But, He Spit in My Coffee
A true story about adopting a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Listen to the unabridged award-winning audiobook here.
Episodes
Keri reflects on what could have made a difference for her family, and families like hers, and highlights how listeners can advocate for change.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Devon’s relationship with Keri and the family is on a path of healing, however, he is not safe to move back home.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
A distressing incident unfolds as Devon is assaulted by a staff person in a residential treatment facility.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Devon's birth mother, who neglected him only due to poverty and lack of resources, visits for the weekend.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Despite Keri's healing and effective engagement with Devon, he remains actively resistant to treatment, presenting an ongoing hurdle in their journey.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
A glimmer of hope emerges as the new therapist demonstrates an understanding of reactive attachment disorder, leading to productive family therapy sessions.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
In a disheartening turn of events, Devon manages to outsmart his new clinician, despite the foster mom witnessing his troublesome behaviors.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Despite the escalation of Devon's dangerous behaviors and his resistance to treatment, the therapist proposes moving him to a less restrictive foster home.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Devon is diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), a severe mental health condition that disproportionately affects children with a history of foster care or adoption.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
- Find this book and my others on Amazon
- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
The family's journey takes a new turn as Devon is admitted to a residential treatment facility and Keri starts seeing a therapist
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Devon is enrolled in a partial hospitalization day program to address his physical aggression.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Devon receives treatment at a mental health hospital followed by Intensive In-Home services.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Keri makes the difficult decision to admit Devon to a psychiatric ward.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
The family faces a breaking point when Devon's behavior becomes dangerous, leading to police involvement.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
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- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
As the school year ends, Keri grapples with guilt over the unequal attention given to Devon, leaving Keri desperate for solutions.
Learn more here: What it's like being a sibling of a child with RAD
Devon's suspension from school marks a turning point, prompting Keri to intervene and discipline him.
Learn more here: How Dad's Struggle with accepting RAD
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
- Find this book and my others on Amazon
- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
The family grapples with ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder diagnoses.
Learn more here: 95% of Adoptive Parents Jump in Heart-First, but Unprepared
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
- Find this book and my others on Amazon
- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Moving to North Carolina brings both joy and challenges for Keri's family and Devon's distant demeanor and strange behaviors persist.
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Tensions rise as Devon's peculiar behaviors escalate, creating a rollercoaster of heartwarming moments and tense situations.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
- Find this book and my others on Amazon
- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
Keri and her husband believed they were creating a perfect family, only to discover Devon's hidden trauma and challenging behaviors.
- Learn more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- Learn more about me
- Find community for caregivers of kids with RAD
- Find this book and my others on Amazon
- Narrator: Cindy Piller
- Music by Denis Maksimov from Pixabay
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