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March 26, 2025 13 mins

Strawberry Letter Subject for Wednesday, March 26th, 2025: “Is He Sweet Or Tart” A woman is curious why her husband is so sweet to her in public, but not at home.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you for your subject. Is he sweet or tart?
Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married nine years and this
man is a trip. If we're around other people, he
calls me sweetie or bay. If we're at home, he
calls me by my first name or my maiden name.
If I lean over to kiss him. At home, he

(00:47):
tells me to stop with all of the mushy stuff.
But the minute we're out with friends, his hands are
all over me. So I guess you're asking why I'm worried.
If he does public displays of affection, it bothers me
because it's so different. At home, I have sex whenever
he wants to have sex, but all of the romance
is out of it. I have a twenty one year

(01:07):
old son from a previous marriage, and he I have
a twenty eight year old son from a previous marriage,
and he and my husband are close. My son told
me that my husband advised him not to get married
until he's fifty because it's downhill after that. I can't
ask my husband what he meant by it, because my
son told me I better not say a word. I

(01:28):
did have a talk with my husband about getting the
spark back into our marriage, and he said he'd be
happier if I stopped shopping. I told him to try again,
because that's not going to happen. I told him we
could stop going out to eat so much. He said
he'd help me with all the cooking, so he has
dinner ready throughout the week. We'd had Sloppy Joe's hot dogs,

(01:50):
cheesesteak sandwiches, and a lot of spaghetti.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
Lately.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
I can't keep doing that, but I also don't want
him to feel like I'm not appreciative. The other night,
when we were out at a party, he told our
friends that we have romantic dinners at home during the week,
compliments of him. How can he be so sweet? How
can he be sweet when we're in public, in tart
when we're at home. Could this be a lull in
our marriage or a phase that I don't know about?

(02:15):
Please help? Well, you know, I think it's both. I
think it's definitely a lull and a sign he's not
happy and you're not happy. The crazy part is that
you talk to him about getting the spark back into
your marriage, and what did he say? He said he'd
be happier if you stopped shopping. He gave you the answer,

(02:36):
you weren't trying to hear it. How can Steve and
I help you if you already know the answer and
you just refused to do it. You said, stopping shopping
is not going to happen. You told him that when
he said what he said. He's even compromising with you
by helping you with the meals, but you completely dismissed
what he said. So why did you even bother to
ask him? I mean, do you really want a solution here?

(02:58):
I mean, I love shopping like so many women, like
most women, and most of the time I don't even
need this stuff I buy. But if it becomes a
problem in my marriage like it is in yours, right now,
I'm going to at least consider what he's saying. You
won't even try. I mean, maybe he's worried about money,
or maybe he's worried about the future and you're spending
too much. Right now, there is talk of a recession.

(03:21):
I'm sure you've heard that if you watch the news.
So before you just shut him down entirely, I think
you should try to communicate more with your husband to
find out exactly what the problem is and work toward
a solution in this. You don't want to lose everything.
Maybe you guys need some therapy, couple's therapy, marriage therapy.

Speaker 2 (03:39):
Steve, you know what these types of letters. It's just
you've been married for nine years.

Speaker 3 (03:49):
This man is a trip when you're around other people,
you sweety pie, honey.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
Bunch, love bug.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
All this here be you at home? He called you
by your first name or your maiden name. So if
your name is Diane and he call you Diane at home,
what the hell he posts a car baby or your
maiden name Wilson Wilson. Yeah, I'm finna tell you what's

(04:17):
wrong with this. If I lean over the kiss him
at home, stop all that mushy stuff. But the moment
we are with our friends, his hands all over me.
So the lady said, I guess you ask him. Why
am I worried about it? If he always does public
displays or affection, Well, she said, just bother her cause
it's different at home.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
Now, here's the key in this and nothing.

Speaker 3 (04:39):
I have sex whenever he wants to have sex, but
all of the romance is out of it. Yeah, all right,
let's just stop him. You all don't like each other
no more. That's all this is. Y'all just don't like
each other no more. He love each other. That's why

(05:01):
he has the public displays of affection. This is my wife,
A lover her, this my girl, and he's putting on
the show or front. That's why when he tell people that,
you know, we have romantic dinners at home, he cooking.
But y'all don't like each other no more. And it's
all because of money. I'm gonna tell you something, ladies,

(05:25):
and we're gonna do a reenactment when we come back,
where Shirley is gonna ask me all types of questions
and I'm gonna show you how this gruntle husband answers
any question she might ask. Caller can join into any
question at all, any I don't care what the question
in any subject children in it. But this is all

(05:48):
about money. See when a man feels a man feels
disheartened watching money go out the dough, it will affect
the way he feels about you because he's equated. He's
equated his contribution to the marriage and his love for

(06:10):
you with the money that he makes and brings in
the house to provide. When you see it just going
out the door, he thinks his provision portion is being
taken for granted. Now you may not like that answer,
but that's what it is. And then when he told
you he'd like it if you would shop less, you said, Okay,
give me something else because that ain't gonna happen. And

(06:32):
then he goes right back to okay, cool.

Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hang on, Steve, hang on. We'll have part two of
Steve's response coming up and reenactment on Today's Strawberry Letter
at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter
subject is he sweet or tart? We'll get back into
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Speaker 1 (07:31):
All right, Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he sweet or chart?

