Relational Skills in Real Life

Relational Skills in Real Life

Chris Coursey brings you the THRIVEtoday podcast, full of real-life stories of encouragement and transformation from people using relational skills every day! What are "Relational skills"? They are brain-based skills that give us the ability and capacity to build meaningful connections with the people in our lives. With practice, relational skills are what we use to maintain our relationships during strain, conflicts and difficulties so we endure hardship well as we stay connected. www.thrivetoday.org

Episodes

December 8, 2025 β€’ 11 mins

During the holidays, we talk about joy, look forward to joy, and surround ourselves with decorations that highlight joy. But how can we use the brain skill of "sharing joy" (aka Skill 1) to genuinely increase joy in our own lives and in the lives of those we love? This episode dives into the β€œshare joy” brain skill and provides practical ideas for putting it into action during the holiday season. Hear from Rebecca and Chr...

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In this episode, Lynn shares how she uses the skill of appreciation to experience the presence and love of God. Chris also explains how relational skills can help you overcome barriers to sensing God’s peace, and he offers guidance on discovering which skills will help you mostβ€”and how to practice them in your daily life.

πŸ”— Learn more about Skill 13 - Godsight: https://www.thrivetoday.org/skill13

πŸ”— Explore our topical online course...

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November 24, 2025 β€’ 8 mins

Appreciation is all about remembering the good things, feeling the good things, and sharing the good things! Chris shares some fun activities he did with a group of friends in person to help them build joy and remember meaningful moments in their lives.

These exercises can help us live with greater joy and peace, strengthening our ability to handle tough situations and conversationsβ€”even on hard days or when we’re not feeling our be...

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November 17, 2025 β€’ 11 mins

We all want to live as the best versions of ourselvesβ€”the way God designed us to beβ€”even when we’re experiencing big emotions. But that takes practice!

Our friend Rivers shares stories about times when he felt overwhelmed and stressed, how he recognized what was happening, and what he did to respond with peace and strength instead of reacting from that stress.

Hearing these real-life storiesβ€”ones we can all relate toβ€”gives us hope an...

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One of the skills that is learned in the child level of maturity is to discover what satisfies us, so that we can become adults who know how to fulfill our needs and desires in a life-giving way and live a life of contentment. Do we, as adults, have this skill? How can we help our children learn? This episode shares stories about recognizing true satisfaction and how to step through that process, so that we can care for ourse...

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November 3, 2025 β€’ 10 mins

Chris and Jen share an update on their year, offering a perspective shaped by appreciation. They walk us through how they’ve learned to recognize gratitude, even in situations that initially feel discouraging. They also offer a glimpse into how they continually practice the skill of appreciation, helping them remain rooted in hope and connected to Immanuel.

πŸ”— Visit https://thrivetoday.org/skill4 to explore our resources on the skil...

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October 27, 2025 β€’ 11 mins

In this episode, Kristy shares her personal journey through the complex terrain of shameβ€”how it shaped her and how she found healing. Then, Chris dives into various signs that we struggle with this difficult emotion, and shares practical, compassionate strategies for breaking free and growing through it. If you've ever felt weighed down by self-doubt or hidden pain, this episode is for you.

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October 20, 2025 β€’ 12 mins

A new, and increasing common trend in our society, has been to turn to AI companions for validation and friendship. Is this healthy and helpful longterm? Why is this happening and what do people need? Chris takes a look at the underlying needs that everyone has.

πŸ”— Joy Starts Here: https://bit.ly/joystartsherebook

πŸ”— Habit Builder Courses: https://thrivetoday.org/skill-practice-courses/

πŸ”— Thrive Premier Training: https://thrivetoday....

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In this eye-opening episode, Chris Coursey and Kristy Harrang explore the surprising blessing of unpleasant emotions. From anger to hopeless despair, they look at how our most difficult feelings can become unexpected gifts. Through stories from their own lives, they reveal how embracing emotional discomfort can guide us toward growth, healing, and deeper connection.

