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April 7, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter for Monday, April 7th, 2025: My Husband And His Pretty Best Friend.

"Dear Steve & Shirley, I've known my husband since I was in high school and we have been in an on and off relationship for 31 years. Years ago, my husband made bad choices and he was sentenced to eight years in prison for selling marijuana. I stood by him the entire time he was incarcerated because I knew he was my soulmate. When he got out of prison, he kept his promise to be with me forever and we have been married for five years. He has a good job, even though he's an ex -con and he bought us a new house and he takes care of our finances. My only problem is that he works from home and has a lot of free time during the day. Since he likes to hang out with his friends while I'm at work, there is one friend in particular that I have a huge problem with. We have both known her since high school, since we were in high school, but they became closer friends over the years…"

 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:13):
We could be reading your.

Speaker 1 (00:15):
Letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Buggle up, hold on tight.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
We got it from his Shrawlberry letter. All right, thank you.

Speaker 1 (00:24):
I you subject my husband and his pretty best friend. Okay,
Dear Stephen Shirley. I've known my husband since I was
in high school and we have been in an on
and off relationship for thirty one years.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Years ago, my husband made bad choices and he was
sentenced to eight years in prison for selling marijuana. I
stood by him the entire time he was incarcerated because
I knew he was my soulmate. When he got out
of prison, he kept his promise to be with me forever,
and we have been married for five years. He has
a good job, even though he's an ex con, and

(01:02):
he bought us a new house and he takes care
of our finances. My only problem is that he works
from home and has a lot of free time. During
the day since he likes to hang out with his
friends while I'm at work. There is one friend in
particular that I have a huge problem with. We have
both known her since high school. Since we were in

(01:23):
high school, but they became closer friends over the years.
He has four close male friends and they're all married,
but this single woman hangs out with them. She's still
a beautiful woman and she's kept herself up over the years.
She is treated like one of the boys, so she
is always at my house during the day, whether I'm

(01:43):
there or not. I hate coming home from work and
she's sitting in my living room. My husband says, I'm
tripping and it's no different than one of his boys
being there.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
If the shoe was on the other foot, he'd have
a hissy fit.

Speaker 1 (01:57):
I jokingly told her that I don't get my quality
time with my husband because she's there all the time,
and she snapped at me, and she said that if
it's a problem, my husband would have to ask her
to stop coming over so much.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
Whoo, Shirley, what should I do about this?

Speaker 1 (02:13):
Okay, if this is my only problem in my marriage,
should I overlook it? Or do you think I'm being
too lenient in this situation. I'm sick of seeing her.
Please help me. Okay, let's just get right to this. Yes,
you're absolutely being way too lenient, and stop joking. You
said you jokingly told her that you don't get much

(02:34):
quality time because she's always there.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Stop joking. This is no joking matter at all.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
You gotta tell her get out, get out, and your husband,
your husband doesn't have to be the one to tell her.
I don't care what she says. You can tell her
because guess what, it's your house too. What are you
joking about? This is a serious situation here. You got
a woman sitting up in your house. Whether you're there,
are not with your husband, you're at work. That's very serious.

(03:04):
There's no jokes here, no jokes. There's no way she
should be doing that. This is so disrespectful. This is
just from your husband. I don't care if he says
she is one of the boys. You don't you're not there,
you don't know what's going on. And she snapped at you.
Oh no, man, Yeah, this is in.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Your own self house.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Uh uh, get her out if you're if you can't
get tell your husband to tell her to get out. Okay,
because you need to check him too, because he's wrong
for having her in there.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
This is just wrong on so many levels. This is
your house.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
You can say whatever you need to say to whoever's
in the house, okay, and tell your husband she can't
come over anymore, period, and she better not be there
the next time you get home from work or else.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
All right, still come per well.

Speaker 4 (04:04):
Good response, Shorly. I agree with everything you said. Here's
another different perspective on it. My husband and his pretty
best friend. I've known my husband since I was in
high school. We've been in and on and off again
relationship for thirty one years. I've done some numbers on this. Ah,

(04:26):
they around forty seven now. So we got some good
and grown people in this letter right here. You've been
in a on again, off again thirty one years since
high school. You in high school seventeen fifteen and thirty
one less forty six. They somewhere between forty five and fifty.
Husband made some bad choices, got did eight years for
selling weed. You stood by him the whole time he

(04:48):
was in consecrated. Because because when he was incarcerated and
because you knew he was your soul mate.

Speaker 3 (04:55):
He got out of prison.

Speaker 4 (04:56):
He kept his promise to be with me forever, and
we've been married for five years now. He has a
good job, even though he's an ex con, and he
bought us a new house and he takes care of
our finance.

Speaker 3 (05:10):
But he came up. Man.

Speaker 4 (05:12):
Most people struggle when they get out of prison. So
let's see what kind of job this is. He got
a good job. My only problem is that he worked
from home.

Speaker 3 (05:22):
To stop stop the letter.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
You married to an ex con that takes care of
the finance, that brought you a new house and work
from home?

Speaker 3 (05:34):
Well, well what is he doing making that kind of money?
Working from home?

Speaker 4 (05:40):
There's gonna be another awful moment in y'all's relationship because
it's gonna go and do another eight.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
I don't know nobody work from home making house money.

Speaker 4 (05:49):
I don't me personally. I just want to just throw
that out there. I don't know for show. I'm just being,
you know, a strawberry ish. So he likes to hang
with his friends because he got a lot of free
time while I'm gonna work. There is one friend in
particularly I got a huge problem with. We both have

(06:11):
known her since we were in high school, but they
became closer over last years.

