Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

As Christ followers, we absolutely want to use the scriptures as our primary guide for living our lives. Afterall, as it says in 2 Tim. 3:16-17, all scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training, in righteousness so that the servant of God may be equipped for every good work.

We love God’s Word, but sometimes we can use scripture as a weapon.

On today’s show, we’ll talk about what it me...

We’ve walked the hard road of betrayal and addiction, and we know that half-measures simply don’t cut it when you are fighting for the heart of your marriage. True healing isn’t about just stopping the bad behavior—it’s about actively pursuing the life God intended for your covenant, even when the path is difficult.

Today, we’re talking about what it really takes to go the extra mile. We’re discussing why settling for the bare mi...

In our coaching practice, we see patterns emerge in different areas that tell a bigger story about what is going on in the minds husbands who have betrayed, and their traumatized wives.

Today we are going to talk about the scenario of a husband making suggestions for the recovery and healing of his wife. This is tricky ground. The husband’s motivation can come from a place of genuine concern or from something more self-serving. I...

Today, we want to talk about an extremely painful question betrayed wives ask their unfaithful husbands.

It’s a question that torments a wife when looking at the history of her marriage through the lens of infidelity.

Those memories of special times spent together - vacations, family events, wedding anniversaries - are tainted by the new knowledge that she wasn’t his one and only love.

She can’t wrap her mind around what his ...

Today, we’re tackling Triggers and Trauma Responses, post-betrayal alarms that test our commitment after infidelity is discovered in the marriage.

We talked over this topic in our last Unseen Beauty wives care group gathering and it’s something that all betrayed wives experience. Several of the women gave examples of recent triggers and some were able to give wonderful insights on how to handle them.

Today we’ll share what trig...

Sometimes recovery isn’t just killing one addiction—it can be like a game of Whack-a-Mole. Kill the sex addiction, and others pop up.

Picture this...you’re in an arcade, inexplicably drawn to the game called Whack-a-Mole. The idea of the game is when a mole pops up you whack it with a padded mallet, and as you strike it, it goes down into its hole.

But another one pops up in another area.

Now your attention is drawn to the on...

Imagine this: You’ve survived the gut-wrenching reality of Full Disclosure. The truth is out—presumably there are no more secrets.

After a long healing journey, you’re starting to breathe again.

Then… bam. A new revelation drops.

Is it a devastating setback… or the breakthrough you’ve been praying for?

Today, we share a real story and the benefits that can turn pain into progress—stick around!

We pray this blesses you,

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Today, we’re diving into one of the rawest pains a marriage can face: infidelity.

Specifically, that pivotal moment when the unfaithful spouse – often the husband – finally comes clean. He unloads decades of secrets, and suddenly his prison of guilt and shame cracks open. Freedom hits him like a wave of hope.

But for the wife? Those same words shatter her world. She’s left carrying the weight he shed, and now she’s trapped in h...

Is honesty just as simple as telling the truth, or is there more to it?

We are going to unpack that question to reveal some nuances of truth telling that some may not have considered before.

But isn’t truth, truth?

Yes, truth is always truth, but what we’ve discovered through our own healing journey is that inside of the practice of telling the truth, there are layers that are not necessarily obvious.

Today’s topic is not e...

In our previous episode, we were focusing on questions some husbands and wives have about the need for a Full Therapeutic Disclosure as well as some of the reasons couples hesitate to engage in this process. 

We have seen some amazing restoration of marriages through this process and today we’re going to talk about disclosure, not just what happens inside of a Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but also what happens after as couples co...

Today we’re going to talk about something that strikes fear into the heart of every husband who has been unfaithful - Full Therapeutic Disclosure.

It’s a topic that sounds scary, but it is one of the best tools for recovery that we have discovered and implemented into our coaching practice.

Not only for husbands who have been unfaithful, but also for their betrayed wives.

We have seen God do some amazing things through this p...

How is it already 2026? The start of a new year is an opportunity to look back and reflect on the experiences we've been through and what they've taught us.

But the new year isn’t just about looking back; it's also a chance to look forward and spend some time imagining what could be.

It’s easy to feel stuck in the present and think that things might never change or improve.

It's like trudging down a bumpy street, head down, w...

We hope you were able to find some special moments this Christmas even if you are walking through the pain of sexual betrayal. You may be really glad that this year is ending, but not sure next year will be any better.

We’re just dropping in for a quick message of encouragement today and give you some hope and direction for this coming year.

We are sharing an inspiring and meaningful message from Sarah Young the author of Jesus...

As a wife, you may be reeling from the news of sexual betrayal and you are in shock, grieving, and lost.

Or as a husband, your infidelity may have recently been discovered and the shame is suffocating and you feel like you are going to lose your wife and everyone who truly matters to you.

And you may be saying to yourself, “I am alone and I have no hope”.

Our mission here at Beyond Broken Vows is to tell our story of how sexu...

True healing from sexual sin and betrayal is a journey that goes beyond just stopping certain behaviors; it demands a fundamental transformation of the heart.

For husbands, the journey to rebuild trust and find healing can be challenging, filled with obstacles that can slow down progress and unintentionally cause more conflict. Often we can get in our own way without realizing it.

In this episode, we'll identify six spiritual a...

When a wife discovers her husband’s sexual betrayal, her world shatters. The path to healing is difficult enough without unknowingly creating additional roadblocks.

In this episode, we explore 4 common but counterproductive patterns that keep Christian wives stuck in their pain.

We’ll identify these self-sabotaging behaviors, uncover the biblical truths that dismantle them, and provide practical steps to help you start moving f...

After the discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal in a marriage, couples who choose to stay married and embrace the healing and recovery journey, will eventually need to address their sexuality again.

This will look different for every couple, but the ultimate goal is to have a healthier sexual intimacy than before the destruction of porn-fueled infidelity came to light.

We have been working on this part of our marriage rel...

We understand you may be in the middle of the fall-out from sexual betrayal in your marriage. Maybe you just found out, or you have been found out. Maybe you’ve been walking this path for a while and still feel like you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

As the holiday season approaches, this unwanted and extremely painful circumstance can destroy all the anticipation of spending special time with family and friends. T...

The aftermath of sexual betrayal is a complete upheaval of a marriage’s foundation. It doesn’t just damage trust—it systematically dismantles it, leaving a wife questioning her entire reality. The world she knew is gone, replaced by a landscape of pain, confusion, and profound uncertainty.

For husbands who have broken our marriage vows, this new reality teaches us a critical truth: trust is not a default setting. It's more like a...