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October 6, 2025 β€’ 13 mins

What are high energy emotions? When do our brains go to these high energy responses and why? Chris answers these questions and more as he looks at how God designed our brains and bodies to work and how we can develop life-giving response patterns to the stresses of life.Β 

πŸ”— Check out our Return to Joy (skill 11) courses: https://thrivetoday.thinkific.com/collections/skill-11

πŸ”— Our Premier Training focuses on returning to joy from n...

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September 29, 2025 β€’ 13 mins

In this episode Chris discusses the topic of low energy emotions, which emotions fit into this category, and signs that we are experiencing them. You will also hear from Amy, as she shares a story of a time she was feeling the low-energy emotion of sadness.Β 

πŸ”— Check out our Return to Joy (skill 11) courses: https://thrivetoday.thinkific.com/collections/skill-11

πŸ”— Learn more about Premier Training: https://thrivetoday.org/premier-tr...

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September 22, 2025 β€’ 13 mins

In this episode, Chris makes the connection between awareness and conscientiousness, which is a more important character trait than we may have thought.Β 

Our ability to distinguish finely between our emotions results in increased flexibility when regulating emotions and a decreased likelihood that we'll turn to alcohol when stressed or retaliate against people who hurt us? Listen in and learn more about why emotional awareness ...

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There can be some grief that accompanies growing in maturity. When we begin to grow, we start to notice how our growth has been stunted by missing maturity needs and tasks. That can bring up sorrowful feelings, both for ourselves and for our lack of ability to pass on good things to our children. Listen in to hear what is it like us, as mature people, to do when these feelings come up, and how to move forward in our God-given ident...

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September 8, 2025 β€’ 17 mins

What creates the lens for how you understand God? In this episode Chris will look at how our past relationships with people can affect how we understand, view, and interact with God - a skill we call "Godsight".

πŸ”— Learn more about Skill 13 - Godsight: https://thrivetoday.org/skill13

πŸ”— Check out the Skill 13 Habit Builder Course: https://thrivetoday.thinkific.com/courses/skill-13-godsight-habit-builder

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September 1, 2025 β€’ 16 mins

Are there patterns in your life that you get stuck in? Are there situations and emotions that knock you out? Everyone struggles with different things and there are good reasons for that. Being able to see some of what God sees when we are having a hard time can be a game changer, and this is the brain skill of 'Godsight' that we can practice and learn.

Come on the journey with us to discover where the living, ever-present ...

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August 25, 2025 β€’ 12 mins

In this episode, Chris shares the fascinating science about how our relationships affect our bodies and emotions. He also shares examples of ways that we can practice staying relational and keeping the relationship bigger than the problem when dealing with tough situations.

πŸ”— Learn more about Skill 0 - The Relational Circuits

πŸ”— Learn more about Skill 11 - Return to Joy

πŸ”— Watch our latest webinar: Rhythms of Growth: Exploring Capaci...

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August 18, 2025 β€’ 15 mins

In this episode Chris reflects on why the church needs relational skills and how we can spread relational skills in our congregations and communities. You'll also hear perspective from Karen, a pastor and graduate of the 3 Premier Training Tracks, as she has actively sought to spread these skills in the church and through her outreach.Β 

πŸ”— Do you have a small group looking for the next resource? Explore our Foundational 5 Intro...

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August 11, 2025 β€’ 10 mins

Quieting is an often under-rated skill that some regard as a waste of time. Chris explains the fascinating science behind quieting, and why it is a critical skill that is a life-long predictor of mental health, as well as many other life-changing benefits. We also hear a story from our friend Gina about how her knowledge of Quieting impacted a time she was at work.Β 

πŸ”— Learn more about Skill 2 (Simple Quiet) and see our learning pat...

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We all go through season and transitions in life. These can be hard to navigate because our brains use our memories of the past to predict what the unknown future might be like. The resulting anxiety and stress can keep us from being our best, relational selves. This episode shares how practicing relational skills can help us grow, thrive and connect with Jesus even when we are outside our comfort zones.

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Today we hear from Eric & Jiayan who saw a tangible difference in their marriage when they started learning and practicing relational skills together. As they enter parenthood they are so thankful for a stronger bond. Chris weighs in on what a blessing it is when you are relational in your most important relationships.

πŸ”— Read The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages. Perfect to read as a couple or with a small group: https://bit.ly...

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