The Diary of a Discarded Daughter - Redeeming a Painful Past
Welcome to the Diary of a Discarded Daughter (formerly titled "The Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen") Diary of a Discarded Daughter is hosted by Lisa Schafer—a woman who has walked through forty years of abandonment, childhood s**ual abuse, and the long, messy road to healing. This podcast takes a raw, authentic, heartfelt, and often humorous look at the deep wounds left by being unprotected, unloved, and unwanted. Abandoned and abused as a child, Lisa Schafer, Founder of Christian Drama Queen Solutions, shares the wounds that shaped her choices, her faith, and her understanding of God, as well as the healing and redemption Jesus gave her during her 40-year search for answers to painful questions. If you’ve ever struggled to "let go" of trauma or wrestled with bitterness, Lisa offers a seat at the table. Through candid conversations, spiritual insights, and her signature wit (often at her own expense), Lisa creates a space for women to dig deeper into their walk with Jesus. Whether you're drowning in past pain or just beginning to confront it, she offers encouragement, truth, and an open invitation to get real about the hard stuff—without shame. Lisa Schafer is the author of two Bible studies on forgiveness: 📖 DISCARDED – A Daughter’s Journey to Reclaim Freedom and Forgive the Father Who Left Her Behind 📖 The Christian Victim’s Guide to Forgiving the Unforgivable (Both available on Amazon.) Please note: Lisa is not a licensed counselor, pastor, or mental health professional. She strongly encourages listeners to seek professional care when needed. Subscribe, follow, rate, and share—because someone you love may need to hear what you're hearing.
Episodes
In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Finding Purpose for a Painful Past, God's Sovereignty, we explore how God can redeem even the most difficult chapters of our lives. If you’ve ever wrestled with questions about why certain hardships happen or wondered how your past could possibly serve a greater purpose, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and honest reflection.
We dive into the truth of ...
What happens when you feel called to share a message—but everything seems to rise up against you?
In this episode, Lisa gets real and shares the spiritual reality of being attacked for just doing the work God gave her to do. She realizes if she's not facing resistance when you're trying to walk in purpose, then maybe the enemy doesn't see the work and calling as a threat. Recognizing the unseen battle ...
Modern culture constantly tells us to “know your worth” and find value within yourself—but does the Bible actually teach self-worth?
In this episode, Lisa explores the biblical perspective on worthiness, identity, and grace. While society promotes the idea that we possess inherent worth that deserves blessing, Scripture presents a different reality: our hope, identity, and acceptance come through Jesus Christ alone.
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In this episode, Lisa explores a hard but necessary question: Why is the corporate church so uncomfortable with hearing about your suffering?
Many believers are still walking through chronic pain, trauma, loss, or unanswered prayers. But when that suffering doesn’t resolve quickly or turn into a clean testimony, it often makes people uneasy. And when they try to speak about it, the room often grows tense. The convers...
The last episode opened up this concept of not just saying we've forgiven our abusers, but actually infesting loving kindness into them, and setting aside our desire for retribution or even closure. We've seen biblical examples of showing love before actually feeling love, but this week, Lisa shares two personal experiences where God was able to use her choice to act loving and found herself experience God...
Lisa didn't come up with this idea. A popular Christian author told her story on a popular Christian network and the message resonated. But is there a Biblical account of someone needing to forgive and seeing the importance of sacrificing to do so. Find out and share your opinion.
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Ugh! The whole idea of "having the mind of Christ" is overwhelming to think about, isn't it? It's one of those "I know I should but it just can't be done...can it?" sort of things. In this episode, Lisa shares how difficult it was for her to be humble before one of her kids after thinking her unloving behavior was justified. After all, he had inflicted the first blow, right? Or had...
When Lisa and Beth met for the first time, it was obvious they were sisters—not only in Christ, but also in experiences of abandonment and redemption. In this episode, Beth shares her story of being kidnapped by family at a very young age and how the Lord brought healing and hope back into her life. Since they are both veteran home-educators, they discuss some of the ways their self-worth impacted their kids, their ...
