January 22, 2020 • 46 mins
In need of a new show to binge on Netflix? Honey and Carolina have you covered! Honey also tells you all about what she hates... CAMEL-TOE!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Can't verify a vagina. Can we talk about TV shows?
Have you been watching anything Carolina recently? Cheer on Netflix?
That ship is so good. It's good. I saw it.
You watched the whole thing? No, no, no, I watched.
I didn't watch. I saw it on Netflix. Like on
the Thing, I watched Aaron hernandez Oh. I want. I
wanted to watch them. I wasn't mentally prepared to watch it, though,
like I needed to be in that right frame of mind,
(00:22):
Like you know what I mean? How many episodes talk
about shows? It's only three? Only three episodes? Oh for real,
I thought it was gonna be like a whole six
is it? I heard it was because they said, um,
they said it was because he was gay, because of
a sexual orientation, or that he was bisexual. That's part
of the reason why he killed himself. Can we talk
about it? Aren't we talking about Are we rolling? Okay? Okay, Hi,
(00:44):
we'll welcome, Welcome to life with English. Okay. Sure, we
were just behind the scenes talking about TV shows and
me and Carolina we're talking about what we've been watching
on Netflix. And I look at the difference between Honey
and I. Honey is watching the Aaron Hernandez. And you
know what it's about cheerleaders. It's all about competitive cheerleading,
which when I was in high school, I was a
(01:04):
competitive cheerleader, and so it kind of about this. I
didn't know about this. You didn't know that. Oh yeah, girl, Yes,
that's why I got them bad knees. I got a
bad bag. I thought you were going to say, that's
how you got them good legs. Girl. I um, I
used to be a cheerleader when I was in high school.
But I'm surprised. First of all, hold on, I'm surprised
your mom lets you do this. Being a Latino, my
mom would have never with that little skirt and that
(01:27):
CRAPI my mom would have been like to look no,
I know right, No, my mom was down like she
was because I think that my mom was looking for
something to like occupy my time. I was just you
were going to say americanized, you know, are you kidding me?
Some Latino parents are like that. They want you to
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do like American type of sports, like to real inclusive,
like like tennis, tennis. For saying something like that, what
did you say? I said, Okay, I forget where I
was where I said, it's like a white man's sport
because in truth, if you played golf, most country clubs
would not allow people of color. And this is you know,
(02:08):
look back into the history and we didn't have the
money to pay those fees. Yeah. But then also a
lot of the clubs were very restrictive against people of colors,
women and women, so you wouldn't get the opportunity to play.
And somebody said, well, that is a racist statement, and
I said, that's not me being racist, that's like the truth,
you know. And a lot of people like like you mentioned,
(02:28):
like Venus and Serena Williams, their father used to take
them to the public court in Compton and he was
their coach because he didn't they couldn't afford to get
these like gene coaches, you know. So there's are the
racist about that. But yeah, So I was a cheerleader
and uh I loved it and you're watching cheer I
was watching cheer I cried my eyes out at the end.
(02:49):
I'm not going to tell you how it ends. It
is so many parts because I really can't come into
too many parts, I gotta be honest. I think it
might be eight episodes or something like. Yeah, over like
three days of a sudden, I want to binge watch everything.
I can't see myself waiting a whole week anymore to
like watch something. So what are you into? So how
is a document? I feel like it was a waste
(03:09):
of time. I feel like I knew everything that they
that they said. I feel like Lifetime or somebody had
already done this. Yeah, I watched. The only difference here
was that we got to hear like his jail house calls.
And it's so crazy because you know, his relationship with
his mom was disgusting. Yeah, did he not treat her
well or well? You know his mom ended up doing
like something super shicty when his dad died and like
(03:32):
stealing Aaron's cousin's husband and moving him into the house. Yeah,
but you know, it's crazy that bonded Aaron and his
cousin to the point that they put her on the
stand and she was like in treatment for cancer and
she was like, send me to jail not testifying against Aaron.
I wouldn't be in my story. I was like, if
you don't have this level of loyalty, I don't want it.
(03:53):
So she was like, no hair scarf on her head,
in the middle of chemother. This is his cousin's cousin.
His mother was trash. Oh man, Yeah, they had a
really really bad relationship. So that that kind of like
I learned a little bit more about Aaron his upbringing,
but showed not so much. But you know what, I
did love Carolyn. What den't funk with cats? What? Oh no, oh,
(04:15):
my gosh, no. I saw somebody talking about this again.
I don't know if I can watch something like this, Like,
I'm an EmPATH. Okay, so when you're an EmPATH, you
like you obviously you feel what other people are feeling. Okay,
So when I watch things like that, it stays with me,
even if you don't know the people or I don't
like in real life, you know what, that is one
(04:36):
of the things. And I will bring it back to
Netflix in a second. But like when I worked in
TV news, Right, I did a lifestyle show on television
for two years. Right. We would wake up in the
morning and every day it was like murder, rape, this all,
you know, just horrible things. And I would wake up
in the morning. I would be like, damn, like, what
is it going to be today? You know what I mean?
It's hard for me to watch things like that and
(04:58):
let it go, especially babies, animals. You know what I'm saying.
I heard it's like a really intriguing it is and
it's story. It's crazy because it goes to show you
how a bunch of people can come together and like
create a whole investigation. I'm talking like regular people. I'm
telling you online anymore you will, you will get caught.
(05:21):
Did you watch you? No? Is that the one where
the guy's a stalker is amazing tool. I've had time.
I'm not at any time. I'm telling you what did
I watch? I'm trying to think of what I've been watching. No,
I mean honestly, Cheer is the only thing that I
watched recently on television. I don't get time. I really
don't have time to watch TV. But I'm going to
(05:42):
suggest some stuff. Well you have to book. It's called
Ronan Pharaoh, the son of Mia Pharaoh and why Allen
He is a journalist and he talks all about how
he uncovered the whole Weinstein scandal. Is this fiction or truth?
This is truth? Girl? Interesting? And how he ever the
Matt Lauer scandal over at NBC and how he had
(06:04):
people trailing him, how dirty this operation was. This book
was so intriguing and it was so written so well,
and uh, I highly recommended Rodan Faroh Catch and Kill.
So that's what I've been doing. I've been trying to
read more books, like because I just feel like I've
lost that. I've lost that too. I was gonna put
the other day, like can somebody recommend a good book?
And then I felt like people are gonna be like,
(06:26):
I look to you for my recommendation. Now you're asking
why can't we ask questions like don't you think that
that's something that it's like a it's like a hazard
of the industry. You have to be all knowing. You
have to be the person that's always popping like I
have no shame and saying that I don't watch a
lot of things where I live in Right now, it's
like I feel like I have to suggest everything to
everyone right right, But maybe I'll read this book. I
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definitely want to read this book, especially considering that they
announced them the whole Surviving Jeff Epstein documentary on Lifetime.
That is gonna be crazy, it's gonna be good, and
I feel kind of like a little bit justified and
vindicated because everybody kept complaining. You know, they do these
Bill Cosby specials. They do these are Kelly specials. But
when it comes to like prominent white men, nobody wants
to dig up their dirt and put it on TV.
(07:09):
And and here we are a Lifetime hurt us. It's
going to be so good and I mean so good
meaning done very well. It's not because of the story,
because it's just horrific, but like I think they're going
to do a great job with because they don't do
a good job with the biopics. Oh no, those are trash.
I'm sorry, Lifetime, I love you, but no that's not
You're not that's not your forte. This the Surviving series
(07:32):
are really incredibly think that's gonna be good. I saw
Bad Boys for Life last night. It was good, but
I left feeling a certain type of way it which
is like, okay, Gate del Castillo was there. She was
like a drug lord woman. Oh my gosh. So for
those of you who are listening that don't know who
Kate cast is, she is like the most well known
novella actress like decades. I remember growing up and watching
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my mom watch her. She's amazing. And then she went
up to El Chapel for that interview with Shampan Oh
Robert around. I don't by the way, she is looking
very young. You think so, I think so. I mean,
just think about how long she's been around of watching
I was a child when I used to watch her
as an adult. How old is this chick? Maybe she
started when she was like younger, let's google it. Probably, um,
(08:17):
but I was just a little bit like, Okay, the
movie was good, but again here we are portrayed as
drug lords and criminals. Big shadow. Nikki Jam he had
a huge role, Jam Nikki Jam was one of the
main characters. He was like of the movie, but of
course he was a criminal and he was I was like,
oh my god. It's like I want us to get roles.
(08:38):
I want us to be part of like mainstream American movies.
But it's like, are you still going to make us
the maid? They're not here, They're not you know you
know what it is. I feel like they're she's forty seven.
That is a wonderful career path. I mean, seriously, if
you think about it, she started in Novella's when she
was probably in her teens, probably, which is when I
(09:00):
remember seeing her, she and Queen of the South. Yes,
I feel like she was Yeah, she's dope. I really
like her. But again it's like, so I'm giving myself
a task of coming up with like new shows and
new movies that are coming that are going to depict
us in a better light because I'm tired of it.
(09:21):
I saw something with Rosario Dawson is coming out. Oh,
I think I saw that too, Um, it might be
on one of the Is it on one of the networks?
I think I think she's like a p I or
a detective or something like that. Yeah, I saw that.
So I was like, maybe I'll put a little list
together and I'll share it on my on my story.
I saw that day remixing, Um, what is it? Party
of five? Oh, and they're doing it with a Latino
(09:42):
Latino family that the parents were actually deported. And then
something with the presidential candidate. I believe that's the last
free Form. I think that's going to be on free
So I'm going to put those together and I'm gonna
share it in my story. You know some Latino shows
that we can watch it depict us in a positive light,
because I mean, I'm waiting because well, I liked the movie.
I was kind of like, I don't know, you have
any Latino shows that we should be watching. No, but
(10:03):
I have this comment. There's this um I forgot what
the name of the show is. It's about this like
a Caribbean woman who is a witch and she fell
and it was but I'm getting that's the point. I'm
trying to get it. And then she falls in love
with like this this white European guy, and the whole
thing is like she's in the present day mass And
people were mad about the show because she was like,
(10:24):
um she I think she was depicted as like a
slave in the beginning, so they were mad because it
was like the white European and then she's also a witch.
And the Netflix show just like I watched one episode
with my girlfriend and like we couldn't even sit halfway
through the show, where like this show's trash. I mean
turned it off. Do you know what, though, I think
we have to put the onus on us. We need
more writers, we do, we need more representation out in Hollywood.
