October 22, 2020 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 57 year old married man and I’m on my second marriage. My wife has two daughters from a previous marriage and they’re both grown and live in different cities. The oldest daughter is 29 now and she has a 1 year old son. My wife is looking forward to Thanksgiving because she will have the girls home and she can spend quality time with her grandson, but I’m not excited about us all being under one roof, because I had an affair with the oldest daughter....................
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(00:47):
subject Thanksgiving Surprise. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty seven
year old married man and I'm on my second marriage.
My wife has two daughters from previous marriage and they're
both grown and live in different cities. The oldest daughter
is twenty nine now and she has a one year
old son. My wife is looking forward to Thanksgiving because
(01:10):
she will have the girls home and she can spend
quality time with her grandson. But I'm not excited about
us all being under one roof because because I had
an affair with the oldest daughter. It started when she
was twenty seven and she moved back in with us
(01:32):
briefly to save some money. She was very flirtatious, and
she'd rubbed my head when she hugged me and sit
on my lap to talk to me and call me
handsome whenever her mom wasn't around. One night, while her
mom was asleep on the couch, she took a bath
with a door cracked, and I mistakenly went in to
(01:52):
use the bathroom. This was the first time we had sex,
and I felt terrible, and so did. She moved out
the next week. The next week, my wife insisted that
I help her move, so I did, and we had
sex the second time at her apartment. The affair went
on for a while. You ready for this. The affair
(02:16):
went on for a while until she got pregnant. We've
had a paternity test, so I know it's my son,
but my stepdaughter has her boyfriend thinking it's his son.
I've always wanted a child, but my first wife couldn't
have children. I want to be part of this child's
(02:38):
life so badly that I'm willing to end my marriage
if I have to. I will not allow another black
boy to grow up without a father. I know this
is all a big meth, but I'm ready to tell
the truth. When we're all together for Thanksgiving, my wife
will be heartbroken. I'm sure. Am I being selfish in
this situation? That's the question you want to ask? Are
(03:02):
you being selfish? I mean, really, that's it that responds
is woo? I mean, how dare you write us with
this mess? I mean, Steve and I, we aren't in this.
You did this. You did this with your stepdaughter, your stepdaughter, dog,
(03:22):
your stepdaughter, and it's foul. This is foul right here,
This is so foul. If you had to cheat on
your wife, I'm gonna say this. I'm gonna say this,
if you just had to cheat on your wife, if
you could not keep it in your pants because someone
was hlirting with you and rubbing your ball head and
sitting in your lap, Honestly, I would have rather for
(03:43):
you to step outside the marriage than to get with
your wife's daughter. I mean, really, that would have made
more sense. Now, you and your stepdaughter have a son
together that she had to lie to her boyfriend about,
and she has her boyfriend thinking the baby is his.
This is so wrong on so many levels. I mean,
just lie on top of lie, on top of a lot.
I'm hurt for your wife. I'm hurt for her and
(04:03):
she doesn't even know what's going on yet, all because
you couldn't stay away from her daughter. Why did you
allow her to sit on your lap in all that? Anyway?
Why did you do that? Why didn't you say no?
Why didn't you get up? You know why? That's the
part that's killing me. And you know what, there's no
(04:24):
good ending. There's no way to end this nicely or respectfully.
There's no good ending to this nightmare of a story.
There just isn't. There's no way to make it right.
I want you to leave. I want you to get
a divorce and pay child support for your son, because
I feel at some point the truth is going to
come out anyway. It really is whether you tell your
(04:44):
wife a Thanksgiving or not. And what a way to
spoil Thanksgiving dinner. I bet you guys are going to
continue to live out this lie until something happens. This
is just a mess, it really is. Are you being
selfish in this situation? You have always been selfish in
this situation, Steve boy boy, sir, Yes, yes, sir sir,
(05:18):
you are in so much damn trouble right now. You
you have not seen the trouble. See you know. Look
I tell my sons all the time. The older you get,
(05:38):
the more die of the consequences for your mistakes, because
as you get older, you're supposed to get better at
handling errors and situations to help you to avoid the
big mistakes, you know what I mean. Look, you're gonna
always make mistakes till you leave this world, but you
(06:00):
try to get the big ones out the way early.
You know, before you you fifty seven, half a hundred years,
you've been here over your stupid ass. I with you
with your right Steve does ignant as mess. Now you'd
(06:23):
wrote us like we got some help for you. We
don't have no help for you, all right, Steve, hang on,
hang on. We'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour my Strawberry
letter for today's subject thanks Giving Surprise. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening to show all right, Steve.
