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April 4, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter for Friday, April 4th, 2025: "She Needs To Get A Few Things Fixed" A man writes in because he loves his fiance of 3 years, but a bicycling accident left her with a few cosmetic issues he'd like to see her get fixed. He's come to Steve & Shirley to get advice on how to address the issue with her.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:30):
Subject she needs a few things fixed, okay, Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been engaged for three years to the love of
my life. She is beautiful, intelligent, funny, nurturing, godly, and
a great lover. There's just one problem that was caused
by a bicycling accident last year, and she's taking her
time fixing it. It's affecting our sex life, and I

(00:52):
tense up whenever we're out in public and see someone
we know. Because of this problem, I became a homebody
because I don't want her to tag along. I prayed
about how I feel, but I can't help myself I
changed the subject whenever she talks about wedding planning, and
she's starting to notice that something is not right. So
here's my issue or issues. We were in a cycling

(01:15):
club and our group rode bikes early Saturday mornings along
and older highway. My fiance lost her balance and fell,
hitting her face on her handlebars. The fall chipped one
of her front teeth and knocked out the tooth next
to it. She's she given a temporary tooth for the

(01:36):
one that's missing, but it never stays in, so she
does not wear it often.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
The chip tooth is the main issue.

Speaker 1 (01:44):
When I say it affects our love life, just imagine
what I'm talking about. She's a bit rough considering there's
a jagged edge on her tooth, and I've jumped up
out of the bed before because I get scratched up.

Speaker 2 (01:57):
She can never do that again. I really miss it.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
I also miss kissing her because I can't bring myself
to do it. I know she hates the dentist and
I do too, but I wish she'd stop canceling her
appointments to get her mouth together. She's been through a lot,
so I should be more supportive. But I'm starting to
be resentful. She is sabotaging our future by postponing our wedding.

(02:22):
Should I force her to go to the dentist? Or
should I force myself to deal with her edgy mouth?
You're right, I have to tell you, sir, you're right
in everything you say. This is crazy right here. Why
won't she go to the dentist and get her I
know she's scared, I know that, but you got to
get beyond this fear in this situation, and you can

(02:42):
stop using the word force, because while you absolutely want
her to get her raggedy mouth fixed, forcing her that's
not really what you want to do. I don't understand
how your fiance doesn't know that men are visual, and
this is really very much a turnoff. You didn't tell her, obviously,
but you're telling us that you you know, sex with

(03:03):
her isn't good anymore. She's traumatized by the dentist. I
get that, just like you, Steve, you don't like the dentist.
She's more afraid of the dentist than losing her marriage
and all of this, her engagement, all of this. So
just instead of trying to force her, I mean, I
know you've had it. I'm with you on this one.

(03:25):
I'm with you on this one. I know you've had it,
but why don't you sit her down one more time?
Tell her exactly how you feel. She just can't get
too comfortable where where she is because.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
You don't like this.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
You're her man, and you don't like what's happening here.
So you know, before this gets to the point where
you actually absolutely call off the wedding, just ask her
to make another appointment. You can go to the dentist
with her. Stay there, hold her hand if you have
to remember you doing this for the both of you.

Speaker 4 (03:58):
Steve Well, yea, I probably ain't gonna like my response.
Let's just gonna get to it. She's intelligent, she's funny,
she's nurturing, she's godly a great level, and on top
of all of that, she's beautiful. Now, to me, what

(04:22):
you've just described can be true. She could be intelligent, funny, nurturing, godly,
and a great lovel but beautiful. Though it's hard hard
to be beautiful. We're regulat it is so hard. Now,
let's just get to this letter. She was in a

(04:42):
bicycling accident last year, and now she taking her time
featuring it, and it's affecting y'all sex life because I
tense up whenever we got in public and see somebody
we know cause of the problem. I became a because
I don't want her to tag along. So now you're

(05:03):
just staying in the house. You scared to go out.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
What is wrong?

Speaker 3 (05:09):
What happened?

Speaker 4 (05:12):
I prayed about it, but I can't help myself, and
I changed the subject whenever she talked about wedding planning.
And she's starting to notice that something ain't right. Here
is the issue, everybody, We're the second club, y'all rode
bikes early Saturday morning, Old Highway Fiance lost the balance, fell,
hit her face on the handlebars. The fall ship the

(05:36):
one of her front teeth and knocked out the tooth
next to it. Oh, that's that corner tooth. When it
shipped one of your front teeth and it knock out
that corner tooth, that's when you smile and people can
see in your head. Uh huh, that's that tooth kind
of on the side. She was giving the temporary tooth

(06:00):
for the one that's missing, but it never stays in,
so she does.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
Not wag often. Wait, hold, hold on what you mean
she on' wag.

Speaker 1 (06:12):
What that?

Speaker 3 (06:12):
What hold dop.

Speaker 4 (06:15):
That we'd have made you this tooth And because it
don't stay in and it ain't fitted right, we got
to go get it refitted.

Speaker 5 (06:23):
We have.

Speaker 3 (06:24):
You have got to put that tooth in your head.

Speaker 4 (06:28):
You got to nobody want to be walking around with
your little fine self with the raggedy little mouth.

Speaker 3 (06:34):
Get your tooth in your head.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
Oh man, what a par two?

Speaker 1 (06:40):
If you're response to me at twenty three minutes, Sam
to be our today's strawberry letters subject.

Speaker 2 (06:45):
She needs to get a few things fixed.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
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Speaker 1 (07:26):
All right, come on, Steve Let's recap today's Strawberry letter,
the subject she needs to get a few things fixed.

