subject for Monday, March 31st: “He Has To Step Away To Take Phone Calls” A woman is suspicious of her husband’s behavior after they took a trip back to their hometown.

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Speaker 1 (00:29):
Subject he has to step away to take calls. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty six year old married woman
and my husband is thirty three. We've been married for
almost eight years, and he has told me that he
regrets getting married so young. I asked him if he
needed a break from the marriage, and.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
He said no.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
He told me we could find ways to make our
marriage work. So we planned a trip back to our
hometown and it didn't work out as planned. We went
for Thanksgiving and there was a big game in town,
so we barely saw each other. I was busy with
my parents and he was out late every night. He
came into my parents home late and I noticed on

(01:10):
the third night that his cell phone was off while
he slept. I asked him about it the next morning,
and he said it must have died, but it wasn't
dead because I turned it on and back off that
same night. After we spent the time in our hometown,
his attitude changed. He started posting more pictures on Instagram,

(01:31):
and he was constantly on his phone scrolling through social
media posts. He also started to get phone calls late
in the evening, and he would ignore them. I would
check the phone when he wasn't around, and I could
see that he'd always delete the incoming call log. Then,
over the holidays, a few calls came in and he
had to step away to take them. It happened when

(01:54):
we had company or we were out, so I couldn't
question him or cause a scene. On New Year's Eve,
we decided to stay in and have champagne at home.
He was distant and he played with his phone all night.
At the stroke of midnight, his phone rang and he
stepped outside to take the call. He told me he

(02:15):
was going to see the firework. Should I have confronted
him at that moment and ruined the beginning of a
new Year? What's my husband up to?

Speaker 3 (02:25):
All?

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Right? Sis?

Speaker 1 (02:26):
This is bad, This is really bad. He's really doing
too much with all of this. And yes, you should
have confronted him at that moment. Who says it would
have ruined the beginning of a new year. He's getting
phone calls all night, walking away from you to talk.
It's like he hasn't even told whoever it is, that
he's got a wife.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
You asked Steve and I what is your husband up to?

Speaker 3 (02:49):
Well?

Speaker 1 (02:49):
What do you think he's up to? I mean, what
do you think he's doing? I think he's disrespecting you
right in your face. I mean, you have to say
something right then and there when it's happening. He gets
called out where the stuff happens, you know, that's when
he gets called out where he's doing it.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
That's it. Period.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
I get that you don't want to cause a scene,
you don't want to let people in your business and
all that, But when he's already doing that, he is,
he's already doing that when he steps away to take
a call. What do you think they're thinking when he
does that? The only thing he's trying to hide is
who it is. He's definitely not trying to hide the
fact that there's someone else he's talking to.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
Doesn't he get that this is wrong? Doesn't he understand that?

Speaker 1 (03:32):
Is that what he meant when he said he could
find ways to make the marriage work, or you guys
can find ways to make the marriage work. It sounds
like he thinks you're stupid because you even asked him
before all of this, did he need a break from
the marriage whatever that means?

Speaker 2 (03:48):
And he said no.

Speaker 1 (03:50):
I just think you know, as you can see these
calls and your man or just out of control. You're
letting him do whatever he wants to do and you're
not saying anything. I mean, I think it's way past
time for you to let him have it. You need
to shut it down.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
Start with this. You got a car, I'm sure you
have a car.

Speaker 1 (04:08):
Well, accidentally on purpose run over his phone with your
car today, okay, And then when he asked.

Speaker 2 (04:13):
You about it, what he does, Just get a phone call.
Just get him. You heard me, You heard me run
over his phone with the car, all right, walk away?

Speaker 1 (04:22):
Do what he does when he gets a phone call
when he asks you, just walk away, Steve.

Speaker 4 (04:26):
Let me just address this last comment that crazy made
in the New Year.

Speaker 3 (04:30):
Just his phone.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
You call, you're calling me crazy, kill me. Man is
run over.

Speaker 3 (04:39):
Run over it with your car.

Speaker 4 (04:43):
Yes, if you got to run over your man's phone
with a car, the problem ain't the phone. Now, let's
go to the letter. He has to step away to
take calls. Now, this thirty six year old woman. He's
married to a thirty three year old man and they've
been married about eight years. He made the announcement that

(05:05):
he regrets getting married so young.

Speaker 3 (05:08):
Did the math.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
He's gotten married at twenty five, that is young. He
has regretted it. He didn't get the full OAHs so
in season in he didn't get a lot of stuff
out of his system. He didn't get rid of the
things he needed to get rid of before he got married.
So when he got married, he did like a minister

(05:29):
taught me. He found out that the only thing changes
the day after you get married is the appearance of
your left.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
Hand third finger.

Speaker 4 (05:38):
I asked him if he needed a break from the marriage.
He said no, that's because most men don't want to
say let's take a break from the marriage, or don't
want to get a divorce or admit to defeat. We
just find ways around it he said. He told me
he could find ways to make our marriage work. That

(06:01):
is the key to this whole letter, because you should
have asked what all did he mean? You should have
had a thorough discussion about you gonna find ways to
make our marriage work. What you thought he said was
he was gonna work on the marriage. Oh, you interpret
it as he said he's gonna work on the marriage.

(06:23):
You didn't explore fine ways to make our marriage work,
even though I regret doing it.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
So long I come back, I'll explain the rest of it.

Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hold I thought Steve coming up. We'll have part two
of Steve's response too. He has to step away to
take phone calls. That is the subject of today's Strawberry Letter.
We'll get back into it at twenty three minutes after
the hour. Right after this, you're listening to Steve Hardy
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Speaker 2 (07:29):
All right, Steve, come.

