April 11, 2025 • 15 mins
Tiff Talks about the three pillars ofr adult friendships on the show today, and needs some insight from Cincinnati mom's who have friends without kids.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Because you're waking up with fifth in the morning, just
seven one. We're going to talk about friendships.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you've been in a position as of late, or
maybe in the last handful of years of your life,
where you feel like your friends are not your friends anymore,
or the friendship is evolving and you're feeling left out.
You feel like, how how is it that I'm putting
ninety percent into our friendship and in that person barely
(00:25):
goes ten percent. If I walk away from this friendship
right now, we will no longer be friends. And I
don't want it to be that, right. Do you know
that feeling I cannot be alone in them? It's interesting
that this conversation comes up. I'll relate it back to
my personal life. Sarah at Last is here from WBN
as well. I read the Mel Robbins Let Them Theory.
That's my morning book before I go to work every day.
(00:46):
I read a couple of pages out of it, and
she was talking about adult friendships and how you really
have to just let them.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
And there are some.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Low maintenance friendships and there are high maintenance.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
But the reason why friends either work or don't is
based off of three things. Timing in life yep, proximity
to one another.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
The convenience yep, and energy.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Those are the three things that mel Robbins says about
why friendships are successful for some perspective, I'm and since
it's just you and I right now, and I would
never I don't want to talk poorly about my Boston friends.
But I'm going home for the Boston Marathon to support
my best friend Ashley running.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
And you are doing this on Easter. I'm Easter traveling
on holiday.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I'm traveling on the holiday, Sarah.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Not to mention the freaking cost of the flight to
get to Boston for the marathon on Easter Sunday.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I know what you paid for that. You are a
very loyal friend.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
This is now the third time, and it feels like
I'm keeping score, and you know what, I'm just going
to be transparent. I am at this point and that's all.
And it feels like I'm keeping score on our friendship
a little bit. I have gone home multiple times to
support her and Sarah, she has come here but once
for twenty four.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Hours, and that's really the marathon.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I've gone home for her son's first birthday party. I've
gone home to support her when her husband has traveled
for work and she needs support with the baby at home.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I ride or die for my friends.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I know you do.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Hey, dude, I feel like it's never reciprocated. I haven't
had a single friend visit me in Cincinnati since two
thousand and like twenty two, and we're in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
What is that?
Speaker 3 (02:26):
And you want to have the conversation.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I just feel but you get it.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
You want to have the conversation, but you want them
to bring it up themselves, like you shouldn't have to
say it. They should want to wait here for you too. Now,
if you were to bring this up to your friends,
would this start an argument? Would that be the end
of the friendship? Is the friendship mature enough to handle
a conversation like that.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Between Ashley and I? Yes, I could tell her that
I could.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
It would be uncomfortable, But I think you'll bring up
maybe after the marathon, like once this weekend is over.
That way, there's not any awkward tis.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Oh yeah, yeah, this is not the time. No, this
woman has to focus on the task and she's got
to get this, which is running the Boston Marathon major feet.
I just think this is a personal choice amongst people
sometimes is that you I really want to show up
for my people in my community because that's a part
of my core value. I will show up for people,
and I understand that maybe that's not everyone else's core value.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
But I'm just feeling this this morning.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I know there's not necessarily a question out there for
us to get into on TIF in the morning today,
But if I give my phone number, or if I
give out my talk back line, or just you know,
the way to get in touch me, do you think
would you reach out? Are you going through something similar?
Are you feeling this within your your guy friendships as well?
Five one three seven four nine one seven one. Maybe
(03:49):
this is the first time you and I've ever talked
on the phone, or you've ever reached out to a
radio station.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I'm really feeling it this morning. Hey, good morning who.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
First of all, a reminder, I'm crowning a winner for
bang or bracket. I'm ten minutes from now and I
could be calling your house, could be calling the landline
or the cell saying you want ten pairs of tickets
to riverbend this summer. Don't go far, especially if you
made out filled out your bracket Okay, thank you for
your patience. You're waking up with TIF in the morning
on Kissuano seven one. We're in the midst of talking
about friendships, adult friendships, and I'm struggling a little bit
(04:20):
in my own friend group here, and I think the
magic about my show is we're kind of growing up
together a little bit on this and I don't know
if I'm reaching this point in my life where I'm
realizing that some of my friendships might be fading away.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Good morning, you're on the air. Do you have advice?