Speaker 4 (07:32):
This woman man ain't got a great relationship. She's intelligent,
she's smart, she's lovely, she's God fearing, and she beautiful.
But she's in a cycling accident, fell on the handleballs
and chipped a tooth and chipped the front tooth and
knocked the tooth out next to the front tooth. Now

(07:53):
hold front of her whole smile gone. Now it's not
a smile, it's an activity. What do you mean, Well,
you know, instead of smiling, what.

Speaker 3 (08:03):
Are we doing?

Speaker 4 (08:03):
What are we whistling? Speaking? We should were always doing something.
But you're not smiling because when you ain't got teeth
in your head, you're either whistling or spitting. I done
been around people. It's got that. And when they get
ready to talk, I step out the way because you're
gonna get spit on, okay, And then they talk like
that all the time. You hear that a lot. And

(08:27):
once I hear that, why you're talking? Already know you're
missing a tooth. So anyway, she was given a temporary
tooth for the one that's missing, But it don't stay
in so she don't wear it. What you mean she
don't wear You got to put this tooth in your head.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
It s ain't no option.

Speaker 4 (08:44):
This ain't is if I'm aware of socks or not.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
You gotta put this tooth.

Speaker 4 (08:50):
In your head, your mouth. But it's the chip tooth
that's the main issue. When I say it affects, I
love life. Just a mad and what I'm talking about
because she a bit rough, she rough, she got that
jagget tooth.

Speaker 3 (09:07):
She just roughed. I had to run up out of here.

Speaker 2 (09:11):
Yeah, pretty bad.

Speaker 4 (09:13):
I done jumped out to bed before because I done
got scratched up that AI can't take. No that that
that isn't you can't take scratches. I'm just letting you
know this right now. She can never do that again.
But I really miss it though. Yeah I know you do.
But you can't take that.

Speaker 3 (09:29):
That's that ain't.

Speaker 4 (09:30):
You don't have a toilerance. You can't build up a
tolerance level for that. He don't, he don't, he don't.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
He can't do this no more, Steve Harvey.

Speaker 4 (09:42):
I'm just I'm just along, okay. Can I just tell
you this, though, I cannot build up a pain tolerant there. Okay,
Once you're hurt, you're always hurting.

Speaker 2 (09:54):
Thank you. Okay, we got it.

Speaker 4 (09:56):
Also mis kissing her because I can't bring myself to
do it.

Speaker 3 (10:00):
You do not already scratched on one thing. What I
can't do is get my tongue cut.

Speaker 5 (10:03):
Now.

Speaker 3 (10:03):
Hold now my tongue cut.

Speaker 5 (10:06):
Now.

Speaker 3 (10:06):
We ain't making Look I kissed her yesterday. Now I
can't have no French fries.

Speaker 4 (10:16):
I know she hates the dentists, and I do too,
but I wish she stopped canceling her appointments to get
her mouth together. Yeah, bro, I should be more supportive,
but I'm starting to be resentful. She is sabotaging our
future by postponing our web. Should I force her to
go to the dinnists? Or should I force myself to
deal with her edgey mouth? We got to go to

(10:38):
this dinnist. Yeah, because you're not dealing with the edge
of mouth. You're not doing it. You don't want to
kiss him, you don't want her kissing on. You ain't
nothing working with this tooth butt and then the other
one she don't want to wear. So now you got
the chip tooth and a hole in your head.

Speaker 1 (10:56):
But can't you give him some advice because you don't
like the dess. You're spitting on me when you talk
to me. You don't like the dentists either, but you go.
You just went to the Come.

Speaker 4 (11:07):
On, surelet this ain't for him, he wants it. He
don't like the dentists either, but he want his woman back.
I know you have got to sit down and talk
to her about what this is doing. And at one
point in time you're going to have to say these
words right here. What you look crazy?

Speaker 3 (11:29):
Baby?

Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yes, darling, yes, honey, sweetie, yes, honey.

Speaker 3 (11:38):
Since it's crazy. You listen to you, baby, you sound crazy.

Speaker 1 (11:45):
You're spitting on your Stop spitting on me.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
My third is threat.

Speaker 4 (11:54):
Your shirt always wet cause you drooling all day?

Speaker 3 (11:59):
Y'are holding you? Yeah, you're the tooth of chip baby.

Speaker 2 (12:02):
If you know, I felt like the this is don't.

Speaker 4 (12:05):
Nobody like the tenners. But you got to carry your
little cray yourself down there.

Speaker 3 (12:08):
Look how you talk.

Speaker 2 (12:10):
Let's talk about a wedding class.

Speaker 4 (12:12):
We can't have no wedding. We can't raise no baby's
talking like this? Now you tongue tied? What's wrong with you?
How you gonna say you're viow I too, No, it's
I do we already know it's two of us.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
I had the souf, but I don't like it keeps
falling out.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
I don't give it.

Speaker 4 (12:32):
But if it fall out, put it back up there.
That we gotta get. Go in there and get me
a hammer. I can get two for being the head
of a hammer. I can fix your tooth in your head.
A hamma, Okay, I'll be by sa.

Speaker 3 (12:45):
No hammer, and don't come right back step. I don't want.

Speaker 4 (12:53):
Maybe we're gonna have to postpone this wedding because I
no is no, I'm not I'm not going down.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
Would you like this? It's crazy, don't make no sense.

Speaker 4 (13:05):
Beautiful job, sureley, outstanding job you said, just like you
ain't got no two?

Speaker 2 (13:11):
Thank you. I just imagined what it would sound like.
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
It's crazy.

Speaker 4 (13:17):
Don't you have to find you at once? You sound stupid.
We got to break up?

Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah and looking crazy?

Speaker 2 (13:24):
Yeah yeah, so she needs to go to the dentist
for sure. Take her down there, dogs, that's what you
would say, Steve, I know.

Speaker 3 (13:34):
All right.

Speaker 2 (13:36):
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