September 14, 2020 • 12 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 35 year old woman and I'm at a loss for words when it comes to my new boyfriend's four year old son. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and he felt it was time for me to meet his 4 year old son. He’s told me that I am the first woman he’s been serious about in years and he can see me as his wife someday. So, I met his four year old son and he’s a bit weird. He looked me up and down and said hello, then he stared at my breasts for a long time............
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Well, guys, it's down to fifty now, fifty days until
November third, Okay, go right now, I know it is
go right now to get registered to vote at vote
dot org. This is so very serious. Right now, fifty
days left. You can get your dates as to when
you can early vote in your state. We say it
(00:22):
every single day on this show. That's what we want
you to do. Early vote, early vote. All right? Oh lord, yeah,
you gotta yeah, we gotta get prepared. You fifty days,
you gotta get prepared. Yeah. This is this is for
real right here, This is it. I think I have
(00:43):
a feeling that there's going to be a huge turnout
in this election, and that's always a good sign. Yeah,
And I think it's going to be a lot of
people who are disappointed in the direction of the country.
And that's that's what I really think will happen. And
(01:04):
I'm just and I'm just hoping that it ends this
four year reign of terror that we've been under and
we can start a new chapter and just and just
try to get it right at least stop that in
global embarrassment that we've suffered under this administration, because it's
been a global embarrassment he said over the weekend, and
I wish I had this story. I read it. He
(01:26):
says he wants history. He was at a rally. He
said he wants his fan base to get out and vote.
And because Joe Biden accused him of, um, Joe Biden, Oh, man,
I wish I had this right, Joe Biden accused him
of oh, of of calling the A War veterans losers
(01:48):
and stuff and suckers. He said, now I'm really gonna
get vicious. And he said that at his rally and
the cry out we're crazy. Oh my gosh, that's was
so deep about this dude here, man, Wow, all right,
vote petty. Petty is the president talking about Now I'm
(02:12):
really gonna get fishous? Okay, Well, at to debate, you're
gonna get surprised. Yeah, yeah, all right, so again go
to vote dot org. Fifty days left, people, This is serious. Now,
all right, we're gonna switch gears here because it is
time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
(02:33):
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com
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It is the Strawberry letter. Subject. My boyfriend's son is
creeping me out. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty five
(02:56):
year old woman and I'm at a loss for words
when it comes to my new boyfriend's four year old son.
I've been with my boyfriend for six months and he
felt it was time for me to meet his four
year old sons. He's told me that I am the
first woman he's been serious about in years, and he
can see me as his wife some day. So I
met his four year old son, and he's a bit weird.
(03:19):
He looked me up and down and said hello. Then
he stared at my breath for a long time. My
boyfriend noticed and chuckled, then told his son to go play.
The little boy went to the kitchen table where he
had been drawing pictures. He came over to me and
he said he drew me a picture. He drew a
picture of me with his daddy and I had huge boobs,
(03:41):
a huge behind, and a big head. I'm a curvy woman,
so I can see how that might stand out to him,
but I didn't like it. My boyfriend didn't think it
was a big deal at all. He said the boy
was just being honest with what he saw and small
kids don't have a filter. The next time I was
over at my boyfriend's home, the boy just sat and
(04:03):
stared at me, and he barely answered when I talked
to him, and I told my boyfriend he was creeping
me out. I put him to bed later that night
and he said good night and he was going to
dream about me. What the holy heck is going on here?
While my boyfriend is glad his son likes me, I'm
so worried that something's not right with the kid. Since then,
(04:24):
he's drawn more pictures of me, and he even drew
a picture of me without ahead. My boyfriend is still
saying it's not a problem. I was using the bathroom
and this kid was sitting outside the door when I
came out. Is this how kids show they like you?
