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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
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We got it four you here. It is Girlberry letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Nephew, Thank you. Subject my daughter in law and my sons.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a sixty four year old married
man and I have two sons. My wife and I
are retired and we enjoy spending time with our three grandchildren.
Our oldest son got married six years ago and I
used to love his wife. She's been a part of
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our family for ten years. My wife and I spent
a week with my son and his family for Christmas.
I got up early one morning to meditate and get
my coffee while the house was still quiet. As I
walked into the kitchen, I could hear my daughter in
law in her office on the phone. I heard her say,
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your parents took the kids to the mall yesterday. It
kind of threw me off because she could only be
talking to my other son. I never mentioned it to
my wife. When Christmas Eve, my daughter in law left
her phone in the kitchen face down. It kept on vibrating,
so my wife flip flipped the phone over to see
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whose phone it was. She said she saw back to
back text from our younger son, who just turned thirty.
She thought maybe he was trying to pop up and
surprise us for Christmas. I thought to myself that might
be why my daughter in law was talking to him
that morning. Christmas Day came and we all face timed
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with our younger son, who said he had no plans
of joining us. I was really puzzled by that point.
It all came out last week when my younger son
came home and said he had to talk to me.
He told me that he had a flame with my
daughter in law. He said she drove for four hours
to see him, and over the course of that weekend
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they had six three times. He said it was terrible,
and he told her it will never happen again, but
she won't leave him alone. I am not equipped to
handle this. Do I encourage my son to tell his
big brother about what he did to his wife, or
should I stay out of this? Well, of course I
think you know the answer to this, Dad, This is
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all terrible. First of all, it's bad on both parts,
your younger son for betraying his blood brother and of
course wifey for her slimy behavior. And you know that
could possibly break up this family. And Dad, you shouldn't
have to be equipped to handle this. No one is
equipped to deal with this kind of foolishness. No, you
shouldn't tell your older son, and neither should your younger son.
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If this ever gets out, it will start a family
feud like no other. Your younger son needs to stop
all communication with this woman, his sister in law, meaning,
stop texting her, stop answering her calls, all of that.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
They got to stop this.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Please tell him that, I mean, just tell him that
so he can move on, leave her, try to put
this behind him and move on if he can, because
if the son finds out, this is gonna be a
mess right here, it already is. And I just don't
understand why he would do that to his brother and
why she would do it and possibly break up a
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family between two brothers.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Steve, I'm confused. I'm very confused. Okay, you all have
heard the letter that Shirley jessriad you heard Shirley's response.
Here's my confusion, and it's not directed at Shirley. It's
directed at things I've heard women say. This is what
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I've heard when men say, throughout the course of my life,
if this is my friend, I.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Would tell my friend if she was my friend.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Let's say a woman saw a man chat on one
of her girlfriends. I've heard the woman say, if she
was my friend, she would tell me. I've heard women
say I would want to know. I've heard women say
she's my friend, I have to tell her. I'm just
saying I've heard these things that may not apply to
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every woman, but I've heard this a lot, and I
think you all will.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Admit you've heard that too.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Now, based on that right there, now, let's go to
Shirley's response.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Shirley says she.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Knows that this father knows the answer to this, and
he has got to stay out of this because no
one is equipped for this. I'm looking at both sides
of this letter now because I really don't know how
to respond quite yet.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
So now, ladies, let me get this, if someone.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Was cheating on you, you always say you would want
to know. And then women always feel a lot of times,
not all women, but a lot of women feel like
it's their obligation to tell their friend what they saw.
We have letter after letter after letter about this conflict
that you all are facing. So in this letter right here,
is it because they are men that they should leave
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it alone, let it go? Is it because he is
the father and these are his sons. I do understand
Shirley's concerned that this could break up the family because
it's a betrayal of the younger son who betrayed his
big brother. That is the foulest of this.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Yeah, for sure, that's the foulest of all of this. Yes,
that is your brother. I don't care.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
What does chick come to you with. This is my brother. Yeah,
this is my brother. So to me, the young boy
is the foulest. Now is the wife, the daughter in law,
the sister in law spank app absolutely.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
God bag like trash, I mean straight trash man.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
And now all of this falls in the lap of
the father because a young boy is so tossed up.
They gotta have a great relationship because he took it
to his dad. When we come back, I still don't
know what I'm gonna say.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry Letter subject my daughter in law and my sons.
