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March 27, 2025 12 mins

👋🏽 Hey Mama,

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to focus on what’s missing? 🔍

❌The messy house,

❌ the to-do list that never ends,

❌ the ways you feel like you don’t measure up?

It’s like our 👀 eyes are naturally drawn to the gaps, the voids, the places where we feel like we’re falling short.

But what if I told you that what you behold is what you become?

In this episode, we’re flipping the script and learning to fix our eyes on who God is instead of what we think is lacking. We’ll dive into the story of the 12 spies from Numbers 13-14—how ten of them focused on the giants and fear, while Joshua and Caleb fixed their gaze on the faithfulness of God.

The result?

Their perspective shaped their destiny.

And, friend, the same is true for us!

I’ll also share two practical ways to shift your focus back to Jesus in your everyday life. Whether you’re unloading the dishwasher, running late for school drop-off, or feeling the weight of all your responsibilities, these small shifts will help you see God’s presence in the middle of it all.

Oh, and I’ve got a special free resource just for you—one that’s been near and dear to my heart since 1998. It’s a list of The Names of God & Scripture References, passed down from my mentor Kathleen Kennedy. This is the very tool that helped me learn to pray God’s names instead of dwelling on life’s struggles, and I want to share it with you!

⚓ Download it now at mom2mommentoring.com/namesofgod and let your heart be anchored in who He is.

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(00:00):
There was a time when I found myself constantly dwelling on what was missing, the vacancies, the losses, the things that weren't as they should be, I'd pray, but really I was just whining in God's direction and there was a lot of big holes.

(00:21):
With no husband, father provision.
Well, you get the picture.
It was during this time that I received a gift.
This gift was my friend and mentor, Kathleen Kennedy, who introduced me to the power of worshiping God, fixing my gaze on him.