(10:49):
It's on Netflix. It's on Netflix. Yeah, and then you
know what I'm going to give myself on the work assignment.
I'm going to watch it. Oh she does, that's scary?
This is it? Yeah? That show trash isn't really Yeah,
it's really bad. I try to watch a show it
was called Los Spookies on HBO Latino and I was like,
it was like a paranormal Latino thing. But then I
was like yeah, no, yeah, see, I don't know. I
can't shake that. Because you're gonna put top five Latino
(11:13):
centric shows, I want to have to do my homework.
I really am. And I think it's going to be
a very difficult task for us because I think that
there are so few shows out there that are targeted
towards you know, our generation, the people who grew up
here in the States but still have the culture and
the influence from our parents. And like I said, I
think that we need more screenwriters. We need more you know,
(11:33):
people in the background producers, but they're not getting the
opportunities to come up A big shout out Limough he
is going to give us in the heights. Yes, I
love it. Um the guy that did uh what was
that rich Asians? Asians he's the one that's working with
him on it. So I don't know how I feel
about that part. But I saw everyone who was casted,
(11:54):
and it looks like it's going to be good. Okay,
those of you guys who are listening to us in
other parts of the country, thank you. We appreciate it.
But did you see the Brooklyn Borough president Eric Adams
telling people to get out of New York that he
um that people from Iowa and Ohio get out of
our city. You're not a real New Yorker and talking
about how you know, you go to Washington Heights and
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before you used to have working class people, now you
have Starbucks. There's a lot of opinions about this. Well,
in his in his defense, he was kind of like
talking about the gentrification being the culprit of our higher
rents here in New York. Yea born and raised in
New York myself, I do have feelings about you know,
gentrification and outsiders taking over our neighborhoods, because then we
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lose our culture, we lose our stores, we lose you know,
even ourselves. We are no longer being able to afford
to live in the neighborhoods we were born and raised
in because people come in and it's like where we
were paying eight hundred dollars. Now somebody that's rich and
came here from like Montana, Mom and dad are paying
the rent from over there. We'll pay for our apartment.
(12:59):
So does our landlord do say they never got our lease,
get us out and rent it to someone with much
more money. So I don't want people to leave, but
I do have a problem with what's happening in our
city with gentrification period. Your thoughts, Uh, Well, I lived
in Brooklyn, I lived in Williamsburg, and I lived in Williamsburg. UM.
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I would like to say, while there were still a
lot of different you know, long term families their meaning. Um,
the people who live next door to us, there were
a Polish family and people on the other side, they
were an Italian family and they had their brownstone for years,
you know, and we were just renting because we didn't
know whether or not we wanted to live there, and
like you know, we were trying to find where we
were going to settle in. UM. I do think there's
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something to be said about pushing people out, which I
don't agree with. But I also think that there is
a full there. There's like a mentality where if you
get things like a Starbucks or you get chained things,
and that means that you're bringing the neighborhood down when
really people are trying to bring the neighborhood up. But
when you you that, you're also excluding a lot of
the people who lived there before because they say, if
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you want to buy a home, you go to the
place where there's Starbucks, or because that means that people
are investing money in that neighborhood. But I just think
his approach was really just cross and I didn't appreciate
it because as a person who I do consider myself
a New Yorker. Now, I'm originally born and raised in Ohio.
But you know what, I love this place. Like I said,
It's given me my love of my life. I raised
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my children here. But um, I do think that New
York is truly the melting pot of this country. You
know it is. But I feel like back in the days,
it was like we were coming from different countries and
we were all, you know, melting together, putting our neighborhoods together,
and you know, being a community. Well, it's like you
could find like one little you know, you can find
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one area that was like mostly Italian or town. You know.
But it's crazy because like sometimes I go up town
and I have like transplant says you might call them,
looking at me like why are you here? I'm like,
I was fucking born on this block, Like how dare
you even look at me? Like I'm out of place?
Like I had a fight with some guy like that
(15:06):
you can't park here. I'm like, who the funk are you?
You're not NYPD And he's just like, while I live here,
I said, well, I was born here. How about that?
Why don't you you know you would have never walked
these blocks in the eighties and the nineties ever in
your life, But now you're here, you know, with your
with your scarf and in your Starbucks and you're telling
me where I could park. I don't think so. People
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are very passionate about it, you know. And that's what
you're saying. It's like the one mayoral race is really
gonna depend on a lot of this because you see it.
Like for example, we were just driving through and on
our way back from the city this weekend, we did
something with the boys, and we drove through Bushwick and
I said to my husband, I said, I cannot believe
bush Wick is changing. Bushwick used to be the Towick
(15:53):
to find cuties. Because let me tell you the finest
body right now. I when I moved to New Jersey
about red Hook. Red Hook is going to go to
red Hook? No. Well, so when I moved here, I
moved to Miami in two thousand five. I had a
gig in Brooklyn and they told me what path trained
to take, what other trained to take? Long story short,
I ended up in Bushwick. I got out of the train,
(16:16):
was like, I swear to you. Two cops came up
to me and they go, what are you doing here?
You're obviously lost? Where do you need to go? I'm
not in a joke, And I said that I was true.
And this was when you had to like print out
on map quest was looking all over the place. I
looked like a deer in headlights because I was just
like I don't know, like which line do I get on?
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And these two officers I remember them just looking at
me there like this is not the place where you
want to be. You want to get out here. Now
you're driving through Bushwick and it's like, oh my gosh,
like this is like a whole other land. But then
at the same time it's like, yes, it's beautiful. Yes
we have i kea, Yes we have pure one and
when we have vegan spots. But yes we are losing
our culture with everything yoga. But then mom and dad
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they can't afford to live there anymore. Where do our
parents go back to the Islands, back or to Orlando, Florida,
Like they can't live here anymore? It's true, you know,
is where do they go? So it's like it's affecting
us in a way that the people that were born
raised here, these are our roots. We can no longer
afford to live here because people come from other places
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and don't have a problem with paying two thousand dollars
for a studio, which we used to pay five hundred bucks,
you know what I'm saying. It's so it's kind of
like that's my main issue, you know, with gentrification, with
with newcomers, with transplants, whatever you want to call them.
They come over here and they function up for us. Well,
you know what they're saying, like with the new construction
buildings that all new construction will be required to have
housing that will um, you know, be able to take
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care of some And they said, you know that that's
that's been a thing for a while where they have
to have like a certain percentage of their units to
be low income home housing. But then you have to
make like dollars or a family of for to be
able to get those apartments. So and then you know,
it's crazy, Carolina, if you get one of those apartments,
you can't even come through the front well, don't like
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you know, like like you're contagious or something. You can't
use a lot of the amenities. Case an argument in
Williamsburg because there are a number of buildings that were
popping up on every corner. And then you know, they
were saying how you had to go through a different door,
Like you don't have a lot of money, You're lucky
you even live here. You go through the back door.
Because the rich people that can afford to live here,
(18:32):
they don't want to dorm you. They go through the door. Yes,
of course there. It's like you're an isore of a
human to them. Yeah, like, come on, something needs to
be done. I mean, I think something needs to be done.
And I think that the focus of it really is
that I think that mayoral race is going to bring
a lot of this stuff up. So, um, that's what's
going on. In New York. Now I have a question.
(18:54):
I don't want to make a quick left turn, but
I do have to ask. Make it if two wheels
go ahead? Hi me, what is wrong with camel toe?
I find camel too offensive? Okay, I need to understand
this because you posted a picture just a couple of
weeks ago. No, I want to read the caption for you,
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because Honey German on Instagram posted a beautiful picture of herself.
By the way, I might say, you were wearing like
a what do you call it, like a unitard, or
you were wearing like a body suit, some type of
a thing. Okay, show a picture, Honey German. Posts were
going in ruthless, taking no shorts, playing zero game, not
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a line out of line. Good luck with that. Zoom
in and this is my honey. And thought to myself
after I read that caption, Oh wait, she's talking about
camel toe. I hate camel but I find it offensive.
I can't stop staring at camel too when I see it,
and I don't even think to look for a camel too.
I looked at you and I thought, damn, she looks
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so good. I mean camel too from a mile away.
But but but what is it about camel toe that is
so offensive? Honestly, I feel like when females have camel toe,
they do it on purpose, like they want to have yes.
I feel like they want men to see like lip one,
lip two, let's get down and dirty. I seriously I
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wanted to bring this up to you because before we
started talking about Netflix and all this other stuff. But I,
I like thought to myself, I have never as a woman,
I really have not looked at another woman's picture and
zoomed in to see if she had camelto. Sometimes you
don't even got a zoom in, honey, that camel told
me staring back at you like what day is it?
Humped in? And then I started thinking to myself, like
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there's actual tape for this, there is to help you.
So what happens? What do you do? You take the
lips together so they don't part. Apparently Chloe Kardashian or
someone I heard her, because that takes me to another subject.
There are some women that say that no matter what
they wear, they always have camel too. I never have
camel toe ever, Like, no matter what I wear, I
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find it, I find it offensive. Like when I see
camel too I'm like, first of all, that has got
to hurt. Second of all, you cannot have panties on
one third of all a yeast infection is coming on
in three to one fourth of all. You must not
have a man because if I look any type of raunchy,
my husband be like, you're not going with that. So
it's so for me because I really truly don't like,
I'm not aware of the camel toe. Like you know
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issue you must not go to Dominican hand salons. They'd
be in there with them jeans. Just up the COUCHI
in the front, up the COUCHI in the bag. I'm
hot and ready. This is so? Is that like a
sign to let somebody know that you're like I think
if you look in the mirror and you see like
heavy camel toe and you're like, okay, I am ready
to take the day on you out here looking for dick?
(21:51):
Really okay? So now I have to be aware of
my camel Please be very aware of your camel too,
especially when you're out with your two kids. I've never
paid attention to camel towe in my life, but when
I'm like, you know, what's crazy? You are wearing leggies
when we go out in leggings and like a lot
of guys stare like actually, the other day, she's like,
do I have camelto I'm like no, why She's like mad,
guys keep staring at me. I'm like, you're like, because
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you're beautiful, that's what I like. No, you don't have camelton.
Like I really looked out and if a friend of
mine has cameltoe, I'm like, oh, you gotta pull that down.
