Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

For twenty-two years, Tricia’s marriage carried a quiet, underlying tension. Five years in, she discovered her husband’s pornography use.

For decades after, she lived in a state of constant, lonely hypervigilance, trying to manage the distance without any outside help.

Then, the ground beneath her completely gave way.

After a coworker pursued her husband, a series of crossed boundaries turned into a 10-month affair. ...

The trauma in Heidi’s marriage didn’t start with a slow fade. It started the day after her wedding, when she answered a phone call from a woman her new husband had been sexually involved with.

For the next 17 years, Heidi lived in the fog of a marriage that looked fine on the outside. But inside, she felt married to a stranger.

Then the facade broke again when she discovered extensive pornography on her husband’...

On paper, R.D. and his wife had a life built on a foundation of faith and family. But in the quiet moments, the immense weight of family life and financial strain left R.D. looking for an escape.

He found it in pornography and online chat rooms—a secret life that kept him isolated from the people he loved most.

When a digital extortionist threatened to expose his hidden life, the secret didn’t just leak—it explo...

Note: Our guest’s name has been changed for privacy.

Before she and her husband got married, he told her about his childhood sexual abuse and same-sex attraction. He said he was in counseling. She thought it was handled.

It wasn’t.

Thirty-eight years, four children, multiple betrayals, a rehab stint, and a relapse later, Suzanne knows the truth: healing is not a one-time decision. It’s a daily surrender.

This ...

They met at a homeschool ski lesson when they were eight. Married young. Kids came fast. On paper, it was a dream.

Behind closed doors, it was falling apart.

Poor communication. Resentment. Faith tension. And in secret, Jacob’s pornography addiction escalated into sexual experiences outside his marriage. They were living entirely separate lives.

Then God showed up at a marriage retreat.

During deliverance prayer, Jacob ex...

For decades, Felicia believed she was in a close, happy marriage—until a quiet afternoon in October 2022 revealed a hidden reality that shattered her world in an instant.     Felicia walks us through the profound shock of discovering her husband’s secret pornography addiction. She shares the painful aftermath: the feelings of isolation, the well-meaning but misguided advice to “just forgive,” and...

In this episode of our Summer Stories of Hope series, we speak with Kevin about his recovery journey and the restoration of his marriage. For years, Kevin struggled with a cycle of pornography use and secrecy that created significant distance in his relationship with his wife.

Kevin shares his experience of the discovery process, the difficult season that followed, including time spent apart, and the immediate start of counseling ...

Welcome to our “Summer Stories of Hope” series.     In this episode, we share Aimee’s story—a journey that forces us to look at how we survive when the ground beneath our feet shifts, not once, but repeatedly.     After thirty years of marriage and surviving the unimaginable agony of losing both her daughters, Aimee’s husband delivered the final blow: a confession of a long-term por...

We started the Beyond Broken Vows podcast with nothing but a desire to obey God’s call in the middle of our own shattered marriage.

Now, looking back after three years of walking through that fire with Him, we know one thing for certain: He is the ultimate Redeemer.

Our journey has been defined by the hard, holy work of surrender, and we are here to invite you into that same hope.

If you’re listening to us today and ...

We often talk about the weight of sexual betrayal, but rarely do we discuss the invisible, spiritual webs that keep us tethered to our past. A soul tie is more than just a memory; it is an emotional and spiritual connection formed when we yield our body and heart to another.

While God established this spiritual framework to be the cornerstone of a healthy, covenant marriage, the Enemy of our souls loves to pervert it, using it to ...

In our series, Beyond the Wall of Isolation, we’ve spent the last several weeks dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame. We’ve talked about the masks we wear, the burdens we carry, and the importance of a united front when it comes to our children.

But we know that for many of you, this series feels like it might be a little late. You’re listening and thinking, &ld...

In our current series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame.

Today we’re tackling something that keeps a lot of parents awake at night…

Should we talk to the kids about the betrayal?

And if so, when?

And how?

When hiding the reality of our marriage from our kids, we aren’t just trying to protect them; we are navigating a...

In our ongoing series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are stripping away the myths that keep Christian couples stuck in cycles of secrecy and shame.

Building on our conversations about why “keeping it in-house” never protects a marriage, today’s episode walks through eight fears that stop many wives from sharing their story with others.

Join us as we address these obstacles head-on and discuss how to find the ...

Have you encountered one of the most dangerous traps in the entire recovery process?

Today we’re talking to husbands, who have been unfaithful to their wives, about the myth of “Managing the Reputation” which can trap men, and marriages, in isolation.

Husband’s, you may be terrified of what people will think if they see the reality behind the mask you wear. You’re holding onto the “honorable&rd...

Isolation is the secret weapon of betrayal. When a husband is hiding a life of porn or stepping outside the marriage for sex, he’s essentially building a wall. He’s living a double life, and that wall keeps his wife on the outside holding her breath, while he’s off in his own dark, private world.

It kills intimacy, it kills trust, and honestly, it turns marriage into a performance.

The goal is to dismantle the w...

In this episode, we explore the destructive cycle of objectification, which is the act of stripping away a person’s humanity to turn them into a mere object for our own selfish purposes.

Whether performed mentally through imagination, emotionally to soothe personal discomfort, verbally, or physically, this objectification mindset can be a gateway to sin.

When we begin to view others as parts rather than as individuals with ...

Hello Man of God,

Have you been stuck in a seemingly unending cycle of persistent sexual integrity issues - be it pornography, one-night stands, sex workers, or long-term sexual relationships, only to find yourself in prayer, at the "alter" or at the "foot of the cross" asking God to remove this sin from your life?

Did God answer you??

Did God remove your desire for pornography??

For many of us the answer was no. For some, the ...

In this episode, we reflect on the sacred weight of Passion Week, and invite you to pause and turn your eyes toward the transformative final days of Jesus’s earthly life.

From the triumphant shouts of Palm Sunday to the agonizing solitude of Gethsemane and the ultimate sacrifice at the Cross, this week is a reminder that the path to redemption always requires a death.

We reflect on the gravity of what Jesus endured for us, ...

As Christ followers, we absolutely want to use the scriptures as our primary guide for living our lives. Afterall, as it says in 2 Tim. 3:16-17, all scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training, in righteousness so that the servant of God may be equipped for every good work.

We love God’s Word, but sometimes we can use scripture as a weapon.

On today’s show, we’ll talk ...