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Okay, First of all, I want to say that I
listened to you all the time.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Thank you, But a lot of people do so.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
No.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
I go through this a lot. I have two friends
that are sisters and I met them one through the other,
and I really come to the point where I keep
my circle small because I feel people's energies and when
I have started putting forth the energy that that person gives,
it makes it huge difference and a huge difference in
your overall mood. The energy in my home. I'm married
(05:05):
with kids, and you know, it's just it brings a
completely different energy.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Can I ask them advice from you? How old are
your kids. Okay, so they're in the adult phase. Okay, Okay,
she's got young kids.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
But they've been they've seen through a lot, and they're
old enough now, like I've been frinstas people for several years, okay,
and they're old enough now to see those people's energy
for what it's worth as well.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Okay, what's your name? What neighborhood? You call me from?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Amy? For more?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
And first, thank you for the.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Call, Amy, I really appreciate you. Five one three seven
four nine one oh seven one to get involved. I'm
curious if there is a mother out there listening that
has young kids, I need to talk to you. Good morning,
you're waking up with Tiff in the morning, I kissed
one of seven. One the three pillars for success, according
to Mel Robbins, when it comes to adult friendships, is timing, energy,
(05:59):
and proximity. I had mentioned earlier on the show that
I am flying back to Boston for the marathon because
of my best friend Ashley is getting ready to run
it this point, I've flown back to Massachusetts dozens of
times to see friends and family, and I've supported her
specifically on a few different times, and I just feel
(06:19):
like it's never reciprocated. I haven't had a single friend
come visit me or a family member come visit me
here since twenty twenty two, and we're sitting in the
middle of twenty five so far, and I'm a little
bummed about that, and I'm kind of feeling its type
of way. So we're in the midst of talking about
adult friendships. Hi, you're on the air.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
Yeah, I resonate with that so much. I feel like,
you know, you can show up for people as much
as you want, but that doesn't mean they'll do it
for you, and it's going to hurt no matter what.
But I've learned with age that that is how I
lead the people out, as hurtful as it is, but
that's just I guess that's just a part of life.
And that was something for me really hard, a hard
telle for me to follow because I'm one of those people.
(06:56):
That's my core value as well. I show up, I
show out, you know, I make it happen, and that
that isn't always reciprocated and it can be hurtful, but
I think like it's just something just like high school,
you know, but as an adult, you just have.
Speaker 7 (07:12):
To go with it.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Learn who shows up for you and who does it,
and sometimes you just got to let people go.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
What's your name of what neighborhood you waking up with?
Speaker 6 (07:19):
Man, my name's Cameron. I've waken up in Coleraine.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Thank you so much for the call. I can't let
it go, I know just and I will. I will
let them I will. I understand where mel Robbins is
coming from with this theory, but and please hear me
when I say this, I can see where young mothers
are coming from. I'm not in the same boat as you.
I can't pretend to know what it's like to care
for a young child. But I just feel like society
(07:45):
doesn't do a great job of supporting young mothers. They
end up becoming very lonely because they lose a lot
of their friendships. And I don't want this situation to
be well Tiffany went off and lived her single life
and left me out.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
I'm not doing that.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
I'm going now ninety percent of the way for my
friends who have young kids, and I feel like even
just that fraction, that ten to five percent, even it's
really hard for them to give that back. And I
try to understand and respect and of course you're in
a different phase of life.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
But does that mean.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
That our friendships go away when we're mothers. I read
this really interesting article in the New York Times, and
I saw some tiktoks based on it as well, where
they're saying, you know, young mothers also have to remember
their friends as well. And I just think that single
women who aren't married and don't have kids bear the
weight of keeping things going a lot, and respectfully, I
(08:40):
understand that, but you know, I don't have kids, and
I don't have I'm not married, and those are two
big pillars of life. And I find that I'm often
chasing down my friends and going to their things and
going to support them and showing up for them and
showing up for that and showing up for this, and
it doesn't It's not reciprocated.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
A lot of times.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
We could go on for days, I'm sure, and I
hope that it's coming off and from a place of
genuine curiosity and learning. And thanks for allowing me to
show up and be myself on the show. Today, I
have to crown a winner. I could be calling your
phone in the next thirty seconds or so because I
need to pick the winner for Banger Brackets. Who's going
home with ten pairs of tickets?
