August 28, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve Shirley, I'm married to a man that loves to talk big and bad, but when it comes down to handling his business, he lets me handle the tough stuff. It's gotten worse over the years, and he still won't shut his mouth or stop harassing people on our app for the neighborhood. It started when my sons were in school and his way of handling bullies was to go up to the school and talk all big and bad to the principle. But that never solved the problem. I had to snatch one of the bullies up one day and threaten him with the frying pan. When he came in our yard talking about he was going to kick my sons behind. My husband looked at it all through the window, through the screen door. His boss bullies him and he comes home telling me all that he's going to do and say, but he just takes it and still is not getting paid what he's worth..............................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm sticking beside him, Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to a man that loves to talk big
and bad, but when it comes down to handling his business,
he lets me handle the tough stuff. It's gotten worse
over the years, and he still won't shut his mouth
or stop harassing people on our app for the neighborhood.
(00:46):
It started when my sons were in school and his
way of handling bullies was to go up to the
school and talk all big and bad to the principle.
But that never solved the problem. I had to snatch
one of the bullies up one day and threaten him
with the frying pan When he came in our yard
talking about he was going to kick my sons behind.
My husband looked at it all through the window, through
(01:07):
the screen door. His boss bullies him and he comes
home telling me all that he's going to do and say,
But he just takes it and still is not getting
paid what he's worth. It couldn't be me. I just
want him to relax and settle into the soft life
as an older man that does not have to assert
himself in every way. There's an app that serves our
(01:28):
neighborhood within a five mile radius. Different neighbors post when
dogs are on the loose or if someone is illegally parked.
My husband goes on the app and blast people if
their trash canned is overflowing, their front porch light is out,
or if their mailbox is a little crooked. He calls
them out by name and house number. He has gotten
(01:51):
so bad that the HOA president reached out to me
and see if my husband is going through anything. I
had to curse the man out because I am right
die for my husband. I know my husband is a lot,
but I'm sticking beside him. How do I get him
to stop with all of that bravado and just chill out.
Is it because he's short or what?
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Okay, well, you know, I know Steve is gonna deal
with his vertical challenge and his Napoleon complex and all
that in his very special way.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
That the two short people on the show is not
a school right now. I just noticed that.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
But I will say that you put that at the
end of your letter for a reason. Okay, So your
man calls himself standing up for the victims of bullies
and all that when he's the main one this bullying everyone,
but he hides behind you his wife when he does it,
or he's on his computer yelling at people in your neighborhood.
(02:51):
Or I'm sure he has road rage, which takes place
in the car behind the wheel by yourself. What is that?
I mean, anyone who's ever been bully knows that one
of the ways bullies are stopped is to come face
to face with their victims and get knocked out or something.
You know, bullies don't like confrontation. They like to sound
(03:12):
and act big and bad like you say, but deep
down they're scared of any kind of physical contact or confrontation.
They don't want to fight for real. They're cowards. And
I think it is admirable that you know, you stick
by your bully husband. But it's time to start ignoring
his ranch. You've got to stop that, you know, letting
(03:33):
him go on and on, ignore him, let him know
he needs to leave these people alone before they do
really whoop his behind. And I hope they do it
when you won't be there to help him. Maybe that'll
shut him up.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Steve Well, the reason for this letter is because he
has gotten his ass whooped before more than once. And
so now he goes up to the school where he
know ain't nobody gonna do nothing. He goes on the
(04:07):
app where they know ain't nobody gonna do nothing. He
talks trash from the screen door where he knows can't
nobody do nothing. He's all talk with no action. And
the reason he is because that talking then got him
whooped before, and he done took one. And this is
(04:28):
how people act when they get into that. He talked
big and bad and will come down to handle his business.
He let me handle this stuff, tough stuff, and it
got worse. He won't shut his mouth. He harassing people
on our app for the neighborhood. It started when your
sons was in school and his way of handling bullies.
He went up to the school, talked all big and
(04:49):
bag to the principal, but he never solve the problem.
You had to threaten the boy with a frying pan
when he came your yard talking about whooping your son.
Your husband's standing there looking through the screen because he
ain't want no part of that bully. That boy looked
like he could win, because you know, there are people
who get choked out on the playground by kids, so
you gotta be careful that you ain't one of them.
(05:12):
You know, his boss bullies him. He comes on telling
me what he gonna do and say, but he just
take it. He's not getting paid what he's worth. I
just want him to relax and settle into the soft
life as an older man that does not have to
assert himself in every way. Now, let's just get to
(05:34):
the end of the letter. You want to know it's
all this because he's short or what. Now I've noticed
that the two people on this show that thought this
letter was about them had disappeared for a while, but
(05:55):
they bravely come back in because obviously they found out
that the man was five six and they all taller
than him, So they came back in on the letter.
