Glitchy Switch: What ADHD feels like to an adult.

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I talk about something that’s been sneaking in behind all the relief of late diagnosis: grief.

Late diagnosis can bring relief — and then a wave of grief for the years you lived without the manual. Here’s what that grief actually is, why it shows up after things improve, and what helps me live with it without losing the joy.

In this episode:

• Why feel...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I share a penny-drop moment I’ve had since my autism diagnosis: the way my brain’s pattern-matching can sometimes turn uncertainty into instant self-blame — even when there’s no evidence I’ve done anything wrong. 

I talk about how the same “make it make sense” engine that’s built my career can become a trap with humans, why being seemingly socially punished can trigger...

In this episode, I stay on the “tribe” theme and talk about something I’ve come to realise is absolutely central to my neurodivergent life: safe people — the ones who make your nervous system unclench and let you be as close to yourself as possible. 

I share the common traits I’ve noticed across my own safe people, and a simple way to sanity-check whether a relationship feels like a partnership… or a pe...

In this episode, we explore a question that’s been on my mind a lot since late diagnosis: how do neurodivergent people find their tribe?

I talk about what “tribe” really means when you’re someone who often feels a bit other in most rooms — and how safety with the right people can feel like your nervous system finally unclenching. I also talk about the major breakthrough I made literally the day before I ...

In this episode, I talk about something that comes after the diagnosis — the bit hardly anyone explains properly: asking for reasonable adjustments at work for adult ADHD and/or autism.

Even when you know you’re legally covered, and even when the company rhetoric is all inclusion and belonging, asking can feel oddly exposing — like you’re admitting you’re not up to the job. I share what it actually felt ...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I talk about what it feels like to have both adult ADHD and autism — that AuDHD “push–pull” where one part of you wants novelty and motion, and another part of you wants structure, clarity, and quiet. 

I share the contradictions it creates in real life — from paperwork and routines, to small talk and social energy — and why, looking back, it makes a lot of sense that I...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I talk about the first big thing that hit me after my autism diagnosis: what it means for relationships. 

I share how the diagnosis is helping me reframe years of relational anxiety, why I’ve often gone the opposite of the “blunt autistic stereotype”, and how understanding my wiring is already changing the way I show up — with less shame, and a bit more self-respect. 

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I share what it actually felt like to be told — as an adult — that I’m autistic as well as having ADHD.

I talk through the assessment process in plain terms, what surprised me most when I was answering the questions, and why the emotional “landing” of the diagnosis wasn’t dramatic — it was quieter than that.

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• What does a...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I share the start of a new realisation I didn’t see coming: once methylphenidate eased many of my classic adult ADHD struggles, a different set of sharper-edged traits started showing up more clearly. 

If you’ve ever wondered why autism traits can become more noticeable after treating ADHD — or why you can feel “better” in one way but more sensitive in another — as usu...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I unpack a phrase I kept hearing when I started ADHD medication: “grooving new habits”. It sounded sensible, but I had no idea what it actually meant in real life — or what it would feel like.

So I share what I’ve learnt since starting a medication like methylphenidate: that the real gift isn’t superpowers, it’s space — enough space to notice old reflexes, make a differ...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I share what ADHD medication actually felt like for me on day one — not as a miracle story, but as a real, human account of the subtle shifts, the unexpected calm, and the very noticeable “wear off” later in the day.

If you’re newly diagnosed with adult ADHD and wondering what a medication like methylphenidate might feel like, I walk you through the first few hours — fr...

In this episode of Glitchy Switch, I’m back after a quiet spell — my first episode since November 2024 — and I’m exploring a question so many newly diagnosed adults ask: “Should I go onto ADHD medication?”

I share why I didn’t start ADHD meds straight after diagnosis, what shifted during a major job change, and what it was actually like taking the plunge of stimulant medication. 

In this episode:

• What’s been going on since th...

In this episode we're exploring the strange phenomenon of feeling a sense of guilt, or a compulsion to do something, even when all common sense and our feelings are telling us we need to relax. There's a mix of cultural norms as well as ADHD traits at play here, which can make it even tougher to finally allow oneself to recharge.

In this episode:

• How the corporate world making a virtue out of busyness...

In this episode we tackle something many ADHD people struggle with which is that hiding-to-nothing, perfectionism. I wondered my whole life where my perfectionism came from and it was until I received my diagnosis that I started to understand a bit more.

I mention Stephen Guise's book How to Be an Imperfectionist -- you can find it on Amazon.

In this episode:

• The ways that perfectionism manifests itsel...

A lifelong struggle I've had is that I have a compulsion to apologise all the time for myself. It's almost like I have to apologise pre-emptively just for being odd or weird or something, and I've come to see the role that ADHD has played in this trait since my diagnosis. In this episode I dig into what I've discovered about this frustrating aspect of my personality, and where specifically I think it comes from.

In th...

In one of the more raw and personal episodes, we're talking about the ongoing challenge of feeling comfortable speaking up about your traits to your work colleagues in order to relieve some of your stress and anxiety. Even when you've been very open about your diagnosis, this can still be very difficult at times.

In this episode:

• Why even being open about the big picture of having ADHD means disclosure...

In this episode, we're talking about the strange phenomenon wherein you discover that your traits are becoming more pronounced after your ADHD diagnosis than they were before, and seem to be taking more managing. There's a couple of things going on here which we'll unpack.

In this episode:

• The role that confirmation bias plays.
• Understanding what skills regression means and its impact.
• How the initial ...

We're going back to basics in this episode with what I think is the fundamental thing to understand about ADHD and people with ADHD. When people ask about it, it's easy to get lost in the morass of traits, diagnosis, presentations and so on, but I think what I've come up with here is the solid underpinning to them all, and something that plays its part in how I talk about my ADHD every day.

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In today's episode we're going to be talking a bit about how we can be considerate of our spouse or partner upon diagnosis of ADHD, because it's very easy to get caught up in your own experience without thinking of what it's like for the person you spend your life with to digest.

In this episode:

• Being mindful of becoming an "ADHD bore."
• Understanding that your partner has spent many years forming thei...