March 25, 2025 • 13 mins
Strawberry Letter Subject for Tuesday, March 25th, 2025: “Smother Lover” A woman is concerned that her boyfriend is…just too much.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And if you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
We need those juicy letters.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Come on now click submit Strawberry Letter and we could
be reading your letter live on the air, just like
we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
It could be yours. You never know, you never know.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
All right, Thank you, nephew. Subject smother lover. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a thirty nine year old woman dating a forty
five year old man. We met a year ago and
things started off fantastic and moved quickly. He is a
very sensitive and emotional man who has no difficulty expressing
his every emotion to me. After dating man that play
(00:49):
games and aren't serious about settling down with one woman,
my boyfriend's openness was refreshing, but now it's proving to
be way too much. He has started to complain about
me being too busy for him. Since I'm back at
work full time. Now, I get home and need a
few minutes to chill and relax. But he's in my
(01:10):
driveway every day this week. When I get home. He
wants to be right up under me every week, right
every week night, and keeps telling me that he's afraid
we're growing apart. He told me that he loved me.
He loved when we were quarantined together because we were inseparable.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
I liked it too, because we were getting to know
each other.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Then he started bringing his work clothes to my house
and says it's too cold to go home every night
and he'd rather cuddle with me. This man loves to cuddle,
wine and make love to me whenever we're together. I
told him he's smothering me with his actions and smothering
me in the bed nightly.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
I have to roll him off of me.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
He says he can't sleep unless he's touching some part
of my body. Recently, I had a conversation about taking
a break or dialing it back a little bit because
he couldn't process. But he couldn't process a conversation without
crying and telling me that he can't live without me.
I love this type of attention and all of the affection,
(02:17):
but I'm afraid of falling too deeply for him because
he may have emotional issues. How do I handle this
relationship emotional issues?
Speaker 1 (02:28):
I don't know. Something might be a little off here.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I mean, I'm sure get off of me has probably
crossed your mind, and you've said it a few times
because you know while you're with him, because all this
stuff here says you say he's doing it is a
little smothering and suffocating if he's in the driveway when
you get home and all of that.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But you also said that you moved quickly.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Now these are the type of red flags that slip
by when you move too quickly.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
I think there's definitely.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Something going on with him because he is too much
and he has too much time on his hand. Why
is he sitting in your driveway before you can even
get home from work?
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Where does he work? I mean?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And why is he crying and whining when you tell
him that you need to dial it back and take
a break. These are the things that attracted you to
him before you've been dating for a year, which is
a good amount of time. But I think there is
something a little off saying he can't live without you,
he's not being able to sleep without touching any part
(03:28):
of your body and making your body go numb. And
this we're not talking numb in a good way from
your perspective. And I will say this, Yes, women do
like to cuddle. Yes, we do love the affections and
attention of a man and all of that. We like
to basket and all that glow. But it does sound
like he's being a bit too needy and overbearing. So
I just say it's time to reassess your relationship and
(03:51):
maybe set some new boundaries.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Steve, I'm about to do the letter now. I want
to for on all sensitive or caring people. My response
is not for you. I would like to put a
disclaimer on my response. Again, if you are a sensitive
(04:16):
or caring person, my response, you're not going to like.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Let's go.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
This.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Stephen Sherlley, I'm a thirty nine year old woman updating
a forty five year old man. We met a year
ago and things started off fantastic and moved quickly.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
He is a very.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
Sensitive and emotional man. Now let's stop right here. He
is a very sensitive and emotional man. Ladies, listen to me.
That in a man is a dangerous combination. The combination
(05:03):
is dangerous. Now you can be one or the other,
but you can't be both.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Why not.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
You can be a sensitive man, or you can be
an emotional man, but you can't be both, because now
you are invading on a woman's right to be either.
Because if you both of them all the damn time,
(05:34):
where does she get to be.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Either one of those?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
If you have a man that's emotional and sensitive, that's
a dangerous combination.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
And the letter will start telling it immediately.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
Who has no difficulty expressing every emotion to me?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Who do that?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
And after dating men to play games and ain't serious
about settling down with one woman? My boyfriend's openness was refreshing.
I bet it was at first, but soon as she
say that in the letter, but now it's proving to
be way too much. Why because surely it's a dangerous combination.
(06:19):
You can't have a man that's sensitive and emotional. It's
too much, because even a woman don't want that in
a man. Oh he's so sensitive, Oh he's emotional both.