Or is this kid just a little creep Please help? Well,
(04:44):
you know, I think this is creepy, and I think
it's creepy because you're making it so I mean we're
talking about a four year old baby here. It sounds
like the little boy is just smitten with you. He
doesn't really know how to act. He's just four, so
he doesn't know how to quite process his feelings or
(05:06):
just how to deal with what's going on. I mean,
maybe he's never seen a woman that looks like you before,
and I definitely mean that in a good way. You
said you were curvy and everything, so you know, I
think it's a situation where you and the dead are adults.
You need to act like adults, I think, and just
you know, find out what's going on. And it's four
(05:27):
a little a little four year old head. I mean,
he's his mind is young. I think make him feel
safe and comfortable enough that and I'm sure he'll he'll
talk to you about a whole lot of stuff that's
going on, you know, like a lot of four year
olds do. When you sit down and have a conversation
with them. I think you might find out it's perfectly innocent,
and maybe you look like a superhero to him or something.
(05:50):
I just say, don't make something creepy and crazy where
it shouldn't be. I mean, he's four, he's just a
four year old kid. You know I would say what's
wrong with you in this instance? Steve. Yeah, I mean
I don't have much to add, but when I come back,
I will add what I do have to add. And
(06:15):
lady just just hang on, because here I come with
what I think is happening. All right, we'll have part
two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Subject for the Strawberry Letter today, my
boyfriend's son is creeping me out. We'll be back right
after this you're listening to, all right, Steve, come on,
let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject my boyfriend's son is
(06:39):
creeping me out. Well, let me just help start by saying,
I think Shirley's one correct here. I don't think there's
anything to worry about at all. First of all, it's
obvious that you don't have any children, So because you
know you would have some idea of how kids can
(06:59):
be at time, but you've been with your boyfriend. He
felt his time to meet this for year old son. Now,
this is the first woman he'd been serious about in years,
and he could see me as his wife Sunday. So
he takes you to meet this for your old son,
and he was weird. He looked you up and down
and said hello. Then he stared at your breast for
(07:20):
a long time. His daddy ain't got no breast, He
ain't had no women over at the house in a while.
Nobody's serious. Nobody the man wants to introduce him to.
This is new to him. You do not know the
relationship he has with his mother. You didn't mention if
his mother's in his life active as the man has
full of custody. You don't know. But obviously you are
(07:43):
brand new to this boy. Now. He looked at you,
stared at you, looked you up and down, staring at
your breast for a long time. Then your boyfriend kind
of noticed and told his son, gonna play well, little boy,
go back in the kitchen, started drawing picture. Then he
came up you and say, he drew me a picture.
He fall, I got something for you. Hit drew a
(08:06):
picture me and his daddy, and I had huge boobs,
a huge behind in a big head. Okay, damn the head.
Ain't you got big boobs? You said, I'm a curvy woman,
so I can see how that might stand out to him.
Might what did you have one in this boy's face.
(08:26):
Cleavage something tight, and your breast was up there now
he noticed them. He just a boy. He don't know.
I've been looking at women's breast ever since I can remember.
I was five in love with my Sunday school teacher boy.
She was from fishing at your church one Sunday. I'm
(08:49):
sitting on the table with her legs cross teaching, sitting
there with her legs crossing, teaching them, teaching us about Jesus.
And I didn't him know about Jesus that day. Not faith.
I'm just telling you, huh so I was six? Okay,
(09:14):
no that It just ain't nothing wrong. He drawing pictures.
Shirley said it right. He doesn't know how to express
his feelings. I'm gonna draw this picture. Hear you you
like it, because I damn show do now. Your boyfriend
didn't think it was a big deal. All, he said.
The boy was just being honest with what he saw.
Kids don't have a filter. Well, next time you're over
(09:35):
at your house. The boy just said, and stead at me.
He barely answered when I talked to him. The boy
is enamored with you. You are new. You are new.
I told my boyfriend. He was creeping me out. I
put him to bed later that night, he said good
night and he was gonna dream about me. That's a
little boy, and he don't know what to say. You're
the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life.
(09:58):
I'm gonna dream about you. You're gonna be my new mama.
