August 13, 2024 • 11 mins
➡︎ The Jubal Show’s First Date Follow Up
What happens when you get ghosted after a first date? You call The Jubal Show and have them find out why! It's like putting yourself in a situation to get roasted, when you really just want a second date.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
online at adjusla dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jesse is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Danica.
So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
get him another date. But first, Jesse, how long has
it been since you heard from her.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I've been about a week now, Okay.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
What was your last interaction with her?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
We went on a date to a baseball game, and
it's then we hugged for a pretty long period of
time and did the French things on each cheek, and
she said that she was going to call me a
little bit later that night. And when I messaged her
the next day, because I just assumed, you know, she
got on with her friends, had a good time and
(00:48):
if she was okay, I just didn't even hear back
and tried again, and a bit confused because I really
dig spending time with her, and I'm a bit shy
and I didn't feel that way around her specifically, So
that's that's always nice.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Well, why don't you tell us about the date then?
How did you guys meet and what happened.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
So originally we met on the app, I think trying
to find the right person and what app was it?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
It was tender, okay, So.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
We had like a good banter for a couple of weeks.
We both really liked baseball, so we thought, hey, how
about a low pressure day, we'll catch a game. We
get there, hot dogs beer.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
We ran into some of our.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Coworkers, which is a little bit of a bummer, but
I didn't say anything because you know, this is our
first time hanging out. We don't really know each other
that well. We spent a decent amount of time with
them at the game down by the bar.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
I was really just interested in.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Getting to know her, not really her friends, just because
you know, it's the first thing. And I don't want to,
you know, be your friend. I want to be something
a little bit more than that. I kind of ended
up getting shy and I watched a bit more of
this game on the screen then interacting with her friends.
And I hope that she didn't take it that like
I don't like her friends or I feel entitled to
(02:09):
her time.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
It's just I get nervous.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
In my group settings like that where everybody knows each other,
and I'm a guy that's on a day with your friend.
So that's the only thing that I'm thinking that might
have gone wrong. Because we went back to our sheet.
We had a good time. At the end, she invited
me to go hang out with her friends again, but
I said I'd rather just spend some more time with her.
(02:33):
So we had an extra drink and then she said, hey,
I really should get going to my friends because it's
good for work. And I find that remarkably attractive in
a woman that like cares about her goals and what
she's working on, because that just makes a great partner
in life.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I was all for that.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
I even stuck around that area for a bit longer,
hoping that's her. After she got a chance to meet
up with their work colleagues again.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
So that's when she was supposed to call you again.
After that, Yeah, she said.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
She's gonna call me after she hung out with her
friends if I was still in the area. Yet I
felt a pretty good connection, so I wanted to stick
around the area. I just didn't want to become a
friend in that circle of friends.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I mean, it's a lot of pressure on the first
time meeting anybody to have friends around. Yeah, you know
you're being judge, So why do you think you're getting ghosted?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
I think it might have just been the fact that
I was a bit shy around her friends, and that
might have came off as I didn't like them. It's
obviously not an attractive thing to say when you're trying
to get out with someone. Hey, I get a bit
shy and sometimes it's socially, and.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
I mean I can see not wanting to share that
right away. All right, well, we'll see if we can
figure it out for you. We'll play a song come Back,
and then call her and see what she'll tell us
why she's ghosting you, and then get you another date
if you're still wanting Okay, all right, all right, we'll
play a song come Back, get your first day follow
up next in the middle of your first date follow
(04:04):
up if you're just joining us, Jesse is on the
phone and he's getting ghosted by Danica. So in a
second we're going to call her and see if she'll
tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
another date. But before we do that, Jesse, why don't
you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Danica.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I met Danica Tinder and we amandam meeting up at
a baseball game. We hung out with her and some
of her friends for a little bit, and then we
had some great quality time by herself. I was supposed
to hear from her later that day, but it's been
about a week and so I haven't heard from her.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
All right, you ready to call her?
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:40):
I'm hoping you guys can help me out because she's
really someone sushi me too.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
All right, here we go. Are you ready? I'm going
to call her right now. Hello, Hi, I speak to Danica. Please. Yes,
this is hi Danica.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.
It's called The Jebel Show. Whole show is here, Danica. Hi,
my name's Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Oh hi, how are you?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Not much? Just chilling? Second in? Do you listen to
the show ever?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
I have? Actually?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, thank you very much for that. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Yeah. Wow, what can I do for you? Guys?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
We actually have a question for you because I don't
know if you've heard a first date follow up before?