(06:46):
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject Thanksgiving surprise.
So fifty seven year old man, you're so ignorant, not
fifty seven year old married man that had an affair
with your stepdaughter when she moved back in because she
(07:08):
needed to get on her feet. She was twenty seven
years old, always calling you handle. Y'all had sex while
your wife was asleep on the sofa. You felt bad,
She felt bad, so she decided to move out the
next week. Then your wife tells you help her move
(07:28):
you over the apartment having some most sex. Now she
twenty nine, So y'all been having this a fair for
two years. All this started. She was in there taking
a bath and left the doe crack. This is what
you said when this happened. Oh, one night, while her
mom was asleep on the couch, she took a bath
(07:51):
with the doe crack, and I mistakenly went in to
use the bath food boy, yeah, doe? How big is
y'all bath room? Where when the dog cracked? You mistakenly
went in to use the bathroom. When you're opening door
and you saw in the bathtub, you ain't turned around right, bro, Now,
(08:17):
the fab been going on for a while, then guess
what he said until she got pregnant. Now she got
a boyfriend and got the boyfriend thinking it's his son
when it's really your son. And you've always wanted a child,
even from your first wife, but she couldn't. And now
you want a son so bad you're willing to leave
your wife so you can have relationship with this son
(08:41):
because you didn't. Here come the noble part you throw
in because I will not allow another black boy to
grow up without a father. He got two damn daddies. Yeah,
we don't feel sorry for you, bro. Let's tell the truth.
You don't want to leave the mama so you could
raise the son. You want to leave the mama so
(09:01):
you can have the fleeing with the twenty nine year old.
That's really what you talking about. I want this son
so badly, I'm willing to leave my wife so I
could raise this south But what dog? What doc? Do
you know? How? That don't even sound right to no
damn other man? Nah, So how you think this gonna work?
(09:25):
You're gonna wait on Thanksgiving? She gonna come to the
house with the baby with her boyfriend. The other daughter
gonna be there, You and your wife gonna be sitting
up there, and then you're gonna tell her what happened.
That young ass boy gonna whoop your hands. I'm talking
about who he gonna go off? The other sister gonna
(09:46):
go off your wife. Lord, have mercy, what you're gonna
do to this woman? See, bro, this is a disaster. Now.
Do not wait to Thanksgiving right if you're gonna go
in here with this noise going here right now, if
that's what you're gonna do. And I don't really know
(10:07):
what you should do. I really don't that Shirley got
it right. I don't what you write us for. We
ain't got nothing for you. There is no right way
to do this, because everything bout it is wrong. See.
People think if I just come clean to be honest,
that's the right thing to do. What it is still
a mess? Hey man, honesty. See, let me tell you something.
(10:33):
When you've been so dishonest for so long on so
many levels, how do you think one moment of honesty
is supposed to correct it all? So you think by
coming clean, at least I came clean, at least You've
been screwing this woman for over two years wife's daughter.
(10:55):
She got chose son. You're f in the and your
relationship with your wife. You find to re ruin the
mother and the daughter relationship. Oh yeah, it's gonna damage
the other child's relationship, the other sibling with her sister.
How could you do this to our mother? Yes, you
ain't gonna be right with the two of them. No, Bo,
(11:17):
the boyfriend been buying these pampers and everything. He gonna
warm your ass because now he's been paying money thinking
he had something. Now you find to tell him it
ain't his son, it's your son. And now you was
over here screwing my girl. Dog. Do you understand the
complexity of all of this that's going on? Have you
(11:39):
lost your ever loving mine? And now you think on Thanksgiving?
It's the time while everybody there. Boy, you you that,
so listen to me. It's gonna be food everywhere. It's
(12:00):
too much. It's too many knives at Thanksgiving. Oh you
will be busted over your head with the jello mold.
I'm gonna dunk your ass down to that punch bowl
trying to drink. Sir, sir, terrible, surely, and I do
not have an answer for you. We don't know what
you're gonna do. This is a mess and you're gonna
(12:22):
figure it out. But you're gonna pay. Bro. All I
can tell you is you fitn't pay dearly for this.
Now you can try a little noble line you tried
with me. I'll not see another black boy raised without
fucking that's yeah good. This is trouble dog, It's really bad.
Hey hot, before I go happy, thanksgivings back and let
(12:49):
us know how to win. Yeah? Really all right? Post
your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM
on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand. Please now. Coming up in forty six minutes
after the hour, our girl from the Talk, the one
and Only Cheryl Underwood. Right after this, you're listening to
the Stave Harvey Morning Show
Well, only twelve days. Twelve days left until November third.
