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Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you, nephew. Subject my mom and my baby daddy.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I have known my baby daddy since
high school. When I was twenty, I got pregnant and
we moved in together. But he cheated a lot, so
when my son was six, we broke up and my
mom offered to let him live with her temporarily. My
son is sixteen now and my baby daddy still lives
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with my mom. My mom has seven sisters that are
very messy and there they've always joked with my mom
about having a fine young man living with her. One
of my aunts has said for years that she's one
hundred percent sure that my mom and baby daddy are
messing around. She swears that my mom got drunk at
a house party and went into the bathroom with my
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baby daddy for close to twenty minutes and came out
bragging about.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
How good he was.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Over the years, I heard stuff like, How'sjamma and baby Daddy.
One of my older aunts finally told me the truth,
but I didn't want to believe it. She said that
my mom told her she really likes my baby daddy
and it's way more than a sugar mama thing. She said,
my mom feels terrible about it, and she's not going
to stop having sex with him or put him out
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the short A short while after that, my baby Daddy
came over to see our son and he had been drinking.
They were playing video games and my baby daddy's phone rang.
My son heard him say I love you too, baby,
and I'll be home after I beat your grandson in
one more game. My son tried to fight his daddy
and I had to get between them. My baby daddy
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told my son he teach him about being a man
later and how stuff like this just happened. I tell
my son that's not what manhood is about, and how
do I fix this for my son? I'm hurt too,
but I'm more worried about him. This is really sad.
I mean, this is a horrible, horrible situation here. I mean,
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your mom did the ultimate betrayal, and I could see
why you didn't want to hear the truth because you
probably already suspected it anyway, but you didn't want to
hear it because this is your mother. It's unthinkable. I mean,
you know you're beyond mad at this point. I know
you want to fight her. You want to fight your mom,
and you probably would if it wasn't your mom. I mean,
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this is not what a mom does to her daughter this.
Moms don't do this, and to her grandson for that matter.
I mean, both of them are to blame, of course.
The baby daddy, oh my god. But it's just it's
hard to get over.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
This kind of hurt. It's hard.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Doesn't matter if you and the baby daddy were no
longer together, that doesn't even matter at this point. It's
just wrong. Okay, you told your son right when you
said that this is not what manhood is about. His
father is a very poor example of manhood. How can
he date his son's grandmother and his mother. I mean
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stuff like that. It just doesn't happen, so he told
him wrong. So his you know, he's teaching a son
that men have no control over themselves or they just
you know, if it's okay, if they date their mom
and their grandmother, that's okay. No, that's not okay. It's
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just really wrong. You know. My suggestion is to, I
don't know, get your son to a mentor, a real
good mentor a good example of what a man should
be in his life, so he could show him what
it really is all about. It's not what his father
is talking about now, this mess, but I mean that.
That is my suggestion to you talk more to your son,
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you know, about this situation, because I'm sure he's upset,
and why would his dad say that in front of
him anyway, to his grandmother? You know this this is
just a mess. But I would look into a mentor
some man that will be a shining example to what
a man should be for your son.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Steve, Okay, sure, I agree. I agree. I have so
many problems in this latter. At first I was going
to joke about it, but then it turned really seriously
because there's a little boy involved. Y'all, adults, I don't
care what y'all do, But I do care about what
adults do in front of children, and especially men, because men,
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you just have to do a better job of setting
examples for our sons, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I mean, it's for the little things.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
It's okay to tell your son not to cry, but
you also have to inform him that it's okay to cry.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
You know what I mean. That has to be a balance.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
You know.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Listen, you got pregnant when you was twenty with your
high school sweetheart, and y'all moved in together. But he
cheated a lot. The letter just takes a turn right away.
So when my son was six, we broke up and
my mom offered, and my mom offered to let him
live with her temporarily.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Wait a minute, HOLDO, I'm confused.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
You and your boyfriend break up and you have a baby,
your mom offers to let him come live with her.
Why don't you and the boy go live with your mama.
That's normally how it go in the normal scope of things.
The daughter goes with her mom with her son, so
she'll have some help and you know, and let this
dude fin for hisself. That's all that was. So I
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was confused about that well. My son is now sixteen,
and my baby daddy still live with his mom. My
mom has seven sisters and they're very messing. They've always
joked with my mom about having a fine young man
living with her. Excuse me, he left when he was sick.
Your son said, he been at your mama house ten years?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Right? Ten years?
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Who need ten years to get on their feet? Who
anybody can pull it together in ten years? I'm confused.
I have more when we come back.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
But this is truly, yeah, it really is bad.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
It's bad, all right, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
My mom and my baby daddy. We'll get back into
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Speaker 1 (07:31):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters.
