Post Trauma Secrets & Decluttering

In this episode, Valerie and JM unpack why items get lost in the chaos, how clutter blinds your brain to what you already have, and why shopping can feel like a momentary relief. You’ll learn the psychology behind duplicate buying, the hidden costs it creates, and simple steps to take back control with category-based decluttering, visibility zones, and a “do not buy” list. A clear space means clearer choices—and more intentional li...

In this episode, JM and Valerie walk you through how to declutter with purpose—without losing what matters. Learn why clutter builds up, how it affects your well-being, and seven practical tips to clear space, ease stress, and create a home that reflects your next season of life. From sentimental items to daily habits, this is your guide to decluttering for a calmer, more joyful retirement.

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In this episode, Valerie and JM unpack the hidden force behind overwhelm: decision fatigue. From nonstop choices to emotional burnout, they explain why clutter often builds up when your brain is maxed out—not because you’re lazy, but because you're overloaded. You’ll learn small, actionable steps like the “Decision-Free Five,” reset baskets, and no-think routines to reduce pressure and reclaim energy. This conversation offers ...

In this episode, Valerie and JM unpack the emotional disconnect behind aesthetically beautiful spaces that feel hollow. They explore how life transitions, loss, and emotional needs often get left out of design trends. You’ll learn how to bring soul back into your space with texture, memory, and meaning—so it reflects who you are now, not just how it looks. Redesign your space not for style, but for healing.

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In this episode, Valerie and JM explore the difference between laziness and depression, using side-by-side comparisons, personal stories, and trauma-informed insight. You’ll learn how mental exhaustion mimics avoidance, how shame blocks healing, and three small tools to regain clarity and energy. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or broken—this conversation will help you see the truth behind your struggle and remind you that ...

In this episode, Valerie and JM share Barbara’s powerful empty-nest decluttering story and the trauma-informed steps they used to help her move forward. From creating memory boxes to reframing guilt as growth, this episode is a compassionate guide for parents transitioning into a new chapter. Learn how to release what no longer serves you and make room for peace, purpose, and possibility.

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In this episode, Valerie and JM introduce the DO Well® Method—a four-part, science-backed approach to healing through decluttering. You’ll learn how stress, mindset, time, and space are connected—and why lasting change comes from addressing all four. With real-life transformation stories and practical insights, this trauma-informed method helps you clear more than just your home. It’s a path to emotional clarity, resilience, and su...

In this episode, JM and Valerie share the ultimate 2025 decluttering checklist—from kitchen drawers to digital overload to forgotten sentimental items. You’ll hear real-life stories of people who reclaimed their homes and their clarity by letting go of what no longer serves them. With tips for home, tech, finances, and lifestyle, this episode gives you everything you need to simplify your space—and your mind—starting today.

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In this episode, JM and Valerie explore the connection between clutter and attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Through real-life examples and a quick self-assessment quiz, you’ll learn how your emotional patterns show up in your space—and how to work with them instead of against them. Whether you hold on tightly or keep everything at arm’s length, this episode offers insights to help you create a space t...

In this episode, Valerie and JM get honest about the emotional layers that make decluttering feel overwhelming—even when your home looks “clean.” They unpack the neuroscience of why clutter is so triggering, share their personal story of burnout, and challenge the polished perfection of most organizing content. With insights on trauma, identity, and the reality of ongoing healing, this episode reframes decluttering as a journey of ...

In this episode, Valerie and JM walk through Leslie’s 20-year journey of caregiving, grief, and emotional attachment—and how the trauma-informed DO Well Method helped her reclaim space, freedom, and joy. You’ll learn how clutter often holds meaning, why slow and compassionate support matters, and how decluttering can restore not just your home, but your life. 

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In this episode, JM shares compassionate, trauma-informed strategies to support someone who’s struggling with clutter. You’ll learn why clutter often represents safety or survival, how to communicate with empathy, and why consent is non-negotiable. From asking the right questions to celebrating small wins, this guide offers powerful tools to help your loved one reclaim their space—without losing their dignity or trust.

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In this episode, JM unpacks how emotional attachments to objects can impact communication, especially when trauma or grief is involved. You’ll learn why some people hold on, how to approach decluttering as a household, and strategies like community vs. personal zones, shared goals, and weekly resets. Designed for couples and families, this episode offers a path to declutter with compassion, restore connection, and create a home tha...

In this episode, JM shares the surprising story of a small drill bit with a big emotional impact—lost during a well-meaning garage clean-out. Together, JM and Valerie unpack the hidden cost of letting go too quickly and offer three mindful tips to prevent regret: use a Maybe Box, ask if an item carries a story, and slow down before tossing unique pieces. Whether you're clearing space or facing emotional decisions, this episode...

In this episode, Valerie and JM unpack the hidden emotional weight behind guilt, nostalgia, and identity that keeps clutter in your life. Learn the psychology behind why letting go is hard—and the mindset shifts that make it easier. This episode covers simple, practical steps to declutter without guilt, from the One-Year Rule to photo-based memory keeping. If you're holding onto things out of obligation, this conversation will...

In this episode, Valerie shares the emotional story of losing her beloved blanket—and how that moment shaped her view on sentimental clutter. Together with JM, they walk through four powerful strategies to help you declutter keepsakes without regret: from memory boxes to meaningful goodbyes. If you're holding onto items from the past but craving a lighter, more peaceful home, this episode offers practical tools to help you rel...

In this episode, Valerie and JM open up about the mistakes they wish they had avoided—from rushing the process and tossing sentimental items, to decluttering without a system or support. You’ll learn how to slow down, reduce regret, and use simple strategies like the 4-Box Method and One-Touch Rule. Whether you're starting fresh or resetting after overwhelm, this conversation offers clarity, confidence, and community-driven en...

In this episode, JM and Valerie uncover the hidden link between trauma, narcissistic abuse, and chronic clutter. Through the story of Abby and insights into trauma attachment, you'll learn why letting go feels so hard—and how to start healing your space and your mind. With science-backed tools and compassionate guidance, discover practical steps to declutter safely and reclaim your peace, one item at a time.

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In this episode, Valerie and JM reveal the three key areas silently fueling daily overwhelm and share simple, actionable tips to reclaim your space. From taming countertop chaos to transforming your bedroom into a calming retreat, this is your step-by-step guide to a more peaceful, organized home.

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• How clutter increases stress, anxiety, and cortisol levels
• Top 3 clutter zones to tackle first: living room, kitc...