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The Jubil Show on Demand First Day follow Up. Dante
is on the phone today for a first day follow up.
He's not getting called back. He's getting ghosted by a
woman named Emma. Dante, thank you for agreeing to do
the first day follow up. Before we get into everything,
why don't you tell us how long it's been since
you even talk to Emma. It's been like eight days,
I think seven or eight days. It's been about a week. Yeah,
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all right, And how long? How many times have you
tried to reach out to her in those eight days? Yeah,
I've here here up like one or twice. You know,
here was like a high, you know, but like nothing crazy.
So why do you feel like she's ghosting you? Honestly,
I don't know. I thought everything was going super super well,
Like I feel like things were totally chilling. To be
honest with you, what did you guys do? We met
on Tenner. We started talking about like like music, We
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talked about like the past, like work and stuff. We
were like talking about talking it up, and we found
out we both kind of had some mutual interests, mostly
like music and stuff. We were arriving on music and
we were kind of talking about stuff, and honestly, she's
smoking hot right, Like, she's gorgeous, this girl. So Okay,
we were talking there and stuff kind of started getting
like dirty, right Like, we kind of started like getting
into it. And after about a week of us kind
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of doing that, we decided I was like, like we
kind of needed to see each other, right, So we
met up, we linked up, and we just kind of
got some drinks. We're just hanging out getting some drinks.
It was all a good time to be honest, like
I thought everything was going like pretty smoothly, reviving on stuff.
So afterward I asked her if she wanted to go
over to my place, when she told me that she
actually has worked the next day, right, but I'm not
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sure if I've kind of overshot things because we were
both kind of little tipsty. I didn't want to push
it or anything too crazy, but I asked her if
she wanted to go home. She said not not to night.
It sends me a text later that night saying that
she's home, and that's the last I've heard from her.
It got to the point where you figured it was
on when you saw each other. Yeah, exactly, no, exactly,
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So like by when we did hang out. I just
assumed because of like how dirty and flirty everything was
getting that when we were gonna hang out, that everything
was gonna kind of take its wings from there. But
when I for it, she kind of backchacked a little bit.
She kind of retracted that that she had worked, and
then sends me a text later saying she has worked,
and that's the last thought heard from her. Then, Dante respectfully,
because I don't know either one of you, but do
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you think there's any chance this could be just like
you weren't what she what she thought you were gonna be. Like,
maybe she just like wasn't feeling it anymore, and that's
all right, it happens. I mean maybe I don't know.
I've been thinking about this a lot since the A wall,
Like I've been thinking about this wet and I don't
I don't know if like to me, it kind of
seems like like I wasn't in the most stable place.
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Maybe there was something I did that kind of threw
her off with that like during the day. I don't know,
I'm kind of on my own thing. I have to
ask you this because you kind of sound like this
type of person and it doesn't mean you're a bad person.
It probably means you're awesome, but it can be kind
of off putting. You know, when you have a conversation
with somebody and you get really excited and you kind
of jump in and they go, stop, I wasn't finished.
I need to finish what I'm saying. Don't cut me
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off before I'm done. And then they go about their
business and they think they're being polite and trying to
explain to you that they need to finish. Well, it's
actually quite rude. So I'm just wondering if a moment
like that could have happened, because a lot of times
you don't realize you're being rude when it's actually quite rude.
I don't know, maybe, and I'm hoping there's something like that.
I like to think that I'm respectful and all my stuff,
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but I don't know. You just you like, sometimes you
pick up a vibe in the middle of some of
these conversations and you're like, I think I just think
her a different direction, you know, Yeah, maybe I don't.
I don't really understand what you mean by you're doing
your own thing when you're on a date. In the
dating world, it has burned me a little bit because
I because, like, well, let's say if I was dating
somebody for a while and then I go to meet
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their parents, right, I don't go out of my way
right to like, wow people, right because I'm just like,
I'm me, you're you, I respect you, You're expect me.
I don't have to respect you just because, right, I
don't have to go out of my way put your
best foot forward to expect people and show up and
say I'm so happy to me. Yeah. And I've never
done that, even though I want to. So it has
looked bad on me though, and I haven't understood it
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until recently. I'm like, oh, there's nothing wrong with doing that,
it's just being polite. Yeah. Yeah, And that's hard to say.
But that's the thing, because I like this girl a lot,
Like I don't know if she is quick, she is gorgeous,
she's so fun, and I've never really vibe with someone
like that through this tender stuff. So I was just
really hoping that something will go my way with this one. Okay, well,
let's see if we can figure it out for you.
Then we'll play a song, come back, and then call
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her and get your first date and then call her
and see if we can find out why she's ghosting
you and maybe get you another date with your first
day follow up. Okay, thank you guys. All right, man,
we'll do it next. Bend the liddle of your first
date follow up if you're just joining us. Dante is
on the phone and Dante isn't getting a call back
from Emma, and he has no idea why. Before we
give her a phone call to see if we can
find out exactly why he's getting ghosted, Dante, give everybody
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a real quick recap on your date with Emma. So
I just I met with this girl on tender. We
were vibing on vibing, just totally vibing. She's so gorgeous.
She's all the boxes checked with this one. So I'm
really hoping something goes good with her. We hung out,
got a little bit flirty with it. I'm worried. Think
you got a little bit too flirty before we hung out,
because now I'm getting totally go to buy this tip
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that I am fully into. All Right, so disappointing. I'm
so sorry. See if we can figure it out for you, Dante.
