March 11, 2025 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I met my boyfriend at the car dealership. I was there for an oil change and he greeted me. There was a long wait time so during that time I enjoyed talking to the man...
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
Weguide it for you. Here it is Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
He letta, all right, neph you, thank you. Subject my
fixer upper is feeling himself. Dear Stephen Shirley, I met
my boyfriend at the car dealership. I was there for
an oil change and he greeted me. There was a
long wait time, so during that time I enjoyed talking
to the man. He told me about how he moved
in with his son and grandson two years ago after
(00:47):
his divorce. He told me he is a lead mechanic
at the dealership, but he's trying to open his own
garage at the dealership, but he's trying to open his
own garage. I felt something for this man and how
he's rebuilding his life at age fifty eight. He asked
me to have dinner with him, and I said yes.
He asked me to take it easy on him because
(01:08):
he can tell I like the finer things in life
that humbled me. So on our first date, I ordered
a salad out of respect for his financial situation. He
needed a lot of TLC because he was rough around
the edges. So here we are eleven months later and
he practically lives with me. I helped him buy a
(01:29):
cash car, and I've bought him a lot of clothing
and shoes to update his wardrobe. I did mine because
I see him as my fixer upper. I finally got
him to cut his hair and shave his spacial hair.
His dental work is all done, and I can see
that he's more confident. He's far too handsome to work
at the dealership now, so I have encouraged him to
(01:50):
look for other jobs.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
There is just.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
One little thing that's bothering me, though. He has really
been feeling himself lately, and he'll brag about how other
women and flirt with him at work. He told his
son that he's backing better than ever, and I didn't
like that. He has been hiding his phone lately and
coming home a lot later if he's seeing someone else,
I will feel like such a fool after I've done all,
(02:16):
after all I've done to uplift this man. Is he
going through a phase or have I fixed him up
for the streets? Well, you've definitely fixed him up, for sure.
You've done that. And I think you fixed him up
for someone else as well. I mean that's kind of you,
know what you're thinking. Anyway, he's coming home later. You know,
(02:37):
he's hiding his phone and all of that. This is
a man, not a house that you've fixed up. You know,
fixer upper is usually for houses. You already know what
it is. You've done way too much for this ungrateful man,
and he just sat back and let you do it all.
But who wouldn't. I mean, he is a great life.
(02:58):
He looks good thanks to you. You provide him with
the place to live, You put clothes on his back,
you put teeth in his mouth. He's a fully grown man.
You're taking care of him like he's your son or something.
You call him your fixer upper, but you're getting nothing
from him in return. He can't even be respectful to you.
I mean, he's hiding his phone, like you said, that
(03:19):
you probably paid for at this point. So there's only
one reason for that. I mean, I think he has
something to hide. So please, you got to stop throwing
your money away on this man. Even though you say
you like fixer uppers, you know, does this man deserve that?
Though you got to ask yourself that I said, keep
your money and your time and your love to yourself.
(03:41):
He should be doing these things for you, not the
other way around.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
Steve Lady, I don't understand this letter at all. The
subject is my fixer up is feeling himself. Now, obviously
this is a woman who likes projects. She has a
nurturing spirit, as do a lot of women. But you
(04:05):
like projects, and you took this project on, and you've
done all of this stuff right here. Let me just
start by saying, right off the dribble, you have done
way too much, because.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Nowhere in this letter.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
Do I see a single redeeming quality of this man.
Not one time in this letter of all you've done
for him, have I heard anything that he's done for
you anything. You met him at a car dealership, You
(04:44):
was there for all change. He greeted you. It was
a long time doing the wait. So you enjoyed talking
to him. He told you how he moved with his
son and grandson after his divorce.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
He was a lead mechanic at the dealership.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Trying to open his own garage and all the thing,
and you felt something because he was rebuilding his life.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
At fifty eight.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
He asked you to have dinner with him and everything,
and then he asked you to take it easy on
him because he can tell you like the finer things
in life that humbled me. So on my first date,
I ordered a salad out of respect for his financial situation. Okay,
wait in now, hold up the he the lead mechanic
(05:32):
you done to humble yourself to where you just ordered
a salad?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Now, how broke is he?