That has a lot to do with it. But when
we come back, I will share with you it just
(06:15):
really nothing else to say. It's just yo, you're not
going to change him. What's going to happen though, is
see that ass whooping he did get happened earlier in
his life. Yeah, he ain't had one recently, but to
avoid it. When I come back, I'm gonna tell you
(06:37):
what he's just like because you all have seen this before.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today
Strawberry letter, subject I'm sticking beside him. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Harvey Morning Show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I'm sticking beside him.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Well, she got a man that he talk trash and
don't never back it. Though he talked trash down at
his job. You know, his boss bullies him. He come
home talking about what he's gonna say or do he
go back. He don't never say nothing to his boss.
He's not getting paid what he's worth. Or when your
sons got bullied up in school. He went up there
and talked to the principal, told him what he was
gonna do, didn't do nothing. The boy still bullied his boy.
(07:21):
She had to settle it with a frying pan in
the backyard. When the boy came talking about whooping your
sons behind in his backyard, he's standing in the screen dough.
I say that because he's had his ass whooped in
his younger years and to avoid it. He knows now.
And now here's the big problem. You all got this
(07:42):
app that discusses the neighborhoods in the five mile raders,
and he on that on a tear, talking about people's
mail boxes. His crooked trash is overflowing lights is out
on the porch, you know. And they calling him out
by name and house number. And the homeowner's association got
and called you and asked you, is something wrong with
(08:03):
your husband? Is he going through something? You cussed him
out because you ride or die with your man. Well
that's cool, but your man gonna get you in trouble too.
Now you want your man to settle down into him
roll relaxed old life and everything. But here's what your husband.
Is y'all ever seen online that dog behind this gate
and he just barking at this big dog right, And
(08:27):
then the gate slides open, and the big dog is
standing there, and all of a sudden, the little dog
just try not to even make eye contact with him,
just look off. Then the date gate closed and he
go back to right, and then the gate slide open,
and then he shut his ass up again, the big
dog looking at him. There's an old story about a
(08:49):
dog that used to run off the porch and this
man used to walk his big Doberman by the house
every day, and the little dog would run up and
jump all up against the fence and the gate, and
the Doberman pincher never did nothing to the dog. And
so then every day this happened, the Doberman come by
with the man. The little dog run out to the fence,
(09:09):
put his paws up on it, and just go down
the whole eye. The Doberman just ignored her. One day
he ran down off that porch and jumped up on
that fence, and that doorman and that Doberman was walking by,
and the gate was a jar, and when he leaned
against the gate, the gate fell open. Now he right
(09:33):
in front of the dope man. The dobe woman picked
him up, snatched him, jerked his ass around, and I
mean gave that little dog the blues in there, threw
his ass back up in the grass. That little dog
ran his ass back up on the porch. And when
the dobe woman walked by, the little dog just sat
there and said, who in the hell left that gate open?
(09:58):
And see that's what's happening to this man right here.
Somebody gonna open the gate on him. Somebody gonna leave
the gate open, and that's all that needs to happen,
and then this dude it'll be through. Now you say,
I know my husband is a lot, but I'm sticking
(10:19):
beside him. How do I get him to stop with
all that bravado and just chill out? Is it because
he's short or what? Now? We all know we've heard
it in Napoleon Complex. Some people have it. I don't
really have that. I've never been short, never. Nobody never
thought I was gonna be short the whole time I
(10:40):
was growing up. I've always just been a tall I've
been't ad more than average. You know the average man's hype.
They say it's five to nine. Is that what it is?
The average male height is five to nine height? Really,
now that's what I Well look it up at y'all
google what's the average male height in the United States?
(11:04):
And just tell me what it is? Somebody google it
right quick. I'm waiting. Doom doom, doom, doom, doom doom.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
I can tell you it ain't excuse me, what is it?
Five nine is the average height of the American male man.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
I've never been average, So let me refer to the
two men on this show. Head experience more time at
five nine than me because I blew right through five nine.
I didn't stay that night before a summer I don't
even remember never. I don't even remember being in school.
(11:43):
Nobody said, who'll stee you? Five nine? I don't never remember.
I think that. I think I was just sleep one night.
I was five sevens, five eight, and then I woke
up now five ten, five eleven in here six and
fellas on the show. Could it be because he's short
or what? First of all, we're not short. Get that straight.
(12:06):
We average. You just said it was average, So we average?
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Yeah, he said it, he said, But we average.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
But at the end of the day, I'm whooping anybody
asked with with with a problem with whether I'm the
dude in the screen door? What? What?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
What? What I got to be? What? What?
Speaker 3 (12:21):
What you want me to say? Whatever it is on
whooping the ass? Now where we're at, I'm talking about
whoever in the screen talking the doberman whatever, No.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Problem, h you know, I'm just I'm just here now.
