April 1, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter Subject for Tuesday, April 1st, 2025: “The Joke Is On Me This Time” A man writes in and talks about how he and his wife got saved right after they were married, but they both seem to have slipped back into their old ways…separately. Listen to Shirley & Steve’s responses…
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVIFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type.
We got it for you here it is strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Let us thank you, nephew. Subject the joke is on
me this time. Dear Stephen Shirley, maybe you can help me.
My wife and I have been married for six years
and we have one daughter. I'm thirty two and she's thirty.
We were young when we started dating, so we had
a few three ways and we went to the strip
club together all of the time. We both got saved
(00:47):
right after we got married, but I still got chills
when I heard my single friend talking about being with
two girls at one time like a dummy. I decided
to check in with my wife to see if she
wanted to go to the strip club with me and
a group of our friends. She said that she's not
going nor am I. I didn't want an argument, so
I didn't push it. I went anyway, and I told
(01:10):
her I was playing cards with friends. She found out
from one of the girls that dates one of my friends.
She told me that if I want to play, then
it's on. I told her that women can't do what
men do, and I put my foot down and I
said that there's nothing wrong with going to the strip club.
She said fine, and that was it. I went a
(01:31):
few more times and I told her before I left.
She never said a word, so I thought it was cool.
Her birthday came around and she told me she was
going to Palm Springs with her sorority sisters. It was
a quick trip, so I was cool with it. A
week later, I found out that they rented a sprinter
and hired two male strippers to entertain them on the ride.
(01:53):
She and four other married women went. She was so
happy to admit that she lied to me. She won't
tell me where she stayed or where the two strippers stayed.
She told me that she doesn't question me, so she
wants the same grace. Okay, so the joke is on
me this time. This is not how I want my
marriage to go. How do we rebuild the trust? I
(02:16):
have to be honest with you. It is hard and
darn near impossible. In the beginning, trust is much easier
because no one has done anything to break that trust.
You haven't given your partner a reason to not trust you.
But all it all takes, all it takes is one time.
I'll just put it like that. All it takes is
(02:37):
one time. Then you're checking voicemails, you're checking social media posts,
you're pulling.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Up on them at lunch, showing up at.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Their job, all because they did something to make you
not trust them. This thing that you did that you
knew you shouldn't have done, like going to the strip club,
has turned into a big, huge mess now and you
see that, and yeah, it is true. It's the double standard.
And women aren't supposed to do what men do in
this society and still be a lady. But in case
(03:05):
you haven't noticed, times have changed. Some women these days
are really out for revenge when you do something to them.
They want you to feel that pain. They really really do.
They want to get back at you. So, so how
do you get the trust back? You ask? First, you
better find out if your wife wants to save this
marriage because she is doing her thing right now. You
got to stop going to strip clubs. You got to
(03:27):
get to work on your marriage, whether it's therapy, which
I do recommend for you guys, or whatever. But again,
regaining trust after it's broken, it's darn near.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Impossible, but it is possible, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
Well, this letter right here, bruh. First of all, this
all on you all. It's on you.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
You.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
You did this one though, and as really, I don't
know if it's a lot I can help you with,
except that you come up with a compromised Now, you know,
y'all been married six years. Y'all got a daughter, You
thirty two, she thirty. Y'all was young when y'all started dating.
(04:14):
So y'all had a few three ways, and we went
to the strip club together all the time. We both
got saved right after we got married. I missed that part.
I ain't said that.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
You didn't.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Oh, I didn't see that that that's a whole nother element.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Oh, thank you god.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
We both got saved right after we got married.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
That's key.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
So, but I still got hills when I heard my
single friends talking about being with two girls at one time. Ohkay,
you got saved like I didn't. I said, that's what happened. Yeah,
he got saved like me. See, you know you got
(05:04):
people that get saved to get washed white as snow.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, me and here, we.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Just got wrist off. We didn't get the whole whitest
snow version. We just got wrisked off. So I am
about to be able to relate to this strawberry letter
except what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
But I do understand them.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
I still got chills when I heard him talking about
being with two girls men now here he go.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Like a dummy.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
I decided to check my wife to see if she
wanted to go to the strip club with me and
a group of our friends.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
She said that she's not going, nor am I.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Now that seems reasonable, you know why, cause y'all saved. Now,
Oh dog, I'm so glad.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I saw that. That changes the parameters.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
So you took Jose, You'll say yourself in there, tell
your wife you're going, and go back down to the
strip club with her and a group of friends.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
She says she not going, nor am I.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
I will tell you exactly why, other than being saved,
that they not going?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
All right, all right.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
All right, we'll have part two of your response coming
up Steve at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry letter, subject is the joke is on me this time.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Everyone at your girl,
Shirley Strawberry Here. April sixth is National ASA E Bowl
Day and Tropical Smoothie Cafe is offering tropic rewards members
five dollars off and ASA E Bowl or ASA E
Bowl with Nutella. It is a perfect way to treat
(06:52):
yourself to a refreshing tropical getaway. Not a member yet,
join the party by downloading the Tropical Smoothie Cafe app
and signing up to log into your account on April
sixth to redeem your offer of five dollars off and
I Side E Bowl or I sid E Bowl with Nutella.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is the joke is on me this time.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Thirty two ye old man, thirty year old woman. They've
been dating for a while, been married six years. They
got a three year old, okay, and before they got
married they was wild and they had a couple of
three ways they were and they had some couple of
three on threes and you know, swanging and went to
(07:36):
the strip club together all the time. Then after they
got married, they both got saved, Lord father, God, thanks saved.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
But he got that version that I got a lot.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
Of people get saved and get washed white as snow.
