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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Lennon is on the phone today for a first Day
follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Kate.
So we're about to call Kate in a little while
and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him
and maybe get him another date if he still wants one.
But first, Landon, thanks for coming on the show man.
How long has it been since you heard from Kate?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Hey, it's been like a week. I don't know what's
going on.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
How many times have we tried to reach out to
her in that week?
Speaker 3 (00:30):
I like once a day, honestly.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Okay, So you're thinking she's somebody special. Why don't we
go back a little bit and talk about her. So,
how was your date with her?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Oh? It was amazing. So my cousin owned the wine
restaurant and we went there and I'll be just got wine,
flights and meals and we slowed dance in the middle
of the restaurant. Everyone was watching, everyone clacked for us.
It was really something else. I knew she was a
bit shy, and honestly, you know that's on my type.
I love the shy girls, and I was excited to
(01:04):
like get her out of the shell, get her out
of her shell. That's I love doing that. That's I
love to like just bring the shy girls out out
showing the world so they're missing. You know how we
had so much food and since it was my cousin,
he even gave us like a dessert sample afterward. It
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was like a four hour meal. It was amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Okay, this sounds like a dream or hours. I love
to eat like that.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
But then we haven't spoken for a week since. I
really don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
What happened at the end of y'all's date, Like, how
did it end?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Yeah, so it ended with a kiss, which I'm pretty
proud of. But we haven't spoken since. No texting, no call,
nothing nothing.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Do you think it's because she's shy? I mean, you
did say she was a shy girl.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
That's my leading theory. Maybe she's just better in person
and then texting.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Did anything else happen on the date.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Besides the dancing and the kiss. She seemed really into me.
She laughed at all my jokes as she ate. I mean,
she's the teat but she can really eat, and I just.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Like a lyric and a song she can really eat.
I like it. Do you think maybe it was your kiss?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Well, I mean I speaking of too good. I mean
the way that we danced together. I mean I felt
like it could translate to the bedroom, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yeah, like you could dance in a bedroom too, you
can put on music. Yeah, yeah, I know, I know
what you mean.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
But then, like I can't figure out why I'm being ghosted.
You know, it's just maybe I can't figure out how
I messed up. Maybe she felt pressure to eat so
much because I'm a big foodie, you know, just yeah,
maybe saying she will not say anything.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, maybe because you know how like people feel like
they want to keep up with drinking. Oh so maybe
it's the same idea with food.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah, she didn't want to say anything about maybe I
don't want to eat, but he's a foodie, so yeah,
she just quietly just went along with it.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Maybe all right, Well we'll see if we can figure
it out for you man, We'll play a song, come back,
and then call her, see if she'll tell us why
she's ghosting you, and maybe get to another date.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Okay, Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
All right, we play a song come back, get your
first Day follow up next right in the middle of
your first date follow up if you're just joining us.
Landon is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Kate.
It's been about a week. He hasn't heard anything from her,
and we're about to call her, get her on the
phone and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting
him and maybe get him another day. But first, Landon,
why don't you refresh everybody's memory before we call her?
(03:58):
Tell us about your date.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Yeah, so we went to my cousin's wine restaurant, drink
a lot, ate a lot, dance in front of everyone.
They applauded for us. It was really fun. Ended with
a kiss. And I haven't heard from her since, and she's.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Patite and can eat.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
All right, Well, you ready to go? You're ready to
call her?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm asking to Kate. Please?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
This is she?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Who's this?
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Kate?
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
My name is Jewbel and I'm on a radio show
called the Jebel Show. What's up?
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Kate Whole shows? Here, I'm Nina Hi and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Hi.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
How are you.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I'm good, So I'm sorry. This is a you guys
are on the radio.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Yes, and we're calling you because we got an email.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
About you about me? Okay.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
We do a segment on the show. It's called the
First Date follow Up. That's where if you go out
with someone and then end up ghosting them, that person
can email us to get you on the phone and
ask why you're.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Ghosting Oh, okay, means.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
We got an email about you because you're ghosting someone.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
His name is Landon, and Landon really liked you. Who
wants to know why you're ghosting him? Would you mind
telling us?
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Yeah? I mean Landon is a great guy. I had
a great time.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
On our date.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
You know, I really liked him, and you know, it
was a really fun night, different than most dates I've
gone on, and it was just really great. But you know,
I just think we I don't know, I think we
just want different things and I just have to protect
myself from that.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
I think, Okay, what does that mean?
