My Sugar Daddy Ain’t Sweet

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm in my early 30's and I have a loving boyfriend of two years but my sugar daddy insisted that I break up with him. My sugar daddy owns a barber shop that my ex goes to and that's how we met. I dropped by boyfriend off one day and this sexy older man approached me outside as I was getting an umbrella out of my trunk.......................................

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Thank enough you subject, My sugar daddy ain't sweet, do
Stephen Shirley. I'm in my early thirties and I have
a loving boyfriend of two years, but my sugar daddy
insisted that I break up with him. My sugar daddy

(01:09):
owns a barbershop that my ex goes to, and that's
how we met. I dropped my boyfriend off one day
and this sexy older man approached me outside as I
was getting an umbrella out of my trunk. He said
he'd been watching me and he would love to get
to know me better. He said he didn't mind paying
for everything he wants, and he wants a lot of things,

(01:30):
and he's got a lot of money. I hadn't been
with an older man since I was in college and
needed extra money, so I thought it would be fun
to play around with grandpa for a while. This man
was not at all like the other old man I
fooled around with. His stamina was off the charts, and
he paid for every little thing he demanded from me.
It was fun to watch the money flow in, but

(01:52):
it was taxing to be available to him at all times.
This man would call me and want to have sex
in his office of the barber shop before he went home,
and I would have to go or he'd have a
temper tantrum and threatened to tell my boyfriend. He expected
me to clean his house, get his dry cleaning, even
by his weed for him. After three months, of this

(02:16):
crazy love affair. He said, I passed the probation period
and it was time for me to be his woman.
I told him that wasn't going to happen, so he
got upset and gave me an envelope with receipts for
all of the bills he paid, the gifts he bought,
and the deposits he made into my account. I told
him that he can't blackmail me into being his lady,

(02:37):
and he warned me not to try him. So that's
why I broke up with my boyfriend. Is there any reason?
Is there any way to reason with this crazy old man? Wow? Yeah,
all right, I don't know, because he definitely is that
a crazy old man. But you're a crazy young woman

(03:00):
too to get yourself involved with something like this. I mean,
this is prostitution, that's really what it is, and this
is what you signed up for. He dangled that money
carrit in your face and you got caught up. These
are your words. You needed extra money, so you thought
you would play around with Grandpa for a while. Well

(03:20):
it didn't go like you planned, and you're the one
that got played. I mean, Papa really really worked you.
He had you clean in his house, showing up at
all times of the day buying weed for him, picking
up his dry cleaning. What a wonderful arrangement for him.
And you were sleeping with him too. I mean, I

(03:41):
can't imagine him compensating you fairly for all that you
were putting out. He also made you break up with
your man. He'd blackmail you to do it. I just say,
enough is enough from this old man. Call his bluff,
because technically you were already broken up with your boyfriend
when you got with him, because he made you do it.
So the old guy really doesn't have a case. You

(04:02):
will not get your man back. You won't get him back,
but at least your dealings with evil Papa will be over.
And don't worry, he'll find someone else because that's what
he does. But you need to get yourself together and
stop playing around with these old men, because you mess
around and get played every time. It seems Steve well, well,

(04:23):
well look at him. Oh I have some things to
say about this one. My sugar daddy ain't sweet. First
of all, you all through the terms sugar daddy around
like you understand what it is totally. Sometimes sugar Daddy
is given out for two reasons. First of all, a

(04:45):
woman thinks she's going to benefit from something from this
older man or man on the side, and so she
calls him a sugar daddy. The man don't mind being
called a sugar daddy because he's gonna use that power
of the sugar to control the situation. But in essence,
what this is, it's what Shirley said it was. This

(05:08):
is a prostitute. This is a prostitutional act, and he's
a trick. The problem is the trick and the prostituted
act involves more than sex. So now let's go to
the letter. Yes, I had a loving boyfriend you in
the early thirties, got a loving boyfriend of two years,

(05:30):
but your sugar daddy insisted I break up with him. Okay,
my sugar daddy owns a barbershop that my ex goes to,
and that's how we met. I dropped my boyfriend off
one day and this sexy old man came up to
me and I was getting an umbrella out of my trunk.
He said, I've been watching you and he love to
get to know you better. Now here's the hook. He
said he didn't mind paying for everything he wants, and

(05:54):
he wants a lot of things, and he got a
lot of money. That was the whole hook. He forewarned
you he don't mind paying for everything keyword, and he
wants a lot of things. Now we outside of sex now,
so now we into other things he needs. And you

(06:17):
hadn't been with an old demand since I was in
college and needed extra money. Okay, so this both of
y'all's thing. This what he do and this what you do.
You see what I'm saying. So we got two tricky
people doing what they do. You prostitute yourself and hear
a trick slash sugar daddy, but you don't want to
call it a prostitute because it's more than just sex. Okay,

