The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

How to Remember to DO the Skill in the Moment When You Need it Most

Ever learned a great ADHD strategy… only to completely forget to use it when you actually needed it? You're not alone—and you're definitely not doing it wrong.

In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way, Jen Barnes shares two ADHD-friendly approaches to help you actually remember to use your regulation skills and stra...

What do you do when even your best ADHD strategies stop working?

In this powerful episode, we explore what’s really going on when the tools, systems, and techniques that once helped you manage your ADHD suddenly fall flat—or never worked in the first place. Spoiler: it's not because you're doing it wrong.

You’ll learn:

• Why ADHD-friendly strategies lose their...

🎙 Episode 103: ADHD and Cognitive Distortions – What They Are and What to Do Instead

 

Do you ever spiral over something small—like a dead bug on the floor—and suddenly you’re convinced your whole life is unraveling?

That’s not just anxiety. That’s a cognitive distortion—and ADHD brains are especially prone to them.

In this episode, Jen Barnes, ADHD Success Coac...

🎧 ADHD Self-Doubt – How to Stop Chasing External Answers and Do What Works

If you're an ADHD woman who's ever thought, "Maybe I just need one more course, one more expert, one more answer to finally figure it all out," you're not alone—and this episode is for you.

In this raw, eye-opening conversation, Jen shares her personal journey through self-doubt, perfectionism, and a $55,000 wake-u...

In this episode of the ADHD Success Coach Podcast, Jen breaks down:

• Why ADHD women are more sensitive to blood sugar crashes and sugar spikes
• How sugar gives a dopamine hit—but causes a crash that worsens ADHD symptoms
• What the stress response has to do with your lunch (yep, really!)
• The impact of perimenop...

You’ve got the planners, the timers, the dopamine-boosting routines. You’re doing all the things… So why do you still feel stuck?

In this special 100th episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hidden emotional obstacles that quietly sabotage even the smartest, most resourced ADHD women. I’m talking about fear, self-doubt, and insecurity—not the loud kind, but the kind that hides behind perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overf...

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just do the things?”—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I’m joined by Jesse J. Anderson—also known as @ADHDJesse—author of the bestselling book Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD. Jesse shares what it was like to be diagnosed in adulthood, how undiagnosed ADHD impacted his career and relationships, and what changed when he started working with his brain instead of again...

Ever feel like your brain is both frozen AND scattered at the same time?  Like you feel that vibrating, urgency type energy in your body but you just can’t even?

This happened to me TODAY - the day I had an entirely different podcast episode I wanted to record.  It was like a sign from the universe to share what you can do when this happens.

In this episode we’ll explore what this feels like, what is happening, and how to come out ...

If motivation feels like it comes in hot and then vanishes without warning, you’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone.

In this episode, I’m getting real about what it takes to cultivate sustainable motivation when you have ADHD. I’m sharing why the usual advice ("just be more disciplined") doesn’t work for our brains, and what to do instead.

I’ll walk you through the science of motivation and dopamine, and five ADHD-friendl...

Do you find yourself feeling guilty or even ashamed of your anger?  Or maybe you have people telling you not to get so upset?  (Or even a spouse who tells you that you have an “anger problem” when the reality is you are the one carry all of the mental load and most of the physical load of your household?) You are not alone.  Unfortunately, this is not uncommon for women.

The problem is, our rage, our anger is both valid and necess...

Ya know how there are things you could do that you KNOW would help your ADHD, but how you just can’t seem to do them?

If this is you, you’re not alone.  This is one of the most common things I hear from ADHD women.

AND, in our last episode we explored an amazing tool from motivational interviewing to help.

BUT what if you tried it and it didn’t work?  Or you can’t even get yourself to do it?

That’s what this episode is for!  We’ll ...

One of the biggest struggles I see in ADHD women is getting themselves to do the things they know would help their ADHD - things I call “ADHD care”.  Given the busy-ness most women, especially ADHD women, experience, plus the way our brains are wired, this makes sense.  It truly can be hard to get ourselves to do stuff.  AND, it’s possible.

 

In this episode we’ll explore the challenges of getting yourself to do your ADHD care cons...

Today, we're diving into one of the most intense emotional struggles for ADHDers: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD. If you've ever felt like a single comment or perceived criticism sent you into a tailspin—overthinking, self-blame, that heavy emotional crash—you are so not alone. I've been there. Recently.

But here's the good news: there's a way out of the spiral.

In this episode, I’m sharing two crucial practices that helpe...

How to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking About

You know that moment when you need to start something—maybe it’s an email, a project, or just loading the dishwasher—but instead, you’re frozen? Like your brain is spinning in circles, screaming just do it, while your body refuses to cooperate?

That’s ADHD task paralysis, and if you’ve ever been trapped in that stuck feeling, you know how frustrating—no, madden...

Podcast Introduction: "ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0"

Do you ever feel like your sense of justice is cranked up to full volume—so loud it’s impossible to ignore? Like you’re walking around with an internal siren that blares at every unfairness, every hypocrisy, every outright attack on basic human rights?

If you’re an ADHD woman, chances are you’re nodding along right now. Justice sensitivity isn’t just s...

Procrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About

Have you ever stared at your to-do list, knowing exactly what you need to do—but somehow, you just can’t start? Or maybe you start, but then obsess over every little detail until you feel completely stuck? What if I told you that procrastination and perfectionism aren’t opposites—but two sides of the same ADHD struggle?

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the...

Traditional therapy can be super harmful to ADHDers (even with well-meaning therapists).  In this episode, we’ll unpack how that happens and what to do instead.

You’ll walk away with clarity around what you truly need to navigate this neurotypical world effectively with your ADHD brain, without losing yourself in the process.

Be sure to listen!

 

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Ever notice how it feels almost painful to get yourself to do certain tasks?  Or loke there is a complete block to even starting even when you want to?

This is super common with ADHD and is what we will explore together in this episode.

When we feel blocked around a task and don’t find a way to do it, we often end up with unfavorable consequences like penalties and fees, people being mad at or disappointed in us, losing things, or ...

To mask or unmask? This is often a serious question that many ADHD Women face - even if only subconsciously.

It’s tricky because when we mask and communicate in neurotypical ways, we more easily avoid getting into “trouble” or rejected with a massive RSD hangover.

But then, we may come across as inauthentic and feel like no one gets us, making us feel alone and even rejected.

I won’t pretend ot have all of the answers here and yet ...