Have you?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh? Yeah? I have? Actually?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Okay, so that's the segment where if you go on
a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them,
they can email us to get you on the phone
and ask why you're ghosting.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Got it? Okay?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Right? Hey, so we got an email about you from somebody? Huh? Okay,
do you know who you're ghosting?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
I mean, no one intentionally.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Really have you gone on a lot of dates, Stanica.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I mean I've gone on a few here in the
past a couple of months. But who is this regarding?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
He says, it's been a week since your date and
you haven't talked to him at all.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Got it? Okay, we're talking about Jesse, Yes we are, Okay, Okay.
I feel like I didn't want to follow up with
him because Jesse actually got one of my coworker's numbers.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
And while on your date.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Yeah, and my co worker told me that they had
exchange numbers or something when she and she told me
that when I met back up with her.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
So, wait, were you there? Did you go somewhere like
to the bathroom something? And then he got her number?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I guess I like, you know, went to the bathroom. Yeah,
I went to the bathroom. I got a coke, you know,
and I mean, I had no idea obviously that it
happened until afterwards, and I just found it like really
funny because I mean, he is so sweet, he's so great,
and I really loved the date actually, but he didn't
(07:24):
strike me as.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Like boy, but oh that's so disappointing.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah, I know, I was. I was sad about it
and disappointed.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I liked him.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Did he talk to your coworker, like, is he trying
to get a date with her?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
I don't know. I kind of I kind of like
just let it lie like since then. So that's all
I know is that like a number was exchange. I
guess I could ask her. I just kind of wanted
to move on from it.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
You know, you could ask well him because he's actually
on the phone listing and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Oh hi, Jessy, Hey Danica, Oh my god, you heard
all that.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
This is what happened.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Your coworker when I was just watching the game, came
up to me and put her number on an apkin
and put it in my pocket. I threw it away
before we even got back to our seats because I
had no intention on calling her or even getting to
know her, because that's just disrespectful and that's not how
I was raised. I was into you, And the reason
(08:36):
I didn't bring it up is I don't really know
your relationship with her. It just seem like a caddy
thing for me to say or something that it's especially
be like, I'm so cool that your friend tried to
hit on me, and I didn't do it, And I
didn't want to virtue segnal because I just think that's
like an untottractive quality, which is why I didn't bring
it up. It just wasn't part of my even thought
(08:59):
process because that's just not the type of person I am.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Huh Okay, so wait, let me get this straight. You're
saying that she gave her number to you in the
first place, did you like do anything at all, like
to give her the idea that there was a chance. No,
I was just.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Like even casually friendly.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I'm I don't know if you picked up on this,
but I'm a bit shy around doing people. And yeah,
I know it is a general smile and like a
friendly greeting is about the exchange of our conversation.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I was gonna say, you don't you didn't sound like
when we were talking to you earlier, like somebody who
would be hitting on everybody. I feel like I have
a lot of questions for your coworker.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
But wow, yeah, wow, that's not the story that I
got at all. That's really crazy. Wow. I'm actually like,
I'm sorry that like happened to you, and I like
put us in such a weird situation.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
How close of a friend is your coworker, Danica.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I mean, you know, we're not like best friends, but
I mean, you know, I know that she does have
a flirty personality and everything, So I just figured that
she's getting hit on all the time. So I didn't
think that like she was hitting on someone else's like day.
That's just so weird.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
It is very Yeah, I mean you want to talk
about girl code, but.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Honestly, she put her number on a paper, put it
in my pocket, and it scared me a little bit.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I jumped, you know, out.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Of my pocket.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Yeah, my gosh, I just have my wallet. I was nervous.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Would you like to go on another date with Jesse?
We'll pay for it.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Oh, I somehow find you very like endearing. I believe
you sound genuine and yeah, I'll give it another shot.
And I'm definitely going to confront my coworkers, but thank
you for telling.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Me what happened, Danica. If you need backup, Victoria and
I are here.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Thanks y'all.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Well, Danica, I'm excited to see you, Sara, because I
really did have a great time with you, and that
this time, let's avoid both of our co workers and
get to know more about each other.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Yeah, no coworkers this time, promise. Kay, Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Jule's first day follow up
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
online at adjusla dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jesse is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Danica.
