December 20, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a hardworking, educated, financially secure, good looking mature woman with a lot to offer, but since my divorce, I had been having trouble with dating because the men I meet say that I have too many prerequisites and they lose interest. My goal was to meet a man age 55 to 65, but instead, I finally met a man that is 75 years old. He is retired and he’s everything that I looked for in a man. He’s a sharp dresser, good looking, financially stable and he has good morals..........
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, here we go. Time for today's Strawberry Letter.
If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve
HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could
be reading your letter live like we're doing this one.
All right, let's go to boggle up. Hold on tight,
(00:21):
we got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry
Letter subject. I thought I found the perfect man. Is
there such a thing? We'll find out? All right, Dear
Seton Shirley. I know I am a hardworking, educated, financially secure,
good looking, mature woman with a lot to offer. But
since my divorce, I've been having trouble with dating because
(00:45):
the men I meet say that I have too many
prerequisites and they lose interest. My goal was to meet
a man aged fifty five to sixty five, but instead
I finally met a man that is seventy five years old.
Oh this is five years other than yesterday. Okay, he's
retired and he's everything that I looked for in a man.
(01:06):
He's a sharp dresser, good looking, financially stable, and he
has good morals. In the beginning, he wanted to come
over every night and get busy, but I still have
to go to work, so I had to cut him
back to two to three nights per week and Saturday.
RE enjoy going out together and we've even had a
(01:26):
nice vacation together. There's just one problem. He refuses to
go to church with me. This past Sunday, he got
mad at me and told me to stop nagging him
about church. I could easily fall in love with this
man and we talk about our future and getting married,
but the church issue upsets me. When we talk about marriage.
I told him I could never say yes if he
(01:48):
does not say yes to going to church. He told
me that he will eventually just show up one Sunday,
but it will be on his own terms, not because
of my nagging. What advice do you have for me?
My sister said, as I'm acting crazy and I should
marry this man. She does not think it's a big deal.
By the way, he does meet all of my other prerequisites.
(02:08):
So what are your thoughts? Your thoughts are that I
My thoughts are that I agree wholeheartedly with your sister.
You can't nag him. Nobody wants to be nagged. You
don't want to be nagged. He says he's going to
show up to church on his own terms. Let him
do that, Okay, let him do it in his own terms.
He may, you know, not like your church for some reason,
(02:31):
or you know, maybe it takes him a minute to
get in the spirit or whatever. Give him time. I mean,
you guys haven't even been together that long for you
to be making these kinds of demands on him. And
probably if you'd let it go, he would show up
to church with you one day. Come on, now, I
don't think this is such a major issue that you
(02:52):
have to nag him and nag him and nag him
about it. This man is seventy five years old. You're
a mature woman. You didn't say your age. But anyway,
so far it's working out nicely. I mean, he's a
good dresser, he's good looking, financially stable, you said in
your letter. He has good morals. Okay, he has good morals.
(03:12):
So um, I think you're putting pressure on this man.
I think just smooth it out, weight a little bit,
but definitely stop nagging him, or guess what, you're gonna
lose him. I'm gonna tell you, nobody likes to be
nacked Steve Shirley one thousand percent correct. Hell, both y'all old,
(03:34):
both of y'all old, Oh her and the man. Now
you didn't want to say, yo, man, but you come
tell about you want a man between fifty five and
sixty five. Well he's seventy five. Yeah, but he still
looks you'll want to go to church. He don't want
to go to church. He is sharp dresser, he looked good.
He treats you right. He checks off all the blocks
(03:55):
and blocks in every category. And you talking about day,
talking about marriage. You can't say, he can't say. You
can't say yes to him unless he say yes till you,
till you going to church, to him going to church
with you. I have news for you. The reason I'm
talking like this called have been up all night trying
(04:16):
to put myself mine is a little congestion. I have
to apologize again, God, what you mean you've been up
all night? Exactly what I mean? I'm in here catching hell.
I should have been in the being with my old
I got seventy five. I don't know what the hell man,
(04:36):
I don't know what I was thinking about. But I
can't do this though, Moore, I'm hurt him right sitting
up in here. Let's getting back to the letter. He's saying,
if I he don't want to go to church, you
nagging him to go to church. Now. I have personal
experience with this. My father didn't go to church much.
(04:57):
My mother and father were married for sixty folk years.
I remember my father would go twice a years, sometimes
on Easter and sometimes Christmas or Mother's Day, and my
dad would go a couple of times a year. He
went a little bit more later on, but my dad
was never much of a churchgoer. My dad was wanting
(05:18):
to find this man I ever knew because he liked
this man. Said, you say he's very moral. My father
was a righteous man. He was righteous man. This dude,
he was just a good dude. Now you're gonna pass
up on this man, like your sisters say, you being crazy?