He's about to drive my ass trade. You'll see we
come back. I got it for you, all right.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Coming up, we'll have part two of Steve's respond to
twenty three minutes after the hour. Strawberry letter subject for
today's mother lover will get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. This message is brought
to you by Pfizer. Let's talk health. I may not
(07:00):
know about new miccle disease, but if you're fifty or older,
or nineteen or older with certain medical conditions like diabetes,
you're at risk and it could turn your plans big
or small, into a hospital visit to get vaccinated. It's
one action you can take to help protect against newmacccle
pneumonia and invasive newmacaccle disease. Keep enjoying everything you're looking
(07:22):
forward to, even if it's just a podcast, schedule a
shot at vas assist dot com. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject's mother lover.
Speaker 4 (07:33):
All right, This thirty nine year old woman is dating
a man who's forty five. He's very sensitive and emotional.
Now I say it on the break before. That's a
dangerous combination.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Ladies.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
A man can be one or the other, but he
cannot be both. Surely ask me why I said, because
it invades on a woman's space. To be either, because
a woman, Kate, when does she get to be emotional
or sensitive if your man is already that all the time.
She said that her openness, he said, her openness was
refreshing at first, but now it's gotten to be the
(08:04):
way too much.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
See, So now let's get into the letter.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
He started to complain about me being too busy for
him out back to work full time. I get home
and I need a few minutes to chill and relax.
But he's been in my driveway every day this week
when I get home. Oh god, he in the driveway.
(08:29):
I'm talking about as soon as you get home, you
can't chill, You can't have your own thoughts.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
You want to decompress. You've been at work. So now
he's stalking and he sprungs.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
He wants to be right up under me every night,
and keeps telling me he's afraid we're growing apart. That's
another word when your man tells you he's afraid. What
woman he wants? A scary ass man.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
I'm afraid.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
He told me he loved me when we were quarantined
together because we were inseparable, well.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Everybody was quarantine.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
Quarantine was very revealing, though, you either found out you
hated a person or you really enjoyed the person.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
But then there's also a middle ground.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
A lot of people said, well, be nice to get
back to work, so we can just separate from each
other at least grow to miss each other. But I
still love him and like him. I just don't like
him as much all the time. You done got tired
of his ass. He didne started bringing work clothes to
your house because he says it's too cold to go
home every night and he rather cuddle with me. This
(09:50):
is another dangerous statement. You got a man that loves
to cuddle. Now, ladies, I know you think coloring is cute,
but not all the time. Watch why watch this man
loves to cuddle, whine, and make love to me whenever
we together. This is another scary ass combination. He likes
(10:12):
to cuddle, wine and make love. What making is this?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Okay? So let me try to work.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
Through this here, because I ain't never done that, so
it's gonna take me a minute. He likes to cuddle,
wine and make love. All right, here we go, All
right now? We now we love it. Were in the
actual act of love it, and in that act you
hear this. Now you you want him to handle his bier,
(10:52):
But what is your ass crying for? What is the wine?
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Now?
Speaker 4 (10:58):
We through making love and we threw whining. Now he cuddling.
But now you got to come down off that crime. Right,
So now you cuddling and you hear his hit. Okay,
(11:20):
but I'm coming down off the winding and I'm breathing
her because I was we was loved, because I'm sensitive
and emotional.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Do y'all see what I'm going with this here now?
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (11:33):
And then he literally lays on half your body until
your limbs fall asleep, and you got to roll him
off of you. He say he can't sleep unless he
touching some part of my body.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Oh so now we're talking about this where therapy come
in at? Now?
Speaker 4 (11:48):
See it ain't no therapist. But I'm a judge. Now,
so let me just tell you what I have figured
out this he left me. See, he used to either
suck his thumb. He had a.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Blanket or a teddy bear.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
He had all this and that got burned up in
his mama's house fire back in ninety four. All that
got burned up, the blanket, the teddy bear, and the pacifier.
All that got burned up in the house fire. So
now he done met you. Now you it you the
teddy bear, the blanket and the pacify breaking down.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
See, and now.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
You told him y'all had a conversation about down in
their back a little bit and he couldn't process the conversation.