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Don't go far?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Hi, good morning, You're waking up with Tiff in the
morning on a kiss one oh seven one. We were
talking about adult friendships in our last hour, to the
point where I've gotten so many calls and talkbacks here
that I've been behind the scenes trying to get them
all in because I really appreciate you either relating to me, reaching.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Out to me, and just connecting with me on it.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
I'm coming from a place of genuineness, and you know,
Mel Robbins had talked about how the three pillars of
adult friendship are timing, proximity, and energy, and I'm struggling
a little bit with some of my girlfriends from Boston
who have not come to visit me in a long time,
like three years, and I am about to get on
a flight to visit them for probably the dozen time
(10:06):
in the last couple of years. So we were talking
about that, and you know, I wanted to ask from
a genuine place of Hey, if you're a single, if
you're not a single mom, if you are a mom,
a young mom. Coming from a gal who's single, I
feel frustrated with her at times, and I like genuinely
wanted some insight. Good morning, you're on the air.
Speaker 8 (10:24):
Does she have the money to come to you? Like,
is that something she could afford?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
You know what I would I would say I.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Can't speak for her financial status as far as like
you know what is what means extra money for her
and someone in her life. But you know what, that's
a really great take. I appreciate that from you.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
What's your name? What neighborhood? Are waking up with me?
Speaker 8 (10:44):
And my name is Olisia and I was in Middletown.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Thanks for the call of you. I appreciate you.
Speaker 8 (10:52):
Oh, I do just I did just want to say
a couple more things so she might be embarrassed to
like tell you financially she can't afford it. Okay, she
might be able to afford herself. But feel mom bill
about leaving your kids, but she probably would like to
visit you alone most certainly. And then also sometimes when
you take your young kids places, it feels embarrassing to
(11:15):
punish them because like if they do something bad, because
people have a lot of judgment.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Well, thank you for the call. I appreciate you. That
was a great take. Hi, you're on the air.
Speaker 8 (11:23):
Hi.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
Yeah, I'm a mother with one one year old, and
I'm just experiencing the adult friendships changing because I'm one
of the first in my friend group to have kids,
and so they don't necessarily understand that or even in
that phase or considering that phase of life yet.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
So that's been a big challenge and I've had to
really reevaluate.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Something, you know what.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
I appreciate your take as well, because I can imagine
that that on the other side is a big challenge,
and I try so hard to be able to show
up for them in the phase that they're in, you know,
and in respectful and understand and I and I'm sorry
that if you are, you know, finding some friends that
are kind of leaving you out, Like there's I know
that there's a balance to both sides of this conversation.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah, absolutely, Yeah, Well, thank you so much for the call.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
You know, if I were to offer advice from the
single side of things, are my friends with kids, I
would love it if they said, Hey, I need you
to show up for me. Verbalize it, vocalize it, you know,
so I could be there for you in a way
that makes sense. You have to speak up to them
as well. Okay, we're commercial free your chance to win
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the call.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Those you're waking up with. Fifth in the morning, h
kiss in the morning.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
The three pillars of adult friendships to make them successful,
according to Mel Robbins's Let Them Theory, which is a
book that I read every morning before I come into work,
a few pages here and there.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
The number one pillar out of the three is timing.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
We are walking into the daily debrief every day right
around this time, I revisit what I think is the
biggest topic that we covered on the show, giving you
a chance to get involved, get caught up, especially just
starting off your day. We revisit talkbacks that we maybe
didn't get to in the moment, kind of giving everyone
an opportunity to get in on it. And I really
just wanted to chat and get your insight on something
(13:11):
because I'm struggling a little bit with my Boston friends.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
To be honest with you, I'm booking. I have booked.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I am traveling back next Sunday to Boston for the
marathon because one of my best girlfriends is running it
and I really want to support her, and this will