I just got ristof and that much look like happened
to him. But you didn't get rinsed off good at
all though.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Dog.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Of course, now you set up in here and let
your friends tell you that they was with a couple
of women at the strip club and you still got cheated. Then,
like a dummy this you need you need to go
back to getting you gotta go get saved again, dog,
because now you took your dumb you, you took your
dumb booty in down there to your wife to see
(08:29):
if she wanted to go to the strip club with
me and a group of our friends. She said she
ain't going, nor am I now here we go. You
know why she said that because y'all saved now. But
you know why she also said you ain't going and
I ain't going because she remembers what y'all used to
do when y'all got down there, And because y'all saved now,
(08:55):
she don't want to reintroduce that into the marriage. So
she said, I'm not going down there, and you ain't either,
So you ain't want an august.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
You ain't pushing. But guess what you did?
Speaker 4 (09:07):
You went anyway, and you're told her you was playing
cards with a group of friends. Well, one of your
friend's wives found out about it and told you that
she went to and and she went on to that
that that you went to the strip club, and you
lied to her. She told you if you want to
(09:28):
play in his own I told her women can't do
with me and doing. I put my foot down and said,
there's nothing wrong with going to the strip club.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
Dog, I thought you got saved.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
You can't brug Maybe you just got saved that day
for or you need to go get resaved dog, because
you just You're supposed to last longer than this. He's
supposed to give you a moral barometer, accomplases, supposed to
make you closer.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Walk with God.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Where you could get some strip to overcome your weaknesses.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
That's what it does. Man.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
You done told her it ain't nothing wrong with going
to the strip club. She say fine, cool. So I
went a few more times, and I told her before
I left after she told you, I'm not going and
you ain't going there, So you said. I went a
few more times, and I went, Now, what you're doing
down at the club though, because all these shields you
(10:29):
be getting from being with two women, did you stop
getting chilly?
Speaker 3 (10:38):
All?
Speaker 4 (10:38):
You went out there and something happened. So anyway, she
never said a word, so I thought it was cool.
That's when you real stupid. You think when a woman.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Get quiet that means everything cool. You're so stupid yourself stupid.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
So then he told me she was going to Palm
Springs for her birthday with her sorority sisters.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
It was a quick trip, so I was cool with it.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
A week later I found out that they winted a
sprinter and hired two male strippers to entertain them on
the ride. She and four other married women win. So
it's four on two. But these boys is pros. They
know how to work four women. It's two of them.
(11:30):
They strong with it. Who I bet it was fine
too though. They was up in there and that sprinter
van I'm talking about sitting on their laps letting them
have it. She was so happy that to admit that
she lied to me. And she won't tell me where
she stayed or where the two strippers stayed. Okay, I'll
(11:52):
tell you what they wasn't in that sprinter and they
got hired for the whole weekend homie, and or they
picked them too, right boy, they've.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
All four of them voted on them too.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
She said, she don't question me, so she wants the
same grapes. Okay, so the joke's on me this time.
Now I want but this is not how I want
my marriage to go. Well, why did you do what
you did? Though she told you she wasn't going and
you wasn't going. This ain't how I want my marriage
should go. But then you thought it was cool and
you went down there a bunch of times. How do
(12:26):
we really rebuild the trust? Well, this ain't really trust.
You got to be bid you see. Let me tell
you what you did though. You open up a close
can of stinks. It's a big old can of stink
sitting in y'all's basement. You went down that got it,
got a screwdriver and opened up the whole can of
(12:47):
stink in the middle of the living room. Now to
open up the can. You said, let's go to the
strip club. She said, I'm not going, and you ain't going.
You put the lead back on the not a hogey,
but you took the can back in there and open
your back up, and you dip your.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Hands down in his candide.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Wow, put it in your wife's face and she can
smell the stink coming upstairs. All right?
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter, It's Steve Harvey.