Speaker 3 (07:37):
Here's a man and who is a woman who thinks
her husband is a trip. He's a sweetheart at home,
and I mean he's a sweetheart in public, but at
home he calls her by her first name on her
maiden name. She tried to lean over and kiss him.
He said, gone, stop with all this mushy stub.

Speaker 2 (07:55):
You know.

Speaker 3 (07:55):
He had a conversation with his son in law, stepson
who is She has a twenty eight year old son
from a other marriage.

Speaker 2 (08:03):
They're closely. They having a conversation.

Speaker 3 (08:08):
One time, he tells her twenty eight year old son,
wait till you fifty to get married, because it's all
downhill after that. Then you won't know what he mean
by that. It's self explanatory. He's married to your ass
and it's downhill. And he told your son. You want

(08:28):
to say something to him, but your son told you
you better not say nothing to him about this. He
just trying to pull your coat to the thing, mom,
that you are doing some things that's dissatisfactory to your husband,
and your son done brought it to your attention. He
didn't come in there and tell you that your husband

(08:49):
was jacked up. He went said that he told him
to wait till he was fifty before he got married,
because it's all down heel after that. And why would
he tell him that? That's because y'all are in a
downhill marriage. It's going downhill. You asked him what was
it about? He said he would like it better if

(09:10):
you spent less money shopping. You said that ain't gonna happen,
So what else you got?

Speaker 2 (09:17):
No, he told you what the problem is. And ladies,
whether you like it or.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Not, a man feels disheartened when the money that he
makes is going out the door, and it seems like
in a way of fashion that he has no say
so in see you personally shopping and all like that.
He doesn't have a say so in it. But y'all
constantly needing more money. So then you said maybe y'all

(09:46):
could quit eating now as much. He said, okay, So
now he cooking at the house. You know, he treats
you good in public, but at home, he ain't gonna
be fronting at the house because you at the house tripping.
It's about this money. Now this runs over into everything.

(10:06):
So now she he'd then told your son wait till
he fifty. Your son came and told you and then
told you not to tell him. And now you still
want to know what's wrong?

Speaker 2 (10:16):
What's wrong?

Speaker 3 (10:17):
What part you're not listening to? Everybody told you. So
now let's do a reenactment. This is a disgruntle husband
at home, and no matter what you bring up, because
we're at home now talking, these are the types of
responses from a disgruntle husband. This has not been rehearsed.
Sureley can ask me anything, honeys.

Speaker 1 (10:36):
This sound like rain out tonight.

Speaker 3 (10:39):
Better hope it don't rain on this roof, because you
know we're gonna have some holes in the k weeen
been able to get to move repair kaween got no
money for all that, so you better hope it don't rain.

Speaker 2 (10:47):
And here that's why we had leak last time.

Speaker 1 (10:51):
What wow, it's right, honey. What do you think about
breakfast tomorrow? You want pancakes or pancakes waffle? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (11:03):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (11:03):
Or you want biscuits maybe one people?

Speaker 3 (11:05):
Oh didn't we say we was gonna start having spending
dinners at home? Uh? Huh?

Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (11:11):
Oh oh, now you want to eat in the morning? Girl,
You just letting this money get away?

Speaker 2 (11:20):
Musk. We don't, I don't only what you think going on?

Speaker 1 (11:23):
Oh you are just gruntles. Honey. Did you take the
garbage out? You know the they collected tomorrow?

Speaker 3 (11:31):
They take the garbage out? Yeah, we ain't got no
more money for no more garbage?

Speaker 2 (11:35):
Can know which gone? No garbage can call? Who the
hell got money for garbage? Can now? Garbage can? Wow? Yeah? College?
All right, honey? Can we plan the Easter egg hunt
for the kids in the neighborhood? Egg hunt? You better

(11:59):
paint your damn potatoes.

Speaker 3 (12:01):
You know you know what egg cause now egg is
nine dollars a gallon nine dollars nine dollars A damn
does we're not finna handle, he said, County right, I'm
what you hear right there? Hey, hey, I tell you
what you can hunt for? You you you you can
hunt for, Ea said, egg candy. We have jelly bean
hunt this year. We have jelly bean hunting. But what
we're not finna do it? You're not finla died. No,

(12:23):
damn eggs up in here. That's a hard no. Matter
of fact, I don't even know why they haven't Easter
this year.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
Funny, what are we gonna watch on TV tonight? Sever
you heard about that?

Speaker 2 (12:39):
It looks what that's on Apple TV?

Speaker 3 (12:42):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (12:42):
Someone to the streaming serving a streaming Yeah, you know.

Speaker 2 (12:47):
Some with the monthly subscription. Yes, girl, by.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
Get on in here, watch the CNN and learn what's
going on. We need to be watching CNN. Wait, wait
to find out when the egg on go down. That's
what we need to be in there doing. You need
to spend no more damn money. What else can we go.

Speaker 1 (13:06):
On a double date with that couple that just moved
in next door and they want to go to this
new five star restaurant.

Speaker 3 (13:13):
Hell no, we need to get to know these people better.
You'll go five star with somebody you just met. We
might not even like these people right here. No, they
they can come over and get some of these porking
beans out and made that spaghett it's eating.

Speaker 2 (13:27):
Please.

Speaker 3 (13:27):
You're gonna take a plate over there, because we do.
Cause we take a plate over there. We just said
we weren't going out dinner. No damn Mode.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
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Speaker 2 (13:41):
Damn Dyane, you all you want to do is spend money.
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