Speaker 3 (06:16):
He got folk close male friends. They all married, but
this single woman hangs out with them.

Speaker 4 (06:21):
She is still beautiful, and she'd have kept herself up
over the years.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
Hold when we come back, Lord him, she have kept
herself up.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
You know what that means all these years.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour.

Speaker 2 (06:42):
Today's subject my husband and his pretty best friend. We'll
be back right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
My husband and his pretty best friend.

Speaker 4 (07:37):
Well so far as the man that's been locked up
for eight years. They soul mates, been knowing each other
for years, and you know they married now. And he
kept his promise when he got out of prison. Said
he working from the house, making excellent money. He bought
a house working from the house. Anyway, he worked from

(08:03):
home and he got a lot of free time during
the day. City ain't add enough to me.

Speaker 3 (08:08):
And you worked from home? You an ex con?

Speaker 4 (08:12):
You done bought a house, take care of the finance,
and you got a lot of free time.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
Who got this job? What that job at y'all? Where
you can buy a new house.

Speaker 4 (08:23):
Take care of all the family finances, work from home,
and got a lot of free time.

Speaker 3 (08:27):
How the hell you got money and a lot of
free time to be here in a weed legal statement? Okay, whatever,
anyway we got this.

Speaker 4 (08:39):
Got We both have known this girl since high school
and they became close over the last years. Now he
got folk close male friends, and they all married. But
this single woman hangs out with them. She is still
a beautiful woman, and she's kept herself up over the years.
That means she ain't let go, which means the lady
that's writing this letter has fell off a little bit

(09:03):
because you had to distinguish her and by saying she
is still beautiful and has kept herself up, meaning you
know I didn't you know, I'm faring late forties. I
kind of fell off a little bit because all of
a sudden she's still beautiful. She kept because she would
have put in the letter. But I'm fine too. Exactly,
she is treated like one of the boys. So she

(09:23):
is always at my house during the day, whether I'm
there or not. Well, she's treated like one of the boys.
But see, the problem you have in lady is she
don't look like none of the See, but she's sitting
up at her house with your man that's supposed to

(09:44):
be at work, but he got all.

Speaker 3 (09:45):
This free times, right, that's crazy.

Speaker 4 (09:48):
So she's always at my house doing today, whether I'm
there or not. What I hate coming home from work
and she's sitting in my living room. My husband says,
I'm tripping, And it's no difference that one of the
boys being there.

Speaker 3 (10:01):
It's a bit different.

Speaker 4 (10:02):
Yeah, she fine. Now if the shoe was on the
other foot, he'd have a hissy fit. Well, let me
just stop for a minute, that shoe ain't going on
the other foot. Hell, I'm telling you that right now.
I'm not coming home nowaday and a dude sitting up
in my house, Okay, I can promise you that won't happen.
And you know why it won't happen, cause my wife

(10:25):
got sensed because I'm gonna be about to business if
I come up in there some man sitting up in
my house. But I tell you what, he won't be
in there secondary because I ain't gonna do what you did.
I jokingly told her that I don't get much quality
of time.

Speaker 3 (10:41):
With my girl.

Speaker 4 (10:43):
You know something, girl down down didn't get like quality
time my others go anytime I come home, you sitting
up here yourself with your leg.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
Then she snapped at me, well, hell, it would have
been a snap content.

Speaker 4 (11:00):
Yes, she snapped at me, well you're talking about in
your house and said that if it's a problem, my
husband would have to ask her to stop coming over
so much. Shirley, what should I do? Shirley told you
what to do? And Shirley was right, what is you
writing a letter?

Speaker 1 (11:17):
Folk?

Speaker 3 (11:17):
And what is you?

Speaker 5 (11:18):
What is you?

Speaker 4 (11:19):
What is she making demands for in your house? This
is your house. If this is the only problem with
my marriage, should I overlook it?

Speaker 3 (11:28):
Boy?

Speaker 4 (11:30):
This ain't the only problem. Your only problem in your
house is Let me show you what the problem is.
This man that invited this woman over to the house,
why you ain't there. That's one problem. Second problem, she
bold enough to bring her to another woman's house and
sit up there.

Speaker 3 (11:48):
Third problem. When you say something to the woman.

Speaker 4 (11:52):
She snapped like you ain't got no rights, and tell
you she ain't doing nothing unless he asked hetting out
to come over. Now you got several problems here. This
ain't the only problem. And then your fault problem is hot.
This is fine, This is fine.

Speaker 3 (12:15):
So during the free time, he ain't looking over there.
He don't know she fine. Girls stopped, girls stopped.

Speaker 4 (12:24):
The man been locked up for eight years. Everybody he see,
he thinking fine when you've been in prison for eight years.
Everybody fine. The fact that God's is fine. The nursing,
the infirmary, she find. The lady that drove the man

(12:46):
to drop you off at the halfway house hot, it
was fine.

Speaker 3 (12:49):
Well. The big lady that owned the gas station, she fine.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
The woman that owned the liquor store, fine, mother Perkin
down there. The pastors marble is fine. It's pretty everybody
fine when you done done e E? Or do you
think I'm being too lenient with this situation? I'm sick
of seeing us. I'm not gonna be sick of seeing
nobody in my house but once, but once, or.

Speaker 3 (13:20):
She could just whisper in her ear.

Speaker 1 (13:22):
If I say tomorrow, don't forget to check out the
Strawberry Letter, you man.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
And then get right up over this second. If you
say the I'm gonna kill you and me just won't
be sitting up in there the moment.

Speaker 1 (13:41):
Strawberry Letter podcast on Dee Man. All right, more of
this crazy ignorant show.

Speaker 2 (13:47):
Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. You're listening to
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