All of You

Uncertainty is a part of life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to sit with. In this episode, we’re talking about the uncertainty that shows up in relationships, career, and life and what happens when our nervous system doesn’t know how to handle the unknown.

We explore how uncertainty can live in the body, impact the way we connect with the people we love, and lead us to seek control or certainty when what w...

How do you know when it’s time to truly commit? In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to trust yourself enough to know that no matter what happens, you’ll be okay and how that changes the way you choose a partner and a relationship.

We talk about being aligned in your values and what you want, choosing someone you’d be willing to go to war with, and what it really means to have an equal partner by your...

Sometimes in relationships, we’re simply not connected. And while disconnection is inevitable, what matters most is what we do with it. In this episode, we talk about why learning to be okay with moments of disconnection and resisting the urge to make them worse can actually be the key to finding our way back to each other.

We explore what it looks like to give each other space without creating more distance, and how repair b...

Have you ever felt like you've become one with your to-do list? In this episode, Shiv shares her own experience of realizing she'd slipped into constant "doing" mode, living in a state of stress instead of being present. We explore why this happens, how it impacts our ability to connect with the people we love, and what it looks like to slow down enough to actually experience the moments we're living.

Ready to do the work and go d...

We all have needs in our relationships, but what happens when we start expecting our partner to meet all of them? In this episode, we unpack the pressure we can unknowingly place on the person we love, why it happens, and how it can create resentment, disconnection, and impossible expectations. We also talk about the importance of learning to meet more of your own emotional needs, recognizing when your partner simply doesn't have t...

How you see yourself shapes every part of your life and relationships, but what if that view isn't actually accurate? In this episode, we explore where self-perception comes from, why so many of us struggle to see ourselves clearly, and how our past experiences can distort the way we view who we are. We also talk about how to build a more honest, compassionate view of yourself so you can show up with greater confidence, freedom, an...

In this deeply personal episode, we share about the recent loss of our brother-in-law after his battle with cancer and reflect on what grief has taught us—not just through this loss, but through many others we've experienced. We talk about what it means to live in a season of grief, how to support people who are hurting, and why healing often looks different than we expect.

If you're carrying loss of any kind, we hope this co...

In relationships, we often spend so much energy trying to prove who's right and who's wrong. But what if that's the wrong question altogether?

In this episode, we explore why healthy relationships aren't built by convincing your partner to see things your way. They're built by two people working together to create a relationship that works for both of them. We talk about letting go of rigid expectations, embracing differences, and ...

We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement and optimization, but growth isn't always about adding more. Sometimes the most meaningful transformation comes from letting go of the beliefs, patterns, and survival strategies that no longer serve us. In this episode, we explore why healing is often less about leveling up and more about releasing what's been holding us back.

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing?...

In this episode, we explore the role emotional bandwidth plays in healthy relationships and why timing can matter just as much as communication. We talk about the importance of checking in with your partner before diving into difficult conversations and recognizing that everyone's emotional, mental, and physical capacity shifts throughout different seasons of life.

We also discuss what it looks like to be vulnerable enough to ask f...

Relationships aren’t meant to stay the same forever and sometimes that leaves us wondering whether we’re being called to lean in, set stronger boundaries, or walk away. In this episode, we explore the difficult questions that arise when relationships change, needs evolve, and growth takes people in different directions.

We talk about how to recognize when a relationship is no longer serving you, what it means to grow ap...

Healing isn't a straight line. Sometimes growth looks like moving forward, and sometimes it looks like finding yourself back in an old pattern you thought you'd already worked through.

In this episode, we're talking about what happens when healing feels messy, why regression is a normal part of growth, and how these moments can impact our relationships. We explore how to navigate setbacks with compassion, communicate through them w...

Communication is one of the biggest things that can either build connection or slowly break it down in relationships. In this episode, Shiv and Dave have an honest conversation about what actually makes communication healthy, why so many of us struggle to express what we feel, and how understanding yourself is a huge part of being able to communicate well with someone else.

They dive into emotional awareness and the difference betw...

Hard conversations can either create deeper connection or deeper distance  and most of us were never actually taught how to have them well. In this episode, we talk about the patterns that quietly sabotage connection during conflict and share practical tools we personally use to navigate difficult conversations with more honesty, accountability, and compassion.

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When Shiv’s hot take from a previous episode sparked a bigger conversation, we knew we had to go there. In this honest and unfiltered episode, Shiv and Dave dive into the question so many women quietly (or loudly) ask… are there actually good men out there?

Together, they unpack the beliefs, wounds, experiences, and expectations that shape how we see men, relationships, and what it really means to be “good.&rdquo...

In this episode, we’re sharing the story of our breakup, what led to the relationship ending, what we didn’t fully understand at the time, and some of the hard truths we both had to face after walking away. We talk about the heartbreak, the confusion, the season of no contact, what made Shiv decide to reach back out, and what gave us the confidence to believe trying again could actually be different.

If you’re nav...

Taking accountability without getting defensive is one of the hardest and most important skills in relationships. In this episode, we talk about what it really looks like in real life, especially in those moments where your instinct is to shut down or push back. We break down how defensiveness is often just self-protection rooted in shame, and how it can quietly get in the way of feeling close and understood.

We also get into how t...

Nervous system awareness might be one of the most underrated relationship skills and one of the most powerful. When you start to recognize what’s happening in your body in real time, everything shifts. You move from reacting on autopilot to responding with intention, creating more safety, clarity, and connection in your relationships.

In this episode, we zoom out on why understanding your internal cues can help prevent unnece...

Not taking things personally is one of the most foundational (and most challenging) relationship skills. In this episode, we explore what it really looks like to give your partner the benefit of the doubt and hold a steady, loving view of them even when you feel triggered. Because the truth is, when something feels personal, it’s often less about what’s happening in the present and more about what feels familiar from th...