All of You

Where’s the line between a healthy boundary and trying to control someone you love? In this episode, we dive into the difference. Boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect in a relationship — while control often comes from fear, insecurity, or a need to manage the other person. We’ll share real-life examples of what healthy boundaries sound like versus what control looks like in disguise, and how to know when you’re crossing t...

What if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t about looking put together or pretending you’ve got it all figured out, but about healing the parts of you that were hurt in the first place?

In this episode, we’re breaking down what real self-confidence looks like and why it can’t come from surface-level fixes. We talk about the wounds that shape how we see ourselves and the subtle ways we avoid facing our insecurities.

You’ll hear...

Jealousy is one of those emotions everyone feels but no one really likes to talk about. Is it a natural part of love, or does it always point to deeper insecurity? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of jealousy — where it comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and what it might actually be trying to tell us.

We also share how our own views of jealousy have shifted over time and the ways we’ve learned to navigate ...

This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions, and random musings that don’t quite fit into a full topic but are too wild and funny to keep off the mic. From believing that social media isn’t bad to discussing why sometimes eating “unhealthy” is actually the healthier choice, we’re sharing the things we’re currently chewing on.

These...

Why do we sometimes get in our own way, even when things are going really well? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in our lives—whether in relationships, career, or even moments of peace and happiness. We explore the beliefs that fuel it (“What if it all gets taken away?” “Do I really deserve this?”), and how old family patterns may have shaped what we think love, success, and safety are supposed to l...

Attraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when “the spark” feels like it’s fading, and how to tell if it’s really gone or just asking for your attention.

We share how to discern whether a lack of attraction is about your own inner world or the dynamic between you and your partner, how insecurity and self-...

In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages shape the way we approach money today.

We explore the role of safety, control, and values in how couples relate to money, what habits have actually brought us closer, and why there’s no one right way to manage money in a relationship. Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel le...

In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shifting those beliefs changed everything. We unpack the idea that couples aren’t actually fighting about money, but about the deeper stories and wounds attached to it. We also explore how someone's money behaviors—like overspending, withholding, or controlling—can create attraction issues...

In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict!

Ready to do the work and go deeper...

In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If you’ve ever wondered if it’s possib...

Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self.

We dig into things like: 👉 Why is it so hard to disappoint people? 👉 Can you be fully yourself and a people pleaser? 👉 Does it actually hur...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight.

Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything.

We talk about:

• How to recognize when you’re emotionally charged

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you.

Dave flips the script and interviews me about my experience being single until 32. I open up about the internal narratives I wrestled with, the societal pressure I felt, and the fears that made me question if real love was still possible for me.

We talk about: • The sneaky ways our beliefs block us from love • What I wish I di...

In this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life after divorce. Dave gets raw and real as he shares what life looked like nearly six years ago, from the state of his mental health to what he wishes he could tell his past self during that painful season.

We explore:

• What he regrets (and doesn’t) fro...

Relationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make things right. We also share tools, ...

In this honest and vulnerable episode, we’re getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping into blame or criticism. We even rated each other (yep!)—Shiv gave Dave a score on how well he expresses his needs, and we unpack what makes this so challenging for both of us. Spoiler: the hardest part isn’t always the communication…it’s figuring out what you actually need in the first p...

In this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn’t happen. The future you imagined, the timeline you were hoping for, the version of your story that never came to be.

Whether it’s a relationship that ended, a vision for your future that will never come to be, or a season that didn’t unfold the way you thought it would, this kind of loss is real — even if it’s invisible. ...

In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Titan’s Nest.We dive into what it’s like to navigate the pit of despair, live with depression, and how anxiety can quietly become a safety blanket that holds us back. Tanner also opens up about the struggle to celebrate wins and find contentment when you’re not yet where you want to be.

I...

Love isn’t always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mistaken for passion or commitment.

If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like love on the surface but left you feeling anxious, unseen, or constantly on edge, you're not alone. We're unpacking how love can become distorted… and what real love actually looks like beneath t...