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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Letter live on the air like we're doing with this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
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We got it for you here. It is Strawberry letter.

Speaker 2 (00:25):
All right, neph you, thank you.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Subject my husband doesn't respect my feelings.

Speaker 2 (00:30):
Dear Stephen Shirley.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
I've been married to my husband for thirty five years
and I still can't get him to respect my feelings.
He has a hard time dealing with the fact that
I am as knowledgeable, if not more knowledgeable, about some
things when it comes down to running our business. We
are electricians and we have a strong client base. I
have been a certified electrician for thirty years, and I

(00:53):
encouraged my husband to get licensed and start the business.
I get very irritated when he tells people that it's
his business. He told me that it puts clients at
ease to know that a man will be the one
leading on the electrical job. That's disrespectful to me, and
I can't get him to stop downplaying my role. Let's say,
for instance, if a customer inquires about a service, they

(01:16):
asked to speak to the electrician. My husband immediately responds
to the messages personally if the customer is female. He
said that women prefer a male during their electrical work,
not a female. He won't let me go on jobs
with him. He told me that he prefers to work alone.
That's hurtful. I can't even ride along with him in

(01:37):
the truck that I pay for monthly. I changed the
password on the website so he couldn't see when clients
inquire about service. I booked a job and when I
showed up, the female said that she was expecting fad
my husband. I told her to go find another electrician
and I left. He said that I ran off a
loyal customer over my ego, but he would have been

(02:00):
I'm mad too if a male customer did him like that.
I'm tired of how he treats me. Why can't he
respect my feelings because he's a hater, plain and simple.
I agree with you, your husband doesn't respect you. He should
be proud of you and your accomplishments. He should be
celebrating you. This is not traditionally a woman's profession, being

(02:22):
becoming an electrician. But you've been an electrician for thirty years,
and you guys have a successful business. You said you
have a strong client base. Even other male electricians respect you,
I'm sure, and your husband should do the same. He
should be supportive and not controlling and putting you down.
You guys can try to work through this. I don't know,
it's been thirty five years, you said, since he hasn't

(02:44):
respected you, But I don't know. It's been going on
for so long it's almost too late for sure. If
he doesn't stop, you guys will end up breaking up
and splitting up the business, doing some type of buyout situation.

Speaker 2 (02:59):
But here's a question for you.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
Besides all the nastiness and the putdowns from him, do
you also suspect your husband sad as she calls him
of sleeping with her. She was a little too familiar
for my taste, And I just got to ask you,
what do you think Do you suspect anything? Uh?

Speaker 2 (03:16):
Huh bad?

Speaker 1 (03:19):
Could that be why he prefers to work alone, as.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
As he so rudely told you what Steve.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Listen, I think you're obviously the brains of this operation.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
The only ego that needs to be checked as your
husband bad.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
I don't like how he treats you either, but it's
no sense in going behind his back changing the password
on the website. I think that's bad for business too.
I think you guys need to deal with the real
issue here, and that is his problem with you and
your credentials and all of that. He's trying to push
you out of the business, and that you helped him
start and build this marriage, and your business is in

(03:56):
trouble or it's over.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
Steve, And what were you saying?

Speaker 4 (04:02):
Well, I didn't know where in the letter you thought
that he was cheating.

Speaker 2 (04:09):
Uh huh uh.

Speaker 4 (04:11):
The woman she was expecting fad Bad is her husband's name,
That was a customer.

Speaker 5 (04:19):
If she had enough took the name off the website,
she would have known it was already in existing customer,
so she went over there.

Speaker 4 (04:26):
Now, let me tell you something. I ain't never been electrician,
but I know a couple of them.

Speaker 5 (04:31):
Okay, how is your house Wyat where you got a
regular electrician that come over.

Speaker 4 (04:38):
What how is your house? Wiat bhoy?

Speaker 5 (04:43):
You got a regular electrician to come over? I got
a lot of regular people, like people that do the
yard and stuff.