So guess what he did while you start telling. He
started crying because he emotional ancestry. And then he told
you he can't live without you.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Well, let's see see.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
Once you tell me what you can't do proven because
you finish live without me, this, that and out here where.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
The woman gets conflicted.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
I love this type of attention and all the affection,
but I'm afraid of falling too deeply for him because
he may have emotional issue. May have girl, may have
emotional issue. Your ass is dayton and Toonio Brown got
the wonderful his ass have emotional issues. You got dating
(13:30):
and Tonio Brown without time like Ba.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Pays on Today's Strawberry Letters, Steve Harvey, f Emily and Facebook.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
You're welcome check.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Out Strawberry Letter podcast on demand well coming up at
forty six minutes after the hour of Sports Talk with Junior.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Right after this, You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning
Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And if you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
We need those juicy letters.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Come on now click submit Strawberry Letter and we could
be reading your letter live on the air, just like
we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
It could be yours. You never know, you never know.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
All right, Thank you, nephew. Subject smother lover. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a thirty nine year old woman dating a forty
five year old man. We met a year ago and
things started off fantastic and moved quickly. He is a
very sensitive and emotional man who has no difficulty expressing
his every emotion to me. After dating man that play
(00:49):
games and aren't serious about settling down with one woman,
my boyfriend's openness was refreshing, but now it's proving to
be way too much. He has started to complain about
me being too busy for him. Since I'm back at
work full time. Now, I get home and need a
few minutes to chill and relax. But he's in my
(01:10):
driveway every day this week. When I get home. He
wants to be right up under me every week, right
every week night, and keeps telling me that he's afraid
we're growing apart. He told me that he loved me.
He loved when we were quarantined together because we were inseparable.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
I liked it too, because we were getting to know
each other.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Then he started bringing his work clothes to my house
and says it's too cold to go home every night
and he'd rather cuddle with me. This man loves to cuddle,
wine and make love to me whenever we're together. I
told him he's smothering me with his actions and smothering
me in the bed nightly.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
I have to roll him off of me.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
He says he can't sleep unless he's touching some part
of my body. Recently, I had a conversation about taking
a break or dialing it back a little bit because
he couldn't process. But he couldn't process a conversation without
crying and telling me that he can't live without me.
I love this type of attention and all of the affection,
(02:17):
but I'm afraid of falling too deeply for him because
he may have emotional issues. How do I handle this
relationship emotional issues?
Speaker 1 (02:28):
I don't know. Something might be a little off here.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I mean, I'm sure get off of me has probably
crossed your mind, and you've said it a few times
because you know while you're with him, because all this
stuff here says you say he's doing it is a
little smothering and suffocating if he's in the driveway when
you get home and all of that.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But you also said that you moved quickly.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Now these are the type of red flags that slip
by when you move too quickly.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
I think there's definitely.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Something going on with him because he is too much
and he has too much time on his hand. Why
is he sitting in your driveway before you can even
get home from work?
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Where does he work? I mean?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And why is he crying and whining when you tell
him that you need to dial it back and take
a break. These are the things that attracted you to
him before you've been dating for a year, which is
a good amount of time. But I think there is
something a little off saying he can't live without you,
he's not being able to sleep without touching any part
(03:28):
of your body and making your body go numb. And
this we're not talking numb in a good way from
your perspective. And I will say this, Yes, women do
like to cuddle. Yes, we do love the affections and
attention of a man and all of that. We like
to basket and all that glow. But it does sound
like he's being a bit too needy and overbearing. So
I just say it's time to reassess your relationship and
(03:51):
maybe set some new boundaries.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Steve, I'm about to do the letter now. I want
to for on all sensitive or caring people. My response
is not for you. I would like to put a
disclaimer on my response. Again, if you are a sensitive
(04:16):
or caring person, my response, you're not going to like.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Let's go.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
This.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Stephen Sherlley, I'm a thirty nine year old woman updating
a forty five year old man. We met a year
ago and things started off fantastic and moved quickly.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
He is a very.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
Sensitive and emotional man. Now let's stop right here. He
is a very sensitive and emotional man. Ladies, listen to me.
That in a man is a dangerous combination. The combination
(05:03):
is dangerous. Now you can be one or the other,
but you can't be both.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Why not.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
You can be a sensitive man, or you can be
an emotional man, but you can't be both, because now
you are invading on a woman's right to be either.
Because if you both of them all the damn time,
(05:34):
where does she get to be.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Either one of those?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
If you have a man that's emotional and sensitive, that's
a dangerous combination.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
And the letter will start telling it immediately.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
Who has no difficulty expressing every emotion to me?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Who do that?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
And after dating men to play games and ain't serious
about settling down with one woman? My boyfriend's openness was refreshing.
I bet it was at first, but soon as she
say that in the letter, but now it's proving to
be way too much. Why because surely it's a dangerous combination.
(06:19):
You can't have a man that's sensitive and emotional. It's
too much, because even a woman don't want that in
a man. Oh he's so sensitive, Oh he's emotional both.