You know, I have no problem. Ladies, please email us
Life and Spankwich Podcast at gmail dot com tell me
about the camel tooe, because I truly did not know
that this was like such a thing until I saw.
I mean, I knew of camelto Don't get me wrong.
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I know of cameltoe, and I also work out hyper
sense life. I'm sorry, I've never been sensitive to it.
I feel like, if you are out here with camelto
you out, you're saying, you're sending signals, and I understand,
you know, the only camelto wife forgive the Levi's high
waisted jean cameltoe because those jeans kind of like they're
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like a wedge fit in a bag. I guess I
get those eight jeans kind of like tend to do that,
but tights and I can see lip one and lip two. No, honey, see,
I stay away from stuff like that, like those naked
wardrobe outfits like the midriff. You know me, I'm very
I do not. And I've see what do white girls
with the yoga pans came too? Don't play. I do
(23:17):
wear yoga pans, so I don't think I have, but
I'm going to be more aware. And then I started researching,
and I said, there's tape for this, Like, why are
people so concerned about vagina? I just want to know
what do you do with the tape? Do you take
the lip? I guess I have no idea. I googled
it and it's aid Chloe Kardashian and camel toe and tape.
Just she has three things. It's called camelto thank you
(23:40):
if you if you have a problem with sponsor pad,
let me look at that. They are not a sponsor.
I'm just letting you know. But oh, so this is
what happens. I can see it now. So you tape
a camel tooe cover on the front of your vagina, Okay,
but then that's gonna hurt If you have hair, that's
gonna be an issue. If you have I guess you
have to have a Brazilian to where those are hearing this,
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I apologize, I hold on, let me turn around. Okay,
gave here. This is the camelto cover everyone in the room.
It's almost like a panty liner. It looks to me
like almost like one of the cups. Oh yeah, it's
like a cup. I guess I am all for this.
I'm sharing this in my story. Okay, go ahead, see
I put you with cuccini. Is that what it's called.
(24:26):
I like that name coccin the Couccini. Why don't we
think of this first? I'm just but then again, what
you said, if you have hair, what the hell's gonna happen?
That is gonna that's gonna hurt. That's gonna be like
remember a four year old virgin when he gets Kelly Clarkson.
So anyway, ladies, let me know what your thoughts are,
because I really personally do not pay attention to it.
If I see a beautiful woman walking down the street,
(24:48):
she's wearing a tight off it, I don't like go
and look directly at her. J Can I say this
like a celebrity came to be interviewed, and she came
with like red spandex and she had the biggest camel
toe I've ever seen, and like she just threw up.
She threw us all off and like you couldn't concentrate
(25:08):
at all at all, Like everybody was just like, but
did you see the camel toe? But did you see
the camel tow? And then that's the topic. But then
after that we just couldn't focus and couldn't take her serious,
and we said, like, did she purposely come here with
that big camel toe to like throw us off and
distract us? Like did she do it for shock value?
And we felt like she did really well Between you
(25:30):
and the Kardashians, I've had my fill of camel toe
for the week. I am good to go. I don't
think I need any more on this. And now I
did want to ask you your thoughts to last week
there was the big news about Gwyneth Paltrow releasing the
vagina Candle, and there were a bunch of memes, did
you see this vagina cadle? What is honey? I am
schooling you. This is so exciting for me because normally
(25:52):
honey is the one that brings everything in. So go
to google Gwyneth Paltrow Goop candle vaginant. Okay, goops when
Martha Stewart bike, I've heard of this, so I would
love to hear from a man what your thoughts are.
This is a vagina center candle, the vagina scented candle.
(26:13):
Now let's go ahead of work. Okay. Now read the
description of what it says of the Vagina Center candle.
Let me just go here. Though it was like pineapple cented.
I believe it has citrus. No, I'm serious. I believe
it has like a citrus undertone. No, I'm serious, honey.
These are questions that need to be asked for. You know,
these are questions I need to be asked like a
pineapple like type of smellower. I don't know what she
(26:36):
says it smest like her vaginas. See if you google
Gwyneth Paltrow Candle vagina she has released it and um
it's through her wellness platform. I see here, I see
here the mix. Okay, so go ahead and read to
everybody with the mix. It's a mix of geranium, citrusy
(26:57):
bergamot and cedar. What is this? Some rose some amber seed.
This novel vaginas be smelling like exactly, don't have none
of that up there, exactly, So here's like a damn
wine to me, it's got an undertone of a cedar. Yeah, exactly.
So here's my thing. So a lot of people were
making these jokes, like there were memes like of candles
(27:19):
like that smells like a vagina. One one guy, I
don't know if it was Snoop Dogg, but they opened
up a canatuna and just stuck a candle in it
and said, this is the vagina candle. And I was
dying and I wanted to hear your thoughts because here's
the thing though. Okay, now here's where I stand on this.
There are a lot of different women, There are a
(27:39):
lot of different shapes, sizes, textures, like all different kinds
of things when it comes to a vagina. Obviously there
are different sense to a vagina. So was Gwyneth calling
attention to this like basically saying like, oh, this smells wonderful,
and like is she trying to make it better or
is she opening up the conversation for people to be critical.
I think I think we haven't heard about Wyneth out
(28:00):
in a very long time. So this vagina candle got
us talk about her all over again. And you think
it's a employ for attention. Watch people buy it because
it's laid out, by the way. I don't know who
for a damn candle, and it's a small one because
I have like a five hundred dollar candle in my
house that I would never actually light, you know. But yeah,
(28:22):
she's just trolling. There's no way you can make like
a candle that smells like a vaginant. Everybody smells different,
even considering what you eat. I think is like reflective
of how you vagina smells. And here's my thing. Okay,
So we have some women listen to this podcast with
their young daughters, and there's something that's really important for
women to understand. No, no, no, I want I want
(28:43):
us to feel comfortable with our bodies, you know what
I mean. And I want somebody to say, you know what,
this is who I am. I am not ashamed of
the shape of my vagina or the way that it looks,
because there are different ones. So I think it's an
important conversation to have with your daughters to let them know,
you know what, everybody is different and that's okay. But
(29:03):
I think that like her putting out this, it's like
it's basically I think it's a ploy. Okay, but but
I don't think up the conversation. It opened up the conversation,
and I think that, you know, in a male dominated society,
I think it's important for us to remind young women
that they it's okay, it is okay, it is okay,
and it's okay to have all different type of sizes
(29:24):
and shapes. You might have an auty, you might have
an any It doesn't matter which way it is. It
all works the same way. I love that we chose
these topics when we have an intern here and Gabe,
of course, by the way, this is his first day
on the job, and I was like, do you want
to come in and listen? We just jump. So, now
(29:46):
that we've covered all of that, was there anything else
that you wanted to bring in today? I pretty much
brought everything in the night that I wanted to talk about.
We've been you know, this was a wild ride today.
It was a wild ride today, But you know what,
I feel like we still have some more time. So
I did bring in my intern, Emay Emay say hello
to everybody, um intern Emay she has a story for us,
(30:07):
and maybe we can provide some kind of advice. I
always like to get nice and close to the mic,
so we don't have to raise your volume because it's
almost like a live salon. She's stepping into the salon.
Let's go ahead and welcome to the salon. Okay. So
obviously you know I'm a young femail out in these
streets single dating as if you want to call it.
(30:30):
So I was talking to a guy, and I like
to take everyone for face value. I try not to
assume everybody's a liar. So he explained that his living
situation was a little like not normal. So it's like, okay,
what does that mean. Basically, he said that he lives
with his ex girlfriend. Obviously that's a red flood because
(30:52):
that sounds like weird. Why would you live with his
ex girl. Benefit of the doubt, he lives with the
ex girlfriend. Maybe it's a monetary thing. Go ahead. So
he was like, we don't sleep in the same room, Like,
we don't really interact with each other. We're not together,
Like I just resigned the least not too long ago.
Like it's a whole thing. So it's like, okay, that's fine. Whatever.
(31:12):
So we were talking for like a month and we
had never met before, and then we had finally okay,
and he told you this online. Okay, good, at least
he's not. I feel like he's being honest, even though
it's not the best of situations. I feel like he's
being really forthright with you. Okay, because all I ask
for is open, honest communication. As long as you're truthful
(31:33):
from the get we can work around most things. So
we were talking and then finally we had decided to
meet up, and we was like, okay, great, and it
was one day here after work we were going to
meet up, and um, like, right before I'm about to
meet him, he's like he texts me and he's like, Okay,
I have to be honest. She's still semi kind of
my girlfriend. Get then okay, and I I mean, my
(31:56):
mind's blown. We're about to meet up in like two hours.
You tell me is your girlfriend? Now this is the
first time you're ever meeting she's kind of still my girl.
I want to hear the whole thing, but now do
you now Here's where I ask do you decide at
that point to continue to see this young man. Well
after he says that he's like, but we can still
do whatever if you're down, So you want to cheat
(32:18):
with you and make me his side piece. And one
of the main things I said to him in the
beginning when he told me about his situation was is
she really your ex girlfriend? Because I don't want any
girl rolling up on me and talking about you're sleeping.
When my boyfriend, he was, Oh my god, that's so
(32:39):
now I'm it's thrown in my lap. I have to
make the decision. Do I maintain my good standing, my values,
and my morals, or do I become this man's side piece,
Like it really is my choice now in the road,
and you don't even mad at him anymore because he
already put it on you. The the mind is strong,
(33:03):
but the body is weak. Oh fine, you saw him finished,
So oh we're not supposed to judge. Go ahead. I
took the time, like it took me to get from
work home to decide what I was going to do
(33:25):
with myself. And then because I was still entertaining the
idea even though I know that is terrible, and then
like I got home and I was like, if I
continue to drive to this man's house that he shares
with his girlfriend, Like, what type of person? What did
that say to me? Won't probably working? I was like,
(33:51):
what does that say about me if I actively choose
because he's told me it's not like we hooked up,
and then he told me after correct, so I'm like,
this is on me. I will have the worst karma
for the rest of my life if I actively cheat.
And it's at the end of the day, there's a
thousand penises in the world and he's probably not going
to be my last, and he's not worth it. So
(34:13):
I decided not to go and I told him. I
was like, you should have been honest from the beginning.