What the holy heck is going on here? While my
boyfriend is glad and his son does like you, If
he didn't like you, you get on the other side
of this thing, and then you really have something to
worry about. I'm so awared that something's not right with
this kid. Everything's fine with it. He's a boy. He's
(10:21):
a boy, and he don't know how to deal with
what he looking at. You don't look like nobody else
has been over there, obviously, don't look like his mama,
and you definitely don't look like his daddy. Now, since then,
he's drawn more pictures of me, and he even drew
a picture of me without a head because that ain't
what he see. He can't get your head right, no way.
(10:41):
But he betty had a big booty and then big
boobs on that picture though, didn't he right? He just
he just thought he throw that on that, but then
he said, naw, I didn't capture that right. Then, let
me draw what I know how to draw. That's what
I'm saying. My boyfriend is still saying, and it's not
a problem. I was using the bathroom and this kid
(11:03):
was sitting outside the door when I came out. What
you're doing it now, I'm gonna wait on you to
come out. He likes you. What you should do is
sit down and act like a mother to him. If
you really want to have a relationship with this man.
This enamorment will pass, but you've got to, you know,
(11:24):
show him how to dress, help him with his school where,
talk to him about stuff that mothers to. He's probably
be missing that, and he don't want you to go away.
Is this our kids show they like you? Yes? Or
is this kid a little creep? Not at all. He's
a four year old boy. This is a boy. This
little dude he listened to me. He not aroused or
(11:47):
nothing like that. At four. He just liked the woman
that's at the house. Please help now, surely said you
got to grow up in this situation. It ain't there.
I don't even see why you read you're reading too
much into this. Yeah, you read big boobs, big booty.
He looking at me. He don't see my head. A
(12:08):
lot of men don't see your head. Now that's different.
You trip it. It's a little boy man. He made
no move on you. He ain't even got no move too.
Lake a baby, he's four. Boy. If you could see
my little grandson at this party, at this eight year
(12:29):
old Latin girl was dancing at this party, he was
folk when he saw this girl. Boast your comments on
today's Strubberry Letter FM on Instagram and Facebook, and don't
forget to check out the Strubberry Letter podcast on demand
coming up in forty six minutes after the hour of
Sports Talk with Junior right after this You're Listening show
Well, guys, it's down to fifty now, fifty days until
November third, Okay, go right now, I know it is
go right now to get registered to vote at vote
dot org. This is so very serious. Right now, fifty
days left. You can get your dates as to when
you can early vote in your state. We say it
(00:22):
every single day on this show. That's what we want
you to do. Early vote, early vote. All right? Oh lord, yeah,
you gotta yeah, we gotta get prepared. You fifty days,
you gotta get prepared. Yeah. This is this is for
real right here, This is it. I think I have
(00:43):
a feeling that there's going to be a huge turnout
in this election, and that's always a good sign. Yeah,
And I think it's going to be a lot of
people who are disappointed in the direction of the country.
And that's that's what I really think will happen. And
(01:04):
I'm just and I'm just hoping that it ends this
four year reign of terror that we've been under and
we can start a new chapter and just and just
try to get it right at least stop that in
global embarrassment that we've suffered under this administration, because it's
been a global embarrassment he said over the weekend, and
I wish I had this story. I read it. He
(01:26):
says he wants history. He was at a rally. He
said he wants his fan base to get out and vote.
And because Joe Biden accused him of, um, Joe Biden, Oh, man,
I wish I had this right, Joe Biden accused him
of oh, of of calling the A War veterans losers
(01:48):
and stuff and suckers. He said, now I'm really gonna
get vicious. And he said that at his rally and
the cry out we're crazy. Oh my gosh, that's was
so deep about this dude here, man, Wow, all right,
vote petty. Petty is the president talking about Now I'm
(02:12):
really gonna get fishous? Okay, Well, at to debate, you're
gonna get surprised. Yeah, yeah, all right, so again go
to vote dot org. Fifty days left, people, This is serious. Now,
all right, we're gonna switch gears here because it is
time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
(02:33):
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. Who Knows we could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna read this one right here, right now. Buggle up
and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is the Strawberry letter. Subject. My boyfriend's son is
creeping me out. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty five
(02:56):
year old woman and I'm at a loss for words
when it comes to my new boyfriend's four year old son.