(06:40):
we'll find out when I come back. All right. Part
two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour, subject my sugar daddy ain't sweet. We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening show,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject my sugar daddy ain't sweet. Well, that's because

(07:01):
your sugar daddy ain't really just a sugar daddy. Sugar daddy,
it's really a trick and you never put a label
on yourself. So what you're doing, Shirley said, this prostitution
needs a fall of it very much. So sexual act
in exchange for money's prostitution oldest profession in the world.
Been going on for a long time. Y'all want to

(07:22):
dress it up and called the sugar daddy sugardadd is
a trick. He approached you. You got a boyfriend that
goes to his barber's shop to get his hat cut.
He steps around him. You like this proposition because he
says he doesn't mind paying for everything he wants, and

(07:43):
he wants a lot of things, and he got a
lot of money. Well, that was interesting to you because
last time you did that was in college when you
needed extra money. So you ain't the first one. He'd
been a sugar daddy fall because he knows the speech
and you know how to accept the speech because you
hadn't done that before. All right, let's go. And then
so you thought it might be fun to play around
with grandpa for a while. Okay, okay, playing with these

(08:06):
old cats. They got something for you, as you're about
to find out. And then you talk about the stamina
was off the change. But then he said he paid
for every little thing he demanded from me, I mean everything.
And it was fun watching the money flowing, wasn't it?
But it was hard being available all the time. This
man would call me to want to have sex in

(08:28):
his office of the barbershop before he went home, and
I would have to go or he'd have a temper
tantrum and threatened to tell my boyfriend, Well that would
be interesting, because see, really, I don't understand why you
wrote the letter, because you have all the leverage you
have everdence. First of all, he gonna tell your boyfriend

(08:50):
and then what he thinkt gonna happened after he do that. See,
I don't understand how you feel threatened because you hold
the leverage. Uh, he had potential champion and threatened to
tell my boyfriend. Okay, he expected me to clean his house,
get his dry cleaning, even by even by his weed.

(09:11):
He told you of top, he was willing to pay
for everything, and he want a lot of things, and
he got a lot of money. So now you you
gotta you gotta, Are you a PA? Now you a PA?
You're gonna get coffee? You to PA, your personal assistance.
So now that's what I'm doing. Even by after three

(09:35):
months of this crazy love affair, he said I passed
approbation period, it was time for me to be his woman.
I told him that wasn't gonna happen. So he got
upset and gave you an envelope with receipts for all
the bills he paid. Okay, here we go. Now you
have physical evidence, so I don't see what you're worried about.

(09:55):
Because you got all leverage. You gotta pack of bills.
Everything ain't eadn't fault. The gifts he bought, the deposits
he made into your account. I told him he came
blackmail into me and to being his lady, and he
warned me not to try him. So that's why I
broke up with my boyfriend. What so you was doing
them both? Right? Is there any way to reason with

(10:17):
this crazy old man? First of all, let me just
get to what you're asking me. Is any way to
reason with this old man? What you got a reason
with him for? You got leverage. Now you didn't broke
up with your boyfriend, So now you ain't got a
boyfriend to go tell. But if you tell your boyfriend
why he made you break up with him. He still
got this ass whipping coming. Secondly, you have receipts in

(10:43):
your hand of every deposit thing he's given you pay
for you boom boom boom. And now guess what he
would call you to his bobby shop to have sex
with him before he go home. Why would he have
to do that because it's somebody lived at his house.
So now you have a boyfriend you can tell. You

(11:10):
got a bag and an envelope full of evidence, and
you got a woman that you can share this with.
So how has he got you hostage? Talking about you know,
don't try me? Oh no, no, no, no, you the
one can't try me. See y'all don't know if he
knows where you live, but you know exactly where he lived,

(11:32):
you can easily find out. And he up at the
shop and you got social media. I'm trying to figure
out what he got on you. His whole business is
in your hands. His relationship is in that envelope. Why
are you writing us talking about how can I reason

(11:55):
with this crazy old man? You don't have the reason
with him. You have all the evidence. But now let's
get to you. The real problem we have is the
way you choose to solve money problems, and you choosing
old men with money to do it because you did

(12:16):
it before and you're doing it now. You better find
another way to solve your problems. Because your problem solved,
it creates more problems. Now. You ain't got no damn
boy for you. Now you the relationship with a crazy
ass old man. Naw, you got to do something you
don't want to do. He blackmailing. You know what you're

(12:36):
gonna do. I don't know what to tell you. Look, girl,
you've got yourself and some problems, but you ain't gotta
take this here messed up. You gotta out back for levidence. Ye. Yeah,
he got a potential ass whipping on the way. He
got a divorce potentially on the way, and you can
mess up his business. I don't suggest you do any

(12:58):
of that, but you have the leverage to make stop. Yeah,
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