He's about to drive my ass trade. You'll see we
come back. I got it for you, all right.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Coming up, we'll have part two of Steve's respond to
twenty three minutes after the hour. Strawberry letter subject for
today's mother lover will get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. This message is brought
to you by Pfizer. Let's talk health. I may not
(07:00):
know about new miccle disease, but if you're fifty or older,
or nineteen or older with certain medical conditions like diabetes,
you're at risk and it could turn your plans big
or small, into a hospital visit to get vaccinated. It's
one action you can take to help protect against newmacccle
pneumonia and invasive newmacaccle disease. Keep enjoying everything you're looking
(07:22):
forward to, even if it's just a podcast, schedule a
shot at vas assist dot com. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject's mother lover.
Speaker 4 (07:33):
All right, This thirty nine year old woman is dating
a man who's forty five. He's very sensitive and emotional.
Now I say it on the break before. That's a
dangerous combination.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Ladies.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
A man can be one or the other, but he
cannot be both. Surely ask me why I said, because
it invades on a woman's space. To be either, because
a woman, Kate, when does she get to be emotional
or sensitive if your man is already that all the time.
She said that her openness, he said, her openness was
refreshing at first, but now it's gotten to be the
(08:04):
way too much.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
See, So now let's get into the letter.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
He started to complain about me being too busy for
him out back to work full time. I get home
and I need a few minutes to chill and relax.
But he's been in my driveway every day this week
when I get home. Oh god, he in the driveway.
(08:29):
I'm talking about as soon as you get home, you
can't chill, You can't have your own thoughts.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
You want to decompress. You've been at work. So now
he's stalking and he sprungs.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
He wants to be right up under me every night,
and keeps telling me he's afraid we're growing apart. That's
another word when your man tells you he's afraid. What
woman he wants? A scary ass man.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
I'm afraid.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
He told me he loved me when we were quarantined
together because we were inseparable, well.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Everybody was quarantine.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
Quarantine was very revealing, though, you either found out you
hated a person or you really enjoyed the person.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
But then there's also a middle ground.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
A lot of people said, well, be nice to get
back to work, so we can just separate from each
other at least grow to miss each other. But I
still love him and like him. I just don't like
him as much all the time. You done got tired
of his ass. He didne started bringing work clothes to
your house because he says it's too cold to go
home every night and he rather cuddle with me. This
(09:50):
is another dangerous statement. You got a man that loves
to cuddle. Now, ladies, I know you think coloring is cute,
but not all the time. Watch why watch this man
loves to cuddle, whine, and make love to me whenever
we together. This is another scary ass combination. He likes
(10:12):
to cuddle, wine and make love. What making is this?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Okay? So let me try to work.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
Through this here, because I ain't never done that, so
it's gonna take me a minute. He likes to cuddle,
wine and make love. All right, here we go, All
right now? We now we love it. Were in the
actual act of love it, and in that act you
hear this. Now you you want him to handle his bier,
(10:52):
But what is your ass crying for? What is the wine?
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Now?
Speaker 4 (10:58):
We through making love and we threw whining. Now he cuddling.
But now you got to come down off that crime. Right,
So now you cuddling and you hear his hit. Okay,
(11:20):
but I'm coming down off the winding and I'm breathing
her because I was we was loved, because I'm sensitive
and emotional.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Do y'all see what I'm going with this here now?
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (11:33):
And then he literally lays on half your body until
your limbs fall asleep, and you got to roll him
off of you. He say he can't sleep unless he
touching some part of my body.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Oh so now we're talking about this where therapy come
in at? Now?
Speaker 4 (11:48):
See it ain't no therapist. But I'm a judge. Now,
so let me just tell you what I have figured
out this he left me. See, he used to either
suck his thumb. He had a.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Blanket or a teddy bear.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
He had all this and that got burned up in
his mama's house fire back in ninety four. All that
got burned up, the blanket, the teddy bear, and the pacifier.
All that got burned up in the house fire. So
now he done met you. Now you it you the
teddy bear, the blanket and the pacify breaking down.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
See, and now.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
You told him y'all had a conversation about down in
their back a little bit and he couldn't process the conversation.
So guess what he did while you start telling. He
started crying because he emotional ancestry. And then he told
you he can't live without you.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Well, let's see see.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
Once you tell me what you can't do proven because
you finish live without me, this, that and out here where.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
The woman gets conflicted.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
I love this type of attention and all the affection,
but I'm afraid of falling too deeply for him because
he may have emotional issue. May have girl, may have
emotional issue. Your ass is dayton and Toonio Brown got
the wonderful his ass have emotional issues. You got dating
(13:30):
and Tonio Brown without time like Ba.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Pays on Today's Strawberry Letters, Steve Harvey, f Emily and Facebook.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
You're welcome check.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Out Strawberry Letter podcast on demand well coming up at
forty six minutes after the hour of Sports Talk with Junior.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Right after this, You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning
Show
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