I'm with Tommy not now.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
If you if you test me at five nine, you
can get a five nine, asked Wooman, if you want one? Okay,
we always talking about question because he's short of what
and yes.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
The answer is yes because the two short people on
the show, both of them said that.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook.
It's Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app coming up
next to its Junior and sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM by
clicking submit Strawberry Letter, and we could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
We got it for you.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm sticking beside him, Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to a man that loves to talk big
and bad, but when it comes down to handling his business,
he lets me handle the tough stuff. It's gotten worse
over the years, and he still won't shut his mouth
or stop harassing people on our app for the neighborhood.
(00:46):
It started when my sons were in school and his
way of handling bullies was to go up to the
school and talk all big and bad to the principle.
But that never solved the problem. I had to snatch
one of the bullies up one day and threaten him
with the frying pan When he came in our yard
talking about he was going to kick my sons behind.
My husband looked at it all through the window, through
(01:07):
the screen door. His boss bullies him and he comes
home telling me all that he's going to do and say,
But he just takes it and still is not getting
paid what he's worth. It couldn't be me. I just
want him to relax and settle into the soft life
as an older man that does not have to assert
himself in every way. There's an app that serves our
(01:28):
neighborhood within a five mile radius. Different neighbors post when
dogs are on the loose or if someone is illegally parked.
My husband goes on the app and blast people if
their trash canned is overflowing, their front porch light is out,
or if their mailbox is a little crooked. He calls
them out by name and house number. He has gotten
(01:51):
so bad that the HOA president reached out to me
and see if my husband is going through anything. I
had to curse the man out because I am right
die for my husband. I know my husband is a lot,
but I'm sticking beside him. How do I get him
to stop with all of that bravado and just chill out.
Is it because he's short or what?
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Okay, well, you know, I know Steve is gonna deal
with his vertical challenge and his Napoleon complex and all
that in his very special way.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
That the two short people on the show is not
a school right now. I just noticed that.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
But I will say that you put that at the
end of your letter for a reason. Okay, So your
man calls himself standing up for the victims of bullies
and all that when he's the main one this bullying everyone,
but he hides behind you his wife when he does it,
or he's on his computer yelling at people in your neighborhood.
(02:51):
Or I'm sure he has road rage, which takes place
in the car behind the wheel by yourself. What is that?
I mean, anyone who's ever been bully knows that one
of the ways bullies are stopped is to come face
to face with their victims and get knocked out or something.
You know, bullies don't like confrontation. They like to sound
(03:12):
and act big and bad like you say, but deep
down they're scared of any kind of physical contact or confrontation.
They don't want to fight for real. They're cowards. And
I think it is admirable that you know, you stick
by your bully husband. But it's time to start ignoring
his ranch. You've got to stop that, you know, letting
(03:33):
him go on and on, ignore him, let him know
he needs to leave these people alone before they do
really whoop his behind. And I hope they do it
when you won't be there to help him. Maybe that'll
shut him up.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Steve Well, the reason for this letter is because he
has gotten his ass whooped before more than once. And
so now he goes up to the school where he
know ain't nobody gonna do nothing. He goes on the
(04:07):
app where they know ain't nobody gonna do nothing. He
talks trash from the screen door where he knows can't
nobody do nothing. He's all talk with no action. And
the reason he is because that talking then got him
whooped before, and he done took one. And this is
(04:28):
how people act when they get into that. He talked
big and bad and will come down to handle his business.
He let me handle this stuff, tough stuff, and it
got worse. He won't shut his mouth. He harassing people
on our app for the neighborhood. It started when your
sons was in school and his way of handling bullies.
He went up to the school, talked all big and
(04:49):
bag to the principal, but he never solve the problem.
You had to threaten the boy with a frying pan
when he came your yard talking about whooping your son.
Your husband's standing there looking through the screen because he
ain't want no part of that bully. That boy looked
like he could win, because you know, there are people
who get choked out on the playground by kids, so
you gotta be careful that you ain't one of them.
(05:12):
You know, his boss bullies him. He comes on telling
me what he gonna do and say, but he just
take it. He's not getting paid what he's worth. I
just want him to relax and settle into the soft
life as an older man that does not have to
assert himself in every way. Now, let's just get to
(05:34):
the end of the letter. You want to know it's
all this because he's short or what. Now I've noticed
that the two people on this show that thought this
letter was about them had disappeared for a while, but
(05:55):
they bravely come back in because obviously they found out
that the man was five six and they all taller
than him, So they came back in on the letter.
