The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

You’ve got the planners, the timers, the dopamine-boosting routines. You’re doing all the things… So why do you still feel stuck?

In this special 100th episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hidden emotional obstacles that quietly sabotage even the smartest, most resourced ADHD women. I’m talking about fear, self-doubt, and insecurity—not the loud kind, but the kind that hides behind perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overf...

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just do the things?”—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I’m joined by Jesse J. Anderson—also known as @ADHDJesse—author of the bestselling book Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD. Jesse shares what it was like to be diagnosed in adulthood, how undiagnosed ADHD impacted his career and relationships, and what changed when he started working with his brain instead of again...

Ever feel like your brain is both frozen AND scattered at the same time?  Like you feel that vibrating, urgency type energy in your body but you just can’t even?

This happened to me TODAY - the day I had an entirely different podcast episode I wanted to record.  It was like a sign from the universe to share what you can do when this happens.

In this episode we’ll explore what this feels like, what is happening, and how to come out ...

If motivation feels like it comes in hot and then vanishes without warning, you’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone.

In this episode, I’m getting real about what it takes to cultivate sustainable motivation when you have ADHD. I’m sharing why the usual advice ("just be more disciplined") doesn’t work for our brains, and what to do instead.

I’ll walk you through the science of motivation and dopamine, and five ADHD-friendl...

Do you find yourself feeling guilty or even ashamed of your anger?  Or maybe you have people telling you not to get so upset?  (Or even a spouse who tells you that you have an “anger problem” when the reality is you are the one carry all of the mental load and most of the physical load of your household?) You are not alone.  Unfortunately, this is not uncommon for women.

The problem is, our rage, our anger is both valid and necess...

Ya know how there are things you could do that you KNOW would help your ADHD, but how you just can’t seem to do them?

If this is you, you’re not alone.  This is one of the most common things I hear from ADHD women.

AND, in our last episode we explored an amazing tool from motivational interviewing to help.

BUT what if you tried it and it didn’t work?  Or you can’t even get yourself to do it?

That’s what this episode is for!  We’ll ...

One of the biggest struggles I see in ADHD women is getting themselves to do the things they know would help their ADHD - things I call “ADHD care”.  Given the busy-ness most women, especially ADHD women, experience, plus the way our brains are wired, this makes sense.  It truly can be hard to get ourselves to do stuff.  AND, it’s possible.

 

In this episode we’ll explore the challenges of getting yourself to do your ADHD care cons...

Today, we're diving into one of the most intense emotional struggles for ADHDers: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD. If you've ever felt like a single comment or perceived criticism sent you into a tailspin—overthinking, self-blame, that heavy emotional crash—you are so not alone. I've been there. Recently.

But here's the good news: there's a way out of the spiral.

In this episode, I’m sharing two crucial practices that helpe...

How to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking About

You know that moment when you need to start something—maybe it’s an email, a project, or just loading the dishwasher—but instead, you’re frozen? Like your brain is spinning in circles, screaming just do it, while your body refuses to cooperate?

That’s ADHD task paralysis, and if you’ve ever been trapped in that stuck feeling, you know how frustrating—no, madden...

Podcast Introduction: "ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0"

Do you ever feel like your sense of justice is cranked up to full volume—so loud it’s impossible to ignore? Like you’re walking around with an internal siren that blares at every unfairness, every hypocrisy, every outright attack on basic human rights?

If you’re an ADHD woman, chances are you’re nodding along right now. Justice sensitivity isn’t just s...

Procrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About

Have you ever stared at your to-do list, knowing exactly what you need to do—but somehow, you just can’t start? Or maybe you start, but then obsess over every little detail until you feel completely stuck? What if I told you that procrastination and perfectionism aren’t opposites—but two sides of the same ADHD struggle?

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the...

Traditional therapy can be super harmful to ADHDers (even with well-meaning therapists).  In this episode, we’ll unpack how that happens and what to do instead.

You’ll walk away with clarity around what you truly need to navigate this neurotypical world effectively with your ADHD brain, without losing yourself in the process.

Be sure to listen!

 

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Ever notice how it feels almost painful to get yourself to do certain tasks?  Or loke there is a complete block to even starting even when you want to?

This is super common with ADHD and is what we will explore together in this episode.

When we feel blocked around a task and don’t find a way to do it, we often end up with unfavorable consequences like penalties and fees, people being mad at or disappointed in us, losing things, or ...

To mask or unmask? This is often a serious question that many ADHD Women face - even if only subconsciously.

It’s tricky because when we mask and communicate in neurotypical ways, we more easily avoid getting into “trouble” or rejected with a massive RSD hangover.

But then, we may come across as inauthentic and feel like no one gets us, making us feel alone and even rejected.

I won’t pretend ot have all of the answers here and yet ...

In work, I have been noticing a lot of people struggling with the major changes going on in our country and challenges in the world.  In this episode, we will acknowledge, validate, and work to understand how this is particularly hard for we ADHD women given our tendency to be highly sensitive, more easily overwhelmed by our emotions and external experiences, and our propensity towards social justice.

Further, we will explore three...

In this episode we have another special guest - Oneisha Lee, a manifestation and spirituality coach who helps people rewire their subconscious mind for success.

Together we dig into finding clarity, how to rewire your subconscious mind, and manifestation, all in service of creating the life of your dreams.

She shares two secret tricks for aligning with who you really are and manifesting what you deeply desire.

AND, we explore how t...

In this episode we have another special guest - Kara Bunde-Dunn.  Kara is a spiritual medium who breaks down connecting with intuition in a way that’s easy to both understand and apply to your business and your life.

Together we explore the benefits of connecting with your intuition, how to determine the difference between the voices of fear and your voice of internal wisdom, and the four most common listening languages to tune int...

Getting focused and motivated with ADHD in our neurotypical society can be challenging and there is one thing that can make it feel almost impossible.

This “one thing” is a dysregulated nervous system.

In this episode we explore what that means, why it’s a huge problem for focusing and getting yourself to start and complete tasks with ADHD, and what to do about it.

You’ll walk away with how to overcome this additional obstacle and ...

There’s a resource we all have that not many entrepreneurs tap into, often because they don’t know it’s an option or don’t know how to do it.  This resource is the body- really a gateway to inner wisdom.

When you are able to tap into this resource you will navigate your business from a more grounded, wise, and intuitive place - you’ll be in alignment.  When this happens, you will be able to draw your ideal clients to you with great...