I've been with my boyfriend for six months and he
felt it was time for me to meet his four
year old sons. He's told me that I am the
first woman he's been serious about in years, and he
can see me as his wife some day. So I
met his four year old son, and he's a bit weird.
(03:19):
He looked me up and down and said hello. Then
he stared at my breath for a long time. My
boyfriend noticed and chuckled, then told his son to go play.
The little boy went to the kitchen table where he
had been drawing pictures. He came over to me and
he said he drew me a picture. He drew a
picture of me with his daddy and I had huge boobs,
(03:41):
a huge behind, and a big head. I'm a curvy woman,
so I can see how that might stand out to him,
but I didn't like it. My boyfriend didn't think it
was a big deal at all. He said the boy
was just being honest with what he saw and small
kids don't have a filter. The next time I was
over at my boyfriend's home, the boy just sat and
(04:03):
stared at me, and he barely answered when I talked
to him, and I told my boyfriend he was creeping
me out. I put him to bed later that night
and he said good night and he was going to
dream about me. What the holy heck is going on here?
While my boyfriend is glad his son likes me, I'm
so worried that something's not right with the kid. Since then,
(04:24):
he's drawn more pictures of me, and he even drew
a picture of me without ahead. My boyfriend is still
saying it's not a problem. I was using the bathroom
and this kid was sitting outside the door when I
came out. Is this how kids show they like you?
Or is this kid just a little creep Please help? Well,
(04:44):
you know, I think this is creepy, and I think
it's creepy because you're making it so I mean we're
talking about a four year old baby here. It sounds
like the little boy is just smitten with you. He
doesn't really know how to act. He's just four, so
he doesn't know how to quite process his feelings or
(05:06):
just how to deal with what's going on. I mean,
maybe he's never seen a woman that looks like you before,
and I definitely mean that in a good way. You
said you were curvy and everything, so you know, I
think it's a situation where you and the dead are adults.
You need to act like adults, I think, and just
you know, find out what's going on. And it's four
(05:27):
a little a little four year old head. I mean,
he's his mind is young. I think make him feel
safe and comfortable enough that and I'm sure he'll he'll
talk to you about a whole lot of stuff that's
going on, you know, like a lot of four year
olds do. When you sit down and have a conversation
with them. I think you might find out it's perfectly innocent,
and maybe you look like a superhero to him or something.
(05:50):
I just say, don't make something creepy and crazy where
it shouldn't be. I mean, he's four, he's just a
four year old kid. You know I would say what's
wrong with you in this instance? Steve. Yeah, I mean
I don't have much to add, but when I come back,
I will add what I do have to add. And
(06:15):
lady just just hang on, because here I come with
what I think is happening. All right, we'll have part
two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Subject for the Strawberry Letter today, my
boyfriend's son is creeping me out. We'll be back right
after this you're listening to, all right, Steve, come on,
let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject my boyfriend's son is
(06:39):
creeping me out. Well, let me just help start by saying,
I think Shirley's one correct here. I don't think there's
anything to worry about at all. First of all, it's
obvious that you don't have any children, So because you
know you would have some idea of how kids can
(06:59):
be at time, but you've been with your boyfriend. He
felt his time to meet this for year old son. Now,
this is the first woman he'd been serious about in years,
and he could see me as his wife Sunday. So
he takes you to meet this for your old son,
and he was weird. He looked you up and down
and said hello. Then he stared at your breast for
(07:20):
a long time. His daddy ain't got no breast, He
ain't had no women over at the house in a while.
Nobody's serious. Nobody the man wants to introduce him to.