(00:41):
And not the problem. 7 00:00:43,407.272727273 --> 00:00:47,817.272727273 Kathleen gave me a gift that changed everything. 8 00:00:48,327.272727273 --> 00:00:53,97.272727273 It was a simple list of the names of God with scripture references. 9 00:00:53,97.272727273 --> 00:00:53,127.272727273 I. 10 00:00:53,967.272727273 --> 00:00:58,797.272727273 We'd use those names and character traits of God to worship him. 11 00:00:59,16.327272727 --> 00:01:03,396.327272727 The Ministry of Kathleen's was called Wings of Worship. 12 00:01:03,786.327272727 --> 00:01:13,300.581818182 We would travel to conferences and lift up silk painted flags, dance and use drama to usher in the presence of Jesus. 13 00:01:13,489.909090909 --> 00:01:31,229.781818182 It was in those sacred moments of worship that I learned the power of lifting up the name of God instead of lamenting in the gaps, I started praying the names of God over my life, over my children, over my home. 14 00:01:31,449.654545455 --> 00:01:39,849.654545455 Instead of focusing on what I lacked, I started focusing on who he is and friend. 15 00:01:40,144.65454545 --> 00:01:43,84.65454545 That simple gift changed everything. 16 00:01:43,444.65454545 --> 00:01:51,814.65454545 Now, before I go on, as your mom mentor and your friend, I wanna make this same gift available to you. 17 00:01:52,144.65454545 --> 00:01:52,534.65454545 Yep. 18 00:01:52,534.65454545 --> 00:01:57,874.65454545 It's the exact list that Kathleen gave me those 25 years ago. 19 00:01:58,414.65454545 --> 00:02:03,484.65454545 Just go to mom to mom mentoring.com/names 20 00:02:03,574.65454545 --> 00:02:05,854.65454545 of God to get your list. 21 00:02:06,138.16363636 --> 00:02:20,644.47272727 Now in the midst of extreme uncertainties battles between attorneys, my kids' own fighting, I would lay on the floor and cover myself with a silk flag named the Lord of hosts. 22 00:02:20,797.63636364 --> 00:02:28,267.63636364 It was my way of worshiping him and fixing my gaze on him instead of striving to fix the problems. 23 00:02:28,479.3030303 --> 00:02:44,709.3030303 instead of agreeing with the declaration that my children were fatherless, I raised a banner declaring ABBA over my family, and I watched the good, good father move in amazing ways in the lives of my children. 24 00:02:44,972.63636364 --> 00:02:59,672.63636364 And in a season when I felt desolate, abandoned as a wife, I found a piece of white bridal gown fabric stitched together a big white flag and declared the Lord is my husband. 25 00:02:59,882.63636364 --> 00:03:04,592.63636364 While I learned to lean on him and not my own understanding. 26 00:03:04,677.63636364 --> 00:03:15,427.63636364 You see, we're told in the word of God that the name of the Lord is a strong tower and the righteous can run into it and are safe. 27 00:03:15,517.63636364 --> 00:03:27,157.63636364 And during that season of life, when I was desolate and felt abandoned, I learned to run into the name of the Lord. 28 00:03:27,352.63636364 --> 00:03:40,332.63636364 I discovered that where my eyes were fixed, determined the posture of my heart Oh, there were so, so many days that I was so weary. 29 00:03:40,425.96969697 --> 00:03:53,252.63636364 All I could do was lift my eyes, and that's when I would remember My help comes from the Lord maker of heaven and earth. 30 00:03:53,469.3030303 --> 00:03:55,389.3030303 But let's be real. 31 00:03:56,19.3030303 --> 00:04:01,479.3030303 Even with what I learned in that season, I still lose sight of Jesus. 32 00:04:01,629.3030303 --> 00:04:06,849.3030303 My vision gets cloudy, and I let distractions pull me away. 33 00:04:07,269.3030303 --> 00:04:09,489.3030303 I cast my eyes downward. 34 00:04:09,829.3030303 --> 00:04:15,889.3030303 And even inward sometimes I see the lack instead of the provider. 35 00:04:16,219.3030303 --> 00:04:22,69.3030303 I focus on what's missing instead of the one who fills all things. 36 00:04:22,162.63636364 --> 00:04:25,162.63636364 And I'm pretty sure I'm not alone. 37 00:04:26,535.3030303 --> 00:04:27,225.3030303 Hi friend. 38 00:04:27,495.3030303 --> 00:04:29,145.3030303 Welcome to Mom. 39 00:04:29,145.3030303 --> 00:04:30,195.3030303 To Mom Mentoring. 40 00:04:30,525.3030303 --> 00:04:38,235.3030303 I'm Misty Hughes, your gratitude guide, mom, mentor, celebration, coach, and your dream champion. 