So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
get him another date. But first, Jesse, how long has
it been since you heard from her.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I've been about a week now, Okay.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
What was your last interaction with her?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
We went on a date to a baseball game, and
it's then we hugged for a pretty long period of
time and did the French things on each cheek, and
she said that she was going to call me a
little bit later that night. And when I messaged her
the next day, because I just assumed, you know, she
got on with her friends, had a good time and
(00:48):
if she was okay, I just didn't even hear back
and tried again, and a bit confused because I really
dig spending time with her, and I'm a bit shy
and I didn't feel that way around her specifically, So
that's that's always nice.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Well, why don't you tell us about the date then?
How did you guys meet and what happened.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
So originally we met on the app, I think trying
to find the right person and what app was it?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
It was tender, okay, So.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
We had like a good banter for a couple of weeks.
We both really liked baseball, so we thought, hey, how
about a low pressure day, we'll catch a game. We
get there, hot dogs beer.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
We ran into some of our.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Coworkers, which is a little bit of a bummer, but
I didn't say anything because you know, this is our
first time hanging out. We don't really know each other
that well. We spent a decent amount of time with
them at the game down by the bar.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
I was really just interested in.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Getting to know her, not really her friends, just because
you know, it's the first thing. And I don't want to,
you know, be your friend. I want to be something
a little bit more than that. I kind of ended
up getting shy and I watched a bit more of
this game on the screen then interacting with her friends.
And I hope that she didn't take it that like
I don't like her friends or I feel entitled to
(02:09):
her time.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
It's just I get nervous.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
In my group settings like that where everybody knows each other,
and I'm a guy that's on a day with your friend.
So that's the only thing that I'm thinking that might
have gone wrong. Because we went back to our sheet.
We had a good time. At the end, she invited
me to go hang out with her friends again, but
I said I'd rather just spend some more time with her.
(02:33):
So we had an extra drink and then she said, hey,
I really should get going to my friends because it's
good for work. And I find that remarkably attractive in
a woman that like cares about her goals and what
she's working on, because that just makes a great partner
in life.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I was all for that.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
I even stuck around that area for a bit longer,
hoping that's her. After she got a chance to meet
up with their work colleagues again.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
So that's when she was supposed to call you again.
After that, Yeah, she said.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
She's gonna call me after she hung out with her
friends if I was still in the area. Yet I
felt a pretty good connection, so I wanted to stick
around the area. I just didn't want to become a
friend in that circle of friends.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I mean, it's a lot of pressure on the first
time meeting anybody to have friends around. Yeah, you know
you're being judge, So why do you think you're getting ghosted?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
I think it might have just been the fact that
I was a bit shy around her friends, and that
might have came off as I didn't like them. It's
obviously not an attractive thing to say when you're trying
to get out with someone. Hey, I get a bit
shy and sometimes it's socially, and.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
I mean I can see not wanting to share that
right away. All right, well, we'll see if we can
figure it out for you. We'll play a song come Back,
and then call her and see what she'll tell us
why she's ghosting you, and then get you another date
if you're still wanting Okay, all right, all right, we'll
play a song come Back, get your first day follow
up next in the middle of your first date follow
(04:04):
up if you're just joining us, Jesse is on the
phone and he's getting ghosted by Danica. So in a
second we're going to call her and see if she'll
tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
another date. But before we do that, Jesse, why don't
you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Danica.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I met Danica Tinder and we amandam meeting up at
a baseball game. We hung out with her and some
of her friends for a little bit, and then we
had some great quality time by herself. I was supposed
to hear from her later that day, but it's been
about a week and so I haven't heard from her.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
All right, you ready to call her?
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:40):
I'm hoping you guys can help me out because she's
really someone sushi me too.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
All right, here we go. Are you ready? I'm going
to call her right now. Hello, Hi, I speak to Danica. Please. Yes,
this is hi Danica.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.
It's called The Jebel Show. Whole show is here, Danica. Hi,
my name's Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Oh hi, how are you?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Not much? Just chilling? Second in? Do you listen to
the show ever?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
I have? Actually?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, thank you very much for that. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Yeah. Wow, what can I do for you? Guys?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
We actually have a question for you because I don't
know if you've heard a first date follow up before?