A very special episode, indeed! Today Lisa discusses the value two amazing women imparted to her at a time when she felt she had no value or purpose. Like many discarded daughters, we don't see the hope and future promised to us in Jeremiah 29, but God sends messengers to lead the way back to faith and purpose.
This is my dedication to Jodi Lamb and Barbara Watson Jones, both free from the bonds of this earth b...
The church always has the best of intentions. But parents of children who have struggled with physical or emotional trauma can tell you, their ignorance can inflict unintentional harm. Kristen Brock is a speaker, coach, trainer/facilitator, and host of the podcast Jesus,
Justice + Mercy. As a solo mom of three sons, two through adoption from foster care, she weaves lived experience with professional expertise ...
This is an amazing interview, if I do say so myself.
Recognizing trauma and grieving our loss of relationships, our expectations, our plans, is crucial for the healing process to begin. In this interview, Lisa and Stacy talk not only about understanding the damage that our perpetrators have also lived through, but also about equipping victims to understand the process to forgive. It's not accomplished with a sn...
As a victim of childhood trauma herself, Lisa is not being insensitive to the pain and shame that comes with suffering. But we can't avoid the command of the Lord to forgive. Would God command us to do something so difficult if He couldn't enable us to do it? And who's really getting hurt when we hand on to our bitterness? In this episode, Lisa shares the earth-shattering truth that rocked her percept...
What a surprise to find out (during what was supposed to be the happiest time of my life, welcoming our new baby into the world) that I had terrible thoughts of rage, abuse and despair. But that's how many of us tossed aside or abused at a young age behave later in life, because we haven't dealt with our anger. And who are me mad at? Let's be honest now...is it the father who never wanted us, the abus...
Discarded Daughters struggle to see their Heavenly Father honestly, as protector and provider, as a safe place to run and hide. And make no mistake, good works and Christian activity are suppose to be a response to an intimate walk with the Lord, not a replacement.
Note the podcast name change! Please share with those discarded daughters you know who need to find hope and healing from a painful past. Find more stori...
Forgiven is NOT the Same as Forgotten
I love being in fellowship with other believers. I love worshipping in song and praising Jesus with all my heart. So—I DO attend church. But some days are just harder than others. And for Discarded Daughters like me, Father's Day can be tough.
It's not that I'm still angry. I'm not still bitter. But God gifts each of us with an amazing memory. So...
If you feel called of God to ministry or business and still need to keep it "all together" on the home front, then this is the episode for you! Aliese is one of the first guests I've brought to the Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen Podcast. Aliese Halcomb is a Christian mompreneur on a mission to help other Christian mompreneurs! After becoming a mother, she was determined to stay home with her...
A few months ago, I was invited to share the Forgiving the Unforgivable subject on Tapestry Ministry Network with Stephanie Morin Sherwood during their live Facebook group broadcast called Woven In Wednesdays. It's a bit longer than my usual broadcast but I touched on most of the concepts behind the Biblical journey in my published studies on Amazon. Find Tapestry Network on Facebook @ https://www.facebook.co...
Lisa never claims to have all the answers. This became abundantly clear when she read through someone else's post on Facebook, expressing their comfort with cutting someone out of their life. We all deal with toxic relationships, and have probably had to simply turn our backs on someone we used to believe was a friend. But what would Jesus do? And whatever He would do, does He require or empower us to do the sa...
Scripture has provided a resounding "NO!" in answer to the questions of whether we are unloved or unwanted (see parts 2 & 3 of this series). But what about the question of whether we are worthy? Deserving blessing? When feelings of unworthiness express themselves to the extreme, we can become self-abusive, prone to self-medicating our pain or succumb to addictions. We need to recognize what the Word of...
This is part III of the series I'm doing regarding the emotional baggage that keeps Christian Drama Queens like me, abandoned and recovering from childhood trauma, awake at night. Am I as unwanted as I've convinced myself I am? Where is God on the subject? Am I truly the last thing on His mind? And why wouldn't I be?
The new Freedom Christian Radio stream starts the first of the month, and ...
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