I was like, I don't like that you put me
in the situation. It's just not gonna work. And I
deleted him off his Snapchat and all the other stuff,
and I moved on lovely. I know, and he must
understand there are websites for people that are in relationships
and want to cheat. You know, he could have just
put that on his profile. Lots of other people put
(34:35):
like just looking for a side piece. Yes, yeah, it'll
be in their bio. Yeah, my girlfriend told me that,
Like that's a big thing. Now that they say, like,
you know, UM down to have multiple relationships or um
not into relationships. I'm seeing a lot of people like
they just put it out there, like what their game
is basically like, so that you know what you're getting into.
(34:57):
I think it all comes down to self worth, I
really do. I think it comes down to how you
feel about yourself, how you can lay with yourself at
night in your own thoughts. And I think that you
made the right decision because clearly somebody like that doesn't
know what they want, and you don't want to get
wrapped up in that kind of a mess. So I
think that you made the right choice in not pursuing that.
(35:18):
But I think it was a wise lesson, you know.
I think that as you go out there and you date,
you're gonna meet a lot of different people and you're
gonna have to kiss a lot of frogs. Thank goodness,
you didn't kiss this one. But there is there are
good men out there, And I don't want this to
be a man bashing podcast, because I do believe that
there are really good men out there. No, they really are,
and you're gonna encounter a lot of this while you're
(35:41):
looking for him. Yeah, and you don't want to just
be the person they call when they want like a
vagina variety, like oh, I'm tired of messing with my
girl for a week, let me call email for that
one little variety, and then that breaks up their monotony
and then he goes back to being, you know, chill
with his girl. And on another note, is like I
have to commend you on the fact that you decided
to step back because I feel like women's tough women
(36:03):
who actively date married men and men in relationship are
just as much to blame as the man because you
are facilitating the cheating. You know what I'm saying. It's
like if all women put it in their mind, like
if men are in relationships and men are married, they're
off limits. These guys are not gonna be able to
be out here being dogs and cheat on your wives
and cheating on if if you don't let them in.
(36:25):
And I've always said that, and everybody's like, well, you know,
the problem is your man and you need to check
your name. I do believe that he has a responsibility
if he took a vour, if he's your boyfriend, that yes,
he has responsibility, But she does too, exactly. Like, if
you know that he is married and you still pursue
it and you still want to carry on a secret relationship,
what does that say about you as a woman. You understand,
(36:45):
So I commend you. You You held your standards and
you didn't become part of the problem that people in
relationships are having, which is women don't care you're married.
Tell me what time your wife leaves to work. So
what are gonna say? I think it has to be
hard as a single woman, you know, because it's like
you do crave or you want that relationship. But she's young,
(37:06):
which means a lot of women of a lot of
men in her pool are still young singer are not married.
You know, I feel for women in their thirties and
their forties. That's who I feel for because the pool
she don't feel for you single, single, not married. You
know what I'm saying. You guys are all still out
(37:27):
here getting to know each other. Nobody has ten kids,
Nobody isn't it's hard in the stree, but your age
pool is much better than a view in your thirties
or in your forties. Women in their forties are screwed.
They have to be sad pieces not you. Well, the
easy thing is obviously not the right thing here, and
you chose to do the hard thing, which is to
say no, because a lot the easy thing would be like,
(37:49):
you know what, I want to get mine and I
don't care. That's his relationship. And that's what a lot
of people's mentality was. The demon on my shoulder was saying, right, well,
this is about you, like that's their problem exactly. I was.
I couldn't believe, but that's that that was actually going
through my mind, like obviously my parents have. The sad
part was he wasn't that wase okay, so now he
(38:10):
isn't even cute though in my defense, I have been
broken up with on Tuesday. I had had to dump
somebody on Wednesday, and so by third I'm dating. So
I like, okay, this is like the new wave of
David dating. By how people date now, I juggle at
(38:32):
least okay, I call it my roster. I usually have
a roster at max five because listen, hear me out here.
But now, can I ask you a personal question, are
you active with these men? No? Okay? So it's a
roster of dating just exactly so just wanting five different
people because you have to assume at least half of
them will screw up before you even meet them, so
(38:54):
that brings you down to maybe two or three. Well,
you see, Carolina. Now they date online, which is different,
fro Us. We used to date in person. We would
creet somebody, get their number, and then we would date
in person. But you have to like meet somewhere, right,
you would go on dates. Now you're kind of like
cyber dating. Yes, and you have to I vet them
before I even meet them. So assume I'm down to
now two or three. From the two or three, we'll
(39:15):
see who rises to the top of that pool, and
then whoever I'm more interested in, or who performs better
is who I will meet and put my attention to first.
And so that's what was happening. So I had I've
been seeing somebody in my roster and it was going great,
and then I got broken up with last Tuesday, and
then I was all sad. Show it was. It was
(39:37):
a rough morning. I mean, normally this girl comes in,
she's like Susie Sunshine. That was like, but luckily she
has five other people. You know, Yeah, I know, because
you know what it is like, I do understand why
you afford that the pool of people, because then that way,
it's like, as they start eliminating, you still have other
people that you've started to form a relationship with or
a friendship with, Yes, but you still haven't even met
(39:57):
them in person, which is just so bizarre to me.
It really is too. It's like it in the world.
Before I was with my current girlfriend of two years, Um,
she should not judge me for this, But before I
met her, I had like I don't I don't even
know maybe six no, no, cyber. Sometimes you just be bored.
(40:22):
Sometimes you just be bored, like when you're single and
then you just go on Tender or something, you swipe somebody,
young people. You just get bored. You just get bored.
Never Tinder was. But then like obviously when I met
my girl, like all that gets gets thrown out the window.
You like, dump all you dump all your hose and
like you don't talk to note none of those girls.
You block them and then ask you a question, do
(40:43):
you keep this profile while you're still so like if
you met the one like your girlfriend, would you keep
the Tinder profile? Just feel like that if we were
together together, you don't need that Tinder like, once I
started talking and I was like, I've seen people be like,
oh my god, my man was active on Tinder. I'm like,
why is this Tinder still open? Yeah? You should that
(41:03):
shouldn't even exist. So that you're saying that, you see
her like reasoning with having like the five different dudes
that she's talking to, because like that's kind of what
you used to do. Yeah, and then but then once
I once I started talking to my current girlfriend, and
I was like, oh, this could be more than that,
Like I deleted all that stuff, and then eventually we
we've got into a full blown relationship. But I feel
like now I don't know if I could do if
(41:24):
I could do balance all that in the job, I
respect you for that. I couldn't do that now. When
I was in college, I was like, oh, this is easy,
easy because I'm just in class. I'm like this, this
class is so easy. I'm just gonna go talk to
some people. Well, I'm waiting to get out. What do
you mean you, Carolina, don't have to you know? Balance?
Five people say snapchat? Thank the good Lord I met
my husband when I did, because Mark to me, and
(41:46):
I'm not even saying this to be like cheesy or anything.
He is the biggest blessing that I've ever received as
a blessing too. I know he's you know, we've been
together for such a long time, so I say all
the time, like me, if we split, my vagina mile
is just low. Okay, once I tell somebody I smashed
nobody and like, fenteen years you practically a virgin honey,
(42:08):
seriously with the same dude. Yeah, but yeah, it's just
you know, you're you're giving us like a real life
struggle that people are facing while they're dating. So I
appreciate your honesty. But I do think that you made
the right decision, and I think that maybe it's an
eye opener for you, you know, I think that maybe
next time you're talking to you know, some of the
guys that like hit you up, you want that full transparency,
(42:30):
and I would expect nothing less. I have a new
roster finished. I did replace all of them, and one
guy was very honest. He's Indian, and we just threw conversation. Basically,
he told me that, you know, his family wants him
to settle down with an Indian woman and get married.
(42:51):
So basically he was like, that's who I'm going to marry,
but we can have fun until then. And I was like,
I can be upset, but I respect the on it.
But I feel like that's okay. I feel like that's
okay because what if you just want to have fun,
Like what if you guys are both in that same mentality,
because it's like, you're not going to marry everybody that
you date. I dated plenty of people, you know, And
(43:11):
that's why I think that's part of the experience too.
It's like it would be offended, Caroline if somebody's dating
me and they're like, well, you know, I'm never gonna
marry you because you're not the right Honestly, I have
to say that, No, you know what, I wouldn't even
I wouldn't even classify it as that. I would just
say that maybe somebody wants to have a little fun
before they settled down. And if you're in that same
mind frame, or if you're in that same mode, then
(43:32):
then what's the harm in it? You both have a
little bit of fun, you know what I mean? What
do you think game that was a whole ark on
the grassy back in the day. I'm just saying I'm
gonna bring back to grab there was. I forgot what
did you watch the Grassy? I forgot what's his name?
Sav something like that. His parents wanted him to marry
an Indian girl, but he was in love with um,
this white girl who he went to school with, so
(43:53):
like he would he was like, fake pump, you know
what I'm saying. Like, I think him and the girl
had an arrangement where like they like they pretend for
the family and then he would go see his girl,
she would go see her man and then and then
they would just get together at the family gatherings and
just fake pump. I think that's what happened in the show.
I could be wrong. I have a friend who's Lebanese
and his parents say they only want him to marry
(44:14):
a Lebanese girl. And he and really, he said, do
you know how hard it is? He's like, unless you're
going to like your church or family members, or you know,
you have other family members that hook you up with
people that they know or friends, it's a very limited pool.
So you know what, he wants to go out and
have fun, and I don't blame him, but eventually it's
going to have to come down to if he wants
to make his family happy, or he falls in love
(44:37):
and says to his family, this is the person that
I want to be with and you're gonna have to
accept it. Good luck. Yea. Some of these people would
just be like, absolutely not. I'm not going against my family.
It's a very old school way of thinking, and it's
an old school mentality, but it exists. It still does
in New York, so you can only imagine how it
is in other countries. If we're still struggling with that.
(44:57):
Absolutely well, Emay, we wish you luck in your um
dick excursions and uh, you know you just keep us posted,
honey on the roster. Okay, say and I'm proud of you.
I will say that I'm very proud of you. So
I'm just keep it up. Thank you, thank you. So
that was a moment. That was a moment. That was
a good salon. Though. I love when we do the
(45:17):
salon live and in the studio. We might have some
exciting things coming up for you in the salon because
we're working on some stuff here. But you know what,
I listen, we covered a lot today. We covered Netflix, cheerleading, gentrification,
murder cats, Vagina's Other Kitty Cats. I mean, we just
like really covered all the bases in this week's episode
(45:39):
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Can't verify a vagina. Can we talk about TV shows?