(05:38):
First of all, well, how are you gonna you're gonna
find another one of these shop dressing We're all meaning
seventy five year old men that ain't got nobody, They
not everywhere. How you found this one this beyond me.
Or how he found you. It's beyond me. I do
(05:59):
not know. But I'll tell you what though you better
stay with this man. Yeah, if I was you. Now,
when we come back, I'm gonna take a different approach
to why I think he don't want to go all right,
all right, we'll have part two of Steve's respond to
(06:20):
coming up. Yeah, he may not like it. Are your passed? Yeah?
So yeah. The subject of the Strawberry Letter today, I
thought sales sermons on tape after services. I thought I
(06:47):
thought I found the perfect man. Part two of Steve's
response coming up at twenty three after the hour you're
listening to. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry Letter subject. I thought I found the perfect man. Hello,
this that is simple. What I told you. I'm tired.
(07:10):
Now listen to me. I'm on a delay. Come on,
damn it, I'm on a delay. Not my system. Stuff
is working fine, Yeah, I'm on Steve Harvey got mentally
on a delay. You would just sleep strayed up all
(07:32):
night long like I'm farting. It hurts, don't it hurt?
Remember when that time? I can't do it? All right,
Steve coming back to the letter though seventy five years old.
This real simple, This lady Dayton is man he's everything,
and she's ever wanted man seventy five shot dropping, still
(07:54):
sleeping with it and all this hell. Get busy whenever
you want to. But he don't want to go church
with It's just that what's wrong with the church? Though,
Now we're gonna get into that seat. My father didn't
go to church much either, So that don't make you
a bad person. You can be very righteous person not
be an attendee of church. But now you're saying you've
(08:16):
talked about marriage with him, but if he can't say
yes to going to church, you can't say yes to
getting married. Well, he keeps he's pretty adamant that you
nagging him about this church. Maybe he don't won't go
to your church? Yes? Fine, Now, first question? Does your
(08:38):
church sail the sermon on CD or audio after service?
A lot of churches. Has he heard a see everybody
pastor can't preach? This is true? See what I Maybe
(08:59):
he don't want to sit up there to that dry sermon?
What type of church you go? Is it Methodist? Well
that don't matter, do it that? No? I'm just asking
a question because it's it's Methodist. Ain't no drums? She
(09:19):
didn't tambourines are good talks. She's a nat sack. Okay, well,
whatever it is. Maybe your pastor is dry unless here's
another thing. Maybe what's the name of Yokai? Oh? Maybe
your pastor is dry. Now here's the next question. What's
(09:40):
the name of your quai? What do you mean? What
do you mean it's got one of them names that mean?
They don't sound like the gospel song birds? Don't nobody
down't never sound good? What's your old rolls up the side?
(10:01):
The song birds? They got on crazy my row? Yeah,
and not with you. Don't nobody want to sit through that? Now?
(10:24):
Don't nobody don't know? I just wanted to see how
I can phrase this and call and let me say, yeah, careful,
I don't think your pastor and your choir is up
to Paul. That's all I have to say. And I
think that that's just been demoralizing for them to have
(10:46):
to sit through the services that you're doing. Next question,
is your church your stove front next a liquor stoke? See,
maybe he's a form of alcoholic adn't go down there
next to that liquor stoke and sit down and try
to make it. Maybe it's a zoning zoning issue with
(11:10):
the church, and there in those zone in issues in
the hood. This liquor stoke check cashing players church decill yeah,
and the motail motail or dey kill check cashing place
(11:30):
for churches, oh yeah, chicken yeah then or somebody selling chickens.
This answer to this is all over the place because
I've been all didn't apologize for this response to the
(11:52):
strawberry lettle Steve, m got to do you boo? Now
he was crazy today, Mark Tomorrow, I got to be
at work. I gotta do three shows man talk shows. Okay,
so so at some point you need to get some sleep,
(12:15):
is what you're saying. Excuse me, Shirley, Steve. What is
the advice to the lady that wrote the letter. I'm
trying to get it out of him. Yeah, we'll get
her chas and go to the chicken house. And I
can't go to ch He just n stop nagging him.
(12:35):
What to tell her? He ain't going down. He's got
to stop nagging him. Though. That's a good point. She's
got to. I would say, don't worry about it, because, man,
let me tell you something. It's hard to find good
man and he's a good man, he righteous. He just
don't go to church much now he may eventually like
my father. Dude, My father ended up going to church
(12:56):
quite often. But you know she got all these rules
him do it on ome. Yeah, yeah, that's true. All right, Well,
thank you, Steve. Email us your Instagram as your thoughts
on today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey FM, you're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
All right, here we go. Time for today's Strawberry Letter.