Speaker 1 (07:30):
On, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is he
has to step away to take calls.

Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah, he do.

Speaker 4 (07:38):
The reason he has to step away is because is
no way you.

Speaker 3 (07:43):
Need to heal these phone calls. Let's just get with
the obvious. Now, you can give a man at least
some credit. At least he's stepping away.

Speaker 4 (07:54):
It's time to be because let me tell you something.

Speaker 3 (07:57):
If he don't step away, huh. He just told you.

Speaker 4 (08:01):
In the letter he was gonna find ways to make
the marriage work. Well, the way he found you don't
need to hear this now he got married at twenty five.

Speaker 3 (08:13):
Like my answer?

Speaker 4 (08:15):
Well see, but but see you don't like mine because
my answer to truth.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
Your answer was filled with speculation, phones and stuff.

Speaker 4 (08:24):
Yeah, you pull the bad phone out and tried to
run over with the car.

Speaker 3 (08:28):
Yeah that's them late response.

Speaker 2 (08:31):
Yeah, but you guys know how you are about your phone.

Speaker 4 (08:33):
But let's get to the call of what's wrong. The
problem made the phone? He getting new phone, see him.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
Called all his stuff in the clouds.

Speaker 2 (08:41):
He can do all.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
Yeah, he can get a new phone by this evening.

Speaker 4 (08:45):
See now, because you acted funky running over cars, he
gonna fix your because he gonna not he gonna get
track phon him. See he gonna buy a phone at
Walmart and put some minutes on it. And you run
over all these you want to.

Speaker 2 (08:59):
That's for stuff.

Speaker 4 (09:01):
See that's so let's just understand that y'all ain't doing
nothing with this phone. And you're gonna mess around and
gonna see what track phone do. Ain't no clouds for that.
Ain't no tracking now. So thirty six year old woman
married this boy that was twenty five. He told her
one day he regrets getting married so young. I asked
him if he needed a break from the marriage. He

(09:22):
said no, He told me to find ways to make
our marriage work. What you should have did, like I
told you, was talk to him about what all he
meant by that, Because what he meant by that, you
thought he meant.

Speaker 3 (09:33):
He was gonna work on the marriage.

Speaker 4 (09:35):
No, he gonna find some ways to make the marriage
work for him. So we planned the trip back to
our hometown. Oh, you thought that was it. You thought
of y'all went back to the hometown. That was gonna
fix it. And then she said right away it didn't
work out his.

Speaker 3 (09:53):
Plan because that wasn't his plan. See, that was y'all's plan.
You said, let's go back to where it all started. Well,
where it all started.

Speaker 4 (10:05):
He was twenty four, where it all started, he was
sowing oats. So you went to Thanksgiving and that was
a big game. In time, we badly saw each other.
I was busy with my parents. He was laid out
every night. He came into my parents home late, and
I noticed the third night that his cell phone was
off while he slept. I asked him about it the

(10:28):
next morning. He said it must have died, or he
could have used another excuse and says, I turned my
phone off to give it some rest. Because you turned
this phone off at night so it could recharge itself
at a break. Every now and then, you know, you

(10:49):
have to cut your phone off and cut it back
off again, put it on and just left shut.

Speaker 3 (10:55):
It needed a break because I needed to reset it
your phone.

Speaker 4 (10:58):
So anyway, but it wasn't dead because I turned it
back on and off the same night. That's why you
use the other live fellas go with the I turned
it off.

Speaker 2 (11:08):
To reset it.

Speaker 4 (11:10):
After we spent time in our hometown, his attitude change.
He started posting more pictures on Instagram. He was constantly
on his phone, scrolling through social media post Then he
started to get phone calls late in the evening. He
would ignore them, but I would check the phone when
he wasn't around. I could see that he'd always delete
the incoming call.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
Law my dog, your dog.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
Well, he do it all the right things to work on.

Speaker 4 (11:39):
His marriage, to save his marriage.

Speaker 3 (11:44):
No, listen to me. I want you all to hear me,
so you learn how to question your man.

Speaker 4 (11:50):
When he said he was gonna find ways to make
our marriage where, you should have asked him exactly what
he meant by that, because it showed wasn't a trip
back to the hometown.

Speaker 3 (11:59):
Was part of it. But who was at the hometown
at the game is what you didn't know. That's what So.

Speaker 4 (12:09):
So now he racing call loss. You can't track no calls.
He ain't got no names listened. Then over the holidays,
a few calls came in and he had to step
away to take them. And it happened we had company
or when we were out, so I couldn't question him
a cause of sin. Well, that's where being a little

(12:32):
bit to light, because most women I know whould have
opened up with where you're going? Yeah, yeah, I get well,
I will all be outside taking calls.

Speaker 3 (12:45):
She'll walk out there with you and listen. So I
don't know how.

Speaker 4 (12:50):
On New Year's Eve we decided to stay and have
shamp champagne.

Speaker 3 (12:53):
He was distant. He played with his phone all night.

Speaker 4 (12:55):
A stroke of midnight, his phone ring and he stepped
outside to take the call. Yeah, him wishing her happy news.

Speaker 3 (13:07):
I love you, I miss you, Happy new you, wish
you was here. All that. He working on staying with you,
and this is the only way he can do it.
Don't you understand?

Speaker 4 (13:17):
You should have asked him what I meant when he said,
I'm gonna work on making this work, because he's doing
some shit. I have confronted him at that moment of
the New Year. I yes, you should have what's my
husband up to? You're stupid for asking the questions.

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