All of You

In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict!

Ready to do the work and go deeper...

In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If you’ve ever wondered if it’s possib...

Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self.

We dig into things like: 👉 Why is it so hard to disappoint people? 👉 Can you be fully yourself and a people pleaser? 👉 Does it actually hur...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight.

Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything.

We talk about:

• How to recognize when you’re emotionally charged

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you.

Dave flips the script and interviews me about my experience being single until 32. I open up about the internal narratives I wrestled with, the societal pressure I felt, and the fears that made me question if real love was still possible for me.

We talk about: • The sneaky ways our beliefs block us from love • What I wish I di...

In this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life after divorce. Dave gets raw and real as he shares what life looked like nearly six years ago, from the state of his mental health to what he wishes he could tell his past self during that painful season.

We explore:

• What he regrets (and doesn’t) fro...

Relationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make things right. We also share tools, ...

In this honest and vulnerable episode, we’re getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping into blame or criticism. We even rated each other (yep!)—Shiv gave Dave a score on how well he expresses his needs, and we unpack what makes this so challenging for both of us. Spoiler: the hardest part isn’t always the communication…it’s figuring out what you actually need in the first p...

In this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn’t happen. The future you imagined, the timeline you were hoping for, the version of your story that never came to be.

Whether it’s a relationship that ended, a vision for your future that will never come to be, or a season that didn’t unfold the way you thought it would, this kind of loss is real — even if it’s invisible. ...

In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Titan’s Nest.We dive into what it’s like to navigate the pit of despair, live with depression, and how anxiety can quietly become a safety blanket that holds us back. Tanner also opens up about the struggle to celebrate wins and find contentment when you’re not yet where you want to be.

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Love isn’t always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mistaken for passion or commitment.

If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like love on the surface but left you feeling anxious, unseen, or constantly on edge, you're not alone. We're unpacking how love can become distorted… and what real love actually looks like beneath t...

What’s the difference between real love and just being caught up in the romance? In this episode, we dive into the distinction between deep, lasting love and the sparkly thrill of infatuation or lust. We talk about the experience of falling in love, the challenges of modern relationships, and even touch on the “Peter Pan Syndrome” — when emotional immaturity gets in the way of connection. Tune in for an honest, insightful convo tha...

In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that we all do at times — the blame game. We’re breaking down why we’re so quick to blame others, how it can sneakily keep us stuck, and why it's one of the biggest blocks to real growth and connection.

Shiv shares why blaming feels easier in the moment but ultimately holds us back from healing, how to spot when you’re stuck in a blame cycle, and what to do instead. We also talk about...

The way you speak to yourself shapes everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your entire life. In this heartfelt episode, Shiv and Dave dive deep into the lifelong conversation we all have with ourselves. They open up about their own inner dialogues, how self-talk has impacted their journeys, and what they've done to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion. If you've ever struggled with that voice in your...

In this episode, Shiv and Dave get real about their journeys with emotional intelligence—aka tuning into the feelings in our bodies (not just thinking our way through life). They share how they've each learned to connect more deeply with their emotions, what it’s looked like in their relationship, and why it's been a total game-changer.

Dave even takes it a step further by nicknaming his tougher emotions (yes, really), and introduc...

It’s been a whole year of showing up, learning, growing, and hitting record. In this special anniversary episode, Shiv and Dave share a life update and reflect on everything that’s changed over the past year—personally, professionally, and in their relationship. They also open up about the biggest lessons podcasting has taught them and what they never saw coming. Whether you’ve been here from day one or you’re just joining the jour...

Emotional connection is at the heart of every meaningful relationship. In this episode, Shiv and Dave explore what it truly means, when we feel most connected, and how it shapes their own relationship. Tune in for an honest, insightful, and heartfelt conversation!

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:

Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min

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Stress is inevitable, but how we handle it makes all the difference. In this episode, we open up about some of the most stressful moments in our lives—the ones that pushed us to our limits—and how we navigated them. We share what worked, what didn’t, and the mindset shifts that helped us regain control. Plus, we dive into practical ways to manage stress so it doesn’t manage you.

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own heal...

As it turns out, Shiv and Dave weren’t quite done discussing denial after last week’s episode. While last week dove into how to help someone who is in denial, this week they cover denial through the lens of someone that is in it. 

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:

Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min

Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min

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