Please go to vote dot org to get your early
voting locations. Please vote early, Please vote early. All of
us on the Steve Harvey Morning Show have voted early.
Our votes are in. We want you to do the
same thing. Go to vote dot org. Twelve more days
and we're gonna switch gears because it is time now
(00:24):
for my Strawberry Letter and listen. If you need advice
on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one right here, right now. Buckle up and hold on tape.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter,
(00:47):
subject Thanksgiving Surprise. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty seven
year old married man and I'm on my second marriage.
My wife has two daughters from previous marriage and they're
both grown and live in different cities. The oldest daughter
is twenty nine now and she has a one year
old son. My wife is looking forward to Thanksgiving because
(01:10):
she will have the girls home and she can spend
quality time with her grandson. But I'm not excited about
us all being under one roof because because I had
an affair with the oldest daughter. It started when she
was twenty seven and she moved back in with us
(01:32):
briefly to save some money. She was very flirtatious, and
she'd rubbed my head when she hugged me and sit
on my lap to talk to me and call me
handsome whenever her mom wasn't around. One night, while her
mom was asleep on the couch, she took a bath
with a door cracked, and I mistakenly went in to
(01:52):
use the bathroom. This was the first time we had sex,
and I felt terrible, and so did. She moved out
the next week. The next week, my wife insisted that
I help her move, so I did, and we had
sex the second time at her apartment. The affair went
on for a while. You ready for this. The affair
(02:16):
went on for a while until she got pregnant. We've
had a paternity test, so I know it's my son,
but my stepdaughter has her boyfriend thinking it's his son.
I've always wanted a child, but my first wife couldn't
have children. I want to be part of this child's
(02:38):
life so badly that I'm willing to end my marriage
if I have to. I will not allow another black
boy to grow up without a father. I know this
is all a big meth, but I'm ready to tell
the truth. When we're all together for Thanksgiving, my wife
will be heartbroken. I'm sure. Am I being selfish in
this situation? That's the question you want to ask? Are
(03:02):
you being selfish? I mean, really, that's it that responds
is woo? I mean, how dare you write us with
this mess? I mean, Steve and I, we aren't in this.
You did this. You did this with your stepdaughter, your stepdaughter, dog,
(03:22):
your stepdaughter, and it's foul. This is foul right here,
This is so foul. If you had to cheat on
your wife, I'm gonna say this. I'm gonna say this,
if you just had to cheat on your wife, if
you could not keep it in your pants because someone
was hlirting with you and rubbing your ball head and
sitting in your lap, Honestly, I would have rather for
(03:43):
you to step outside the marriage than to get with
your wife's daughter. I mean, really, that would have made
more sense. Now, you and your stepdaughter have a son
together that she had to lie to her boyfriend about,
and she has her boyfriend thinking the baby is his.
This is so wrong on so many levels. I mean,
just lie on top of lie, on top of a lot.
I'm hurt for your wife. I'm hurt for her and
(04:03):
she doesn't even know what's going on yet, all because
you couldn't stay away from her daughter. Why did you
allow her to sit on your lap in all that? Anyway?
Why did you do that? Why didn't you say no?
Why didn't you get up? You know why? That's the
part that's killing me. And you know what, there's no
(04:24):
good ending. There's no way to end this nicely or respectfully.
There's no good ending to this nightmare of a story.
There just isn't. There's no way to make it right.
I want you to leave. I want you to get
a divorce and pay child support for your son, because
I feel at some point the truth is going to
come out anyway. It really is whether you tell your
(04:44):
wife a Thanksgiving or not. And what a way to
spoil Thanksgiving dinner. I bet you guys are going to
continue to live out this lie until something happens. This
is just a mess, it really is. Are you being
selfish in this situation? You have always been selfish in
this situation, Steve boy boy, sir, Yes, yes, sir sir,
(05:18):
you are in so much damn trouble right now. You
you have not seen the trouble. See you know. Look
I tell my sons all the time. The older you get,
(05:38):
the more die of the consequences for your mistakes, because
as you get older, you're supposed to get better at
handling errors and situations to help you to avoid the
big mistakes, you know what I mean. Look, you're gonna
always make mistakes till you leave this world, but you
(06:00):
try to get the big ones out the way early.
You know, before you you fifty seven, half a hundred years,
you've been here over your stupid ass. I with you
with your right Steve does ignant as mess. Now you'd
(06:23):
wrote us like we got some help for you. We
don't have no help for you, all right, Steve, hang on,
hang on. We'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour my Strawberry
letter for today's subject thanks Giving Surprise. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening to show all right, Steve.