Subject my mom and my baby Daddy.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
Well, this young lady twenty years old got pregnant by
her high school sweetheart that move in together. He cheated
a lot, so when their son was six, they broke
up and her mother offered to let him live with
her temporarily.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Like I said earlier, that's backward.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
Usually the girl and the baby go stay with one
of their pairs so they can have some help and assistance,
and let the guy go fearing for himself. That was
backwards already. Well, my son is sixteen now. My baby
daddy still live with his mama. With your mama, that's
ten years. He been at your mama's house for ten
years now. If she was honestly trying to help him
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out in the beginning, she been.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Helping him for ten years?
Speaker 4 (08:20):
Has she been helping her daughter and her grandchild or
she just helping him?
Speaker 2 (08:28):
This sucks, man.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Now my mom has seven sisters that are very messy,
and they've always joked with my mom about having a
fine young man living with her.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Well, let me throw this in.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
If your mom got seven sisters that are messy, ain't
ain't your mama one of his sisters. Ain't she from
a messy family? Oh? Oh, starting to sound like the
story to me. If all seven of your sisters is messy,
how does she skip the messiness?
Speaker 2 (08:55):
She didn't?
Speaker 4 (08:57):
One of your aunts has said for years, and she's
one undred position sure that my mom and baby daddy
are messing around. Well, he's been there ten years. Who
living at this house for ten years?
Speaker 1 (09:08):
And what.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Now?
Speaker 4 (09:11):
She swears that my mom got drunk at the house
party right there. See, we're in the family that's still
throwing house party. You see where this is going. There's
no progression in this story at all. Your mama got
drunk at the house party. How old are you to
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stop going to house parties and get drunk?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Let's see this story.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Ain't got no upside and came and went to the
then went into the bathroom with your baby daddy for
close to twenty minutes, came out bragging about how.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Good he was. You saw Boomerain.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
You saw the movie when the late great Witherspoon came
out of their bathroom with that jacket inside out.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
You saw him.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
You embarrass me.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Ever, I heard stuff.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Like how your mama and baby daddy. One of my
older aunts finally told me the truth, but I didn't
want to believe her.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
What is it?
Speaker 4 (10:14):
You didn't want to believe one of the older aunts
finally told her, and you didn't even want to believe it.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Why he been over that ten years? She said, Your mom.
Speaker 4 (10:25):
Told her she really likes my baby daddy and it's
more than a sugar mama thing.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Okay, so she taking care of this boy, she said.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
My mom feels terrible about it, but she's not gonna
stop having sex with him or put him out for
a while.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
After that, my baby daddy came over to see our son.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
He been drinking. Okay, See there's no progression in this store.
Your baby daddy's still drinking. Your baby daddy still live
at home with yo mama.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
You're a boy.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
He been over that ten years. He thirty four. You
got pregnant at twenty. Your husband was six when he left.
He been over that ten years. Your husband thirty six,
years old.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
He said he was six.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Ye.
Speaker 4 (11:10):
No, the boy was sick. The baby was sick when
he wouldn't live with your mama. He's been over that
ten years. He was pregnant at twenty. Your man is boy,
your baby's daddy, boy is thirty six and live with
your mama, that she taken care of, and she wanted
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to have sex with a machine, putting him out. Then
your baby daddy came over to see our son. He
was drinking at thirty six, still drinking, still living home
with your mama.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
They playing vidego games. My baby daddy phone ring.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
Your son, who is older now heard him say I
love you too, baby, and I'll be home after I
beat your grandson in one more girl. Then your son
tried to fight his daddy. Why because your son know
that's wrong. However old your son is, he already know
his daddy wrong for that.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I had to get between them.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
My baby daddy told my son he teach him about
being a man.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Later on, when is he gonna teach him? He don't know.
This is a trifling mom.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
So this a trifling mama. This is a trifling baby daddy.
And so Shirley is correct. You gotta get a male
mentor in front of this young man. And it's a
damn shame that he gonna teach him about being a
man lady.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
And how stuff like this just happens. It don't just happen.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
See anything that's been happening for ten years don't just
keep happening.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
At one point we on purpose.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
You can write to having sex off with your mama,
your step mama one time, but unless you've been drunk
continuously for ten years, you ain't had a sober moment
in ten years to rethink this. I told my son
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that's not what manhood is about. You are absolutely correct.
How do I fix this for my son? I'm hurt too,
but I'm more worried about him. Get your son around
some men, Get your son to church, Let him be
around some solid people. He's got to have faith in
this situation, and so do you. You may need counseling
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and prayer, and you need to get yourself together so
you and your son can move forward. And I don't
know how you're going to address your mama with this,
but something got to get bought to light wrong.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Put acting like this is happening right here? All right?
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Thanks?
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I'd like the super glue.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
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