The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

Most ADHD women think distraction means pings, notifications, or people interrupting.

But what if the biggest distractions aren’t outside of you at all?

In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way Podcast, we're pulling back the curtain on the invisible distractions happening inside your own mind — the kind that steal your time, drain your energy, and erode your confidence without you ...

I thought I was done with people pleasing. I’d built boundaries, learned to say no, and told myself I was free from it. But when I moved back to Minnesota—and started building my second business—it snuck back in.

I found myself undercharging, over-delivering, and slipping back into perfectionism. The result? Burnout, loneliness, and even physical symptoms like poor sleep, digestive issues, and constant t...

Ever feel surrounded by people yet rarely truly seen?

If friendships feel complicated, imbalanced, or oddly exhausting, in this episode we’ll unpack why ADHD can make connection harder—especially for high-achieving women who’ve masked for years and can’t figure out why friends drift or dynamics feel one-sided.

By the end, you’ll walk away with… • Language to name what’s been happening in yo...

Ever fantasized about quitting everything and disappearing for a month?

That urge to escape might be more than burnout.

In this episode, we’ll unpack the hidden overlap between ADHD, anxiety, and depression—especially in high-achieving women who have spent their lives masking, people-pleasing, and pushing through.

I’ll share my own story of “smiling depression” as a successful...

Why High-Achieving Women Think They Can’t Be ADHD

So many ADHD women don’t even consider the possibility that they have ADHD—especially if they’ve been successful on the outside.

If you’ve ever thought: “But I did well in school… I’m productive at work… I can hyper-focus when I need to… there’s no way I could be ADHD,” you’re not alone.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the 1...

Urgent vs. Important with ADHD: Why Distractions Feel Impossible to Resist

Have you ever sat down to do one simple thing — like send an email — and forty minutes later you’ve chased a dozen distractions, fixed something that wasn’t urgent, and now you feel scattered and frustrated?

That’s the ADHD distraction cycle. In this episode, I’m unpacking why ADHD brains treat everything like it’s u...

ADHD Burnout: When My Body Forced Me to Stop

This week, my ADHD body said “no more.”

I woke up with neck pain, brain fog, and zero energy—and I realized I had hit the wall of burnout. For years, I’ve pushed, achieved, and over-functioned, but this time my body forced me to stop.

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of what that day looked like, the wake-up call it gav...

The ADHD Morning Routine Fix That Finally Works

Have you ever built the “perfect” morning routine, felt amazing for three days, and then suddenly watched it all fall apart? You’re not alone. ADHD brains aren’t built for rigid routines. We crave novelty, our energy shifts from day to day, and shame sets in when consistency doesn’t look the way it’s “supposed” to.

In this episode, I’ll walk y...

Real Talk: Why Fun Feels “Undeserved” with ADHD

Many ADHD women live by an unspoken rule: no fun until all the work is done. But with an ADHD brain, the work never ends—and joy, connection, and true rest keep getting pushed further down the list.

In this episode, I’m getting real about why fun often feels “undeserved” when you have ADHD, how perfectionism and over-functioning keep you trapp...

Stop Trying to Fix Yourself: The Powerful Truth About Healing and Self-Love

So many ADHD women spend years thinking, “If I can just fix what’s wrong with me, I’ll finally feel okay.”

But what if there was never anything wrong with you to begin with?

In this episode, I’m sharing a different way to think about healing—not as a project to “get right,” but as a journey of becomin...

Ever get stuck in a loop, replaying conversations, overanalyzing decisions, or spiraling in self-doubt?

You’re not alone—and it’s not just anxiety.

In this episode, Jen breaks down the neuroscience behind ADHD overthinking, how it's different from anxiety, and why traditional advice like “just stop thinking about it” never works for ADHD brains.

You'll learn:

ADHD Burnout - or is it that your DONE People Pleasing?

Have you ever wondered if you're really burnt out… or if you’re just done people pleasing?

In this episode, I’m sharing something I wish more ADHD women (including me) heard sooner: sometimes we’re not exhausted from doing too much—we’re exhausted from being too much for everyone else. From performing. From holding it all together. Fro...

Stop "Controlling" Your Emotions with ADHD: How to ACTUALLY Work with Big Feelings

Do you ever feel like your emotions are just too much—or maybe like you’ve suppressed them so long that you barely feel them at all?

If you're an ADHD woman who’s been told you’re “too sensitive,” or if you’ve spent years trying to manage or control your emotions so others won’t be uncomfortab...

ADHD Women: The High Cost of Being a “Pleasant Child”

In this vulnerable episode, I open up about something I’ve only recently started to fully unpack: how my colicky infancy may have been the beginning of my lifelong masking as a woman with ADHD.

What happens when the only way we feel loved is by being quiet, easy, and accommodating?

We’ll talk about early emotional abandonme...

Healing ADHD Burnout by Reclaiming Your Feminine Power (with Eleonore de Posson)

If you’ve ever found yourself teetering on the edge of burnout—over-functioning, disconnected from your body, and stuck in “fix it” mode—this episode is your permission slip to pause.

This week, I’m re-airing one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast, with spiritual teacher and author Eleon...

How to Remember to DO the Skill in the Moment When You Need it Most

Ever learned a great ADHD strategy… only to completely forget to use it when you actually needed it? You're not alone—and you're definitely not doing it wrong.

In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way, Jen Barnes shares two ADHD-friendly approaches to help you actually remember to use your regulation skills and stra...

What do you do when even your best ADHD strategies stop working?

In this powerful episode, we explore what’s really going on when the tools, systems, and techniques that once helped you manage your ADHD suddenly fall flat—or never worked in the first place. Spoiler: it's not because you're doing it wrong.

You’ll learn:

• Why ADHD-friendly strategies lose their...

🎙 Episode 103: ADHD and Cognitive Distortions – What They Are and What to Do Instead

Do you ever spiral over something small—like a dead bug on the floor—and suddenly you’re convinced your whole life is unraveling?

That’s not just anxiety. That’s a cognitive distortion—and ADHD brains are especially prone to them.

In this episode, Jen Barnes, ADHD Success Coac...

🎧 ADHD Self-Doubt – How to Stop Chasing External Answers and Do What Works

If you're an ADHD woman who's ever thought, "Maybe I just need one more course, one more expert, one more answer to finally figure it all out," you're not alone—and this episode is for you.

In this raw, eye-opening conversation, Jen shares her personal journey through self-doubt, perfectionism, and a $55,000 wake-u...