41 00:04:38,775.3030303 --> 00:04:42,943.76228956 I help Christian working moms just like you. 42 00:04:43,213.76228956 --> 00:04:46,273.76228956 Learn to live powerfully lead with purpose. 43 00:04:46,573.76228956 --> 00:05:06,174.47340067 And love with passion, but if we're honest, life doesn't always feel that way, does it? You get so distracted by all the shiny things, the never ending to-do list, the work deadlines, the soccer practice, the piles of laundry, the shoulds, coulds, and woods swirling in your head. 44 00:05:06,714.47340067 --> 00:05:15,684.47340067 I know you try to be everything to everyone, and in the process you lose sight of the one who is everything. 45 00:05:16,134.47340067 --> 00:05:19,824.47340067 So today I want to ask you. 46 00:05:20,319.47340067 --> 00:05:32,444.47340067 What are you looking at? Have you ever noticed how your eyes naturally lock onto what's missing? If there's a smudge on the mirror, you see it. 47 00:05:32,774.47340067 --> 00:05:37,994.47340067 If a word is misspelled on a sign, your eye typically goes straight to it. 48 00:05:38,474.47340067 --> 00:05:44,344.47340067 My husband, Craig, has this incredible ability to spot the gaps, the missing pieces. 49 00:05:44,354.47340067 --> 00:05:45,854.47340067 The things that need fixing. 50 00:05:46,334.47340067 --> 00:05:53,954.47340067 while it's a great skill that I love dearly, it also says something about our human nature. 51 00:05:54,494.47340067 --> 00:05:59,894.47340067 We fixate on absence, on voids, on imperfections. 52 00:06:00,494.47340067 --> 00:06:04,882.07340067 And I'm gonna be honest with you, I do it too. 53 00:06:05,165.52340067 --> 00:06:11,555.52340067 When I see where I failed or missed the mark, my first instinct is to fix it. 54 00:06:12,95.52340067 --> 00:06:15,105.80673401 I slip into fix it mom mode. 55 00:06:15,315.80673401 --> 00:06:16,665.80673401 Try harder, be better. 56 00:06:16,665.80673401 --> 00:06:27,295.80673401 Close the gap because isn't that what we're supposed to do? Identify the problem and work harder to make it right, but then I hear God say, stop it. 57 00:06:27,471.80673401 --> 00:06:32,421.80673401 Psalm 46 10 literally says, cease striving. 58 00:06:32,711.80673401 --> 00:06:34,391.80673401 And know that I am God. 59 00:06:34,561.80673401 --> 00:06:38,761.80673401 That word no in Hebrew, it doesn't mean just knowledge. 60 00:06:38,821.80673401 --> 00:06:46,741.80673401 It means to see, to perceive, to recognize God is literally telling us, stop scrambling. 61 00:06:46,741.80673401 --> 00:06:49,411.80673401 Stop obsessing over what's missing. 62 00:06:49,771.80673401 --> 00:06:52,651.80673401 Instead, look at me. 63 00:06:53,401.80673401 --> 00:07:14,412.38728956 So let me ask you, when you look at your life, your home, your family, your work, what do you see? Do you see what you think you lack or do you see God the great gap filler, the one who makes a way? Because the truth is you become what you behold. 64 00:07:14,621.51228956 --> 00:07:19,841.51228956 If you keep looking at the missing pieces, you'll always feel empty. 65 00:07:20,111.51228956 --> 00:07:26,201.51228956 But if you fix your eyes on Jesus, you will see the one who overcomes. 66 00:07:26,482.46228956 --> 00:07:31,162.46228956 Remember the story of the 12 spies in numbers 13 and 14. 67 00:07:31,424.88728956 --> 00:07:48,264.88728956 Moses sent 12 men to scout the land of Canaan, the promised land, and they all agreed the land was incredible overflowing with milk and honey, but 10 of those spies only saw the giants standing in the way. 68 00:07:48,364.88728956 --> 00:07:54,844.88728956 They looked through the lens of fear, and fear told them, this is impossible. 69 00:07:54,998.2206229 --> 00:08:00,358.2206229 Joshua and Caleb, well, they saw the same giants, but through a different lens. 70 00:08:00,748.2206229 --> 00:08:04,498.2206229 The lens of God's power and God's faithfulness. 71 00:08:04,768.2206229 --> 00:08:08,188.2206229 They knew God had already promised victory. 72 00:08:08,458.2206229 --> 00:08:24,38.2206229 So instead of focusing on the obstacles, they focused on the one who overcomes all the obstacles And because their eyes were fixed on God, they walked into the promise. 73 00:08:24,158.2206229 --> 00:08:28,808.2206229 Now, it was a few years later, but they still got their promise. 