the self-love archives

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i used to think that if i planned hard enough- got every detail in line, controlled every single piece of it- i could make life go exactly the way i wanted.

spoiler alert: that's not how it works. and trying got me burnt out and exhausted.

welcome to august, bestie. this is our monthly theme episode, and this month we're releasing control. i'm your control freak type-a big sister who h...

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what if the friend that's draining you isn't a bad person- they're just bad for you?

all july we've been talking about community, connection, softness, and making friends as an adult. this week we're flipping it over. how do you spot a toxic friendship, and what do you actually do about it?

we're pulling from one chapter of our self-love book club pick of the month, Finding Your People...

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why does making friends as an adult feel so much harder than it used to be?

in this episode, i'm talking all about friendship- how proximity and consistency made it easier when we were younger, the reason/season/lifetime framework, how to tell when a friendship is draining vs. fulfilling, and practical ways to actually make new friends now.

consider this your sign: it's friendship summ...

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this week i'm sitting down with Philippa Found, author of It's Complicated: Collected Confessions of Messy Modern Love - a collection of 250 anonymous stories pulled from over 1,500 submissions. we get into why so many of us secretly still think about an ex, the "too much" lie we've been sold, the shame that comes with being single, and whether AI belongs anywhere near our love lives...

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hello, hello, + welcome  to soft girl self-love summer. 🤍 it's july, we're officially in quarter three, and this month's theme is community, connection, and softness.

this episode is your invitation to slow down and lean into the season- friendship, relaxation, doing things just because they're fun. we talk about why softness is not a weakness (and how you can be strong,...

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have you ever been told you're too much? too loud, too sensitive, too emotional, too intense… too you? 🤍

i want you to sit with this for a second: were you ever actually too much- or did you just learn to tame yourself to be easier for everyone else to love?

this week on the self love archives podcast, we're closing out June and our theme of impressing your inn...

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we all grew up watching the same movie- the prince, the kiss, the credits, the happily ever after. 🤍 but no one ever showed us part two. no one told us what real love actually looks like after the credits roll.

this week on the self love archives, i'm getting honest about the fairy tale lie: how growing up on disney and "happily ever after" quietly set us up to expect love to be perf...

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when was the last time you did something genuinely cool- not productive, not responsible, just cool? 🤍

this week on the self love archives, we're talking about getting out of your comfort zone and doing the things that make your inner child go, "wait, we get to do that?"

here's the truth i keep coming back to: staying in your comfort zone is what keeps you small. comf...

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welcome to june, friends. 🤍 this month on the self love archives, our theme is impressing your inner child- a tender, joyful episode all about admiration and magic.

we've spent the spring healing her and letting her play. now i want us to become the person she always looked up to- not by leaving her behind, but by moving forward hand in hand with her. in this episode, i'm walkin...

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being dangerously beautiful isn’t about perfection- it’s about presence.

in this episode, we’re redefining beauty as something deeper: self-trust, softness, and the kind of confidence that doesn’t ask for permission. we talk about feminine energy, emotional safety, and the small shifts that make you magnetic without trying.

this is your reminder that the most un...

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sooo excited to share this episode with you- all of the whimsy wellness that changed my life. because even if it's woo woo, why not try it? if it works- it might just change your life in little ways too.

let's track on stardust together: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/stardust-period-tracker/id1495829322

connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia

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this episode is for the moments when life feels heavy and you’re not really sure how to shift out of it.

we’re talking about whimsy- not as something childish or unrealistic, but as something deeply powerful. something that can actually change the way you feel, think, and move through the world. something that is even powerfully contagious to the people around you. 

in...

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you’ve done the healing- now it’s time to actually enjoy your life.

this episode is your permission to stop overthinking, embrace joy, and start living more freely, playfully, and unapologetically in the most aggressive way possible.

connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia

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in this april book club episode of the self-love archives, we’re joined by author kathleen ives to talk about her book 7 ways to live in joy today.

we explore simple, realistic ways to bring more joy into your everyday life without overwhelm- from small mindset shifts to practical tools you can actually use. if you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to feel...

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are your habits actually about your health or about being desirable? 

in this episode, we’re unpacking the difference between caring for your body and performing it. from beauty standards to feminine hygiene, we’re questioning what we’ve been taught, where it comes from, and how to reconnect with what truly feels right for you.

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want to glow up this spring without falling into toxic routines?

in this episode, we’re redefining what a real glow up looks like- from editing your life like a mood board to building micro habits that actually stick. this is your guide to becoming your best self in a way that feels aligned, sustainable, and rooted in self-love.

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january felt hopeful, february was chaotic [let's be honest], march was letting go of perfection and now we’re here in the soft start to spring.

this isn’t about starting over [or completely redoing your vision board] it’s about giving yourself a soft reset. in this episode, we talk about clarity, healing, and updating your life based on what actually feels aligned r...

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burnout isn’t just about having too much to do- it’s about not completing the stress cycle.

in this episode, we’re talking about why burnout keeps coming back, the difference between stress and stressors, and why your body [not your to-do list] is the missing piece. 

this is our march 2026 read for self-love book club. get your copy here <3

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