(06:46):
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject Thanksgiving surprise.
So fifty seven year old man, you're so ignorant, not
fifty seven year old married man that had an affair
with your stepdaughter when she moved back in because she
(07:08):
needed to get on her feet. She was twenty seven
years old, always calling you handle. Y'all had sex while
your wife was asleep on the sofa. You felt bad,
She felt bad, so she decided to move out the
next week. Then your wife tells you help her move
(07:28):
you over the apartment having some most sex. Now she
twenty nine, So y'all been having this a fair for
two years. All this started. She was in there taking
a bath and left the doe crack. This is what
you said when this happened. Oh, one night, while her
mom was asleep on the couch, she took a bath
(07:51):
with the doe crack, and I mistakenly went in to
use the bath food boy, yeah, doe? How big is
y'all bath room? Where when the dog cracked? You mistakenly
went in to use the bathroom. When you're opening door
and you saw in the bathtub, you ain't turned around right, bro, Now,
(08:17):
the fab been going on for a while, then guess
what he said until she got pregnant. Now she got
a boyfriend and got the boyfriend thinking it's his son
when it's really your son. And you've always wanted a child,
even from your first wife, but she couldn't. And now
you want a son so bad you're willing to leave
your wife so you can have relationship with this son
(08:41):
because you didn't. Here come the noble part you throw
in because I will not allow another black boy to
grow up without a father. He got two damn daddies. Yeah,
we don't feel sorry for you, bro. Let's tell the truth.
You don't want to leave the mama so you could
raise the son. You want to leave the mama so
(09:01):
you can have the fleeing with the twenty nine year old.
That's really what you talking about. I want this son
so badly, I'm willing to leave my wife so I
could raise this south But what dog? What doc? Do
you know? How? That don't even sound right to no
damn other man? Nah, So how you think this gonna work?
(09:25):
You're gonna wait on Thanksgiving? She gonna come to the
house with the baby with her boyfriend. The other daughter
gonna be there, You and your wife gonna be sitting
up there, and then you're gonna tell her what happened.
That young ass boy gonna whoop your hands. I'm talking
about who he gonna go off? The other sister gonna
(09:46):
go off your wife. Lord, have mercy, what you're gonna
do to this woman? See, bro, this is a disaster. Now.
Do not wait to Thanksgiving right if you're gonna go
in here with this noise going here right now, if
that's what you're gonna do. And I don't really know
(10:07):
what you should do. I really don't that Shirley got
it right. I don't what you write us for. We
ain't got nothing for you. There is no right way
to do this, because everything bout it is wrong. See.
People think if I just come clean to be honest,
that's the right thing to do. What it is still
a mess? Hey man, honesty. See, let me tell you something.
(10:33):
When you've been so dishonest for so long on so
many levels, how do you think one moment of honesty
is supposed to correct it all? So you think by
coming clean, at least I came clean, at least You've
been screwing this woman for over two years wife's daughter.
(10:55):
She got chose son. You're f in the and your
relationship with your wife. You find to re ruin the
mother and the daughter relationship. Oh yeah, it's gonna damage
the other child's relationship, the other sibling with her sister.
How could you do this to our mother? Yes, you
ain't gonna be right with the two of them. No, Bo,
(11:17):
the boyfriend been buying these pampers and everything. He gonna
warm your ass because now he's been paying money thinking
he had something. Now you find to tell him it
ain't his son, it's your son. And now you was
over here screwing my girl. Dog. Do you understand the
complexity of all of this that's going on? Have you
(11:39):
lost your ever loving mine? And now you think on Thanksgiving?
It's the time while everybody there. Boy, you you that,
so listen to me. It's gonna be food everywhere. It's
(12:00):
too much. It's too many knives at Thanksgiving. Oh you
will be busted over your head with the jello mold.
I'm gonna dunk your ass down to that punch bowl
trying to drink. Sir, sir, terrible, surely, and I do
not have an answer for you. We don't know what
you're gonna do. This is a mess and you're gonna
(12:22):
figure it out. But you're gonna pay. Bro. All I
can tell you is you fitn't pay dearly for this.
Now you can try a little noble line you tried
with me. I'll not see another black boy raised without
fucking that's yeah good. This is trouble dog, It's really bad.
Hey hot, before I go happy, thanksgivings back and let
(12:49):
us know how to win. Yeah? Really all right? Post
your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM
on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand. Please now. Coming up in forty six minutes
after the hour, our girl from the Talk, the one
and Only Cheryl Underwood. Right after this, you're listening to
the Stave Harvey Morning Show
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