If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve
HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could
be reading your letter live like we're doing this one.
All right, let's go to boggle up. Hold on tight,
(00:21):
we got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry
Letter subject. I thought I found the perfect man. Is
there such a thing? We'll find out? All right, Dear
Seton Shirley. I know I am a hardworking, educated, financially secure,
good looking, mature woman with a lot to offer. But
since my divorce, I've been having trouble with dating because
(00:45):
the men I meet say that I have too many
prerequisites and they lose interest. My goal was to meet
a man aged fifty five to sixty five, but instead
I finally met a man that is seventy five years old.
Oh this is five years other than yesterday. Okay, he's
retired and he's everything that I looked for in a man.
(01:06):
He's a sharp dresser, good looking, financially stable, and he
has good morals. In the beginning, he wanted to come
over every night and get busy, but I still have
to go to work, so I had to cut him
back to two to three nights per week and Saturday.
RE enjoy going out together and we've even had a
(01:26):
nice vacation together. There's just one problem. He refuses to
go to church with me. This past Sunday, he got
mad at me and told me to stop nagging him
about church. I could easily fall in love with this
man and we talk about our future and getting married,
but the church issue upsets me. When we talk about marriage.
I told him I could never say yes if he
(01:48):
does not say yes to going to church. He told
me that he will eventually just show up one Sunday,
but it will be on his own terms, not because
of my nagging. What advice do you have for me?
My sister said, as I'm acting crazy and I should
marry this man. She does not think it's a big deal.
By the way, he does meet all of my other prerequisites.
(02:08):
So what are your thoughts? Your thoughts are that I
My thoughts are that I agree wholeheartedly with your sister.
You can't nag him. Nobody wants to be nagged. You
don't want to be nagged. He says he's going to
show up to church on his own terms. Let him
do that, Okay, let him do it in his own terms.
He may, you know, not like your church for some reason,
(02:31):
or you know, maybe it takes him a minute to
get in the spirit or whatever. Give him time. I mean,
you guys haven't even been together that long for you
to be making these kinds of demands on him. And
probably if you'd let it go, he would show up
to church with you one day. Come on, now, I
don't think this is such a major issue that you
(02:52):
have to nag him and nag him and nag him
about it. This man is seventy five years old. You're
a mature woman. You didn't say your age. But anyway,
so far it's working out nicely. I mean, he's a
good dresser, he's good looking, financially stable, you said in
your letter. He has good morals. Okay, he has good morals.
(03:12):
So um, I think you're putting pressure on this man.
I think just smooth it out, weight a little bit,
but definitely stop nagging him, or guess what, you're gonna
lose him. I'm gonna tell you, nobody likes to be
nacked Steve Shirley one thousand percent correct. Hell, both y'all old,
(03:34):
both of y'all old, Oh her and the man. Now
you didn't want to say, yo, man, but you come
tell about you want a man between fifty five and
sixty five. Well he's seventy five. Yeah, but he still
looks you'll want to go to church. He don't want
to go to church. He is sharp dresser, he looked good.
He treats you right. He checks off all the blocks
(03:55):
and blocks in every category. And you talking about day,
talking about marriage. You can't say, he can't say. You
can't say yes to him unless he say yes till you,
till you going to church, to him going to church
with you. I have news for you. The reason I'm
talking like this called have been up all night trying
(04:16):
to put myself mine is a little congestion. I have
to apologize again, God, what you mean you've been up
all night? Exactly what I mean? I'm in here catching hell.
I should have been in the being with my old
I got seventy five. I don't know what the hell man,
(04:36):
I don't know what I was thinking about. But I
can't do this though, Moore, I'm hurt him right sitting
up in here. Let's getting back to the letter. He's saying,
if I he don't want to go to church, you
nagging him to go to church. Now. I have personal
experience with this. My father didn't go to church much.
(04:57):
My mother and father were married for sixty folk years.
I remember my father would go twice a years, sometimes
on Easter and sometimes Christmas or Mother's Day, and my
dad would go a couple of times a year. He
went a little bit more later on, but my dad
was never much of a churchgoer. My dad was wanting
(05:18):
to find this man I ever knew because he liked
this man. Said, you say he's very moral. My father
was a righteous man. He was righteous man. This dude,
he was just a good dude. Now you're gonna pass
up on this man, like your sisters say, you being crazy?