Fie facebooks, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the free iHeartRadio app. Free Never Sounded So good. You
can download it Today you're listening to the Steve Harvey
Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVIFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on type.
We got it for you here it is strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Let us thank you, nephew. Subject the joke is on
me this time. Dear Stephen Shirley, maybe you can help me.
My wife and I have been married for six years
and we have one daughter. I'm thirty two and she's thirty.
We were young when we started dating, so we had
a few three ways and we went to the strip
club together all of the time. We both got saved
(00:47):
right after we got married, but I still got chills
when I heard my single friend talking about being with
two girls at one time like a dummy. I decided
to check in with my wife to see if she
wanted to go to the strip club with me and
a group of our friends. She said that she's not
going nor am I. I didn't want an argument, so
I didn't push it. I went anyway, and I told
(01:10):
her I was playing cards with friends. She found out
from one of the girls that dates one of my friends.
She told me that if I want to play, then
it's on. I told her that women can't do what
men do, and I put my foot down and I
said that there's nothing wrong with going to the strip club.
She said fine, and that was it. I went a
(01:31):
few more times and I told her before I left.
She never said a word, so I thought it was cool.
Her birthday came around and she told me she was
going to Palm Springs with her sorority sisters. It was
a quick trip, so I was cool with it. A
week later, I found out that they rented a sprinter
and hired two male strippers to entertain them on the ride.
(01:53):
She and four other married women went. She was so
happy to admit that she lied to me. She won't
tell me where she stayed or where the two strippers stayed.
She told me that she doesn't question me, so she
wants the same grace. Okay, so the joke is on
me this time. This is not how I want my
marriage to go. How do we rebuild the trust? I
(02:16):
have to be honest with you. It is hard and
darn near impossible. In the beginning, trust is much easier
because no one has done anything to break that trust.
You haven't given your partner a reason to not trust you.
But all it all takes, all it takes is one time.
I'll just put it like that. All it takes is
(02:37):
one time. Then you're checking voicemails, you're checking social media posts,
you're pulling.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Up on them at lunch, showing up at.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Their job, all because they did something to make you
not trust them. This thing that you did that you
knew you shouldn't have done, like going to the strip club,
has turned into a big, huge mess now and you
see that, and yeah, it is true. It's the double standard.
And women aren't supposed to do what men do in
this society and still be a lady. But in case
(03:05):
you haven't noticed, times have changed. Some women these days
are really out for revenge when you do something to them.
They want you to feel that pain. They really really do.
They want to get back at you. So, so how
do you get the trust back? You ask? First, you
better find out if your wife wants to save this
marriage because she is doing her thing right now. You
got to stop going to strip clubs. You got to
(03:27):
get to work on your marriage, whether it's therapy, which
I do recommend for you guys, or whatever. But again,
regaining trust after it's broken, it's darn near.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Impossible, but it is possible, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
Well, this letter right here, bruh. First of all, this
all on you all. It's on you.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
You.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
You did this one though, and as really, I don't
know if it's a lot I can help you with,
except that you come up with a compromised Now, you know,
y'all been married six years. Y'all got a daughter, You
thirty two, she thirty. Y'all was young when y'all started dating.
(04:14):
So y'all had a few three ways, and we went
to the strip club together all the time. We both
got saved right after we got married. I missed that part.
I ain't said that.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
You didn't.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Oh, I didn't see that that that's a whole nother element.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Oh, thank you god.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
We both got saved right after we got married.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
That's key.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
So, but I still got hills when I heard my
single friends talking about being with two girls at one time. Ohkay,
you got saved like I didn't. I said, that's what happened. Yeah,
he got saved like me. See, you know you got
(05:04):
people that get saved to get washed white as snow.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, me and here, we.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Just got wrist off. We didn't get the whole whitest
snow version. We just got wrisked off. So I am
about to be able to relate to this strawberry letter
except what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
But I do understand them.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
I still got chills when I heard him talking about
being with two girls men now here he go.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Like a dummy.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
I decided to check my wife to see if she
wanted to go to the strip club with me and
a group of our friends.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
She said that she's not going, nor am I.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Now that seems reasonable, you know why, cause y'all saved. Now,
Oh dog, I'm so glad.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I saw that. That changes the parameters.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
So you took Jose, You'll say yourself in there, tell
your wife you're going, and go back down to the
strip club with her and a group of friends.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
She says she not going, nor am I.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
I will tell you exactly why, other than being saved,
that they not going?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
All right, all right.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
All right, we'll have part two of your response coming
up Steve at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry letter, subject is the joke is on me this time.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Everyone at your girl,
Shirley Strawberry Here. April sixth is National ASA E Bowl
Day and Tropical Smoothie Cafe is offering tropic rewards members
five dollars off and ASA E Bowl or ASA E
Bowl with Nutella. It is a perfect way to treat
(06:52):
yourself to a refreshing tropical getaway. Not a member yet,
join the party by downloading the Tropical Smoothie Cafe app
and signing up to log into your account on April
sixth to redeem your offer of five dollars off and
I Side E Bowl or I sid E Bowl with Nutella.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is the joke is on me this time.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Thirty two ye old man, thirty year old woman. They've
been dating for a while, been married six years. They
got a three year old, okay, and before they got
married they was wild and they had a couple of
three ways they were and they had some couple of
three on threes and you know, swanging and went to
(07:36):
the strip club together all the time. Then after they
got married, they both got saved, Lord father, God, thanks saved.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
But he got that version that I got a lot.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
Of people get saved and get washed white as snow.
