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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Buggle up, Hold on tight, we got it for you.
Here it is strawberry letta. Whoo. All right, subject, get
ready for this when my son caught me cheating. Dear
Stephen Shirley, I've been married to my amazing husband for
eighteen years. We have three children, eighteen, fourteen, and ten.
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I love my husband, but his job requires a lot
of traveling, and that leaves me feeling lonely. The loneliness
got so bad that I started having an affair with
a co worker strictly for the amazing sex and companionship.
There are absolutely no feelings involved. Well, a few weekends ago,
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my husband was out of town and my children were
at my parents' house for the weekend because I wanted
to have my coworker come over for some late night fun.
He came over and we were getting down and dirty
in my living room, when, to my surprise, my eighteen
year old son walked in and caught us in the act.
God he was just standing there in shock for a
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minute before he ran to his room. I got dressed
and tried to talk to him, but he remained silent.
I begged him not to tell his dad because it
would destroy our family. A full week has passed and
my husband is home. My son still won't talk to me,
but he's normal with my husband and his siblings. My
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heart hurts knowing the guilt he must be feeling by
not telling his dad. Should I come clean with my
husband so my son can be set free, or should
I continue to have my son hold my secret to
save his family. I have ended the affair. I talked
to my pastor and talked to my pastor and prayed
for forgiveness. What else can I do? This is like
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one of the most hurtful letters I think we've ever had.
I mean, really, it doesn't get much worse than this.
And how disrespectful and ratchet of you to be having
sex in your living room where your husband and your
family live. I mean, what were you thinking? You talk
about how amazing your husband is for eighteen years, how
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much you love him and all of this, and because
you were lonely, you start in an affair and you
had sex in your living room. This is crazy. I mean, really,
you gambled with your marriage, you got caught, and now, hey,
whatever happens happens, You've talked to your pastor. I'm glad
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about that and I'm especially pleased that you have prayed
and asked for forgiveness. But although you know God forgives
us for our sins and all of that, you may
still have to deal with the consequences if your husband
finds out, and it is up to you, is up
to God's up to your son. Now, you really really
really need to talk to your son. I know he's
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not talking to you, but somehow you're going to have
to find a way to get through to him. Uh,
and talk to him and and tell him you know,
this is a mistake. This was a mistake. You didn't
mean it. You love your husband. All you got to
you gotta convince your son that, um, almost what he saw,
he didn't really see almost almost you. I know you
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can't do that. I'm just saying, you really got to
talk to him. Oh he saw it. I know that,
But I'm just saying, you really, really really have to
talk to him. Um. I still don't know how you're
going to fix this. And I really can't believe that
you did this in your own home. This is a mess,
this really really is. If your husband finds out, I'm
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pretty sure you're done. Steve. Yeah, I see this one
right here. I don't you know, it always kills me.
Why people start their letters, Yeah, you know they always
I love my husband, amazing to my amazing husband for
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eighteen years. We got three kids eighteen fourteen ten. It
requires his job, requires a lot of traveling, so he
are working. He trying to make it him for his family,
and it leads me feeling lonely. Well, you got three kids,
you know, ain't I got? I got you feeling lonely?
I can't. I can't say that ain't gonna happen to you.
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The loneliness got so bad that I started having an
affair with a co worker. Now here's what you had
to faire fault. Strictly this all this phone now strictly
for the amazing sex and companionship. Now absolutely no feelings involved. Well,
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now I find that hard to believe. I really do
find that hard to believe. Man, Because of all the
people you could have picked, you picked him, And why
did you picked him? Because of something? You hit him
for a reason. He must have been cool. Y'all had
had this conversation before y'all jumped on this train. Y'all
both on well, a few weeks ago, my husband's out
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of town and my children at the parents' house for
the weekend because I wanted to have my coworker come
over for some late night fun. What that's the stupidity
of this whole thing. Get a damn room where his
both y'all working, Where his room at. He ain't got
money for a hotel. I don't understand how this fool
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came over another man house. I thought your husband could
come back early. Never crossed his mind, his mind, I'm
talking about, yo, that you ain't got no feelings for
hitting with over another man's house and ain't thought. I mean,
I ain't know where in hell I'm in somebody's house.
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My damn pants off, dog. It ain't no way. I
promise you that that ain't ever happened. That ain't ever
gonna happen. That can't happen. Okay, let's start with him.
He's stupid. Now let's move over to your stupid ass. Okay,
because everybody in your damn that are stupid. To me,
what the hell was you thinking in your house, disrespecting
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your husband who out working this y'all's home. You got
a lot of nerve causing him an amazing husband. Well
you damn sure. Ain't no amazing wife. You're trifling and tricky.
You got over your house in the living room, just
in there getting it. Now. This po boy walks here. God,
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he eighteen years old. Lord, No, it's been on his mind.
