Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast
Allesanda Tolomei- Hard A.K.A. Mrs. Hard of www.mrs-hard.com is your grounded, empathetic, compassionate wellness coach. She shares her experience to help you heal challenging personal and family relationship problems with tried-and-true methods to set healthy boundaries and detach with love. If you are ready to experience fulfilling, meaningful connections you are in the right place. You can transform difficult relationships and find happiness without putting aside your needs or waiting for others to change. Let people-pleasing and codependence fall away and say goodbye to hard times for good.
Episodes
Feeling stretched thin, burnt out, or like you’re running on fumes?
You’re not alone.
In this episode, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard (aka Mrs. Hard) shares simple but powerful tools to help you refill your energetic cup so you can feel like yourself again—without needing to run away from your life.
Whether you’re a caregiver, a people-pleaser, or someone who naturally takes on too much, you’ll hear:
-Why burnout cycles are normal (and ...
If you’ve been feeling heavy, anxious, or emotionally drained—but you can’t explain why—this episode of the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast is for you.
Grief isn’t always about losing a loved one to death. Sometimes it’s about emotional pain you carry when someone changes, when life doesn’t turn out the way you planned, or when you’re navigating big transitions.
In this powerful episode, wellness and relationship coach A...
Parenting is a journey filled with unknowns, especially when you're supporting a neurodivergent child or a teen navigating gender identity.
In this episode, I sit down with Joanna Whitely, founder of Sounds Like Sunshine Parenting, to talk about how parents can stay grounded, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate trust—without falling into the trap of control or fear.
Joanna shares her personal journey of leaving a high-control...
In this heartfelt episode of the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard shares her personal journey of loss and resilience after losing her home to the Atlas Fire in 2017. As Los Angeles faces the Eaton Fire, Palisades Fire, and others, Allesanda offers guidance, hope, and practical tools for those grieving or feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty. Whether you're coping with the direct impact of wild...
Are you a people-pleaser who dreads the overwhelm of the holiday season? In this episode, we explore how you can set boundaries, practice acceptance, and reconnect with your feelings to reduce stress and find more joy. The holidays don’t have to drain you—they can be a time of peace and connection when you prioritize what truly matters.
Listen to hear how to:
>> Create essential holiday boundaries.
>> Say no...
Feeling burnt out from having too much on your plate?
Are there people who need you constantly—whether at work or in your family?
Trust me, you’re not alone.
Setting boundaries can be hard, and taking time for self-care can feel next to impossible when time is short. It can feel like pushing through is the only option, hoping the universe will eventually hand you a break.
Today, I want to share a few reminders to...
In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and office roommate, Jodi, who has been a massage therapist for almost 20 years and is also a dedicated yoga teacher. Jodi shares her wisdom on how yoga and massage therapy can help us become more present in our lives, relieve stress, and cultivate a loving relationship with ourselves. Tune in to learn more about how tuning into your breath, body, and mind can support your well-being an...
In this episode, Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, is joined by Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale, an intuitive healer and holistic chiropractor. Together, they explore the powerful connection between your physical and spiritual selves, offering insights into how you can navigate the chaos of everyday life with greater calm and clarity.
Dr. Debbie shares her expertise on the importance of grounding and resetting your energy systems,...
Join Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, as she explores the transformative power of embracing your worthiness and living a life of joy. If you’ve ever struggled with self-worth or found yourself waiting for external circumstances to change before you allow yourself to experience happiness, this episode is for you.
Mrs. Hard shares her personal stories, practical insights, and powerful techniques to help you rewire your brain...
In this impactful episode, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, explores a simple yet powerful approach to managing stressful relationships with grace and compassion. This episode is particularly beneficial for anyone dealing with challenging relationships, whether they are familial, romantic, or professional.
We are going to talk about...
- How detachment doesn't mean disconnecting but maintaining healthy boundaries...
In 2016, I had a wild adventure on the Pacific Crest Trail that led me to start my own business. I elaborate on this unexpected event in this podcast episode.
The short story is that burnout from pushing too hard on the trail ultimately led me to start my first business as a massage therapist.
Being in business has brought up many parts of myself that have been hard to look at: anxiety, perfectionism, self-worth issues, codependenc...
I’m super excited to have my good friend, business collaborator, and photographer, Lisa Fonville, on the show today.
Lisa is much more than just a photographer and branding expert—she creates soulful art through deep connections with her clients. Her ability to capture their true essence comes from the journey she undertakes with them before they even step in front of the camera.
In this episode, we talk about:
- What Lisa, ...
If you have ever struggled with meditation, this is for YOU!
Sitting with your thoughts can be hard, and some people believe meditation is all about having a clear, thoughtless mind, in a totally serene environment, and feeling totally at peace within.
From my experience, that idea is a little unrealistic. Sometimes a meditation session is peaceful, but more often, your mind is all over the place, telling you not to forget ...
I’ve got two questions for you:
1. Are you a caregiver?
2. Do you struggle with anxiety?
If you answered “YES” to either of those questions, this episode is for you!
Anxiety and caregiving have been huge parts of my life. As you may know, I was a caregiver for my father for over ten years and cared for my mother when she was dying of cancer. My whole life, I’ve been drawn to helping others.
And if you’ve been a caregiver,...
Have you ever wondered if the energy you're putting into your relationships is actually helpful, or if it's just making you the one they always rely on?
If your answer is “YES!”, I’ve got a treat for you this week—a special “BEST OF" podcast episode!
This one is a fan favorite, and it's all about a topic that you, as a generous soul, may struggle with: helping versus enabling.
In this episode, we'll...
This world has been feeling a bit chaotic lately, and it’s understandable if you’ve been overwhelmed.
I’m right there with you.
That’s why I have asked Dr. Debbie Victoria Seale, chiropractor and clairvoyant, to join me on the podcast this week to talk about anxiety and stress relief during these challenging times.
Listen to...
- Receive a healing for anxiety from Dr. Debbie.
- Discover how to heal yourself and help ...
In this episode, we're diving deep into a transformative meditative practice (it’s not quite a meditation but has similar vibes) designed to help you call in abundance and release stress and chaos.
Because lately, things have been a bit crazy for myself and so many people I know. Mercury is almost out of retrograde but its impact is still lingering, and this may or may not have created a larger IRS bill for you than you ex...
In this episode, I'm switching things up a bit by sharing something special with you.
I've had a few requests for it, so I'm excited to introduce a guided meditation session aimed at helping you build a stronger, more trusting relationship with yourself.
This meditation isn't your typical podcast episode; it's a journey towards boosting resilience and finding inner peace amidst life'...
Tell me, have you ever found yourself in these situations?
Have you ever made a commitment to cut back on sweets or alcohol, only to end up bingeing late at night and feeling guilty the next day?
Have you ever strayed from your health plan mid-day, thinking, 'I'll start fresh tomorrow,' instead of forgiving yourself and moving forward?
Have you ever ghosted someone in a relationship because things were go...
Let’s talk about the raw challenges of stepmom life, the REAL secret to having a perfect body, and the battle with perfectionism.
This week on the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, I have my good friend and personal trainer Laisha Ames on the show.
Laisha's not just a personal trainer—she's also a stepmom extraordinaire and a pro at helping women tackle body image issues, perfectionism, and the juggling act of s...
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