Have you been watching anything Carolina recently? Cheer on Netflix?
That ship is so good. It's good. I saw it.
You watched the whole thing? No, no, no, I watched.
I didn't watch. I saw it on Netflix. Like on
the Thing, I watched Aaron hernandez Oh. I want. I
wanted to watch them. I wasn't mentally prepared to watch it, though,
like I needed to be in that right frame of mind,
(00:22):
Like you know what I mean? How many episodes talk
about shows? It's only three? Only three episodes? Oh for real,
I thought it was gonna be like a whole six
is it? I heard it was because they said, um,
they said it was because he was gay, because of
a sexual orientation, or that he was bisexual. That's part
of the reason why he killed himself. Can we talk
about it? Aren't we talking about Are we rolling? Okay? Okay, Hi,
(00:44):
we'll welcome, Welcome to life with English. Okay. Sure, we
were just behind the scenes talking about TV shows and
me and Carolina we're talking about what we've been watching
on Netflix. And I look at the difference between Honey
and I. Honey is watching the Aaron Hernandez. And you
know what it's about cheerleaders. It's all about competitive cheerleading,
which when I was in high school, I was a
(01:04):
competitive cheerleader, and so it kind of about this. I
didn't know about this. You didn't know that. Oh yeah, girl, Yes,
that's why I got them bad knees. I got a
bad bag. I thought you were going to say, that's
how you got them good legs. Girl. I um, I
used to be a cheerleader when I was in high school.
But I'm surprised. First of all, hold on, I'm surprised
your mom lets you do this. Being a Latino, my
mom would have never with that little skirt and that
(01:27):
CRAPI my mom would have been like to look no,
I know right, No, my mom was down like she
was because I think that my mom was looking for
something to like occupy my time. I was just you
were going to say americanized, you know, are you kidding me?
Some Latino parents are like that. They want you to
(01:48):
do like American type of sports, like to real inclusive,
like like tennis, tennis. For saying something like that, what
did you say? I said, Okay, I forget where I
was where I said, it's like a white man's sport
because in truth, if you played golf, most country clubs
would not allow people of color. And this is you know,
(02:08):
look back into the history and we didn't have the
money to pay those fees. Yeah. But then also a
lot of the clubs were very restrictive against people of colors,
women and women, so you wouldn't get the opportunity to play.
And somebody said, well, that is a racist statement, and
I said, that's not me being racist, that's like the truth,
you know. And a lot of people like like you mentioned,
(02:28):
like Venus and Serena Williams, their father used to take
them to the public court in Compton and he was
their coach because he didn't they couldn't afford to get
these like gene coaches, you know. So there's are the
racist about that. But yeah, So I was a cheerleader
and uh I loved it and you're watching cheer I
was watching cheer I cried my eyes out at the end.
(02:49):
I'm not going to tell you how it ends. It
is so many parts because I really can't come into
too many parts, I gotta be honest. I think it
might be eight episodes or something like. Yeah, over like
three days of a sudden, I want to binge watch everything.
I can't see myself waiting a whole week anymore to
like watch something. So what are you into? So how
is a document? I feel like it was a waste
(03:09):
of time. I feel like I knew everything that they
that they said. I feel like Lifetime or somebody had
already done this. Yeah, I watched. The only difference here
was that we got to hear like his jail house calls.
And it's so crazy because you know, his relationship with
his mom was disgusting. Yeah, did he not treat her
well or well? You know his mom ended up doing
like something super shicty when his dad died and like
(03:32):
stealing Aaron's cousin's husband and moving him into the house. Yeah,
but you know, it's crazy that bonded Aaron and his
cousin to the point that they put her on the
stand and she was like in treatment for cancer and
she was like, send me to jail not testifying against Aaron.
I wouldn't be in my story. I was like, if
you don't have this level of loyalty, I don't want it.
(03:53):
So she was like, no hair scarf on her head,
in the middle of chemother. This is his cousin's cousin.
His mother was trash. Oh man, Yeah, they had a
really really bad relationship. So that that kind of like
I learned a little bit more about Aaron his upbringing,
but showed not so much. But you know what, I
did love Carolyn. What den't funk with cats? What? Oh no, oh,
(04:15):
my gosh, no. I saw somebody talking about this again.
I don't know if I can watch something like this, Like,
I'm an EmPATH. Okay, so when you're an EmPATH, you
like you obviously you feel what other people are feeling. Okay,
So when I watch things like that, it stays with me,
even if you don't know the people or I don't
like in real life, you know what, that is one
(04:36):
of the things. And I will bring it back to
Netflix in a second. But like when I worked in
TV news, Right, I did a lifestyle show on television
for two years. Right. We would wake up in the
morning and every day it was like murder, rape, this all,
you know, just horrible things. And I would wake up
in the morning. I would be like, damn, like, what
is it going to be today? You know what I mean?
It's hard for me to watch things like that and
(04:58):
let it go, especially babies, animals. You know what I'm saying.
I heard it's like a really intriguing it is and
it's story. It's crazy because it goes to show you
how a bunch of people can come together and like
create a whole investigation. I'm talking like regular people. I'm
telling you online anymore you will, you will get caught.
(05:21):
Did you watch you? No? Is that the one where
the guy's a stalker is amazing tool. I've had time.
I'm not at any time. I'm telling you what did
I watch? I'm trying to think of what I've been watching. No,
I mean honestly, Cheer is the only thing that I
watched recently on television. I don't get time. I really
don't have time to watch TV. But I'm going to
(05:42):
suggest some stuff. Well you have to book. It's called
Ronan Pharaoh, the son of Mia Pharaoh and why Allen
He is a journalist and he talks all about how
he uncovered the whole Weinstein scandal. Is this fiction or truth?
This is truth? Girl? Interesting? And how he ever the
Matt Lauer scandal over at NBC and how he had
(06:04):
people trailing him, how dirty this operation was. This book
was so intriguing and it was so written so well,
and uh, I highly recommended Rodan Faroh Catch and Kill.
So that's what I've been doing. I've been trying to
read more books, like because I just feel like I've
lost that. I've lost that too. I was gonna put
the other day, like can somebody recommend a good book?
And then I felt like people are gonna be like,
(06:26):
I look to you for my recommendation. Now you're asking
why can't we ask questions like don't you think that
that's something that it's like a it's like a hazard
of the industry. You have to be all knowing. You
have to be the person that's always popping like I
have no shame and saying that I don't watch a
lot of things where I live in Right now, it's
like I feel like I have to suggest everything to
everyone right right, But maybe I'll read this book. I
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definitely want to read this book, especially considering that they
announced them the whole Surviving Jeff Epstein documentary on Lifetime.
That is gonna be crazy, it's gonna be good, and
I feel kind of like a little bit justified and
vindicated because everybody kept complaining. You know, they do these
Bill Cosby specials. They do these are Kelly specials. But
when it comes to like prominent white men, nobody wants
to dig up their dirt and put it on TV.
(07:09):
And and here we are a Lifetime hurt us. It's
going to be so good and I mean so good
meaning done very well. It's not because of the story,
because it's just horrific, but like I think they're going
to do a great job with because they don't do
a good job with the biopics. Oh no, those are trash.
I'm sorry, Lifetime, I love you, but no that's not
You're not that's not your forte. This the Surviving series
(07:32):
are really incredibly think that's gonna be good. I saw
Bad Boys for Life last night. It was good, but
I left feeling a certain type of way it which
is like, okay, Gate del Castillo was there. She was
like a drug lord woman. Oh my gosh. So for
those of you who are listening that don't know who
Kate cast is, she is like the most well known
novella actress like decades. I remember growing up and watching
(07:55):
my mom watch her. She's amazing. And then she went
up to El Chapel for that interview with Shampan Oh
Robert around. I don't by the way, she is looking
very young. You think so, I think so. I mean,
just think about how long she's been around of watching
I was a child when I used to watch her
as an adult. How old is this chick? Maybe she
started when she was like younger, let's google it. Probably, um,
(08:17):
but I was just a little bit like, Okay, the
movie was good, but again here we are portrayed as
drug lords and criminals. Big shadow. Nikki Jam he had
a huge role, Jam Nikki Jam was one of the
main characters. He was like of the movie, but of
course he was a criminal and he was I was like,
oh my god. It's like I want us to get roles.
(08:38):
I want us to be part of like mainstream American movies.
But it's like, are you still going to make us
the maid? They're not here, They're not you know you
know what it is. I feel like they're she's forty seven.
That is a wonderful career path. I mean, seriously, if
you think about it, she started in Novella's when she
was probably in her teens, probably, which is when I
(09:00):
remember seeing her, she and Queen of the South. Yes,
I feel like she was Yeah, she's dope. I really
like her. But again it's like, so I'm giving myself
a task of coming up with like new shows and
new movies that are coming that are going to depict
us in a better light because I'm tired of it.
(09:21):
I saw something with Rosario Dawson is coming out. Oh,
I think I saw that too, Um, it might be
on one of the Is it on one of the networks?
I think I think she's like a p I or
a detective or something like that. Yeah, I saw that.
So I was like, maybe I'll put a little list
together and I'll share it on my on my story.
I saw that day remixing, Um, what is it? Party
of five? Oh, and they're doing it with a Latino
(09:42):
Latino family that the parents were actually deported. And then
something with the presidential candidate. I believe that's the last
free Form. I think that's going to be on free
So I'm going to put those together and I'm gonna
share it in my story. You know some Latino shows
that we can watch it depict us in a positive light,
because I mean, I'm waiting because well, I liked the movie.
I was kind of like, I don't know, you have
any Latino shows that we should be watching. No, but
(10:03):
I have this comment. There's this um I forgot what
the name of the show is. It's about this like
a Caribbean woman who is a witch and she fell
and it was but I'm getting that's the point. I'm
trying to get it. And then she falls in love
with like this this white European guy, and the whole
thing is like she's in the present day mass And
people were mad about the show because she was like,
(10:24):
um she I think she was depicted as like a
slave in the beginning, so they were mad because it
was like the white European and then she's also a witch.
And the Netflix show just like I watched one episode
with my girlfriend and like we couldn't even sit halfway
through the show, where like this show's trash. I mean
turned it off. Do you know what, though, I think
we have to put the onus on us. We need
more writers, we do, we need more representation out in Hollywood.