I can't tell you since he was twelve doing something
like that. But you walk here, man, and your mama,
your mama. It's getting jammed another dude. Dad ain't his daddy,
thank you. Man, that's terrible what he jacked out. Now
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he run to his room. You put your clothes on it,
bear him talk to you. Then you beg him not
to tell your daddy because it'll ruin your family. Him
telling your daddy is not the reason the family ruined.
We'll get on that right after that. Yeah, we'll have
birt two of Steve's response. Let's recap today's Strawberry letters.
Subject okay, this health for marriage to her maids and
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husband for eighteen years. They got three kids eighteen fourteen ten.
I love my husband, but his job requires a lot
of traveling that leaves me feeling lonely. Well, maybe he
on the road. He lonely too, you know, maybe he
lonely too. But this lad ain't about to know him
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his act of infidelity which caused you to do this?
You just did it because you were just feeling lonely,
so you got to looked up with this coworker yours
just strictly for amazing sex and companionship. Well, ain't that
two out of three? Only thing missing? Now? Love? Love, companionship,
amazing sex. Ain't you already got the kids? Hey? That's
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everything that? Who ain't looking for that? Who ain't looking
for companionship? Amazing sex? Love and some kids? Then your
husband goes out of town, You send your kids to
your parents' house for the weekend because you wanted your
coworker come over for some late night fun. Did food
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go over another man house? Wow? This fool, This man
took his clothes off in another man's house. And man,
I'm telling you right now that's unthinkable. But even more
unthinkable is you had the man come to your home
where you raise your family. Y'all been on that couch
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watching TV? Now you ain't there, just got all kinds
of stuff on the damn couch now watching TV. And
now oh oh oh, I ain't no more eating prop
corn when it fall on the cushion. No more huh. Hello. See,
now you're the change the dynamics of the couch. But
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he was here a real trifling part. Your eighteen year
old son walking caught us in the act. He just
standing there and shocked for a minute before he ran
to his room because he don't even know how to
process process this. First of all, man, this my mama,
whoa whoa hold up man who out in held in
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such high esteem since birth? Who was the first woman
I ever loved? This my mama on this couch with
another man that ain't my daddy. So now he going
in the room. You got dressed and tried to talk
to him, but he remained solid. I begged him, so
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you went in the room. I begged him not to
tell his dad because it would destroy our family. Him
talking to your father is not the destruction of the
families you destroyed. No no, no, no no no no. See,
you ain't gonna wory about friend and this boy. This
ain't the boy to need friend. You traumatize him, dude,
stuck on. My mama was in hell. So now a
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four week has passed and my husband is home. My
son still won't talk to me, but he normal with
my husband and sibiling, I got news for your boy.
Ain't normal? You didn't jack this boy up? Yeah, he
hadn't seen his mama screwed another man on the couch
in his daddy house while his daddy wasn't home. He see.
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Let me tell you, man, But this little dude who
you opened the door you invited him in, he already
know you send him over there so you could have
this time. So he now he know you set this up.
Should I come clean with my husband so my son
can be said? Free? Stop your son? Ain't you ain't
going to free your son when you share this information?
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You hear your son still jacked up when you're going
there and tell it, it changes nothing for what your
boy saw. Your ass is trifling. But then you're gonna
tell your husband that the reason you come and clean
is because his eighteen year old son witnessed it. What
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or should I continue to have my son hold my
secret to save this family? I've ended the fan, talked
to my past I don't know what your pastor told you,
but I don't even really know what the pastor can
tell you. I prayed for forgiveness well the Lord and
probably forgave you because he do forgive absolutely. I ain't
gonna try to run this by your husband. Now. Now
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what you can do is you could tell Ain't your
son to therapy and try to work out something with him,
so y'all can have some water of a relationship moving forward. See,
I've been eighteen before. Ain't know where I walk in,
See my mama, you can't erase, no, doc, you can't test.
You didn't. You didn't see lady, you trifle it because
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you'd have messed this boy up. And she said, getting
down and dirty in my living So it was something
holding the article. Yeah, well all of us dirty if
you're eighteen year old walk in. Yeah, okay, let's go
over what could happen. Let's go listen. Let's look at
a couple of things. Okay, he didn't hear it now,
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because they lie when you're doing dirty stuff. It's noise
in there. Probably had the TV up anyway, and he
was standing there for a while. He stood there for
a minute because he ain't shocked. Yeah, it's my mama.
They didn't hear him. Probably had to blend a going
making noise going on. Popcorn. Yeah, I had a crop
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pop on with some beans on it. You probably had
a problem with some beans. Possibly, Yeah, they had two
fans on didn't hotter hell in here? No? No, cain't this.
Cain't this young boy like use this to his advantage though,
get what he can get. We can't he get a call?