Here we go. I'm gonna call her right now. Okay,
I think all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, Ma,
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speak to Emma please. Hey. This is Emma. Hey, Emma,
how are you? My name is Jewel from a radio
show called The Jewel Show. Hi, Emma, my name's Nina.
I'm here too. Hi. I'm Victoria. I'm also here. Yeah. Hey,
how's it going good? How are you? I'm good? What's
this about? Well? Not much. First of all, have you
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ever listened to the show before? Um? Yeah, a few times? Sweet? Okay,
so you might be familiar with the segment We do
call it the first eight follow up? Are you? Oh
my god? Yes? Okay, So it's your girl. There's your answer.
That's what the phone call is about. We got an
email from one of our listeners about you and they
say you're ghosting them. Oh my god, is there somebody? Yeah?
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Do you know who you are ghosting? Um? I mean
someone does come to mind? All right? You throw out
a name and I'll tell you if you're right? A wrong? Okay? Crap?
Is it is it? Dante? Yes? It's Dante. He emailed us,
told us a little bit about your day. He said
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he really liked you, but you're ghosting and he wants
to know. Why can you tell us? Wow? Wow wow wow? Um?
I mean we yeah, I guess we hit it off.
We just met on tender, you know, and we ended
up hanging out. Um yeah, honestly I had a good time. Like,
I can't say anything bad, I think. So when we
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talked to him, he said that, you guys, um, we're
like really flirty on Tinder, like like getting to the
point where where was getting like dirty. Yeah, and then
it just like stopped. Yeah, So it's confused. I mean
I was buying with him. I don't know what to say.
You know, well, why do you think you didn't hit
him up after the date, because he said you hit
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him back and said that you had to work and
you got home safe and then you never heard from
you again. I mean, look, his profile picture was hot.
Like you think you're talking to someone and you think
you know everything that you're gonna see in person, and
then honestly he shows up with corn Roads and this
is a white guy, okay, and you didn't like that.
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It was amazing Crim's moment for me. It gave me
the egg. You know, I got Corners recently and I'm
a white dude, I know, And he loves I changed
him a little bit from just the straight corn rows.
But do you think that's crazy? Yeah? I just think
that's kind of embarrassing, a little inappropriate, okay for you
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or for them, for them, for everyone, Okay. And so
that's what that's what you didn't like. You didn't like
the fact that he had corn rows. Yeah, I just
don't get like why he would choose that, because he
had great hair in his pictures. So it's just a
little off pudding. But so you know that he has
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great hair, and then without the corn rows, you find
yourself attracted to him. So it could have ended up
just being as simple as you want to get rid
of those. Yeah, see what happens now. I mean he
kind of fumbled it. I just didn't really feel like
I could go and ask him to change his hair,
especially when you first start dating somebody to ask them like, hey,
can you change your hairstyle? I mean, I know, deeper
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into the relationship and he just popped up with corn rows,
we'd have a conversation for sure. Yeah, I'm sure you'd
have no problem deeper in relationship being like what is that? Yeah?
Other than that was everything else, like the whole day
in general, Like, was that nice? That's fair? Yeah, unfortunately
I really liked him go along. Well, so you just
can't see past the corn rows though, right, I mean
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could you? Yes? Because I had? Yeah. I think that,
you know, if everything else is cool and some people
can just rock that, you know, like there are certain
people that their style is an extension of, you know,
their own personal swag. Like we use the word swag
kind of freely, but you know, people have their own
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kind of littles like swag. You know, maybe that's his deal. Yeah.
I just feel like there's certain hairstyles that are not
for you when you're a white guy. Okay, So it's
so you see it as it's not like a quote
unquote white hairstyle. I feel like it's a bit of
a cultural appropriation moment. Okay. I mean, well, you're definitely
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entitled to have your opinion. You wonder how you would
feel about that Since you've gone out with him, do
you wonder how he feels about them? Yeah? I mean
I'll hear him out sweet because he's actually on the
phone listening, has been listening this whole time. I wants
to talk to you, oh yo yo, He's so Okay,
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is the core Rose is that if though core Rose
that's it? That was it? Yeah? I was sometime, Um, yeah,
I guess I thought you would be a little bit
more serious of a guy when we met. I mean,
all right, look, look, I feel like this is all
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right because this is the thing is that that's like
I'm still an adult, right, Like I like to take
things seriously for show, but that shouldn't stop me from
being like an experimental person. I like trying new things.
I like stepping outside of the box, you know what
I mean. And the core Rose, I mean, yeah, they're
they're a little they're a little outside of the box.
But I like that about myself. I don't want to
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feel stifled, you know. I find myself to be an
original person that way. I love that. I just feel
like there's so many choices. There's just like a billion
things to and that's what you went with. You might
and see the thing is you might not be totally
wrong on that. There's all kinds of creativity that I
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could I can express through right, which is why I
have actually an offer for you. So if if you're
willing to let me take you out on a second date,
I might get rid of them corn rows. Wow, might
he's willing to change already. That's actually kind of a
good sign. Guys a lot longer to be willing to
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change right where they don't. Yeah, all right, you know what, Well,
let me ask Emma, would you like to go on
another date with Dante. We'll pay for it. I'm down, honestly,
corn Rows are not? Why not? You know who am
I to judge? Oh? Wow? See, so Emma really loves
feeling Sometimes it's not just about what they look like,
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it's about how they make you feel. Right. Yeah. I
appreciate you understanding, Emma, And I'm excited for this. So
we're doing a second date. Oh yeah, we really went
for extra mile here. So congratulations Dante, you got another date.
That's exciting. That's the Dante. You're gonna take the raids
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out though, for real. That's been Mike The Jebel Show
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