Speaker 4 (05:40):
You ask a woman out to dinner, but then you
can't afford to take her.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Now you sit over there eating a salad.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
I mean, I appreciate the kind gesture, but you gotta
start looking because after this I saw nothing else.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
All he did was ask you to go out to dinner.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
He needed a lot of TLC because he was rough
round the edges.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So now you say, eleven months later and he lived with.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
You, you bought him a cash.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Car, which probably means a car for cash.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
I don't know. I don't know if cash cars a
half or somehow. Anyway, you helped buy him a cash car.
I bought him a lot of clothes and shoes for
his wardrobe. I didn't mind because I see him as
my fixer upper. You should have saw him as your
man or something. He's far too handsome to work at
(06:37):
the dealership. Now you don'et got him shave his facial
hand to do his teeth.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Girl, Hang on, Steve, hang on. We'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour today Strawberry letters, subject my fixer upper is
feeling himself. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
At the Hyundai Getaway sales event. Get deals so right
it almost feels wrong. Now it's the best time to
get the Hyundai car or suv you've always wanted. Plus,
every new Hyundai comes with America's best warranty and three
years or thirty six thousand miles of limited complimentary maintenance.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Don't think you can get away with all of that?
Think again, but don't wait. The Hondai Getaway sales event
is going on now. To visit your local Hondai dealer today.
It's a great day for a new Hondai.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject my fixer upper is feeling himself.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Wow, here's a.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Lady that likes projects, and she's done so much for
this man. But nowhere in this letter do I see
where the man has done anything for her. He got
a divorce. He's fifty eight. He moved in town with
his son, his grandson. He lead mechanic at the dealership.
She went to get an all change. He's a leading mechanic.
He had to wait for a long time. I'm so
they said down and talk. She discovered all these wonderful
(08:03):
things about him, and you know, then he invited her
to dinner, and she said yes. Then he said, take
it easy on me, because I can tell you like
to find the things in life. So she sitting up
there at the dinner table in order to sell it.
I mean, I work with you, but damn, I can't
get no protein. I can't get chicken. Got chicken chicken,
(08:28):
that's usually a nice, safe, cheap item. He needed a
lot of TLC because he was rough around the edges.
So then she jumps the story. Here we are eleven
months later. He practically lives with me. I helped him
buy a car outne, brought him a lot of clothes
and shoes, updated wardrobe. And then she said, I don't mind,
(08:51):
because I see him as when I fix her upper.
He was a woman who likes projects. I finally got
him to cut his hair, shave his facial hair. His
dinner work is all done, and I can see that
he's more confident. Then the lady said, he's far too
handsome to work at the dealership now, so I've encouraged
him to look for other jobs.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
But that's just one little thing bothered me.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Now he been feeling hisself lately, and he'll brag about
how other women flirt with him at work. He told
his son he's back and better than ever. I didn't
like that he been hiding his phone. He comes in
a lot later if he's seeing someone else. I feel
so much like a fool after off I've done to
(09:35):
uplift this man. Is he going through a phase or
have I fixed him up from the streets? What has
he done for you? I haven't heard anything. Has he
made your life more financially comfortable? I don't think so,
because you're spending a lot of money fixing him up,
(09:57):
and that's probably your money. And then what has he
given you? Look, he's hiding his phone, he's coming home later.
I mean, like, I can't help this dude right here.