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Can't he still got a daddy? No, I mean he
can't do nothing because he got daddy. I'm gonna give
me a call, why, asked mama. Mama, Yeah, all right, listen,
we gotta get out of here. Guys email us her Instagram.
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You can check out the Strawberry Letter podcast as well
on demand. Were coming back. We got more to say
about this. Now, why is that jackhammer going? Said subject?
My son caught me cheating? Uh? If we did, Yeah,
you want to go ahead and recap it? Ain't recap it?
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Nothing was Yeah, Well, her son walked in while she
while his daddy out of town. Her son walks in
and sees his mama messing around on the couch with
another man in the house while his daddy out of
town work. That's all to it. The only thing she
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could have done, but it's too late. She could have
jumped up. Yeah, that's all she could have done. But
I was naked and he was naked and told my
clothes off. He nade me get naked. But what does
all thissten honey for? Then? What what a honey come from?
He told me to go in the kitchen and the
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blenders because he said that he was gonna make a
Smoothe he gets through, I can band outside. He gotta
put his protein back. Everything happened. Wow, daddy, it's gonna
be too funerals. Mama, why is my friends over here?
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Because I let him come in here to have band practice.
They got a group playing a better backyard. They're a
rock group. Staying back that he needs to glue to
this boy's lips together when he goes to sleep. That's
the only way. Yeah, or you can't never hear father
father Sunday, she got to go. Yeah everywhere. She has
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messed this boy up. Yeah, he's extremely she has mes.
Yeah she has really really you see your mama getting
down like that, man, that's but dog your daddy out
of town. But this The last person you think is
shady in your life is your mama. Ye, last person
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you think it's shady, man, and who wants to see
their parents like that. That's just no, no, no, that
nicked right there. You can't get that out. No one
wants to see that. I didn't want to see it.
The other dudes. Lord, yeah, man, that's all yeah, yeah see,
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but but see that's a whole nother thing to get over.
Yeah that you you can get past that. It's hard
to wash that out your mind. But yeah, yeah, you know.
But I cracked one time, and and it scared me
so bad. I fell all the way up the hall way.
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I couldn't. I stumbled all the way back up the hall.
But yeah, the living room doesn't have doors like that.
It's just wid open space. I'm just saying. Yeah, the way,
I didn't really get a full shot. Oh okay, yeah,
because I was opening the door. They could hear the door.
I got a full shot. I thought they were building
something that the way that they was knocking, I was
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hitting on this knocking. They put cabinets l brown, brown brown.
I had just finished your drawing. I was going in
at the show my mom and dadd in my drawing.
Oh baby, I had a little crayon in my hand.
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I mama, come get out your dad or your mom,
daddy and mama propone who was talking to nobody see
your artwork? Right? And next thing you know, I had
crayon marks all over the hall way. I was just
trying to stay up. Just I got looking from drawing
on the walls, and you like, what what are they
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fighting about? Now? Oh my god, your mom was on
top old she holding him down us. Bad image when
you see your parents. No, y'all need to know this
type of thing. That old boy, he's so jammed up though,
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because he's I feel for him more than anybody in
this whole thing, because that's a horrible one for the kid.
Like I say, all she can do is go to
therapy with the sun. Yeah yeah, and try to get
it talked through. She really does. But the living room, though,
I mean, that is just why I go with you
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work together. What about the job? A hotel room, Yeah,
there's something. Break room? I mean they don't have a
break room, an office his car, yeah, room, dog, I
want you to come over, my husband come over with Yeah,
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I'm dog. You can't. You can't talk me into the No, no, no,
he gonna be a here and coming home. No he
don't know because let me tell you something, boy, I
haven't seen that happen. Oh, I've seen that passion. Oh
not well, no, I know a dude that was over
this girl's house. But when I was young, I was
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sitting over girls house and her boyfriend came here with
a key. Yeah. Then they're in the back of arguing.
You know, I ain't going to be out here. What
I'm doing. I get the moving trying to remember that
the combination of my bike lock. So I got to
get my ass out of here. Yeah, and then all
I heard was, well, when I go out here, I'll
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see what he sayd Well, hell, you've been ask me
a question? Yeah, yeah, it's gonna be hard to ask
me the question. And she lived on the fourth floor.
I jumped down. I didn't touch nothing but landings. Whoa,
because I left all of you know, I was an
athletic ass dude, So I just jumped, oh you know
how cold you down to the landing, and then jumped
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down to the next landing. I never touched your Still
when I ran, I ran outside. I damn that bike.
I ain't got time being over remember this combination you
left your Yeah, ran across the parking lot, across the
Street and over to Zaia. Zaia parking Lot was across
the tri state in Zales for about four hours, looking
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looking around zais z a y r. Okay, all right,
well we gotta get out of here. Guys, you're listening
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