December 21, 2018 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year. When I met her she had just ended a relationship with a wealthy man that was 19 years older than her. This man spoiled her with expensive gifts and he was her first sexually so she was caught up for a long time. He offered to buy her a condo if she stayed with him, but she realized that he was trying to buy her love and she wasn’t really into him so they broke up. We've been dating since then. The old boyfriend still calls and texts her and she tells me whenever she hears from him I'm no fool.........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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(00:22):
Why is her ex still checking on her? Dear Stephen Shirley,
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year.
When I met her, she had just ended a relationship
with a wealthy man that was nineteen years older than her.
This man spoiled her with expensive gifts and he was
her first sexually, so she was caught up for a
long time. He offered to buy her a condo if
(00:45):
she stayed with him, but she realized that he was
trying to buy her love and she wasn't really into him,
so they broke up. We've been dating since then. The
old boyfriend still calls and texts her, and she tells
him whenever she tells me whenever she hears from him.
I'm no fool, so I've been looking for signs of infidelity,
(01:05):
but she's not giving me any reason not to trust her.
She's new to the game, so it's the old rich
cat that I don't trust. Why does he have to
check in on her to see if she's okay all
of the time. I believe he is waiting for me
to slip up so he can make his move. Recently,
she told me that he asked if I was taking
care of her the way he used to. I got game,
(01:26):
and I do what it takes to keep a smile
on my lady's face. I told my lady that he
realizes he lost a good thing and there is no
way that he wants to be just friends with her.
I asked her to stop talking to him, but she refuses.
She said that she is glad that they are still
friends and she likes it when he checks on her.
Maybe I'm crazy, but this is not sitting well with me.
(01:47):
This old boyfriend is a wolf and sheep's closing and
she's too naive to see it. How do I get
this man to leave my girlfriend alone? Please help? All right?
I don't know if that's going to happen, if he's
ever going to leave her alone, because he knows, you
know about her. He had her first, he's older in
the game. I think you're right, though, and everything you
(02:09):
say about your new girlfriend and her old boyfriend. He
is too much in her life, calling her, texting her
to see if she's all right. Yeah, he's waiting for
you to slip up so he can slip back in.
Yes he is. Of course, Pappa's out of line, and
she is too for still taking his calls and stuff.
She may be a little naive, but you know he,
(02:30):
like he said, or like you said, he wait, he's
checking on her to see if she's okay all the time.
He is waiting for you to slip up so he
can make your moves. So you better be Since you
say you know the game, you're not new to the
game and all of that, and you know what it
takes to put a smile on her face. You better
continue doing that. Continue to do that. But I don't
(02:50):
know why she's not stopped taking his texts and his calls.
Maybe she likes this conversation. Maybe she does think they're
just trying to be friends. Because he does want her back,
He definitely does. He wants her back. He knows he
can get her if he just hangs in there, hangs
in there and does what he's been doing. Steve, you
know why, I know I know exactly why I sat
(03:12):
listen to me. Look, first of all, this young dude
to wrote this letter because he looking for answers because
he don't know. Now he got game, but he don't
have advanced game, because he writing a letter because he
don't know the answer. Your girlfriend and you've been together
for a year. You met her. She had just ended
(03:33):
relationship with a wealthy man that was nineteen years older
than her. Now you didn't say how old anybody is
in this letter, but just judging by the right the
way you write, I'm thinking, man, she bout twenty six.
I figured he bought forty six. That's just a guestiment
(03:55):
based on the way you're writing twenty six forty something
like that. This man spoiled her with expensive gifts. He
was her first sexually, so she was caught up for
a long time, oh just having for a while. He
offered to buy her kindor if she stayed with him,
but she realized that he was just trying to buy
(04:16):
her love and she wasn't really into him, so they
broke up. We've been dating since then. The old boyfriend
still calling, texts her and tells her whenever, and then
she tells me whenever she hears from him. I'm no fool,
So I've just been looking for signs of infidelity that
she is not giving me any reason not to trust her.
(04:36):
First of all, she ain't seeing the dude. She's a
good girl. She telling you every time to dude contact her.
