Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery
The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ. Ranked Top 2% Globally Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you? Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go? Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked. Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment. On this podcast, you’ll find: A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole. If you’re ready to: Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation Experience God’s love without fear or striving Break familiar patterns for good Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play. This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus. --- Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
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There's a part of me that still misses him. Why can't I make her stop?
Because fighting her was never going to work. Today I'm teaching you a completely different approach and walking through all six steps out loud with my own real part, so you can hear what it actually sounds like.
This is part 1 of a 3-part seri...
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How do I trust myself again when I stopped believing my own judgment a long time ago?
Today’s guest felt the warning. More than one. And she talked herself out of every single one, until it cost her nearly everything.
Chel Cartmill is a Next Chapter Transition Specialist and a Certified Trauma-Informed Master Coach who has been walking people through d...
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I gave him my phone code. I share my location. I tell him where I'm going before he asks. So why does he still look at me like that?
Today I'm telling you the truth about what you can actually control when it comes to rebuilding trust and why the thing you're building is worth it, when it doesn't produce the result you want.
I walk through my own list ...
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Ever thought, "How long is this supposed to take? Why am I still not okay? Is something wrong with me?"
Nobody gives you a timeline. So today I'm giving you an honest one. It's longer than you want to hear, but I give you something at the end that actually helps.
I share the full range of women I work with right now: one who ended things last week, and one wh...
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I'm home, and I promised I'd tell you what happened last weekend.
A group of women walked into a beach house in Florida for the Encounter Retreat and left completely different. Today I'm telling you what God did in that room, what shifted in the women, and the thing He said to me on the beach that I can't stop thinking about.
We cover:
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Why doesn't anything I try stick? I've made the decision a hundred times. I've prayed about it. So why am I still here?
I just got home from the Encounter Retreat, and I'm changing what I planned to record today because every single breakthrough in that beach house happened in the same order, and I want to tell you about it.
Safety in the...
I'm leaving on a jet plane tomorrow. And I have a prayer request.
I’m heading towards a beach house in Florida where a group of women are about to meet God, and I want you in it with us. So today I'm sharing exactly what I'm asking Him for, and praying the same things over you.
What I'm praying:
- That every woman there, including me, would have a life-changing encounter with God
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The affair is over. We did the work. So why does my marriage feel like nothing? Was all of that for nothing?
No. Something is starting, and today I want to show you what it is.
What you're feeling is normal, and almost nobody talks about it. The story we get handed goes...
⚠️ Content note: Mike shares that in the hours after discovering the affair, he thought about ending his life. He's years past that now, but we want you to know before you press play.
What is my husband actually going through? What does he need that he isn't saying? And what is all of this doing to his body?
Today's guest works on the other side of our story, and I asked him here on purpose.
Mike Moulton coaches men through betraya...
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Ten days from now, a group of women will walk into a beach house in Florida, and today I'm telling you who's coming, what we're doing there, and the one thing every woman who said yes has in common.
We cover:
- Who’s coming: women weeks out from ending an affair and women years remo...
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What does real accountability actually look like? What did he do that made staying possible? And how long does rebuilding trust really take?
Twenty-three years into her marriage, Lora Cheadle found out her husband had been unfaithful for fifteen years with five different women. ...
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I've confessed. I've repented. I've even forgiven myself. So why do I still feel guilty?
Because guilt keeps sending a bill long after the debt is paid, and it doesn't argue with your theology. It just quietly runs your life.
Today I'm getting specific about what guilt was makin...
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Can I go back to church after this? Do I have to tell anyone? What if my church wouldn't handle it well?
There's a specific kind of hard in sitting through a service carrying something nobody in the room knows about. Standing while the music plays, wondering if you have any right to s...
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Why does my body react before I even know why? Why can't I control this? Shouldn't my faith be enough?
Today I'm telling you about the night I stood in the rain knocking on a door nobody was answering, knowing exactly how irrational it looked and being completely unable to stop.
Here'...
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No framework today. No five steps. Today I'm simply telling you what I've been praying, over the Encounter Retreat coming in four weeks, and over you.
I share where my mind keeps landing as I've sat with the word encounter: Moses and the burning bush, and the moment that changed everything. Because there is no way to encounter the living God and come back unchanged. The woman at the well didn't. T...
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Can I really be close to someone who doesn't know? Am I being fake by not telling her? Who actually needs to know, and who doesn't?
A client asked me this recently and I haven't stopped thinking about it. She said it feels like there's a huge part of her she's keeping hidden, and it's not a smal...
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Why don't I know who I am anymore? Why does the shame feel this specific? And what does it actually take to let go?
Today I'm joined by Lauren LaRusso, licensed psychotherapist, author of Beyond Infidelity, and someone who has walked through her own betrayal and sat with hundreds of clients in t...
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Why can't I stick to anything? I'll finally get around to caring for myself once life slows down…
Back in the spring I was asked about whether I'd actually follow through on a plan I'd been sitting on for months. I answered honestly: probably not, but it'll be easier when my schedule open...
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Am I doing this right? How do I know if I'm actually healing? And what am I even working toward?
Most women in affair recovery are measuring themselves against a scoreboard they never agreed to. One where the only metric is whether the marriage survived. Today I want to hand you a different one.
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Why do I still miss him? I've done the work, I know what's true, so why can't I fully cut him off? What is wrong with me?
Nothing. There's a part of you doing exactly what she was built to do, and today I'm teaching you how to lead her instead of fighting her.
This episode is Internal Family Sys...
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