You got him fixed up for the streets. He ain't
(10:17):
never had no attention before. You just took little mister
fixer up to the little mister raggedy, raggedy mouth.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Don't cut his hair, He ain't got no clothes. What
did you see in him? Just all you saw was
a project you couldn't have saw.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
You have got his teeth done, got him to cut
his facial hair.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
He get his hair cuts now, and now he wears clothes.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Got him a car.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
You got him a car.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
I mean he lived with you, lady too much. You
he's done if he if you bought him all that stuff,
that means he ain't brought you no. If you have
spent all this money for him up, you've taken money
from yourself to fix him up. I don't Did you
(11:05):
want to fix her upper or did you want a husband?
Did you want to fix her upper or did you
want a partner? Did you want to fix her upper?
Or did you want someone that you can plan with?
Because I heard nothing about your plans. So, lady, did
you You've done too much? She said, Let him going
out there in them streets and let him have it.
(11:29):
But let me tell you something, though he just got
fixed up at fifty eight.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
He don't know what he needed to know.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
You don't all of a sudden get to look and
ain't got no substance behind it, because right now you
might have well just fixed up this big old, pretty
nothing ass man.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Well, if she says that, I didn't mind because I
see him as my fixer upper. So yeah, she was
what she likes, a good project.
Speaker 4 (12:01):
But I'm saying, no, she you need If you're gonna
do this for a man, it's got to be more
than for a project. He's got to have some redeeming
qualities to say. Man, with a little bit of help,
I can push him over the top. Right So now
he wants to open his own garage one day. But
you say he too too handsome to work at the dealership.
(12:22):
What what does that mean? What is he gonna he
too handsome to work at the dealership. So where is
he fin to go? Get this job for pretty men? What?
Speaker 3 (12:36):
What job is that? What? I don't I don't know
what job is at Junior. Can't as Tommy.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Keep keep keep topping his mic off because I don't
want him to try to jump again.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Over there he.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Got if you're over there even selling, he was some
new shoes on him.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
She's even ballads for him. Yeah, this is too much.
She's done too much. She's done way too much, way
too much for this man. Yeah, fifty eight. All right,
you can leave your comments. Oh okay, Tommy, Steve asked
(13:23):
a question, a question, but you know I'm being messy
right now. You wanted to know where did they Where
do they hire cute men? Where?
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Read it alone?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook,
at Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up
next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
Weguide it for you. Here it is Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
He letta, all right, neph you, thank you. Subject my
fixer upper is feeling himself. Dear Stephen Shirley, I met
my boyfriend at the car dealership. I was there for
an oil change and he greeted me. There was a
long wait time, so during that time I enjoyed talking
to the man. He told me about how he moved
in with his son and grandson two years ago after
(00:47):
his divorce. He told me he is a lead mechanic
at the dealership, but he's trying to open his own
garage at the dealership, but he's trying to open his
own garage. I felt something for this man and how
he's rebuilding his life at age fifty eight. He asked
me to have dinner with him, and I said yes.
He asked me to take it easy on him because
(01:08):
he can tell I like the finer things in life
that humbled me. So on our first date, I ordered
a salad out of respect for his financial situation. He
needed a lot of TLC because he was rough around
the edges. So here we are eleven months later and
he practically lives with me. I helped him buy a
(01:29):
cash car, and I've bought him a lot of clothing
and shoes to update his wardrobe. I did mine because
I see him as my fixer upper. I finally got
him to cut his hair and shave his spacial hair.
His dental work is all done, and I can see
that he's more confident. He's far too handsome to work
at the dealership now, so I have encouraged him to
(01:50):
look for other jobs.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
There is just.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
One little thing that's bothering me, though. He has really
been feeling himself lately, and he'll brag about how other
women and flirt with him at work. He told his
son that he's backing better than ever, and I didn't
like that. He has been hiding his phone lately and
coming home a lot later if he's seeing someone else,
I will feel like such a fool after I've done all,
(02:16):
after all I've done to uplift this man. Is he
going through a phase or have I fixed him up
for the streets? Well, you've definitely fixed him up, for sure.