(10:49):
It's on Netflix. It's on Netflix. Yeah, and then you
know what I'm going to give myself on the work assignment.
I'm going to watch it. Oh she does, that's scary?
This is it? Yeah? That show trash isn't really Yeah,
it's really bad. I try to watch a show it
was called Los Spookies on HBO Latino and I was like,
it was like a paranormal Latino thing. But then I
was like yeah, no, yeah, see, I don't know. I
can't shake that. Because you're gonna put top five Latino
(11:13):
centric shows, I want to have to do my homework.
I really am. And I think it's going to be
a very difficult task for us because I think that
there are so few shows out there that are targeted
towards you know, our generation, the people who grew up
here in the States but still have the culture and
the influence from our parents. And like I said, I
think that we need more screenwriters. We need more you know,
(11:33):
people in the background producers, but they're not getting the
opportunities to come up A big shout out Limough he
is going to give us in the heights. Yes, I
love it. Um the guy that did uh what was
that rich Asians? Asians he's the one that's working with
him on it. So I don't know how I feel
about that part. But I saw everyone who was casted,
(11:54):
and it looks like it's going to be good. Okay,
those of you guys who are listening to us in
other parts of the country, thank you. We appreciate it.
But did you see the Brooklyn Borough president Eric Adams
telling people to get out of New York that he
um that people from Iowa and Ohio get out of
our city. You're not a real New Yorker and talking
about how you know, you go to Washington Heights and
(12:15):
before you used to have working class people, now you
have Starbucks. There's a lot of opinions about this. Well,
in his in his defense, he was kind of like
talking about the gentrification being the culprit of our higher
rents here in New York. Yea born and raised in
New York myself, I do have feelings about you know,
gentrification and outsiders taking over our neighborhoods, because then we
(12:37):
lose our culture, we lose our stores, we lose you know,
even ourselves. We are no longer being able to afford
to live in the neighborhoods we were born and raised
in because people come in and it's like where we
were paying eight hundred dollars. Now somebody that's rich and
came here from like Montana, Mom and dad are paying
the rent from over there. We'll pay for our apartment.
(12:59):
So does our landlord do say they never got our lease,
get us out and rent it to someone with much
more money. So I don't want people to leave, but
I do have a problem with what's happening in our
city with gentrification period. Your thoughts, Uh, Well, I lived
in Brooklyn, I lived in Williamsburg, and I lived in Williamsburg. UM.
(13:20):
I would like to say, while there were still a
lot of different you know, long term families their meaning. Um,
the people who live next door to us, there were
a Polish family and people on the other side, they
were an Italian family and they had their brownstone for years,
you know, and we were just renting because we didn't
know whether or not we wanted to live there, and
like you know, we were trying to find where we
were going to settle in. UM. I do think there's
(13:42):
something to be said about pushing people out, which I
don't agree with. But I also think that there is
a full there. There's like a mentality where if you
get things like a Starbucks or you get chained things,
and that means that you're bringing the neighborhood down when
really people are trying to bring the neighborhood up. But
when you you that, you're also excluding a lot of
the people who lived there before because they say, if
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you want to buy a home, you go to the
place where there's Starbucks, or because that means that people
are investing money in that neighborhood. But I just think
his approach was really just cross and I didn't appreciate
it because as a person who I do consider myself
a New Yorker. Now, I'm originally born and raised in Ohio.
But you know what, I love this place. Like I said,
It's given me my love of my life. I raised
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my children here. But um, I do think that New
York is truly the melting pot of this country. You
know it is. But I feel like back in the days,
it was like we were coming from different countries and
we were all, you know, melting together, putting our neighborhoods together,
and you know, being a community. Well, it's like you
could find like one little you know, you can find
(14:45):
one area that was like mostly Italian or town. You know.
But it's crazy because like sometimes I go up town
and I have like transplant says you might call them,
looking at me like why are you here? I'm like,
I was fucking born on this block, Like how dare
you even look at me? Like I'm out of place?
Like I had a fight with some guy like that
(15:06):
you can't park here. I'm like, who the funk are you?
You're not NYPD And he's just like, while I live here,
I said, well, I was born here. How about that?
Why don't you you know you would have never walked
these blocks in the eighties and the nineties ever in
your life, But now you're here, you know, with your
with your scarf and in your Starbucks and you're telling
me where I could park. I don't think so. People
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are very passionate about it, you know. And that's what
you're saying. It's like the one mayoral race is really
gonna depend on a lot of this because you see it.
Like for example, we were just driving through and on
our way back from the city this weekend, we did
something with the boys, and we drove through Bushwick and
I said to my husband, I said, I cannot believe
bush Wick is changing. Bushwick used to be the Towick
(15:53):
to find cuties. Because let me tell you the finest
body right now. I when I moved to New Jersey
about red Hook. Red Hook is going to go to
red Hook? No. Well, so when I moved here, I
moved to Miami in two thousand five. I had a
gig in Brooklyn and they told me what path trained
to take, what other trained to take? Long story short,
I ended up in Bushwick. I got out of the train,
(16:16):
was like, I swear to you. Two cops came up
to me and they go, what are you doing here?
You're obviously lost? Where do you need to go? I'm
not in a joke, And I said that I was true.
And this was when you had to like print out
on map quest was looking all over the place. I
looked like a deer in headlights because I was just
like I don't know, like which line do I get on?
(16:37):
And these two officers I remember them just looking at
me there like this is not the place where you
want to be. You want to get out here. Now
you're driving through Bushwick and it's like, oh my gosh,
like this is like a whole other land. But then
at the same time it's like, yes, it's beautiful. Yes
we have i kea, Yes we have pure one and
when we have vegan spots. But yes we are losing
our culture with everything yoga. But then mom and dad
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they can't afford to live there anymore. Where do our
parents go back to the Islands, back or to Orlando, Florida,
Like they can't live here anymore? It's true, you know,
is where do they go? So it's like it's affecting
us in a way that the people that were born
raised here, these are our roots. We can no longer
afford to live here because people come from other places
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and don't have a problem with paying two thousand dollars
for a studio, which we used to pay five hundred bucks,
you know what I'm saying. It's so it's kind of
like that's my main issue, you know, with gentrification, with
with newcomers, with transplants, whatever you want to call them.
They come over here and they function up for us. Well,
you know what they're saying, like with the new construction
buildings that all new construction will be required to have
housing that will um, you know, be able to take
(17:47):
care of some And they said, you know that that's
that's been a thing for a while where they have
to have like a certain percentage of their units to
be low income home housing. But then you have to
make like dollars or a family of for to be
able to get those apartments. So and then you know,
it's crazy, Carolina, if you get one of those apartments,
you can't even come through the front well, don't like
(18:10):
you know, like like you're contagious or something. You can't
use a lot of the amenities. Case an argument in
Williamsburg because there are a number of buildings that were
popping up on every corner. And then you know, they
were saying how you had to go through a different door,
Like you don't have a lot of money, You're lucky
you even live here. You go through the back door.
Because the rich people that can afford to live here,
(18:32):
they don't want to dorm you. They go through the door. Yes,
of course there. It's like you're an isore of a
human to them. Yeah, like, come on, something needs to
be done. I mean, I think something needs to be done.
And I think that the focus of it really is
that I think that mayoral race is going to bring
a lot of this stuff up. So, um, that's what's
going on. In New York. Now I have a question.
(18:54):
I don't want to make a quick left turn, but
I do have to ask. Make it if two wheels
go ahead? Hi me, what is wrong with camel toe?
I find camel too offensive? Okay, I need to understand
this because you posted a picture just a couple of
weeks ago. No, I want to read the caption for you,
(19:15):
because Honey German on Instagram posted a beautiful picture of herself.
By the way, I might say, you were wearing like
a what do you call it, like a unitard, or
you were wearing like a body suit, some type of
a thing. Okay, show a picture, Honey German. Posts were
going in ruthless, taking no shorts, playing zero game, not
(19:35):
a line out of line. Good luck with that. Zoom
in and this is my honey. And thought to myself
after I read that caption, Oh wait, she's talking about
camel toe. I hate camel but I find it offensive.
I can't stop staring at camel too when I see it,
and I don't even think to look for a camel too.
I looked at you and I thought, damn, she looks
(19:57):
so good. I mean camel too from a mile away.
But but but what is it about camel toe that is
so offensive? Honestly, I feel like when females have camel toe,
they do it on purpose, like they want to have yes.
I feel like they want men to see like lip one,
lip two, let's get down and dirty. I seriously I
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wanted to bring this up to you because before we
started talking about Netflix and all this other stuff. But I,
I like thought to myself, I have never as a woman,
I really have not looked at another woman's picture and
zoomed in to see if she had camelto. Sometimes you
don't even got a zoom in, honey, that camel told
me staring back at you like what day is it?
Humped in? And then I started thinking to myself, like
(20:41):
there's actual tape for this, there is to help you.
So what happens? What do you do? You take the
lips together so they don't part. Apparently Chloe Kardashian or
someone I heard her, because that takes me to another subject.
There are some women that say that no matter what
they wear, they always have camel too. I never have
camel toe ever, Like, no matter what I wear, I
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find it, I find it offensive. Like when I see
camel too I'm like, first of all, that has got
to hurt. Second of all, you cannot have panties on
one third of all a yeast infection is coming on
in three to one fourth of all. You must not
have a man because if I look any type of raunchy,
my husband be like, you're not going with that. So
it's so for me because I really truly don't like,
I'm not aware of the camel toe. Like you know
(21:30):
issue you must not go to Dominican hand salons. They'd
be in there with them jeans. Just up the COUCHI
in the front, up the COUCHI in the bag. I'm
hot and ready. This is so? Is that like a
sign to let somebody know that you're like I think
if you look in the mirror and you see like
heavy camel toe and you're like, okay, I am ready
to take the day on you out here looking for dick?
(21:51):
Really okay? So now I have to be aware of
my camel Please be very aware of your camel too,
especially when you're out with your two kids. I've never
paid attention to camel towe in my life, but when
I'm like, you know, what's crazy? You are wearing leggies
when we go out in leggings and like a lot
of guys stare like actually, the other day, she's like,
do I have camelto I'm like no, why She's like mad,
guys keep staring at me. I'm like, you're like, because
(22:13):
you're beautiful, that's what I like. No, you don't have camelton.
Like I really looked out and if a friend of
mine has cameltoe, I'm like, oh, you gotta pull that down.