Have you?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh? Yeah? I have? Actually?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Okay, so that's the segment where if you go on
a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them,
they can email us to get you on the phone
and ask why you're ghosting.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Got it? Okay?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Right? Hey, so we got an email about you from somebody? Huh? Okay,
do you know who you're ghosting?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
I mean, no one intentionally.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Really have you gone on a lot of dates, Stanica.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I mean I've gone on a few here in the
past a couple of months. But who is this regarding?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
He says, it's been a week since your date and
you haven't talked to him at all.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Got it? Okay, we're talking about Jesse, Yes we are, Okay, Okay.
I feel like I didn't want to follow up with
him because Jesse actually got one of my coworker's numbers.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
And while on your date.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Yeah, and my co worker told me that they had
exchange numbers or something when she and she told me
that when I met back up with her.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
So, wait, were you there? Did you go somewhere like
to the bathroom something? And then he got her number?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I guess I like, you know, went to the bathroom. Yeah,
I went to the bathroom. I got a coke, you know,
and I mean, I had no idea obviously that it
happened until afterwards, and I just found it like really
funny because I mean, he is so sweet, he's so great,
and I really loved the date actually, but he didn't
(07:24):
strike me as.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Like boy, but oh that's so disappointing.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah, I know, I was. I was sad about it
and disappointed.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I liked him.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Did he talk to your coworker, like, is he trying
to get a date with her?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
I don't know. I kind of I kind of like
just let it lie like since then. So that's all
I know is that like a number was exchange. I
guess I could ask her. I just kind of wanted
to move on from it.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
You know, you could ask well him because he's actually
on the phone listing and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Oh hi, Jessy, Hey Danica, Oh my god, you heard
all that.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
This is what happened.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Your coworker when I was just watching the game, came
up to me and put her number on an apkin
and put it in my pocket. I threw it away
before we even got back to our seats because I
had no intention on calling her or even getting to
know her, because that's just disrespectful and that's not how
I was raised. I was into you, And the reason
(08:36):
I didn't bring it up is I don't really know
your relationship with her. It just seem like a caddy
thing for me to say or something that it's especially
be like, I'm so cool that your friend tried to
hit on me, and I didn't do it, And I
didn't want to virtue segnal because I just think that's
like an untottractive quality, which is why I didn't bring
it up. It just wasn't part of my even thought
(08:59):
process because that's just not the type of person I am.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Huh Okay, so wait, let me get this straight. You're
saying that she gave her number to you in the
first place, did you like do anything at all, like
to give her the idea that there was a chance. No,
I was just.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Like even casually friendly.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I'm I don't know if you picked up on this,
but I'm a bit shy around doing people. And yeah,
I know it is a general smile and like a
friendly greeting is about the exchange of our conversation.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I was gonna say, you don't you didn't sound like
when we were talking to you earlier, like somebody who
would be hitting on everybody. I feel like I have
a lot of questions for your coworker.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
But wow, yeah, wow, that's not the story that I
got at all. That's really crazy. Wow. I'm actually like,
I'm sorry that like happened to you, and I like
put us in such a weird situation.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
How close of a friend is your coworker, Danica.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I mean, you know, we're not like best friends, but
I mean, you know, I know that she does have
a flirty personality and everything, So I just figured that
she's getting hit on all the time. So I didn't
think that like she was hitting on someone else's like day.
That's just so weird.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
It is very Yeah, I mean you want to talk
about girl code, but.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Honestly, she put her number on a paper, put it
in my pocket, and it scared me a little bit.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I jumped, you know, out.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Of my pocket.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Yeah, my gosh, I just have my wallet. I was nervous.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Would you like to go on another date with Jesse?
We'll pay for it.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Oh, I somehow find you very like endearing. I believe
you sound genuine and yeah, I'll give it another shot.
And I'm definitely going to confront my coworkers, but thank
you for telling.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Me what happened, Danica. If you need backup, Victoria and
I are here.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Thanks y'all.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Well, Danica, I'm excited to see you, Sara, because I
really did have a great time with you, and that
this time, let's avoid both of our co workers and
get to know more about each other.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Yeah, no coworkers this time, promise. Kay, Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
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Welcome to "Decisions, Decisions," the podcast where boundaries are pushed, and conversations get candid! Join your favorite hosts, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, as they dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often-taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. Every Monday, Mandii and Weezy invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, they share their personal journeys navigating their 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engaging in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that resonate with your experiences, "Decisions, Decisions" is your go-to source for open dialogue about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections—tune in and join the conversation!