But why does a woman notify you every time another
man called her calls? She wants you to know. She
(04:57):
want you to know he still calling, He still want me.
And you know why she notifying you Because she's trying
to send the signal to you that you need to
step up your game because you're lacking somewhere, partner. Now
here comes the real truth. Since you got game and everything,
but you ain't got advanced game all right now, I
(05:18):
ain't no food looking for him for Delhi not giving
me any reason trusting She's new to the game. Sound
like you new to the game. That's what it sound
like she knew to the game. You still knew what game.
So it's the old rich cat that I really don't trust.
Why does he have to check on her to see
if she's okay all the time? Because he won't her,
(05:41):
he won't hur back. And that's what grown asked men
do we call and we check on you, just saying, hey,
make sure and you're good. Don't want to see you
fall on hard times? Is everything okay? Hello? Partner? Old
(06:03):
player lines. I love him, Steve. I believe he waiting
for me to slip up so he can make his move.
He waiting on you to slip up. He made he moving.
He waiting on the damn thing you involved with the
girl and he texting her. Now you slipping and you
don't know it, young homie. She knew to the game.
(06:28):
You knew to the game. But hang on because Steve
to put your own game. You go get him right, boy,
say no games. This lining old and Paper two He
got old and with man. Boy, you ain't got a
chance your ass out. You know what I mean? You
(06:49):
you I don't even know you're going out, know it? Man?
Just love it about you. All right. Listen, we'll come
back with part two with the old players in the game. Yeah,
educate this young boy, all right, twenty three afters when
we're coming back, all right, The subject today is why
is her ex still checking on her dude dating this girl?
(07:10):
Man that was involved with this man that was nineteen
years old and her, he calling her old man. This
was her first sexual encounter, so she was caught up
with him for a while. She wanted he wanted to
buy him a condo. She stayed with him. She realized
he was just trying to buy love. They broke up.
Now you've been dating her, he's still checking on her.
You trying to figure out why her ex is still
(07:32):
checking on her because he wonta because he want her back.
You know how he got your girl. He was checking
on you. Know how he got your girl? He was
checking on See. Put is something the young boys don't
(07:53):
know how to do. See y'all don't check on women.
You call women because you want to chill and hook up,
you on the Netflix night. But you're gonna call him,
check on him, See how they're doing, See how they
day going, Did they need anything? Anything you can do
for him, help him solve problems. See that's what Groan
asked me, and he was, Jay is right there. Why
(08:18):
don't you check on him? No? See hold on, hold
let me finish this here for see. So what he
do is he he said it all up. Now now
you're talking about she knew to the game. So it's
the old rich cat that I really don't trust. Why
he got to check on it to see if she okay.
All the time, I believe he waiting on me to
slip up so he can make his move. Partner, He
(08:39):
already moving. He don't even give a damn about you.
You irrelevant. He texting your girl right now while y'all
all together. He ain't waiting on you to slip up.
He gonna cause you to slip up. He gonna show
a vast difference between him and you. He ain't waiting
on you to slip up. Here in the game, partner,
you know why because old school players, it ain't a game.
(09:02):
It's a contest. Everybody can get a blue ripping. Let's go. Recently,
she told me that he asked if I was taking
care of her the way he used to. I got game,
and I do what it takes to keep a smile
on my lady's face. That ain't what he asked a girl.
(09:22):
He asked a girl, what you taking care of her
the way he used to? The answer to that question
is now because your answer wasn't. Yale, See, you ain't
taking care of her the way he used to. You're
going back to I got game, game if I want
no damn game bought. This ain't videoing in the arcade,
(09:47):
this life. I know how to keep a smile on
my lady's face. I told, I told my lady that
he realizes he lost a good thing and there's no
no way that he just wants to be friends with her.