You've done that. And I think you fixed him up
for someone else as well. I mean that's kind of you,
know what you're thinking. Anyway, he's coming home later. You know,
(02:37):
he's hiding his phone and all of that. This is
a man, not a house that you've fixed up. You know,
fixer upper is usually for houses. You already know what
it is. You've done way too much for this ungrateful man,
and he just sat back and let you do it all.
But who wouldn't. I mean, he is a great life.
(02:58):
He looks good thanks to you. You provide him with
the place to live, You put clothes on his back,
you put teeth in his mouth. He's a fully grown man.
You're taking care of him like he's your son or something.
You call him your fixer upper, but you're getting nothing
from him in return. He can't even be respectful to you.
I mean, he's hiding his phone, like you said, that
(03:19):
you probably paid for at this point. So there's only
one reason for that. I mean, I think he has
something to hide. So please, you got to stop throwing
your money away on this man. Even though you say
you like fixer uppers, you know, does this man deserve that?
Though you got to ask yourself that I said, keep
your money and your time and your love to yourself.
(03:41):
He should be doing these things for you, not the
other way around.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
Steve Lady, I don't understand this letter at all. The
subject is my fixer up is feeling himself. Now, obviously
this is a woman who likes projects. She has a
nurturing spirit, as do a lot of women. But you
(04:05):
like projects, and you took this project on, and you've
done all of this stuff right here. Let me just
start by saying, right off the dribble, you have done
way too much, because.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Nowhere in this letter.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
Do I see a single redeeming quality of this man.
Not one time in this letter of all you've done
for him, have I heard anything that he's done for
you anything. You met him at a car dealership, You
(04:44):
was there for all change. He greeted you. It was
a long time doing the wait. So you enjoyed talking
to him. He told you how he moved with his
son and grandson after his divorce.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
He was a lead mechanic at the dealership.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Trying to open his own garage and all the thing,
and you felt something because he was rebuilding his life.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
At fifty eight.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
He asked you to have dinner with him and everything,
and then he asked you to take it easy on
him because he can tell you like the finer things
in life that humbled me. So on my first date,
I ordered a salad out of respect for his financial situation. Okay,
wait in now, hold up the he the lead mechanic
(05:32):
you done to humble yourself to where you just ordered
a salad?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Now, how broke is he?
Speaker 4 (05:40):
You ask a woman out to dinner, but then you
can't afford to take her.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Now you sit over there eating a salad.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
I mean, I appreciate the kind gesture, but you gotta
start looking because after this I saw nothing else.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
All he did was ask you to go out to dinner.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
He needed a lot of TLC because he was rough
round the edges.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So now you say, eleven months later and he lived with.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
You, you bought him a cash.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Car, which probably means a car for cash.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
I don't know. I don't know if cash cars a
half or somehow. Anyway, you helped buy him a cash car.
I bought him a lot of clothes and shoes for
his wardrobe. I didn't mind because I see him as
my fixer upper. You should have saw him as your
man or something. He's far too handsome to work at
(06:37):
the dealership. Now you don'et got him shave his facial
hand to do his teeth.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Girl, Hang on, Steve, hang on. We'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour today Strawberry letters, subject my fixer upper is
feeling himself. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
At the Hyundai Getaway sales event. Get deals so right
it almost feels wrong. Now it's the best time to
get the Hyundai car or suv you've always wanted. Plus,
every new Hyundai comes with America's best warranty and three
years or thirty six thousand miles of limited complimentary maintenance.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Don't think you can get away with all of that?
Think again, but don't wait. The Hondai Getaway sales event
is going on now. To visit your local Hondai dealer today.
It's a great day for a new Hondai.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject my fixer upper is feeling himself.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Wow, here's a.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Lady that likes projects, and she's done so much for
this man. But nowhere in this letter do I see
where the man has done anything for her. He got
a divorce. He's fifty eight. He moved in town with
his son, his grandson. He lead mechanic at the dealership.
She went to get an all change. He's a leading mechanic.