be probably the dozenth flight that I've gotten on in
the last three years to go support friends and go
and see them and spend time with them.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
And I just feel like that's not been reciprocated.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
No one has come to visit me since maybe twenty
twenty two, So from a genuine place of curiosity, we
connected on that this morning and just getting different takes on,
you know, young mothers who have kids versus singles, and
just lots of conversation around it this morning.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
When we got here.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
Good morning, Chis. I think, unfortunately, what you have to
face is that your friendships as adults evolved because you're
in different stages of life. She has a husband and
a young child, and she's doing the Boston Marathon. She
honestly does not have the time to come to Cincinnati,
and it literally has nothing to do with you.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yeah, and that's the part that you have to get
used to.
Speaker 5 (14:17):
It doesn't have anything to do with you personally. She
loves you.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
That was a very very good take. Thank you for
the talkback with Tiff. You too, can leave me talkbacks
at any point in the show. Maybe this conversation resonated
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You see the microphone next to the play button. It's
in the top right hand corner. In fact, there are
a lot of varying opinions on this conversation today, from mothers,
(14:43):
from you know, people like me who are single and
solo and finding a hard time connecting with their friends,
feeling left out a little bit, feeling you know, there's
a lot. There was a lot, and it was really
cool to hear a lot of your opinions. So if
that resonates with you, get caught up on the podcast
Yes Today at some point search tif.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Tiff in the borning on the iHeartRadio App. I appreciate
you more than you know. Happy Friday. We made it
to the end of the week.
Because you're waking up with fifth in the morning, just
seven one. We're going to talk about friendships.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you've been in a position as of late, or
maybe in the last handful of years of your life,
where you feel like your friends are not your friends anymore,
or the friendship is evolving and you're feeling left out.
You feel like, how how is it that I'm putting
ninety percent into our friendship and in that person barely
(00:25):
goes ten percent. If I walk away from this friendship
right now, we will no longer be friends. And I
don't want it to be that, right. Do you know
that feeling I cannot be alone in them? It's interesting
that this conversation comes up. I'll relate it back to
my personal life. Sarah at Last is here from WBN
as well. I read the Mel Robbins Let Them Theory.
That's my morning book before I go to work every day.
(00:46):
I read a couple of pages out of it, and
she was talking about adult friendships and how you really
have to just let them.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
And there are some.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Low maintenance friendships and there are high maintenance.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
But the reason why friends either work or don't is
based off of three things. Timing in life yep, proximity
to one another.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
The convenience yep, and energy.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Those are the three things that mel Robbins says about
why friendships are successful for some perspective, I'm and since
it's just you and I right now, and I would
never I don't want to talk poorly about my Boston friends.
But I'm going home for the Boston Marathon to support
my best friend Ashley running.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
And you are doing this on Easter. I'm Easter traveling
on holiday.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I'm traveling on the holiday, Sarah.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Not to mention the freaking cost of the flight to
get to Boston for the marathon on Easter Sunday.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I know what you paid for that. You are a
very loyal friend.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
This is now the third time, and it feels like
I'm keeping score, and you know what, I'm just going
to be transparent. I am at this point and that's all.
And it feels like I'm keeping score on our friendship
a little bit. I have gone home multiple times to
support her and Sarah, she has come here but once
for twenty four.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Hours, and that's really the marathon.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I've gone home for her son's first birthday party. I've
gone home to support her when her husband has traveled
for work and she needs support with the baby at home.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I ride or die for my friends.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I know you do.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Hey, dude, I feel like it's never reciprocated. I haven't
had a single friend visit me in Cincinnati since two
thousand and like twenty two, and we're in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
What is that?