He your friend and none of them Texas. He asked,
your girl, where you taking care of her the way
(10:09):
he used to? That ain't trying to be friends. He
gonna get back into taking care of her business because
I think you ain't. I asked her to stop talking
to him. You go the clue, but she refused because
you know what what he talking about where different from
what you're talking about. Didn't you just tell us you
(10:32):
had a game where the game must be weak? Because
she want to hear something else as saying that she's
glad that they still friends, and she liked when he
checks on her. And you know why he liked when
you check on when you check on her, because you don't, man,
because you're so busy with your game, You're so busy
(10:53):
trying to put a smile on her face that you
don't really know how to check on her. You don't
care for her. I love your answers, you just want
to do something with it. I'm telling him, I'm giving
him your game. Let's just what he's doing wrong. This
old man is what she telling you? Is she trying
(11:15):
to put you on game so you can know what
game is. Because that little weak ass game you got
ain't worth for quality. So she keeps telling you every
time he called it what he said? Nah, and she
likes each other. Maybe I'm crazy, but this ain't sitting
well with me. Well he this shitn't I tell you?
She ain't gonna be sitting with you in a minute.
(11:39):
This old boyfriend is a wolf in sheep's clothing. No
he not, He just a wolf. He ain't got no
sheep's clothing on. The problem is a little boy you
are sheep? You in trouble, You up against you, up
against some deep odds man unless you really learn what
(12:00):
game is. And she's too naive to see it. Don't
she see exactly what it is. It's just what she
had before she don't have now. So she's staying in
touch with what she had before because she thinks what
she got No, I ain't gonna last. How do I
(12:21):
get this man to leave my girlfriend alone. Please calling.
Let's cut this out him. You want to get this
man to leave your girl alone? Calling, calling his number
in her phone, get her phone calling, tell him don't
call your woman no more or else what not. Let's
(12:43):
find out what kind of game. See. You may find
out that he cared more deeply for her than you do. See.
But now I'm ask you and I ain't saying you
got to get violent. That ain't what I'm saying to you.
But calling man, have a man to man and conversation
and tell him he can't call your girl no more.
(13:05):
You can convince him of that, then you got something.
If you can't convince him of that, you got nothing.
As he can't whoop this old dude ass man, that's
just nineteen years you're twenty six forty five. You're gonna
get your ass s thought. Now, Hey, this is begging
(13:26):
for a reenactment between you and Jay as the girl.
It is okay, whoa what do? When we come back? Listen?
You can email us your Instagram at your thoughts on
today's Strawberry Letards Steve Harvey FM. You're listening to Steve
Harvey Morning Show
Buckle up, hold on tight, we got it for you.
Hire it days. Do you have a dolling? Okay, hold
on tight, Buckle up, We'll be there in a minute.
Strawberry Letta, Yeah, I got it, all right, buckle up,
hold on tight, he has it the Strawberry Letta all right. Subject,
(00:22):
Why is her ex still checking on her? Dear Stephen Shirley,
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year.
When I met her, she had just ended a relationship
with a wealthy man that was nineteen years older than her.
This man spoiled her with expensive gifts and he was
her first sexually, so she was caught up for a
long time. He offered to buy her a condo if
(00:45):
she stayed with him, but she realized that he was
trying to buy her love and she wasn't really into him,
so they broke up. We've been dating since then. The
old boyfriend still calls and texts her, and she tells
him whenever she tells me whenever she hears from him.
I'm no fool, so I've been looking for signs of infidelity,
(01:05):
but she's not giving me any reason not to trust her.
She's new to the game, so it's the old rich
cat that I don't trust. Why does he have to
check in on her to see if she's okay all
of the time. I believe he is waiting for me
to slip up so he can make his move. Recently,
she told me that he asked if I was taking
care of her the way he used to. I got game,
(01:26):
and I do what it takes to keep a smile
on my lady's face. I told my lady that he
realizes he lost a good thing and there is no
way that he wants to be just friends with her.
I asked her to stop talking to him, but she refuses.
She said that she is glad that they are still
friends and she likes it when he checks on her.
Maybe I'm crazy, but this is not sitting well with me.
(01:47):
This old boyfriend is a wolf and sheep's closing and
she's too naive to see it. How do I get
this man to leave my girlfriend alone? Please help? All right?
I don't know if that's going to happen, if he's
ever going to leave her alone, because he knows, you
know about her. He had her first, he's older in
the game. I think you're right, though, and everything you
(02:09):
say about your new girlfriend and her old boyfriend. He
is too much in her life, calling her, texting her
to see if she's all right. Yeah, he's waiting for
you to slip up so he can slip back in.