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
All right, let's go. Come on, Shirley, what you got.
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Speaker 1 (07:32):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
This is a wild one. Right here, my daughter in
law and my sons.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
That's this man, sixty four years old.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
And he's got two sons and the oldest son is
married to a woman for over ten years. They have
three grandchildren. He absolutely adored this woman and then he
heard her having a conversation one morning he got up
to half coffee. She was in her office and got
up and heard her talking to someone on the phone
and said, your parents took the grandkids to the mall today,
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which meant she He thought, you could only be talking
to the oldest son, you know, or or one of
his sons. So because they only had the two kids.
All right, fast forward, they over there. They're expecting everybody
home for Christmas. The phone rings, that's on vibrate. It's
some messages and texts from the youngest son to the
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daughter in law.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Now Dad is confused and then thought, well, maybe.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
He was trying to surprise everybody again on the FaceTime
on Christmas.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Come to find out he wasn't coming at all.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Finally, the young boy talks to his sixty four your
old dad and said, Dad, I need to talk to you.
I got a problem. This woman, the daughter in law,
my brother's wife, drove to see me for four hours.
We had sex three times. It was terrible. It was terrible,
and he told her it'll never happen again, but she
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won't leave him alone.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And I'm the man is saying, I'm not equipped to
handle this.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
Do I encourage my son to tell his big brother
about what he did to his wife?
Speaker 2 (09:09):
See?
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Listen to that sentence, though, Do I tell my son
to tell his big brother about what he did to
his wife?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (09:20):
That is the most powerful statement in this whole letter
for this man.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Because he's a man.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
He know what that older boy gonna feel or think,
and he knows this could blow up. Because it's going
to blow up because the young, the oldest son is
going to be destroyed on both sides. My wife portrayed me,
but my little brother did too. I had an incident
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that happened to me a long, long time ago, and
somebody lied and said my brother did it to me.
When I called my brother, I was handling this situation.
But when I called and I charged my brother with
doing it to me. And I was so upset man
talking to my brother, because all I kept saying, brh,
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not you man, bruh, not you thought I'd take this
from anybody, but dog you broh.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
My brother finally got so I hung up. I went home.
I was distraught. Finally somebody came and say, Man, I
talk to you. Brother.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Let me tell you what happened. He said, but you
was just hollering and he couldn't get your listen. Turned
out my brother didn't do it at all. The part
that crushed me mostly was I thought it was a
betrayal of my brother, and I could take it from
anybody else, but not my brother. Not my brother man,
because we.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Was raised to take care of each other.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
So, dad of sixty four years, I don't really know
what to tell you.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
I really really don't. I have three sons.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
If this happened in my family, I would be really, honestly,
to be honest with you, I'd be feeling the way
you are and I wouldn't know what to do. But
I'm a father, so I gotta do something. You can't
just let it lay.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
You can't.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
But bruh, I don't know how to handle this because
this right here can go south so fast, so fast,
and the injury that could be cause to your oldest son,
it's one that may not be repallable.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Your wife betrayed me, who's the.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Mother of my children? And my little brother betrayed me. God,
I don't know. I don't know what to say. I
talked to this little trifling girl, the.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Daughter in law. Yeah, as the father, you're saying, you
talk to the daughter.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
In law, you wouldn't let her know that, you know, doctor.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
I know what didn't happen. And what I want you
to do is fix this. Yeah, just bounce, say you
don't want this no more, don't destroy my sons. Just
gonna bounce and leave.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
But she's not gonna do that.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Well, she's not gonna bounce and leave without the destruction
because if she's that type of person, she.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Gonna think, well, I ain't gonna be the only one hurting.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Mm hm.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Also, you're gonna protect your sons.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
Well, I'm gonna I find you want me to blow
my family up, I blow your family up too. That's
why I don't know what to say. I truly, well,
this is the first Strawberry letter that has completely stomped me.
Because I really just don't know what to say. I
would have to I would really have to pray about
this because I don't have the answer.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I just don't have an answer. Man.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
This is horrible being on anything, but I'm so disappointed
in my youngest son. Yeah, boy, you didn't thank for
one minute.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
This my brother. This is my brother. Man, brother, come on,
oh man. Yeah, it's break my heart.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
It would either way.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
It's bad. That would break my heart because I got
three sons.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
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Speaker 2 (13:38):
Now, coming up.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
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