74 00:08:28,958.2206229 --> 00:08:45,572.87741302 So let me ask you, where are you looking at the giants in your life instead of the greatness of your God? Who is he to you today? Jehovah sa, the Lord of hosts the one who fights for you. 75 00:08:46,112.87741302 --> 00:08:47,492.87741302 Jehovah Shama. 76 00:08:47,582.87741302 --> 00:08:51,302.87741302 The God who is right here, Emmanuel. 77 00:08:51,602.87741302 --> 00:08:53,282.87741302 God with us. 78 00:08:53,570.93996446 --> 00:09:03,284.27329779 Now, beloved mom, I know you are busy, So I would like to give you two simple ways to shift your focus back to Jesus. 79 00:09:03,377.60663113 --> 00:09:05,807.60663113 Number one, lift your eyes. 80 00:09:06,197.60663113 --> 00:09:11,57.60663113 Psalm 1 21 says, I lift my eyes to the hills. 81 00:09:11,357.60663113 --> 00:09:16,97.60663113 From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord. 82 00:09:16,757.60663113 --> 00:09:23,717.60663113 When you feel overwhelmed to weary to take another step or can't handle one more thing. 83 00:09:23,869.27329779 --> 00:09:25,129.27329779 Lift your eyes. 84 00:09:25,269.27329779 --> 00:09:29,79.27329779 Sometimes it's the only thing you can lift. 85 00:09:29,282.60663113 --> 00:09:31,652.60663113 Go outside and look at the sky. 86 00:09:32,342.60663113 --> 00:09:36,842.60663113 Jesus says in Matthew 6 26, look at the birds of the air. 87 00:09:37,322.60663113 --> 00:09:43,742.60663113 They don't sow or reap or gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. 88 00:09:43,925.93996446 --> 00:09:54,540.93996446 Are you not worth much more than they? Let this looking up remind you that God is bigger than whatever is weighing you down. 89 00:09:54,840.93996446 --> 00:10:01,834.27329779 He is the good shepherd who leads you beside still waters and restores your soul. 90 00:10:01,954.27329779 --> 00:10:06,484.27329779 The second thing that you can do is remember and worship. 91 00:10:06,607.60663113 --> 00:10:23,227.60663113 When was the last time you had a real tangible encounter with God? Maybe it was during a worship service or in a quiet moment of prayer, or when he showed up in a miraculous way. 92 00:10:23,420.93996446 --> 00:10:27,594.27329779 Take a moment to pause and remember. 93 00:10:29,694.27329779 --> 00:10:34,194.27329779 Let that memory stir up fresh worship in your heart. 94 00:10:35,34.27329779 --> 00:10:35,754.27329779 Pray. 95 00:10:36,144.27329779 --> 00:10:45,211.51218668 Open the eyes of my heart, Jesus, I want to see you The world tells you to hustle, strive, and do more. 96 00:10:45,811.51218668 --> 00:10:56,131.51218668 But Jesus reminds us to look and see that your father provides where your eyes go, your heart follows. 97 00:10:56,431.51218668 --> 00:11:00,91.51218668 If you fix your eyes on Jesus, your heart will find peace. 98 00:11:00,331.51218668 --> 00:11:04,591.51218668 If you fix your eyes on your problems, your heart will be overwhelmed. 99 00:11:05,191.51218668 --> 00:11:07,681.51218668 Beloved, you don't have to have it all figured out. 100 00:11:08,56.51218668 --> 00:11:09,676.51218668 Just lift your eyes. 101 00:11:10,36.51218668 --> 00:11:18,676.51218668 See Jesus, behold the lamb of God, who takes away all the wrongness, all the darkness. 102 00:11:19,96.51218668 --> 00:11:28,199.84552001 If you need help fixing your gaze back on him, I've created that free resource, the names of God to help you meditate on who he is. 103 00:11:28,679.84552001 --> 00:11:32,759.84552001 You can download it at Mom to mom mentoring.com, 104 00:11:34,109.84552001 --> 00:11:38,279.84552001 names of God and let your heart be filled with his truth. 105 00:11:39,359.84552001 --> 00:11:47,939.84552001 If this episode has encouraged you or even challenged you, I wanna invite you to share it with a friend and leave a review. 106 00:11:48,179.84552001 --> 00:11:52,829.84552001 It helps other kingdom minded moms find the encouragement they need. 107 00:11:53,429.84552001 --> 00:11:59,479.84552001 Remember, You are called and created to live powerfully lead with purpose. 108 00:11:59,626.07885335 --> 00:12:10,246.07885335 Love with passion and parent with presence, and always remember when you shine, you give others permission to shine too.
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