This is new to him. You do not know the
relationship he has with his mother. You didn't mention if
his mother's in his life active as the man has
full of custody. You don't know. But obviously you are
(07:43):
brand new to this boy. Now. He looked at you,
stared at you, looked you up and down, staring at
your breast for a long time. Then your boyfriend kind
of noticed and told his son, gonna play well, little boy,
go back in the kitchen, started drawing picture. Then he
came up you and say, he drew me a picture.
He fall, I got something for you. Hit drew a
(08:06):
picture me and his daddy, and I had huge boobs,
a huge behind in a big head. Okay, damn the head.
Ain't you got big boobs? You said, I'm a curvy woman,
so I can see how that might stand out to him.
Might what did you have one in this boy's face.
(08:26):
Cleavage something tight, and your breast was up there now
he noticed them. He just a boy. He don't know.
I've been looking at women's breast ever since I can remember.
I was five in love with my Sunday school teacher boy.
She was from fishing at your church one Sunday. I'm
(08:49):
sitting on the table with her legs cross teaching, sitting
there with her legs crossing, teaching them, teaching us about Jesus.
And I didn't him know about Jesus that day. Not faith.
I'm just telling you, huh so I was six? Okay,
(09:14):
no that It just ain't nothing wrong. He drawing pictures.
Shirley said it right. He doesn't know how to express
his feelings. I'm gonna draw this picture. Hear you you
like it, because I damn show do now. Your boyfriend
didn't think it was a big deal. All, he said.
The boy was just being honest with what he saw.
Kids don't have a filter. Well, next time you're over
(09:35):
at your house. The boy just said, and stead at me.
He barely answered when I talked to him. The boy
is enamored with you. You are new. You are new.
I told my boyfriend. He was creeping me out. I
put him to bed later that night, he said good
night and he was gonna dream about me. That's a
little boy, and he don't know what to say. You're
the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life.
(09:58):
I'm gonna dream about you. You're gonna be my new mama.
What the holy heck is going on here? While my
boyfriend is glad and his son does like you, If
he didn't like you, you get on the other side
of this thing, and then you really have something to
worry about. I'm so awared that something's not right with
this kid. Everything's fine with it. He's a boy. He's
(10:21):
a boy, and he don't know how to deal with
what he looking at. You don't look like nobody else
has been over there, obviously, don't look like his mama,
and you definitely don't look like his daddy. Now, since then,
he's drawn more pictures of me, and he even drew
a picture of me without a head because that ain't
what he see. He can't get your head right, no way.
(10:41):
But he betty had a big booty and then big
boobs on that picture though, didn't he right? He just
he just thought he throw that on that, but then
he said, naw, I didn't capture that right. Then, let
me draw what I know how to draw. That's what
I'm saying. My boyfriend is still saying, and it's not
a problem. I was using the bathroom and this kid
(11:03):
was sitting outside the door when I came out. What
you're doing it now, I'm gonna wait on you to
come out. He likes you. What you should do is
sit down and act like a mother to him. If
you really want to have a relationship with this man.
This enamorment will pass, but you've got to, you know,
(11:24):
show him how to dress, help him with his school where,
talk to him about stuff that mothers to. He's probably
be missing that, and he don't want you to go away.
Is this our kids show they like you? Yes? Or
is this kid a little creep? Not at all. He's
a four year old boy. This is a boy. This
little dude he listened to me. He not aroused or
(11:47):
nothing like that. At four. He just liked the woman
that's at the house. Please help now, surely said you
got to grow up in this situation. It ain't there.
I don't even see why you read you're reading too
much into this. Yeah, you read big boobs, big booty.
He looking at me. He don't see my head. A
(12:08):
lot of men don't see your head. Now that's different.
You trip it. It's a little boy man. He made
no move on you. He ain't even got no move too.
Lake a baby, he's four. Boy. If you could see
my little grandson at this party, at this eight year
(12:29):
old Latin girl was dancing at this party, he was
folk when he saw this girl. Boast your comments on
today's Strubberry Letter FM on Instagram and Facebook, and don't
forget to check out the Strubberry Letter podcast on demand
coming up in forty six minutes after the hour of
Sports Talk with Junior right after this You're Listening show
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