You know, I have no problem. Ladies, please email us
Life and Spankwich Podcast at gmail dot com tell me
about the camel tooe, because I truly did not know
that this was like such a thing until I saw.
I mean, I knew of camelto Don't get me wrong.
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I know of cameltoe, and I also work out hyper
sense life. I'm sorry, I've never been sensitive to it.
I feel like, if you are out here with camelto
you out, you're saying, you're sending signals, and I understand,
you know, the only camelto wife forgive the Levi's high
waisted jean cameltoe because those jeans kind of like they're
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like a wedge fit in a bag. I guess I
get those eight jeans kind of like tend to do that,
but tights and I can see lip one and lip two. No, honey, see,
I stay away from stuff like that, like those naked
wardrobe outfits like the midriff. You know me, I'm very
I do not. And I've see what do white girls
with the yoga pans came too? Don't play. I do
(23:17):
wear yoga pans, so I don't think I have, but
I'm going to be more aware. And then I started researching,
and I said, there's tape for this, Like, why are
people so concerned about vagina? I just want to know
what do you do with the tape? Do you take
the lip? I guess I have no idea. I googled
it and it's aid Chloe Kardashian and camel toe and tape.
Just she has three things. It's called camelto thank you
(23:40):
if you if you have a problem with sponsor pad,
let me look at that. They are not a sponsor.
I'm just letting you know. But oh, so this is
what happens. I can see it now. So you tape
a camel tooe cover on the front of your vagina, Okay,
but then that's gonna hurt If you have hair, that's
gonna be an issue. If you have I guess you
have to have a Brazilian to where those are hearing this,
(24:02):
I apologize, I hold on, let me turn around. Okay,
gave here. This is the camelto cover everyone in the room.
It's almost like a panty liner. It looks to me
like almost like one of the cups. Oh yeah, it's
like a cup. I guess I am all for this.
I'm sharing this in my story. Okay, go ahead, see
I put you with cuccini. Is that what it's called.
(24:26):
I like that name coccin the Couccini. Why don't we
think of this first? I'm just but then again, what
you said, if you have hair, what the hell's gonna happen?
That is gonna that's gonna hurt. That's gonna be like
remember a four year old virgin when he gets Kelly Clarkson.
So anyway, ladies, let me know what your thoughts are,
because I really personally do not pay attention to it.
If I see a beautiful woman walking down the street,
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she's wearing a tight off it, I don't like go
and look directly at her. J Can I say this
like a celebrity came to be interviewed, and she came
with like red spandex and she had the biggest camel
toe I've ever seen, and like she just threw up.
She threw us all off and like you couldn't concentrate
(25:08):
at all at all, Like everybody was just like, but
did you see the camel toe? But did you see
the camel tow? And then that's the topic. But then
after that we just couldn't focus and couldn't take her serious,
and we said, like, did she purposely come here with
that big camel toe to like throw us off and
distract us? Like did she do it for shock value?
And we felt like she did really well Between you
(25:30):
and the Kardashians, I've had my fill of camel toe
for the week. I am good to go. I don't
think I need any more on this. And now I
did want to ask you your thoughts to last week
there was the big news about Gwyneth Paltrow releasing the
vagina Candle, and there were a bunch of memes, did
you see this vagina cadle? What is honey? I am
schooling you. This is so exciting for me because normally
(25:52):
honey is the one that brings everything in. So go
to google Gwyneth Paltrow Goop candle vaginant. Okay, goops when
Martha Stewart bike, I've heard of this, so I would
love to hear from a man what your thoughts are.
This is a vagina center candle, the vagina scented candle.
(26:13):
Now let's go ahead of work. Okay. Now read the
description of what it says of the Vagina Center candle.
Let me just go here. Though it was like pineapple cented.
I believe it has citrus. No, I'm serious. I believe
it has like a citrus undertone. No, I'm serious, honey.
These are questions that need to be asked for. You know,
these are questions I need to be asked like a
pineapple like type of smellower. I don't know what she
(26:36):
says it smest like her vaginas. See if you google
Gwyneth Paltrow Candle vagina she has released it and um
it's through her wellness platform. I see here, I see
here the mix. Okay, so go ahead and read to
everybody with the mix. It's a mix of geranium, citrusy
(26:57):
bergamot and cedar. What is this? Some rose some amber seed.
This novel vaginas be smelling like exactly, don't have none
of that up there, exactly, So here's like a damn
wine to me, it's got an undertone of a cedar. Yeah, exactly.
So here's my thing. So a lot of people were
making these jokes, like there were memes like of candles
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like that smells like a vagina. One one guy, I
don't know if it was Snoop Dogg, but they opened
up a canatuna and just stuck a candle in it
and said, this is the vagina candle. And I was
dying and I wanted to hear your thoughts because here's
the thing though. Okay, now here's where I stand on this.
There are a lot of different women, There are a
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lot of different shapes, sizes, textures, like all different kinds
of things when it comes to a vagina. Obviously there
are different sense to a vagina. So was Gwyneth calling
attention to this like basically saying like, oh, this smells wonderful,
and like is she trying to make it better or
is she opening up the conversation for people to be critical.
I think I think we haven't heard about Wyneth out
(28:00):
in a very long time. So this vagina candle got
us talk about her all over again. And you think
it's a employ for attention. Watch people buy it because
it's laid out, by the way. I don't know who
for a damn candle, and it's a small one because
I have like a five hundred dollar candle in my
house that I would never actually light, you know. But yeah,
(28:22):
she's just trolling. There's no way you can make like
a candle that smells like a vaginant. Everybody smells different,
even considering what you eat. I think is like reflective
of how you vagina smells. And here's my thing. Okay,
So we have some women listen to this podcast with
their young daughters, and there's something that's really important for
women to understand. No, no, no, I want I want
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us to feel comfortable with our bodies, you know what
I mean. And I want somebody to say, you know what,
this is who I am. I am not ashamed of
the shape of my vagina or the way that it looks,
because there are different ones. So I think it's an
important conversation to have with your daughters to let them know,
you know what, everybody is different and that's okay. But
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I think that like her putting out this, it's like
it's basically I think it's a ploy. Okay, but but
I don't think up the conversation. It opened up the conversation,
and I think that, you know, in a male dominated society,
I think it's important for us to remind young women
that they it's okay, it is okay, it is okay,
and it's okay to have all different type of sizes
(29:24):
and shapes. You might have an auty, you might have
an any It doesn't matter which way it is. It
all works the same way. I love that we chose
these topics when we have an intern here and Gabe,
of course, by the way, this is his first day
on the job, and I was like, do you want
to come in and listen? We just jump. So, now
(29:46):
that we've covered all of that, was there anything else
that you wanted to bring in today? I pretty much
brought everything in the night that I wanted to talk about.
We've been you know, this was a wild ride today.
It was a wild ride today, But you know what,
I feel like we still have some more time. So
I did bring in my intern, Emay Emay say hello
to everybody, um intern Emay she has a story for us,
(30:07):
and maybe we can provide some kind of advice. I
always like to get nice and close to the mic,
so we don't have to raise your volume because it's
almost like a live salon. She's stepping into the salon.
Let's go ahead and welcome to the salon. Okay. So
obviously you know I'm a young femail out in these
streets single dating as if you want to call it.
(30:30):
So I was talking to a guy, and I like
to take everyone for face value. I try not to
assume everybody's a liar. So he explained that his living
situation was a little like not normal. So it's like, okay,
what does that mean. Basically, he said that he lives
with his ex girlfriend. Obviously that's a red flood because
(30:52):
that sounds like weird. Why would you live with his
ex girl. Benefit of the doubt, he lives with the
ex girlfriend. Maybe it's a monetary thing. Go ahead. So
he was like, we don't sleep in the same room, Like,
we don't really interact with each other. We're not together,
Like I just resigned the least not too long ago.
Like it's a whole thing. So it's like, okay, that's fine. Whatever.
(31:12):
So we were talking for like a month and we
had never met before, and then we had finally okay,
and he told you this online. Okay, good, at least
he's not. I feel like he's being honest, even though
it's not the best of situations. I feel like he's
being really forthright with you. Okay, because all I ask
for is open, honest communication. As long as you're truthful
(31:33):
from the get we can work around most things. So
we were talking and then finally we had decided to
meet up, and we was like, okay, great, and it
was one day here after work we were going to
meet up, and um, like, right before I'm about to
meet him, he's like he texts me and he's like, Okay,
I have to be honest. She's still semi kind of
my girlfriend. Get then okay, and I I mean, my
(31:56):
mind's blown. We're about to meet up in like two hours.
You tell me is your girlfriend? Now this is the
first time you're ever meeting she's kind of still my girl.
I want to hear the whole thing, but now do
you now Here's where I ask do you decide at
that point to continue to see this young man. Well
after he says that he's like, but we can still
do whatever if you're down, So you want to cheat
(32:18):
with you and make me his side piece. And one
of the main things I said to him in the
beginning when he told me about his situation was is
she really your ex girlfriend? Because I don't want any
girl rolling up on me and talking about you're sleeping.
When my boyfriend, he was, Oh my god, that's so
(32:39):
now I'm it's thrown in my lap. I have to
make the decision. Do I maintain my good standing, my values,
and my morals, or do I become this man's side piece,
Like it really is my choice now in the road,
and you don't even mad at him anymore because he
already put it on you. The the mind is strong,
(33:03):
but the body is weak. Oh fine, you saw him finished,
So oh we're not supposed to judge. Go ahead. I
took the time, like it took me to get from
work home to decide what I was going to do
(33:25):
with myself. And then because I was still entertaining the
idea even though I know that is terrible, and then
like I got home and I was like, if I
continue to drive to this man's house that he shares
with his girlfriend, Like, what type of person? What did
that say to me? Won't probably working? I was like,
(33:51):
what does that say about me if I actively choose
because he's told me it's not like we hooked up,
and then he told me after correct, so I'm like,
this is on me. I will have the worst karma
for the rest of my life if I actively cheat.
And it's at the end of the day, there's a
thousand penises in the world and he's probably not going
to be my last, and he's not worth it. So
(34:13):
I decided not to go and I told him. I
was like, you should have been honest from the beginning.
