NorthPoint Counseling Perspective
Welcome to a NorthPoint Counseling Perspective, a podcast that addresses the intricate tapestry of individual, marriage, parenting, addictive sexual behavior, and betrayal partner trauma.
Episodes
God, Are You Real? Why It Matters to Know What We Believe
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself not just what you believe about God, but why you believe it?
That's a question I've spent considerable time thinking about, and it's one of the personal motivations behind writing my newest book, God, Are You Real?
As a Christian, I believe in God. But I've come to recognize that there's an important difference between belie...
Understanding Narcissism: Recognizing the Traits, Behaviors, and Impact on Relationships
Is someone in your life a narcissist, or are they simply displaying selfish behaviors? How can you tell the difference?
The term narcissism is used frequently today, but what does it really mean? And how do narcissistic traits affect the people closest to us?
In this episode of NorthPoint Counseling Perspective, John Stern...
Empathy is more than simply understanding what your spouse is feeling in a particular moment. Over time, empathy becomes a way of relating—a foundation that can transform how couples communicate, navigate conflict, respond to pain, and experience emotional connection.
In this episode, we discuss how developing empathy can help couples build greater emotional safety, deepen trust, reduce defensiveness, improve c...
Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy – Part 5: Breaking Through the Barriers to Empathetic Communication
In Part 5 of Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy, we explore the common barriers that can prevent couples from truly hearing, understanding, and connecting with one another.
Empathy is more than listening to words. It requires us to set aside our own internal arguments, judgments, defenses, and desir...
Before we continue our journey in Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy, I want to thank you for joining me for this series.
In Part 1, we explored the four different types of empathy. In Part 2, we took a deeper look at emotional empathy and why it is so essential to building emotional connection. In Part 3, we examined how empathy is expressed through our words, our actions, and our willingness to enter in...
Welcome to Part 3 of our series, Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy.
In Part 1, we explored the four different types of empathy and discovered that empathy is far more than simply understanding another person's emotions—it is a skill that can transform the health of a relationship.
In Part 2, we took a deeper dive into emotional empathy, examining how learning to emotionally connect with your spouse create...
Welcome back to Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy, Part 2.
I'm so glad you've joined me as we continue this important conversation. If you listened to Part 1, you know we began by exploring the four different types of empathy. We discussed how empathy isn't just one skill—it's actually a collection of ways we connect with another person's thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Understanding these four type...
Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy - Part 1
Understanding the Four Types of Empathy
Welcome to the Podcast on Empathy: The Gateway to Marital Intimacy, a series dedicated to helping couples build deeper connection, stronger trust, and lasting love through one of the most powerful relationship skills ever given to us—empathy.
Most couples believe their greatest challenge is communication. But what if the rea...
In this powerful episode, host John Sternfels, LPC, a national board-certified counselor and founder of NorthPoint Professional Counseling, sheds light on the destructive psychological tactic known as gaslighting. This subtle form of emotional abuse distorts a person’s reality, often leaving them feeling confused, powerless, and emotionally isolated.
John breaks down the core dynamics of gaslighting—how i...
What does it take to raise strong, grounded, and emotionally healthy kids in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world?
In this powerful episode, John Sternfels gives us a sneak peek into his highly anticipated new book,Healthy Parenting: Preparing the Next Generation. With warmth, wisdom, and clinical insight, John unpacks what every parent needs to know to build a solid foundation for their children, one rooted...
In this episode of NorthPoint Counseling Perspective, John Sternfels explores the foundational topic of attachment styles—how our early childhood experiences with parents /caregivers shape the way we connect, trust, and navigate intimacy in adulthood.
John unpacks the four main attachment styles—Secure, Anxious (Preoccupied), Avoidant (Dismissive), and Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized)—offering his ow...
Are you seeking a structured approach to restore healing, truth, and unity within your home? Then don’t miss this episode of NorthPoint Counseling Perspective, where we dive into the Family Impact Meeting — a powerful, guided therapeutic approach to help families begin conversations around broken trust, addiction recovery, or betrayal trauma.
Hosted by John Sternfels, National Board-Certified Counselor, a...
Hosted by John Sternfels, National Board-certified counselor, author, and clinical director of NorthPoint Professional Counseling, this episode dives deep into one of the most essential—and often misunderstood—tools in healing from betrayal: Why a Therapeutic Disclosure.
John brings nearly two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate the pain of sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, and...
In this episode of NorthPoint Counseling Perspective, host John Sternfels—a National Board-Certified Counselor, marriage therapist, and author—explores the power and purpose of a Couples' Weekly Check-In. This intentional practice can be a game-changer for couples looking to deepen connection, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy.
John walks listeners through a successful weekly check-in struc...
In this compelling episode, counselor and author John Sternfels explores the Therapeutic Marital Healing Separation Agreement—a structured, intentional approach to marital separation that prioritizes healing, emotional safety, and personal responsibility. Designed specifically for couples in crisis who desire clarity, growth, and the possibility of reconciliation, this agreement creates a framework that suppor...
Hosted by John Sternfels, The Therapeutic Disclosure Process: A Path to Healing and Trust is a podcast dedicated to guiding individuals and couples through the complexities of therapeutic disclosure after relational betrayal. As a National Board-Certified Counselor (NCC) and the owner of NorthPoint Professional Counseling Inc., John brings his expertise in marriage restoration, sexual addiction recovery, and partner...
Sex. It’s everywhere—on our screens, in our culture, and shaping how we think about relationships, identity, and intimacy. But with so many competing voices—secular ideologies, cultural relativism, and biblical truth—how do we separate fact from fiction?
In this eye-opening episode, counselor and author John Sternfels explores his upcoming book, SEX: Secular, Relativistic-Cultural, or Biblical...
In this episode, counselor and author, John Sternfels will dive into the complex and often misunderstood topic of codependency in marriage. Many couples struggle with unhealthy relational patterns where one partner becomes overly reliant on the other for emotional validation, self-worth, or decision-making. This imbalance can lead to resentment, anxiety, and a loss of individual identity.
Join John as he will explore...
In this episode, counselor and author, John Sternfels introduces his new book, "DOWNLOAD For Parents." DOWNLOAD is a crucial guide for today’s parents navigating the digital world with their children. Technology has transformed how our kids interact, learn, and socialize. Still, it has also introduced new challenges—exposure to harmful content, screen addiction, and online dangers that many parents feel ...
Behind The Smile by John Sternfels and Melissa Roberts is a real-life story of how one of John's clients, Melissa Roberts, overcame the horrors of being abused, traumatized, and sexually betrayed. As a result, Melissa experienced many psychological complexities, often behind a facade of happiness.
The book is designed to offer readers a deeper understanding of the disconnect between the external image people project ...
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