(05:38):
First of all, well, how are you gonna you're gonna
find another one of these shop dressing We're all meaning
seventy five year old men that ain't got nobody, They
not everywhere. How you found this one this beyond me.
Or how he found you. It's beyond me. I do
(05:59):
not know. But I'll tell you what though you better
stay with this man. Yeah, if I was you. Now,
when we come back, I'm gonna take a different approach
to why I think he don't want to go all right,
all right, we'll have part two of Steve's respond to
(06:20):
coming up. Yeah, he may not like it. Are your passed? Yeah?
So yeah. The subject of the Strawberry Letter today, I
thought sales sermons on tape after services. I thought I
(06:47):
thought I found the perfect man. Part two of Steve's
response coming up at twenty three after the hour you're
listening to. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry Letter subject. I thought I found the perfect man. Hello,
this that is simple. What I told you. I'm tired.
(07:10):
Now listen to me. I'm on a delay. Come on,
damn it, I'm on a delay. Not my system. Stuff
is working fine, Yeah, I'm on Steve Harvey got mentally
on a delay. You would just sleep strayed up all
(07:32):
night long like I'm farting. It hurts, don't it hurt?
Remember when that time? I can't do it? All right,
Steve coming back to the letter though seventy five years old.
This real simple, This lady Dayton is man he's everything,
and she's ever wanted man seventy five shot dropping, still
(07:54):
sleeping with it and all this hell. Get busy whenever
you want to. But he don't want to go church
with It's just that what's wrong with the church? Though,
Now we're gonna get into that seat. My father didn't
go to church much either, So that don't make you
a bad person. You can be very righteous person not
be an attendee of church. But now you're saying you've
(08:16):
talked about marriage with him, but if he can't say
yes to going to church, you can't say yes to
getting married. Well, he keeps he's pretty adamant that you
nagging him about this church. Maybe he don't won't go
to your church? Yes? Fine, Now, first question? Does your
(08:38):
church sail the sermon on CD or audio after service?
A lot of churches. Has he heard a see everybody
pastor can't preach? This is true? See what I Maybe
(08:59):
he don't want to sit up there to that dry sermon?
What type of church you go? Is it Methodist? Well
that don't matter, do it that? No? I'm just asking
a question because it's it's Methodist. Ain't no drums? She
(09:19):
didn't tambourines are good talks. She's a nat sack. Okay, well,
whatever it is. Maybe your pastor is dry unless here's
another thing. Maybe what's the name of Yokai? Oh? Maybe
your pastor is dry. Now here's the next question. What's
(09:40):
the name of your quai? What do you mean? What
do you mean it's got one of them names that mean?
They don't sound like the gospel song birds? Don't nobody
down't never sound good? What's your old rolls up the side?
(10:01):
The song birds? They got on crazy my row? Yeah,
and not with you. Don't nobody want to sit through that? Now?
(10:24):
Don't nobody don't know? I just wanted to see how
I can phrase this and call and let me say, yeah, careful,
I don't think your pastor and your choir is up
to Paul. That's all I have to say. And I
think that that's just been demoralizing for them to have
(10:46):
to sit through the services that you're doing. Next question,
is your church your stove front next a liquor stoke? See,
maybe he's a form of alcoholic adn't go down there
next to that liquor stoke and sit down and try
to make it. Maybe it's a zoning zoning issue with
(11:10):
the church, and there in those zone in issues in
the hood. This liquor stoke check cashing players church decill yeah,
and the motail motail or dey kill check cashing place
(11:30):
for churches, oh yeah, chicken yeah then or somebody selling chickens.
This answer to this is all over the place because
I've been all didn't apologize for this response to the
(11:52):
strawberry lettle Steve, m got to do you boo? Now
he was crazy today, Mark Tomorrow, I got to be
at work. I gotta do three shows man talk shows. Okay,
so so at some point you need to get some sleep,
(12:15):
is what you're saying. Excuse me, Shirley, Steve. What is
the advice to the lady that wrote the letter. I'm
trying to get it out of him. Yeah, we'll get
her chas and go to the chicken house. And I
can't go to ch He just n stop nagging him.
(12:35):
What to tell her? He ain't going down. He's got
to stop nagging him. Though. That's a good point. She's
got to. I would say, don't worry about it, because, man,
let me tell you something. It's hard to find good
man and he's a good man, he righteous. He just
don't go to church much now he may eventually like
my father. Dude, My father ended up going to church
(12:56):
quite often. But you know she got all these rules
him do it on ome. Yeah, yeah, that's true. All right, Well,
thank you, Steve. Email us your Instagram as your thoughts
on today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey FM, you're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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