Yes he is. Of course, Pappa's out of line, and
she is too for still taking his calls and stuff.
She may be a little naive, but you know he,
(02:30):
like he said, or like you said, he wait, he's
checking on her to see if she's okay all the time.
He is waiting for you to slip up so he
can make your moves. So you better be Since you
say you know the game, you're not new to the
game and all of that, and you know what it
takes to put a smile on her face. You better
continue doing that. Continue to do that. But I don't
(02:50):
know why she's not stopped taking his texts and his calls.
Maybe she likes this conversation. Maybe she does think they're
just trying to be friends. Because he does want her back,
He definitely does. He wants her back. He knows he
can get her if he just hangs in there, hangs
in there and does what he's been doing. Steve, you
know why, I know I know exactly why I sat
(03:12):
listen to me. Look, first of all, this young dude
to wrote this letter because he looking for answers because
he don't know. Now he got game, but he don't
have advanced game, because he writing a letter because he
don't know the answer. Your girlfriend and you've been together
for a year. You met her. She had just ended
(03:33):
relationship with a wealthy man that was nineteen years older
than her. Now you didn't say how old anybody is
in this letter, but just judging by the right the
way you write, I'm thinking, man, she bout twenty six.
I figured he bought forty six. That's just a guestiment
(03:55):
based on the way you're writing twenty six forty something
like that. This man spoiled her with expensive gifts. He
was her first sexually, so she was caught up for
a long time, oh just having for a while. He
offered to buy her kindor if she stayed with him,
but she realized that he was just trying to buy
(04:16):
her love and she wasn't really into him, so they
broke up. We've been dating since then. The old boyfriend
still calling, texts her and tells her whenever, and then
she tells me whenever she hears from him. I'm no fool,
So I've just been looking for signs of infidelity that
she is not giving me any reason not to trust her.
(04:36):
First of all, she ain't seeing the dude. She's a
good girl. She telling you every time to dude contact her.
But why does a woman notify you every time another
man called her calls? She wants you to know. She
(04:57):
want you to know he still calling, He still want me.
And you know why she notifying you Because she's trying
to send the signal to you that you need to
step up your game because you're lacking somewhere, partner. Now
here comes the real truth. Since you got game and everything,
but you ain't got advanced game all right now, I
(05:18):
ain't no food looking for him for Delhi not giving
me any reason trusting She's new to the game. Sound
like you new to the game. That's what it sound
like she knew to the game. You still knew what game.
So it's the old rich cat that I really don't trust.
Why does he have to check on her to see
if she's okay all the time? Because he won't her,
(05:41):
he won't hur back. And that's what grown asked men
do we call and we check on you, just saying, hey,
make sure and you're good. Don't want to see you
fall on hard times? Is everything okay? Hello? Partner? Old
(06:03):
player lines. I love him, Steve. I believe he waiting
for me to slip up so he can make his move.
He waiting on you to slip up. He made he moving.
He waiting on the damn thing you involved with the
girl and he texting her. Now you slipping and you
don't know it, young homie. She knew to the game.
(06:28):
You knew to the game. But hang on because Steve
to put your own game. You go get him right, boy,
say no games. This lining old and Paper two He
got old and with man. Boy, you ain't got a
chance your ass out. You know what I mean? You
(06:49):
you I don't even know you're going out, know it? Man?
Just love it about you. All right. Listen, we'll come
back with part two with the old players in the game. Yeah,
educate this young boy, all right, twenty three afters when
we're coming back, all right, The subject today is why
is her ex still checking on her dude dating this girl?
(07:10):
Man that was involved with this man that was nineteen
years old and her, he calling her old man. This
was her first sexual encounter, so she was caught up
with him for a while. She wanted he wanted to
buy him a condo. She stayed with him. She realized
he was just trying to buy love. They broke up.
Now you've been dating her, he's still checking on her.
You trying to figure out why her ex is still
(07:32):
checking on her because he wonta because he want her back.
You know how he got your girl. He was checking
on you. Know how he got your girl? He was
checking on See. Put is something the young boys don't
(07:53):
know how to do. See y'all don't check on women.