Speaker 3 (02:26):
And you want to have the conversation.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I just feel but you get it.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
You want to have the conversation, but you want them
to bring it up themselves, like you shouldn't have to
say it. They should want to wait here for you too. Now,
if you were to bring this up to your friends,
would this start an argument? Would that be the end
of the friendship? Is the friendship mature enough to handle
a conversation like that.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Between Ashley and I? Yes, I could tell her that
I could.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
It would be uncomfortable, But I think you'll bring up
maybe after the marathon, like once this weekend is over.
That way, there's not any awkward tis.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Oh yeah, yeah, this is not the time. No, this
woman has to focus on the task and she's got
to get this, which is running the Boston Marathon major feet.
I just think this is a personal choice amongst people
sometimes is that you I really want to show up
for my people in my community because that's a part
of my core value. I will show up for people,
and I understand that maybe that's not everyone else's core value.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
But I'm just feeling this this morning.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I know there's not necessarily a question out there for
us to get into on TIF in the morning today,
But if I give my phone number, or if I
give out my talk back line, or just you know,
the way to get in touch me, do you think
would you reach out? Are you going through something similar?
Are you feeling this within your your guy friendships as well?
Five one three seven four nine one seven one. Maybe
(03:49):
this is the first time you and I've ever talked
on the phone, or you've ever reached out to a
radio station.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I'm really feeling it this morning. Hey, good morning who.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
First of all, a reminder, I'm crowning a winner for
bang or bracket. I'm ten minutes from now and I
could be calling your house, could be calling the landline
or the cell saying you want ten pairs of tickets
to riverbend this summer. Don't go far, especially if you
made out filled out your bracket Okay, thank you for
your patience. You're waking up with TIF in the morning
on Kissuano seven one. We're in the midst of talking
about friendships, adult friendships, and I'm struggling a little bit
(04:20):
in my own friend group here, and I think the
magic about my show is we're kind of growing up
together a little bit on this and I don't know
if I'm reaching this point in my life where I'm
realizing that some of my friendships might be fading away.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Good morning, you're on the air. Do you have advice?
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Okay, First of all, I want to say that I
listened to you all the time.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Thank you, But a lot of people do so.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
No.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
I go through this a lot. I have two friends
that are sisters and I met them one through the other,
and I really come to the point where I keep
my circle small because I feel people's energies and when
I have started putting forth the energy that that person gives,
it makes it huge difference and a huge difference in
your overall mood. The energy in my home. I'm married
(05:05):
with kids, and you know, it's just it brings a
completely different energy.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Can I ask them advice from you? How old are
your kids. Okay, so they're in the adult phase. Okay, Okay,
she's got young kids.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
But they've been they've seen through a lot, and they're
old enough now, like I've been frinstas people for several years, okay,
and they're old enough now to see those people's energy
for what it's worth as well.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Okay, what's your name? What neighborhood? You call me from?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Amy? For more?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
And first, thank you for the.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Call, Amy, I really appreciate you. Five one three seven
four nine one oh seven one to get involved. I'm
curious if there is a mother out there listening that
has young kids, I need to talk to you. Good morning,
you're waking up with Tiff in the morning, I kissed
one of seven. One the three pillars for success, according
to Mel Robbins, when it comes to adult friendships, is timing, energy,
(05:59):
and proximity. I had mentioned earlier on the show that
I am flying back to Boston for the marathon because
of my best friend Ashley is getting ready to run
it this point, I've flown back to Massachusetts dozens of
times to see friends and family, and I've supported her
specifically on a few different times, and I just feel
(06:19):
like it's never reciprocated. I haven't had a single friend
come visit me or a family member come visit me
here since twenty twenty two, and we're sitting in the
middle of twenty five so far, and I'm a little
bummed about that, and I'm kind of feeling its type
of way. So we're in the midst of talking about
adult friendships. Hi, you're on the air.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
Yeah, I resonate with that so much. I feel like,
you know, you can show up for people as much
as you want, but that doesn't mean they'll do it
for you, and it's going to hurt no matter what.