That has a lot to do with it. But when
we come back, I will share with you it just
(06:15):
really nothing else to say. It's just yo, you're not
going to change him. What's going to happen though, is
see that ass whooping he did get happened earlier in
his life. Yeah, he ain't had one recently, but to
avoid it. When I come back, I'm gonna tell you
(06:37):
what he's just like because you all have seen this before.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today
Strawberry letter, subject I'm sticking beside him. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Harvey Morning Show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I'm sticking beside him.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Well, she got a man that he talk trash and
don't never back it. Though he talked trash down at
his job. You know, his boss bullies him. He come
home talking about what he's gonna say or do he
go back. He don't never say nothing to his boss.
He's not getting paid what he's worth. Or when your
sons got bullied up in school. He went up there
and talked to the principal, told him what he was
gonna do, didn't do nothing. The boy still bullied his boy.
(07:21):
She had to settle it with a frying pan in
the backyard. When the boy came talking about whooping your
sons behind in his backyard, he's standing in the screen dough.
I say that because he's had his ass whooped in
his younger years and to avoid it. He knows now.
And now here's the big problem. You all got this
(07:42):
app that discusses the neighborhoods in the five mile raders,
and he on that on a tear, talking about people's
mail boxes. His crooked trash is overflowing lights is out
on the porch, you know. And they calling him out
by name and house number. And the homeowner's association got
and called you and asked you, is something wrong with
(08:03):
your husband? Is he going through something? You cussed him
out because you ride or die with your man. Well
that's cool, but your man gonna get you in trouble too.
Now you want your man to settle down into him
roll relaxed old life and everything. But here's what your husband.
Is y'all ever seen online that dog behind this gate
and he just barking at this big dog right, And
(08:27):
then the gate slides open, and the big dog is
standing there, and all of a sudden, the little dog
just try not to even make eye contact with him,
just look off. Then the date gate closed and he
go back to right, and then the gate slide open,
and then he shut his ass up again, the big
dog looking at him. There's an old story about a
(08:49):
dog that used to run off the porch and this
man used to walk his big Doberman by the house
every day, and the little dog would run up and
jump all up against the fence and the gate, and
the Doberman pincher never did nothing to the dog. And
so then every day this happened, the Doberman come by
with the man. The little dog run out to the fence,
(09:09):
put his paws up on it, and just go down
the whole eye. The Doberman just ignored her. One day
he ran down off that porch and jumped up on
that fence, and that doorman and that Doberman was walking by,
and the gate was a jar, and when he leaned
against the gate, the gate fell open. Now he right
(09:33):
in front of the dope man. The dobe woman picked
him up, snatched him, jerked his ass around, and I
mean gave that little dog the blues in there, threw
his ass back up in the grass. That little dog
ran his ass back up on the porch. And when
the dobe woman walked by, the little dog just sat
there and said, who in the hell left that gate open?
(09:58):
And see that's what's happening to this man right here.
Somebody gonna open the gate on him. Somebody gonna leave
the gate open, and that's all that needs to happen,
and then this dude it'll be through. Now you say,
I know my husband is a lot, but I'm sticking
(10:19):
beside him. How do I get him to stop with
all that bravado and just chill out? Is it because
he's short or what? Now? We all know we've heard
it in Napoleon Complex. Some people have it. I don't
really have that. I've never been short, never. Nobody never
thought I was gonna be short the whole time I
(10:40):
was growing up. I've always just been a tall I've
been't ad more than average. You know the average man's hype.
They say it's five to nine. Is that what it is?
The average male height is five to nine height? Really,
now that's what I Well look it up at y'all
google what's the average male height in the United States?
(11:04):
And just tell me what it is? Somebody google it
right quick. I'm waiting. Doom doom, doom, doom, doom doom.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
I can tell you it ain't excuse me, what is it?
Five nine is the average height of the American male man.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
I've never been average, So let me refer to the
two men on this show. Head experience more time at
five nine than me because I blew right through five nine.
I didn't stay that night before a summer I don't
even remember never. I don't even remember being in school.
(11:43):
Nobody said, who'll stee you? Five nine? I don't never remember.
I think that. I think I was just sleep one night.
I was five sevens, five eight, and then I woke
up now five ten, five eleven in here six and
fellas on the show. Could it be because he's short
or what? First of all, we're not short. Get that straight.
(12:06):
We average. You just said it was average, So we average?
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Yeah, he said it, he said, But we average.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
But at the end of the day, I'm whooping anybody
asked with with with a problem with whether I'm the
dude in the screen door? What? What?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
What? What I got to be? What? What?
Speaker 3 (12:21):
What you want me to say? Whatever it is on
whooping the ass? Now where we're at, I'm talking about
whoever in the screen talking the doberman whatever, No.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Problem, h you know, I'm just I'm just here now.
I'm with Tommy not now.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
If you if you test me at five nine, you
can get a five nine, asked Wooman, if you want one? Okay,
we always talking about question because he's short of what
and yes.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
The answer is yes because the two short people on
the show, both of them said that.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook.
It's Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app coming up
next to its Junior and sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
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