I was like, I don't like that you put me
in the situation. It's just not gonna work. And I
deleted him off his Snapchat and all the other stuff,
and I moved on lovely. I know, and he must
understand there are websites for people that are in relationships
and want to cheat. You know, he could have just
put that on his profile. Lots of other people put
(34:35):
like just looking for a side piece. Yes, yeah, it'll
be in their bio. Yeah, my girlfriend told me that,
Like that's a big thing. Now that they say, like,
you know, UM down to have multiple relationships or um
not into relationships. I'm seeing a lot of people like
they just put it out there, like what their game
is basically like, so that you know what you're getting into.
(34:57):
I think it all comes down to self worth, I
really do. I think it comes down to how you
feel about yourself, how you can lay with yourself at
night in your own thoughts. And I think that you
made the right decision because clearly somebody like that doesn't
know what they want, and you don't want to get
wrapped up in that kind of a mess. So I
think that you made the right choice in not pursuing that.
(35:18):
But I think it was a wise lesson, you know.
I think that as you go out there and you date,
you're gonna meet a lot of different people and you're
gonna have to kiss a lot of frogs. Thank goodness,
you didn't kiss this one. But there is there are
good men out there, And I don't want this to
be a man bashing podcast, because I do believe that
there are really good men out there. No, they really are,
and you're gonna encounter a lot of this while you're
(35:41):
looking for him. Yeah, and you don't want to just
be the person they call when they want like a
vagina variety, like oh, I'm tired of messing with my
girl for a week, let me call email for that
one little variety, and then that breaks up their monotony
and then he goes back to being, you know, chill
with his girl. And on another note, is like I
have to commend you on the fact that you decided
to step back because I feel like women's tough women
(36:03):
who actively date married men and men in relationship are
just as much to blame as the man because you
are facilitating the cheating. You know what I'm saying. It's
like if all women put it in their mind, like
if men are in relationships and men are married, they're
off limits. These guys are not gonna be able to
be out here being dogs and cheat on your wives
and cheating on if if you don't let them in.
(36:25):
And I've always said that, and everybody's like, well, you know,
the problem is your man and you need to check
your name. I do believe that he has a responsibility
if he took a vour, if he's your boyfriend, that yes,
he has responsibility, But she does too, exactly. Like, if
you know that he is married and you still pursue
it and you still want to carry on a secret relationship,
what does that say about you as a woman. You understand,
(36:45):
So I commend you. You You held your standards and
you didn't become part of the problem that people in
relationships are having, which is women don't care you're married.
Tell me what time your wife leaves to work. So
what are gonna say? I think it has to be
hard as a single woman, you know, because it's like
you do crave or you want that relationship. But she's young,
(37:06):
which means a lot of women of a lot of
men in her pool are still young singer are not married.
You know, I feel for women in their thirties and
their forties. That's who I feel for because the pool
she don't feel for you single, single, not married. You
know what I'm saying. You guys are all still out
(37:27):
here getting to know each other. Nobody has ten kids,
Nobody isn't it's hard in the stree, but your age
pool is much better than a view in your thirties
or in your forties. Women in their forties are screwed.
They have to be sad pieces not you. Well, the
easy thing is obviously not the right thing here, and
you chose to do the hard thing, which is to
say no, because a lot the easy thing would be like,
(37:49):
you know what, I want to get mine and I
don't care. That's his relationship. And that's what a lot
of people's mentality was. The demon on my shoulder was saying, right, well,
this is about you, like that's their problem exactly. I was.
I couldn't believe, but that's that that was actually going
through my mind, like obviously my parents have. The sad
part was he wasn't that wase okay, so now he
(38:10):
isn't even cute though in my defense, I have been
broken up with on Tuesday. I had had to dump
somebody on Wednesday, and so by third I'm dating. So
I like, okay, this is like the new wave of
David dating. By how people date now, I juggle at
(38:32):
least okay, I call it my roster. I usually have
a roster at max five because listen, hear me out here.
But now, can I ask you a personal question, are
you active with these men? No? Okay? So it's a
roster of dating just exactly so just wanting five different
people because you have to assume at least half of
them will screw up before you even meet them, so
(38:54):
that brings you down to maybe two or three. Well,
you see, Carolina. Now they date online, which is different,
fro Us. We used to date in person. We would
creet somebody, get their number, and then we would date
in person. But you have to like meet somewhere, right,
you would go on dates. Now you're kind of like
cyber dating. Yes, and you have to I vet them
before I even meet them. So assume I'm down to
now two or three. From the two or three, we'll
(39:15):
see who rises to the top of that pool, and
then whoever I'm more interested in, or who performs better
is who I will meet and put my attention to first.
And so that's what was happening. So I had I've
been seeing somebody in my roster and it was going great,
and then I got broken up with last Tuesday, and
then I was all sad. Show it was. It was
(39:37):
a rough morning. I mean, normally this girl comes in,
she's like Susie Sunshine. That was like, but luckily she
has five other people. You know, Yeah, I know, because
you know what it is like, I do understand why
you afford that the pool of people, because then that way,
it's like, as they start eliminating, you still have other
people that you've started to form a relationship with or
a friendship with, Yes, but you still haven't even met
(39:57):
them in person, which is just so bizarre to me.
It really is too. It's like it in the world.
Before I was with my current girlfriend of two years, Um,
she should not judge me for this, But before I
met her, I had like I don't I don't even
know maybe six no, no, cyber. Sometimes you just be bored.
(40:22):
Sometimes you just be bored, like when you're single and
then you just go on Tender or something, you swipe somebody,
young people. You just get bored. You just get bored.
Never Tinder was. But then like obviously when I met
my girl, like all that gets gets thrown out the window.
You like, dump all you dump all your hose and
like you don't talk to note none of those girls.
You block them and then ask you a question, do
(40:43):
you keep this profile while you're still so like if
you met the one like your girlfriend, would you keep
the Tinder profile? Just feel like that if we were
together together, you don't need that Tinder like, once I
started talking and I was like, I've seen people be like,
oh my god, my man was active on Tinder. I'm like,
why is this Tinder still open? Yeah? You should that
(41:03):
shouldn't even exist. So that you're saying that, you see
her like reasoning with having like the five different dudes
that she's talking to, because like that's kind of what
you used to do. Yeah, and then but then once
I once I started talking to my current girlfriend, and
I was like, oh, this could be more than that,
Like I deleted all that stuff, and then eventually we
we've got into a full blown relationship. But I feel
like now I don't know if I could do if
(41:24):
I could do balance all that in the job, I
respect you for that. I couldn't do that now. When
I was in college, I was like, oh, this is easy,
easy because I'm just in class. I'm like this, this
class is so easy. I'm just gonna go talk to
some people. Well, I'm waiting to get out. What do
you mean you, Carolina, don't have to you know? Balance?
Five people say snapchat? Thank the good Lord I met
my husband when I did, because Mark to me, and
(41:46):
I'm not even saying this to be like cheesy or anything.
He is the biggest blessing that I've ever received as
a blessing too. I know he's you know, we've been
together for such a long time, so I say all
the time, like me, if we split, my vagina mile
is just low. Okay, once I tell somebody I smashed
nobody and like, fenteen years you practically a virgin honey,
(42:08):
seriously with the same dude. Yeah, but yeah, it's just
you know, you're you're giving us like a real life
struggle that people are facing while they're dating. So I
appreciate your honesty. But I do think that you made
the right decision, and I think that maybe it's an
eye opener for you, you know, I think that maybe
next time you're talking to you know, some of the
guys that like hit you up, you want that full transparency,
(42:30):
and I would expect nothing less. I have a new
roster finished. I did replace all of them, and one
guy was very honest. He's Indian, and we just threw conversation. Basically,
he told me that, you know, his family wants him
to settle down with an Indian woman and get married.
(42:51):
So basically he was like, that's who I'm going to marry,
but we can have fun until then. And I was like,
I can be upset, but I respect the on it.
But I feel like that's okay. I feel like that's
okay because what if you just want to have fun,
Like what if you guys are both in that same mentality,
because it's like, you're not going to marry everybody that
you date. I dated plenty of people, you know, And
(43:11):
that's why I think that's part of the experience too.
It's like it would be offended, Caroline if somebody's dating
me and they're like, well, you know, I'm never gonna
marry you because you're not the right Honestly, I have
to say that, No, you know what, I wouldn't even
I wouldn't even classify it as that. I would just
say that maybe somebody wants to have a little fun
before they settled down. And if you're in that same
mind frame, or if you're in that same mode, then
(43:32):
then what's the harm in it? You both have a
little bit of fun, you know what I mean? What
do you think game that was a whole ark on
the grassy back in the day. I'm just saying I'm
gonna bring back to grab there was. I forgot what
did you watch the Grassy? I forgot what's his name?
Sav something like that. His parents wanted him to marry
an Indian girl, but he was in love with um,
this white girl who he went to school with, so
(43:53):
like he would he was like, fake pump, you know
what I'm saying. Like, I think him and the girl
had an arrangement where like they like they pretend for
the family and then he would go see his girl,
she would go see her man and then and then
they would just get together at the family gatherings and
just fake pump. I think that's what happened in the show.
I could be wrong. I have a friend who's Lebanese
and his parents say they only want him to marry
(44:14):
a Lebanese girl. And he and really, he said, do
you know how hard it is? He's like, unless you're
going to like your church or family members, or you know,
you have other family members that hook you up with
people that they know or friends, it's a very limited pool.
So you know what, he wants to go out and
have fun, and I don't blame him, but eventually it's
going to have to come down to if he wants
to make his family happy, or he falls in love
(44:37):
and says to his family, this is the person that
I want to be with and you're gonna have to
accept it. Good luck. Yea. Some of these people would
just be like, absolutely not. I'm not going against my family.
It's a very old school way of thinking, and it's
an old school mentality, but it exists. It still does
in New York, so you can only imagine how it
is in other countries. If we're still struggling with that.
(44:57):
Absolutely well, Emay, we wish you luck in your um
dick excursions and uh, you know you just keep us posted,
honey on the roster. Okay, say and I'm proud of you.
I will say that I'm very proud of you. So
I'm just keep it up. Thank you, thank you. So
that was a moment. That was a moment. That was
a good salon. Though. I love when we do the
(45:17):
salon live and in the studio. We might have some
exciting things coming up for you in the salon because
we're working on some stuff here. But you know what,
I listen, we covered a lot today. We covered Netflix, cheerleading, gentrification,
murder cats, Vagina's Other Kitty Cats. I mean, we just
like really covered all the bases in this week's episode
(45:39):
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