You call women because you want to chill and hook up,
you on the Netflix night. But you're gonna call him,
check on him, See how they're doing, See how they
day going, Did they need anything? Anything you can do
for him, help him solve problems. See that's what Groan
asked me, and he was, Jay is right there. Why
(08:18):
don't you check on him? No? See hold on, hold
let me finish this here for see. So what he
do is he he said it all up. Now now
you're talking about she knew to the game. So it's
the old rich cat that I really don't trust. Why
he got to check on it to see if she okay.
All the time, I believe he waiting on me to
slip up so he can make his move. Partner, He
(08:39):
already moving. He don't even give a damn about you.
You irrelevant. He texting your girl right now while y'all
all together. He ain't waiting on you to slip up.
He gonna cause you to slip up. He gonna show
a vast difference between him and you. He ain't waiting
on you to slip up. Here in the game, partner,
you know why because old school players, it ain't a game.
(09:02):
It's a contest. Everybody can get a blue ripping. Let's go. Recently,
she told me that he asked if I was taking
care of her the way he used to. I got game,
and I do what it takes to keep a smile
on my lady's face. That ain't what he asked a girl.
(09:22):
He asked a girl, what you taking care of her
the way he used to? The answer to that question
is now because your answer wasn't. Yale, See, you ain't
taking care of her the way he used to. You're
going back to I got game, game if I want
no damn game bought. This ain't videoing in the arcade,
(09:47):
this life. I know how to keep a smile on
my lady's face. I told, I told my lady that
he realizes he lost a good thing and there's no
no way that he just wants to be friends with her.
He your friend and none of them Texas. He asked,
your girl, where you taking care of her the way
(10:09):
he used to? That ain't trying to be friends. He
gonna get back into taking care of her business because
I think you ain't. I asked her to stop talking
to him. You go the clue, but she refused because
you know what what he talking about where different from
what you're talking about. Didn't you just tell us you
(10:32):
had a game where the game must be weak? Because
she want to hear something else as saying that she's
glad that they still friends, and she liked when he
checks on her. And you know why he liked when
you check on when you check on her, because you don't, man,
because you're so busy with your game, You're so busy
(10:53):
trying to put a smile on her face that you
don't really know how to check on her. You don't
care for her. I love your answers, you just want
to do something with it. I'm telling him, I'm giving
him your game. Let's just what he's doing wrong. This
old man is what she telling you? Is she trying
(11:15):
to put you on game so you can know what
game is. Because that little weak ass game you got
ain't worth for quality. So she keeps telling you every
time he called it what he said? Nah, and she
likes each other. Maybe I'm crazy, but this ain't sitting
well with me. Well he this shitn't I tell you?
She ain't gonna be sitting with you in a minute.
(11:39):
This old boyfriend is a wolf in sheep's clothing. No
he not, He just a wolf. He ain't got no
sheep's clothing on. The problem is a little boy you
are sheep? You in trouble, You up against you, up
against some deep odds man unless you really learn what
(12:00):
game is. And she's too naive to see it. Don't
she see exactly what it is. It's just what she
had before she don't have now. So she's staying in
touch with what she had before because she thinks what
she got No, I ain't gonna last. How do I
(12:21):
get this man to leave my girlfriend alone. Please calling.
Let's cut this out him. You want to get this
man to leave your girl alone? Calling, calling his number
in her phone, get her phone calling, tell him don't
call your woman no more or else what not. Let's
(12:43):
find out what kind of game. See. You may find
out that he cared more deeply for her than you do. See.
But now I'm ask you and I ain't saying you
got to get violent. That ain't what I'm saying to you.
But calling man, have a man to man and conversation
and tell him he can't call your girl no more.
(13:05):
You can convince him of that, then you got something.
If you can't convince him of that, you got nothing.
As he can't whoop this old dude ass man, that's
just nineteen years you're twenty six forty five. You're gonna
get your ass s thought. Now, Hey, this is begging
(13:26):
for a reenactment between you and Jay as the girl.
It is okay, whoa what do? When we come back? Listen?
You can email us your Instagram at your thoughts on
today's Strawberry Letards Steve Harvey FM. You're listening to Steve
Harvey Morning Show
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