But I've learned with age that that is how I
lead the people out, as hurtful as it is, but
that's just I guess that's just a part of life.
And that was something for me really hard, a hard
telle for me to follow because I'm one of those people.
(06:56):
That's my core value as well. I show up, I
show out, you know, I make it happen, and that
that isn't always reciprocated and it can be hurtful, but
I think like it's just something just like high school,
you know, but as an adult, you just have.
Speaker 7 (07:12):
To go with it.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Learn who shows up for you and who does it,
and sometimes you just got to let people go.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
What's your name of what neighborhood you waking up with?
Speaker 6 (07:19):
Man, my name's Cameron. I've waken up in Coleraine.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Thank you so much for the call. I can't let
it go, I know just and I will. I will
let them I will. I understand where mel Robbins is
coming from with this theory, but and please hear me
when I say this, I can see where young mothers
are coming from. I'm not in the same boat as you.
I can't pretend to know what it's like to care
for a young child. But I just feel like society
(07:45):
doesn't do a great job of supporting young mothers. They
end up becoming very lonely because they lose a lot
of their friendships. And I don't want this situation to
be well Tiffany went off and lived her single life
and left me out.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
I'm not doing that.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
I'm going now ninety percent of the way for my
friends who have young kids, and I feel like even
just that fraction, that ten to five percent, even it's
really hard for them to give that back. And I
try to understand and respect and of course you're in
a different phase of life.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
But does that mean.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
That our friendships go away when we're mothers. I read
this really interesting article in the New York Times, and
I saw some tiktoks based on it as well, where
they're saying, you know, young mothers also have to remember
their friends as well. And I just think that single
women who aren't married and don't have kids bear the
weight of keeping things going a lot, and respectfully, I
(08:40):
understand that, but you know, I don't have kids, and
I don't have I'm not married, and those are two
big pillars of life. And I find that I'm often
chasing down my friends and going to their things and
going to support them and showing up for them and
showing up for that and showing up for this, and
it doesn't It's not reciprocated.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
A lot of times.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
We could go on for days, I'm sure, and I
hope that it's coming off and from a place of
genuine curiosity and learning. And thanks for allowing me to
show up and be myself on the show. Today, I
have to crown a winner. I could be calling your
phone in the next thirty seconds or so because I
need to pick the winner for Banger Brackets. Who's going
home with ten pairs of tickets?
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Don't go far?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Hi, good morning, You're waking up with Tiff in the
morning on a kiss one oh seven one. We were
talking about adult friendships in our last hour, to the
point where I've gotten so many calls and talkbacks here
that I've been behind the scenes trying to get them
all in because I really appreciate you either relating to me, reaching.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Out to me, and just connecting with me on it.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
I'm coming from a place of genuineness, and you know,
Mel Robbins had talked about how the three pillars of
adult friendship are timing, proximity, and energy, and I'm struggling
a little bit with some of my girlfriends from Boston
who have not come to visit me in a long time,
like three years, and I am about to get on
a flight to visit them for probably the dozen time
(10:06):
in the last couple of years. So we were talking
about that, and you know, I wanted to ask from
a genuine place of Hey, if you're a single, if
you're not a single mom, if you are a mom,
a young mom. Coming from a gal who's single, I
feel frustrated with her at times, and I like genuinely
wanted some insight. Good morning, you're on the air.
Speaker 8 (10:24):
Does she have the money to come to you? Like,
is that something she could afford?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
You know what I would I would say I.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Can't speak for her financial status as far as like
you know what is what means extra money for her
and someone in her life. But you know what, that's
a really great take. I appreciate that from you.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
What's your name? What neighborhood? Are waking up with me?
Speaker 8 (10:44):
And my name is Olisia and I was in Middletown.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Thanks for the call of you. I appreciate you.