Speaker 3 (05:53):
You know, I just want to protect my heart.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
I think that Landon, you know, he was kind of
talking about how he's not really ready for a relationship
and he's looking more for like a romantic sensual experience,
not really like a full blown commitment. And you know
that's fine, you know, but I really want romance and experiences,
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but I want to build something with someone. You know,
I'm not in a huge rush to be in a relationship,
but I don't really feel comfortable with like the non
committal mentality personally.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Did you guys have that conversation like he said that
to you.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I mean, he had said, you know that he just
wants like romantic experiences, but he had said he wasn't
really looking for like a like a full blown commitment,
which is you know, I get it. I had a
great time on our date. I didn't think that's what
our date was for until we met. I thought we
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were looking for the same thing. So I was like
taken off guard. But you know, everyone's looking for what
they're looking for, and even though we had a fun time,
it's just we're both looking for different things.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
It's not the right time and place.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Well, good for you knowing exactly what you want.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Kate Landon is actually on the phone listening and wants
to talk to you.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
What hey, Kate, Hi high Landing, I didn't realize we
were on such different paths. We had such a good time.
I thought it was going well.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Yeah, no, we had a great time, and I really,
I mean, it's definitely a date I'll never forget. It
was really fun. I really enjoyed myself. I enjoyed getting
to know you. It's just I think, you know, our
path in life is just different right now.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Oh well, that's a shame. I kind of wish you
would have answered my textion we could talk about this.
I mean, I'm open to discussion.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Well then is that true, Landon, Are you not open
to relationship?
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Well?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Yeah, I mean, honestly, I am just looking for something
casual right now. But I thought she was on the
same page. We never discussed it, but yeah, maybe, I mean,
if the timing is right in the future, we could
hopefully get back together and make this work. What do
you think.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
I mean, I really enjoyed meeting with you. I think
you're very.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Attractive, and you know, we laughed a lot.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Maybe in the future, you know, if if if I'm available,
we could definitely try again. You know, it's just timing
right now, it doesn't seem like it's on our side.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
That's all. Okay, Well, like what do I have to
do to make you say yes? Like, what what do
you need?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
You know what?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
That's funny.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
I just honestly, you're wonderful.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I had a great time with you.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
It's just that I am looking for something a little more,
you know, not so much a commitment, you know, commitment
with the right person, but not something as loose as
I guess what you're looking for, just like you know, experiences,
life experiences. I've had a lot of life experience, and
you know I'm ready to put that life experience to you.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
So there's I mean, I had a great time.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
I loved your cousin's restaurant. The wine was great, the
food was amazing.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
I mean, I had the best time.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
It's just I just don't want something super casual right now.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Landon, do you think that you're wanting something casual? Is
kind of like your defense mechanism too, because it sounds
like you really like Kate. You keep trying to get
her to the law. I feel like Caline. I mean,
I know, I'm just it's something to ask yourself. You know,
if you just say whoever you hang out with is casual,
then you're protecting your heart too, and not really putting
yourself out there.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
I didn't realize I was signing up for a therapy
session here. Yeah, you know what, I think you may
have something that is my pet previous relationshi another think
about it. Things just went too quickly, and I think
the year I just wanted to take things more casual
(10:08):
this time, not really look for a commitment yet.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
What if you replace the word casual with slow.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Yeah, that's that's a good observation there.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
I'm sorry, but we say this all the time. We
are therapists adjacent.
Speaker 4 (10:21):
I definitely would prefer someone who's more sure on themselves,
Like if you need to experience things to you know,
feel like you'll be a better partner in the future.
I mean, that's your path, that's your choice. Like I said,
I've I've had these experiences, and I have a pretty
clear idea of what I want and what I'm looking
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for and how I want.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
To be treated.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
And you know, I just I want to be a
little bit more you know, important, than just something casual
that's you know, not going anywhere, because because I'm looking
for something that's going to go somewhere.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Kate, would you like to go on another day with
Land and we'll pay for it.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
No, I don't think all right now, nothing against land
in Land In You're wonderful again. I had the best time, honestly,
probably one of my top, like top dates ever. It
was really like dancing in the restaurant and the people
like it's stuff out of movies.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
That was incredible.
Speaker 4 (11:15):
It's just again, I just want something a little bit
more serious. It's going to go somewhere or ideally go
somewhere like I felt a deep connection with you, so
I would.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Not want something casual.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
But if in the future you figure out what you're
looking for, and if I happen to still be available,
you know you have my number.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Yeah, let's just keep in touch. We'll touch back and
forth and stay on each other's radar.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
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