I Wish You Knew

Attachment style plays a bigger role in your relationships than you think, especially when it’s the one no one talks about.

In this episode, Adam explore the long-ignored freeze attachment style, rooted in fearful-avoidant patterns. After surviving childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, and three failed marriages, Corina shares how this attachment style shaped her life and how she’s learning to heal.

Topics Covered: 👉 What the free...

What does it take for an Avoidant Man to finally feel safe enough to stay in love? 

In this episode, Kimmi returns to share his journey from emotional shutdown to engagement. Once known as “Kimmi the Avoidant,” he opens up about what helped him finally connect, feel secure, and build lasting love. 

Topics Covered:  👉 How avoidant attachment distorts emotional connection 👉 Why emotional safety—not pressure—creates commitment 👉 Th...

Avoidant men aren’t emotionally distant by choice. Their detachment is often a survival response wired deep into the brain.

In this episode, Adam breaks down how avoidant men develop this style of relating, why avoidant men often carry it into adulthood, and most importantly how to help avoidant men heal for good.

Topics covered: 👉 The brain science behind avoidant men and emotional shutdown 👉 Why avoidant men experience burnout,...

In this episode, Andrey shares how he went from emotionally avoidant to fully committed in marriage. He breaks down the exact values, mindset shifts, and moments that made him stay. 

Adam and Andrey explore how real love forms not through perfection, but through shared vision and integrity. This is a blueprint for building lasting connection with an avoidant man.

Topics Covered: 👉 What makes an avoidant man choose commitment 👉 Ho...

In this episode, guest Emily Humpert returns to explore what it means to build emotional intimacy while carrying avoidant or disorganized attachment wounds. 

Alongside host Adam Lane Smith, they unpack how emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and acceptance are the keys to real connection. If you've ever struggled to believe in love or feared that being truly seen would lead to rejection, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a...

In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with Chad and Brittany to explore why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship.

Whether you’re in a struggling relationship or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation will challenge the way you see emotional safety, communication, and connection.

Topics Covered: 👉 What led to the breakup: stress, avoidance, and nervous system overload 👉 How...

In this conversation, Adam welcomes Margarita Nazarenko, a viral voice of tough love on relationships, for a deep, honest dialogue about anxious attachment, emotional patterns, and why so many women end up chasing emotionally unavailable men. Margarita offers clarity, accountability, and practical wisdom to break the cycle of toxic relationships and build something truly healthy.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why women with anxious attachment...

In this powerful episode, attachment expert Jessica Baum joins Adam Lane Smith to unpack one of the most essential yet misunderstood pillars of a healthy relationship: emotional safety. Together, they explore why safety isn’t just a “nice to have” in love, but a biological and psychological necessity that shapes the way we connect, heal, and grow. Whether you’ve struggled with abandonment wounds, anxious or avoidant patterns, or fe...

In this episode, Andrey and Adam dive deep into the foundations of trust-based communication in both professional and personal relationships. They unpack the dangers of transactional thinking, explore how poor communication sabotages connection, and offer practical insight into building relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than leverage.

Topics Covered: 👉 The danger of giving power based solely on talent 👉 Why standardiz...

In this episode, Kelly Chase from Love Is Blind (Season 1) opens up about her journey from heartbreak and self-abandonment to healing, boundaries, and self-love. She shares what led her to go on the show, what she learned from the experience, and what she's looking for now in love, life, and relationships.

✨ Topics Covered: 👉 Why Kelly went on Love Is Blind and what she hoped to find 👉 The hidden reasons people stay in unhealthy ...

In this episode, Aurora Culpo returns with a candid and emotionally honest update about her personal life. She opens up about the complexity of dating after heartbreak, the internal battles of self-worth, and how she’s navigating a new relationship under the scrutiny of public attention. From emotional triggers and attachment patterns to navigating jealousy and miscommunication, Aurora invites listeners into the real, often messy, ...

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, Kyle Cease opens up about his personal journey—from using comedy as a defense mechanism to confronting childhood trauma and stepping into authentic healing. He explores how false identities are formed through pain and how real transformation happens when we face the hidden parts of ourselves. With insights on attachment, inner work, spirituality, and the power of humor, this episode is both...

In this insightful episode, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationships and intimacy, joins attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to answer one of the hardest questions couples face: Can a relationship ever truly recover after an affair? Whether you’ve experienced betrayal or fear it might happen, this episode offers honest answers and real hope.

Topics Covered 👉 The psychological impact of infidelit...

In this episode, Andrey and Adam unpack the deep connection between attachment styles and personality disorders. Together, they explore how childhood trauma, neurological stress, and emotional dysregulation contribute to avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment—and how these patterns can evolve into more severe conditions like borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and even schizophrenia. Adam challenges the medic...

In this episode, Evan Marc Katz joins Adam Lane Smith for a fiery and thought-provoking debate on one of the most challenging questions in relationships: Can we truly change our partner—or is it all about accepting them as they are? From practical dating strategies to deeper emotional dynamics, this conversation dives into the complexities of modern love and long-term compatibility.

✨ Key Topics Covered: 👉 Can good relationships b...

Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn’t until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible.

Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of emotional discon...

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you’re facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real ...

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith and Shallon Lester expose the hidden red flags of avoidant attachment and why trusting words alone can lead to heartbreak. They break down the toxic dating patterns that leave women feeling unworthy, discuss why men rarely change without consequences, and share practical strategies to build secure, lasting relationships.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why many women settle in relationships out of fear of abando...

In this episode, we dive into the growing divide between men and women in modern society. Our guest, HTH, joins the conversation to explore the cultural and psychological shifts affecting relationships, attachment dynamics, and societal structures.

Topics Covered:

👉 The messaging that paints men as villains and its long-term impact 👉 Why men are walking away from relationships and societal expectations 👉 The rise of cultural and...