Speaker 8 (10:52):
Oh, I do just I did just want to say
a couple more things so she might be embarrassed to
like tell you financially she can't afford it. Okay, she
might be able to afford herself. But feel mom bill
about leaving your kids, but she probably would like to
visit you alone most certainly. And then also sometimes when
you take your young kids places, it feels embarrassing to
(11:15):
punish them because like if they do something bad, because
people have a lot of judgment.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Well, thank you for the call. I appreciate you. That
was a great take. Hi, you're on the air.
Speaker 8 (11:23):
Hi.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
Yeah, I'm a mother with one one year old, and
I'm just experiencing the adult friendships changing because I'm one
of the first in my friend group to have kids,
and so they don't necessarily understand that or even in
that phase or considering that phase of life yet.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
So that's been a big challenge and I've had to
really reevaluate.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Something, you know what.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
I appreciate your take as well, because I can imagine
that that on the other side is a big challenge,
and I try so hard to be able to show
up for them in the phase that they're in, you know,
and in respectful and understand and I and I'm sorry
that if you are, you know, finding some friends that
are kind of leaving you out, Like there's I know
that there's a balance to both sides of this conversation.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah, absolutely, Yeah, Well, thank you so much for the call.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
You know, if I were to offer advice from the
single side of things, are my friends with kids, I
would love it if they said, Hey, I need you
to show up for me. Verbalize it, vocalize it, you know,
so I could be there for you in a way
that makes sense. You have to speak up to them
as well. Okay, we're commercial free your chance to win
Kesha tickets eight thirty, don't go far and thanks for
the call.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Those you're waking up with. Fifth in the morning, h
kiss in the morning.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
The three pillars of adult friendships to make them successful,
according to Mel Robbins's Let Them Theory, which is a
book that I read every morning before I come into work,
a few pages here and there.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
The number one pillar out of the three is timing.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
We are walking into the daily debrief every day right
around this time, I revisit what I think is the
biggest topic that we covered on the show, giving you
a chance to get involved, get caught up, especially just
starting off your day. We revisit talkbacks that we maybe
didn't get to in the moment, kind of giving everyone
an opportunity to get in on it. And I really
just wanted to chat and get your insight on something
(13:11):
because I'm struggling a little bit with my Boston friends.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
To be honest with you, I'm booking. I have booked.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I am traveling back next Sunday to Boston for the
marathon because one of my best girlfriends is running it
and I really want to support her, and this will
be probably the dozenth flight that I've gotten on in
the last three years to go support friends and go
and see them and spend time with them.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
And I just feel like that's not been reciprocated.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
No one has come to visit me since maybe twenty
twenty two, So from a genuine place of curiosity, we
connected on that this morning and just getting different takes on,
you know, young mothers who have kids versus singles, and
just lots of conversation around it this morning.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
When we got here.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
Good morning, Chis. I think, unfortunately, what you have to
face is that your friendships as adults evolved because you're
in different stages of life. She has a husband and
a young child, and she's doing the Boston Marathon. She
honestly does not have the time to come to Cincinnati,
and it literally has nothing to do with you.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yeah, and that's the part that you have to get
used to.
Speaker 5 (14:17):
It doesn't have anything to do with you personally. She
loves you.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
That was a very very good take. Thank you for
the talkback with Tiff. You too, can leave me talkbacks
at any point in the show. Maybe this conversation resonated
with you. The iHeartRadio app is where you go for that.
You see the microphone next to the play button. It's
in the top right hand corner. In fact, there are
a lot of varying opinions on this conversation today, from mothers,
(14:43):
from you know, people like me who are single and
solo and finding a hard time connecting with their friends,
feeling left out a little bit, feeling you know, there's
a lot. There was a lot, and it was really
cool to hear a lot of your opinions. So if
that resonates with you, get caught up on the podcast
Yes Today at some point search tif.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Tiff in the borning on the iHeartRadio App. I appreciate
you more than you know. Happy Friday. We made it
to the end of the week.
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