He had to wait for a long time. I'm so
they said down and talk. She discovered all these wonderful
(08:03):
things about him, and you know, then he invited her
to dinner, and she said yes. Then he said, take
it easy on me, because I can tell you like
to find the things in life. So she sitting up
there at the dinner table in order to sell it.
I mean, I work with you, but damn, I can't
get no protein. I can't get chicken. Got chicken chicken,
(08:28):
that's usually a nice, safe, cheap item. He needed a
lot of TLC because he was rough around the edges.
So then she jumps the story. Here we are eleven
months later. He practically lives with me. I helped him
buy a car outne, brought him a lot of clothes
and shoes, updated wardrobe. And then she said, I don't mind,
(08:51):
because I see him as when I fix her upper.
He was a woman who likes projects. I finally got
him to cut his hair, shave his facial hair. His
dinner work is all done, and I can see that
he's more confident. Then the lady said, he's far too
handsome to work at the dealership now, so I've encouraged
him to look for other jobs.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
But that's just one little thing bothered me.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Now he been feeling hisself lately, and he'll brag about
how other women flirt with him at work. He told
his son he's back and better than ever. I didn't
like that he been hiding his phone. He comes in
a lot later if he's seeing someone else. I feel
so much like a fool after off I've done to
(09:35):
uplift this man. Is he going through a phase or
have I fixed him up from the streets? What has
he done for you? I haven't heard anything. Has he
made your life more financially comfortable? I don't think so,
because you're spending a lot of money fixing him up,
(09:57):
and that's probably your money. And then what has he
given you? Look, he's hiding his phone, he's coming home later.
I mean, like, I can't help this dude right here.
You got him fixed up for the streets. He ain't
(10:17):
never had no attention before. You just took little mister
fixer up to the little mister raggedy, raggedy mouth.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Don't cut his hair, He ain't got no clothes. What
did you see in him? Just all you saw was
a project you couldn't have saw.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
You have got his teeth done, got him to cut
his facial hair.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
He get his hair cuts now, and now he wears clothes.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Got him a car.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
You got him a car.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
I mean he lived with you, lady too much. You
he's done if he if you bought him all that stuff,
that means he ain't brought you no. If you have
spent all this money for him up, you've taken money
from yourself to fix him up. I don't Did you
(11:05):
want to fix her upper or did you want a husband?
Did you want to fix her upper or did you
want a partner? Did you want to fix her upper?
Or did you want someone that you can plan with?
Because I heard nothing about your plans. So, lady, did
you You've done too much? She said, Let him going
out there in them streets and let him have it.
(11:29):
But let me tell you something, though he just got
fixed up at fifty eight.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
He don't know what he needed to know.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
You don't all of a sudden get to look and
ain't got no substance behind it, because right now you
might have well just fixed up this big old, pretty
nothing ass man.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Well, if she says that, I didn't mind because I
see him as my fixer upper. So yeah, she was
what she likes, a good project.
Speaker 4 (12:01):
But I'm saying, no, she you need If you're gonna
do this for a man, it's got to be more
than for a project. He's got to have some redeeming
qualities to say. Man, with a little bit of help,
I can push him over the top. Right So now
he wants to open his own garage one day. But
you say he too too handsome to work at the dealership.
(12:22):
What what does that mean? What is he gonna he
too handsome to work at the dealership. So where is
he fin to go? Get this job for pretty men? What?
Speaker 3 (12:36):
What job is that? What? I don't I don't know
what job is at Junior. Can't as Tommy.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Keep keep keep topping his mic off because I don't
want him to try to jump again.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Over there he.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Got if you're over there even selling, he was some
new shoes on him.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
She's even ballads for him. Yeah, this is too much.
She's done too much. She's done way too much, way
too much for this man. Yeah, fifty eight. All right,
you can leave your comments. Oh okay, Tommy, Steve asked
(13:23):
a question, a question, but you know I'm being messy
right now. You wanted to know where did they Where
do they hire cute men? Where?
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Read it alone?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook,
at Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up
next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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