Speaker 4 (04:50):
Y'all got that.

Speaker 5 (04:50):
Yeah, But the electrician I don't even know. I can't
tell you his name. I've seen him over here a
couple of times, but not enough to get i'll know
his name. The whole problem in this letter is we
can't help you. My husband don't respect your feeling. You've

(05:14):
been married for thirty five years and still can't get
him to respect my feeling or what you want us
to do. In the letter, you've been thirty five years
of disrespect because you have allowed it.

Speaker 4 (05:32):
Listen, I say this all the time.

Speaker 5 (05:34):
You can train a man how to treat you well, Steve,
how you treat train a man how to treat you
by stop accepting bad behavior. We can only give you
what you take. We can only hand out what you tolerate.
If you don't take it, we can't give.

Speaker 4 (05:51):
It to you. And if you don't tolerate it, we
got to stop it.

Speaker 5 (05:58):
But you have allowed this to go on for thirty
five years. And y'all got a business together that you
changing past codes on y'all stupid, y'all missing business. He
don't want you to work with you. He don't want
to ride with you. Damn, he don't even want to

(06:19):
ride with you to work. Let's go on this job
to get huh. Hell no, I don't know what to
tell you, lady. I really don't want we come back.
I'm gonna try hard, but I don't think I'm gonna
go even to help you.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
All right, Steve, hang on, we'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour today. Strawberry letters, subject my husband doesn't respect my feelings.
We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 4 (07:22):
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Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is my husband doesn't respect my feeling.

Speaker 5 (07:33):
Simplely put, I have been married to my husband thirty
five years and still can't get him respect no feeling.
So what do you want us to do in this letter?
The thirty five years you just shed meals with him.
Y'all have been on trips together and y'all sleep together.
If you can't get.

Speaker 4 (07:50):
A man to do right after that, I got nothing
for you. I've really been a don't now.

Speaker 5 (07:56):
Okay, it's a hard time dealing with He has a
hard time dealing with the fact that I'm as knowledgeable,
if not more knowledgeable, about something when it comes down
to running our business.

Speaker 4 (08:10):
Okay, that could be very true.

Speaker 5 (08:13):
We are electricians and we have a strong client base.
I've been a certified electrician for thirty years, and I
encourage my husband to get license and start the business.
I get very irritated when he tells people it's his business.
He told me that it puts clients that E is
to know that a man would be on leading the
electrical job. Now, listen to me, you're married to a chaufiness. Okay, clearly,

(08:39):
and I let me just read this letter from the
standpoint of the average dude.

Speaker 4 (08:46):
Just read this letter. Now.

Speaker 5 (08:49):
I want your ladies perk up, because I want you
to see what a man is reading this letter. This
is what he thinks the whole timereclar dude, and I'm
Steve Arguild the radios for the show. Pur just a
regular man reading this letter. I get very irritated when
he tells people that's his business. What ain't in his business?

(09:09):
Seem I'm gonna read you the undertone. I'm gonna read
the letter. Dn g you the undertone.

Speaker 4 (09:15):
All right.

Speaker 5 (09:15):
I've been a certified electrician for thirty years, and I
encourage my husband to get the license and start the business.

Speaker 4 (09:21):
Okay, so what's the class.

Speaker 5 (09:24):
I get very irritated when he tells people that it's
his business.

Speaker 4 (09:28):
Well, ain't he ain't in my business?

Speaker 2 (09:31):
Hour.

Speaker 5 (09:33):
But you know, some people ask me that I got
a business. I'm telling you, y'all, I got one. I
ain't gonna bring you up. He told me that it
puts clients at ease to know that a man will
be the one leading on the.

Speaker 4 (09:43):
Electrical job on that night woman. Hell, that letter of
my electrics.

Speaker 2 (09:52):
That's wrong.