I just got ristof and that much look like happened
to him. But you didn't get rinsed off good at
all though.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Dog.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Of course, now you set up in here and let
your friends tell you that they was with a couple
of women at the strip club and you still got cheated. Then,
like a dummy this you need you need to go
back to getting you gotta go get saved again, dog,
because now you took your dumb you, you took your
dumb booty in down there to your wife to see
(08:29):
if she wanted to go to the strip club with
me and a group of our friends. She said she
ain't going, nor am I now here we go. You
know why she said that because y'all saved now. But
you know why she also said you ain't going and
I ain't going because she remembers what y'all used to
do when y'all got down there, And because y'all saved now,
(08:55):
she don't want to reintroduce that into the marriage. So
she said, I'm not going down there, and you ain't either,
So you ain't want an august.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
You ain't pushing. But guess what you did?
Speaker 4 (09:07):
You went anyway, and you're told her you was playing
cards with a group of friends. Well, one of your
friend's wives found out about it and told you that
she went to and and she went on to that
that that you went to the strip club, and you
lied to her. She told you if you want to
(09:28):
play in his own I told her women can't do
with me and doing. I put my foot down and said,
there's nothing wrong with going to the strip club.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
Dog, I thought you got saved.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
You can't brug Maybe you just got saved that day
for or you need to go get resaved dog, because
you just You're supposed to last longer than this. He's
supposed to give you a moral barometer, accomplases, supposed to
make you closer.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Walk with God.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Where you could get some strip to overcome your weaknesses.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
That's what it does. Man.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
You done told her it ain't nothing wrong with going
to the strip club. She say fine, cool. So I
went a few more times, and I told her before
I left after she told you, I'm not going and
you ain't going there, So you said. I went a
few more times, and I went, Now, what you're doing
down at the club though, because all these shields you
(10:29):
be getting from being with two women, did you stop
getting chilly?
Speaker 3 (10:38):
All?
Speaker 4 (10:38):
You went out there and something happened. So anyway, she
never said a word, so I thought it was cool.
That's when you real stupid. You think when a woman.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Get quiet that means everything cool. You're so stupid yourself stupid.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
So then he told me she was going to Palm
Springs for her birthday with her sorority sisters.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
It was a quick trip, so I was cool with it.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
A week later I found out that they winted a
sprinter and hired two male strippers to entertain them on
the ride. She and four other married women win. So
it's four on two. But these boys is pros. They
know how to work four women. It's two of them.
(11:30):
They strong with it. Who I bet it was fine
too though. They was up in there and that sprinter
van I'm talking about sitting on their laps letting them
have it. She was so happy that to admit that
she lied to me. And she won't tell me where
she stayed or where the two strippers stayed. Okay, I'll
(11:52):
tell you what they wasn't in that sprinter and they
got hired for the whole weekend homie, and or they
picked them too, right boy, they've.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
All four of them voted on them too.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
She said, she don't question me, so she wants the
same grapes. Okay, so the joke's on me this time.
Now I want but this is not how I want
my marriage to go. Well, why did you do what
you did? Though she told you she wasn't going and
you wasn't going. This ain't how I want my marriage
should go. But then you thought it was cool and
you went down there a bunch of times. How do
(12:26):
we really rebuild the trust? Well, this ain't really trust.
You got to be bid you see. Let me tell
you what you did though. You open up a close
can of stinks. It's a big old can of stink
sitting in y'all's basement. You went down that got it,
got a screwdriver and opened up the whole can of
(12:47):
stink in the middle of the living room. Now to
open up the can. You said, let's go to the
strip club. She said, I'm not going, and you ain't going.
You put the lead back on the not a hogey,
but you took the can back in there and open
your back up, and you dip your.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Hands down in his candide.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Wow, put it in your wife's face and she can
smell the stink coming upstairs. All right?
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter, It's Steve Harvey.
Fie facebooks, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the free iHeartRadio app. Free Never Sounded So good. You
can download it Today you're listening to the Steve Harvey
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