ADHD Realities

What happens when you mix neuroscience, lived ADHD experience, and zero tolerance for shame? This episode. I sit down with Dr. Ludovico Saint Amour di Chanaz (neuroscientist, author, and ADHDer) to unpack the chaos of late diagnosis, burnout, identity grief, motivation struggles, and why self-compassion isn't just nice... it's necessary. We’re talking ADHD cycles, why routines feel impossible, the not so sexy truth about sleep, and...

People pleasing isn't just a personality quirk, it can be a deeply ingrained survival strategy, especially for ADHDers who grew up masking, over apologizing, or craving external validation. In this episode, we dive deep into how ADHD impacts people pleasing in the bedroom, where saying "yes" when we mean "maybe" or "no" happens more often than we realize. You'll gain a stronger ADHD informed lens on your sexual and emotional experi...

Desire is a powerful force in our intimate lives, and when you add ADHD into the mix, understanding it becomes even more crucial. In this episode, I sit down with Natassia Miller to dive deep into all things desire from what it is, the common misconceptions, and how hormones influence our experiences. We’ll also discuss the role of communication in navigating intimacy and explore creative ways to make playtime more inviting. Whethe...

In this episode, we’re diving into the fascinating connection between ADHD, BDSM, and sensation seeking. If you’ve ever wondered why your ADHD brain craves intensity, novelty, and deep sensory experiences, this one’s for you! We’ll explore how BDSM can provide the structure, stimulation, and dopamine rush that many ADHDers naturally seek, whether it’s through impact play, power dynamics, or sensory exploration. Shockingly, there is...

In this episode of ADHD Realities, we’re tackling a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough; porn use, compulsive behaviors, and how ADHD plays a role. As ADHDers, our brains crave dopamine, and that can sometimes lead to patterns of porn consumption that feel hard to manage. We’ll break down the myths, explore how ADHD and impulsivity intersect with porn use, and discuss when it becomes a problem. Plus, we’ll talk about self co...

Many of us with ADHD experience sensory processing challenges, and these don’t simply switch off during playtime. This is a common theme not only in my personal life but also in my work with clients in my clinical practice. It’s important to remember that both ADHD and sensory processing exist on a spectrum, meaning experiences can vary widely from person to person. The goal of this episode is to provide insight and empowerment, he...

 I am feeling all the feels this week as I reflect all the workI am doing with my clients and the continued work on my research. On this episode I take the opportunity to just spew my thoughts in a chaotic way (leaning into my ADHD loud and proud). I go over the impact of desire discrepancies in our relationships and how perimenopause/ menopause can make things harder when we are not empowered with the knowledge and support to help...

I’ve noticed that hypersexuality can be a hot topic, but unfortunately, it’s often misunderstood. There’s actually quite a bit of research out there about ADHD and its connections, but I’m concerned about how ADHD is sometimes unfairly blamed for hypersexuality. So, I’d love for you to join me in this 20-minute episode as I dive into what we know about ADHD and hypersexuality, and share some of my thoughts and concerns on the matte...

In this episode, I'm excited to chat about something that’s been causing quite a stir in our community: the difference between intimacy and sex, and the frustrations professionals have around it. Intimacy is such a vital part of our relationships, and it’s super important for us ADHD women to feel empowered and confident in expressing our needs, especially during playtime. A lot of folks might not stop to think about how expectatio...