Speaker 5 (09:53):
Go ahead, I'm just telling you how they're reading the
letter read that's disrespectful to me.

Speaker 4 (09:58):
And I can't get him to stop down playing my rod.
You don't really do that.

Speaker 2 (10:04):
Stop.

Speaker 5 (10:06):
Uh No, that's let's say, for instance, if a customer
requires about a service, they asked to speak to the electrician.
My husband immediately responds to the message person, Well, ain't
I electrician?

Speaker 2 (10:21):
You don't have the experience.

Speaker 4 (10:22):
Ain't I electrician?

Speaker 1 (10:25):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (10:25):
You are?

Speaker 4 (10:26):
Okay, they asked to speak to electrician. I called it.

Speaker 5 (10:29):
I told you they don't want a woman to read.

Speaker 4 (10:35):
My husband immediate response.

Speaker 5 (10:36):
If the customer is female, he said that women prefer
a male doing the electrical work out a female.

Speaker 4 (10:42):
Stop. I'm really sure about that. Ladies, let me ask
you something. Call it shure.

Speaker 5 (10:51):
Have you ever had a female electrician come to your house?
Just answer the question. Have you ever had a female
electrician come to your house?

Speaker 2 (11:00):
No, I've never had a caller.

Speaker 4 (11:02):
Have you ever had a female electrician come in? No? No,
that's because we don't want y'all. Let I just don't.

Speaker 5 (11:09):
I just can't you. We don't want you'll mess around
with this. Yeah, I will come in here when you
get this job, when you get this paperwork from.

Speaker 2 (11:21):
I sure if a female came in, i'd welcome.

Speaker 4 (11:24):
Her exactly, But they don't.

Speaker 2 (11:29):
Because that's not a normal traditional.

Speaker 4 (11:31):
Let me ask you.

Speaker 5 (11:32):
So when the man, when the man electrician come to
your house, have you ever stopped him and said, hey,
where is the woman at?

Speaker 4 (11:42):
Ever? Come on, I'm just asking you a question. I'm
just asking you a question. You know it, all right?

Speaker 5 (11:51):
And he said when he won't let me go on
jobs with him, He told me that he prefers working on.

Speaker 4 (11:59):
Well, don't like where with you?

Speaker 2 (12:01):
That's rude.

Speaker 4 (12:03):
You don't like working with um?

Speaker 2 (12:05):
Well, he doesn't like her period, That is the issue.

Speaker 4 (12:09):
He don't respect how I told.

Speaker 2 (12:10):
You, doesn't do anything that's hurtful.

Speaker 5 (12:15):
Yes, because I be wanting to go. I can't even
ride along with him in the truck that I paid
for monthy. Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, where you going?
I got my gun right here on his own.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
She's been an electrician for thirty years. Put some respect
on that. How about that? He don't exactly.

Speaker 5 (12:36):
You just told you to be married thirty four years.
He don't respect me. I changed the password on the website,
so he couldn't see what clients inquired about service. I
booked a job and when I showed up, the female
said she was expecting that now that that had this
regular customer.

Speaker 4 (12:57):
Way, whoa, now, who are you?

Speaker 5 (13:02):
You don't come in here like you ain't opening up
my walls?

Speaker 4 (13:07):
That opens my walls.

Speaker 2 (13:09):
Baby back and they're in lies. The problem bad.

Speaker 5 (13:13):
Know what color my wise is? You don't come in here,
you get the wise mixed up.

Speaker 1 (13:19):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FA.

Speaker 5 (13:22):
I ran off a low custom over my ego. I
come in there every month, check on. I cut all
her lights on and off, make sure they working everything.

Speaker 1 (13:30):
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Speaker 2 (13:34):
Free never sounded so good. You can download it today.

Speaker 5 (13:36):
They got a light bulb checking service where you.

Speaker 4 (13:39):
You can just come in and check all your light bulbs.

Speaker 1 (13:42):
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Speaker 2 (13:45):
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