All of You

Vulnerability sounds simple, but in real life it’s layered, tender, and requires more than just one person being willing to open up. In this episode, we explore what actually creates the conditions for people to feel safe enough to be seen and why trust is something that’s built in small, quiet moments, not forced breakthroughs.

We talk about the ways defensiveness, ego, and lack of presence can get in the way, and what it really l...

This episode is a rapid-fire Q&A sharing an honest snapshot of where we’re at right now, both individually and in our relationship. We talk about what’s been activating us, patterns we’re noticing, beliefs we’re outgrowing, and what feels tender, easier, or still requires intention in this season.

We also keep it light with some fun questions: the habits we’re low-key judging, things we definitely overthought, simple joys bring...

Our limiting beliefs and insecurities don’t come out of nowhere—they’re learned, often in moments where we were trying to protect ourselves.

In this episode, Dave and Shiv explore how these patterns form and why they can feel so hard to break. Dave shares how his beliefs around working out kept him from going to the gym for years, while Shiv opens up about how past trauma led her to suppress her feelings and avoid vulnerability.

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In this episode, Dave and Shiv share why making peace with your past is foundational to healing, emotional safety, and healthy relationships. They explore how unresolved experiences quietly shape the way we show up, love, and protect ourselves. Shiv vulnerably shares some of the hardest parts of her own past to make peace with, and what that process has actually looked like in real life. This conversation is an invitation to soften...

This episode explores what people usually mean when they say a relationship feels toxic and how to tell when something is no longer just difficult, but unhealthy. The conversation looks at the difference between conflict that leads to repair and patterns that repeat without real change.

It also touches on what happens when emotional safety is missing, including walking on eggshells, editing yourself, and slowly disconnecting from y...

Holding space is one of the most powerful and misunderstood relationship skills. In this episode, Shiv and Dave break down what emotional validation really is, why it’s what every partner wants when they are upset, and what makes it so hard to offer in the moment.

They explore the blocks to holding space, from personalizing and ego stories to emotional immaturity and share real examples from their own relationship around home, fami...

Family estrangement is one of the most painful and complex relationship experiences a person can walk through, and this episode approaches it with honesty, compassion, and deep care.

Dave shares his personal journey with family estrangement, what it has cost him, what it has taught him, and how he’s been able to create healthier relationships on the other side. Shiv and Dave explore estrangement from the perspectives of the parent,...

The New Year tends to arrive with a lot of pressure — to change faster, do more, fix everything, and somehow become a brand-new version of yourself overnight. In this episode, we slow the whole thing down and offer a different perspective on what this season is actually for.

We talk about why this time of year is better suited for rest, reflection, and intention than rigid goal-setting, and how many of the resolutions we’re taught ...

The holidays are often framed as the happiest time of the year… but for many, they can also be the hardest. In this episode, Dave and Shiv talk honestly about why the holiday season can feel so heavy, from unmet expectations and family dynamics to grief, loneliness, and the invisible mental load—especially for women. Shiv shares why she used to dread the holidays, and together they explore what it’s like to navigate this season whe...

We talk a lot about the power of gratitude—but if it’s so good for us, why don’t we live there all the time? In this episode, we explore the blocks to gratitude and what actually gets in the way of feeling it, even when there’s so much to appreciate.

Using a real moment from the day after Disneyland, we unpack how easy it is to slip into shame and self-criticism—and how gratitude isn’t about bypassing the hard, but staying grounded...

In this conversation, we explore one of the most surprising truths about personal development: the work you do for your relationship is the same work that transforms every part of your life. Relationships act like a mirror—showing you the patterns, wounds, and habits that quietly shape how you communicate, lead, set boundaries, and move through the world.

When you choose to grow inside your partnership, that growth follows you ever...

In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationship between trauma and growth—and why going through something hard isn’t what makes you stronger. We talk about the difference between experiencing trauma and actually healing from it, and Shiv opens up about how the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” she was told in the wake of extreme loss did more harm than good.

We also dig into the way our upbringing shapes us,...

In this episode, we’re getting honest about a pattern we didn’t expect to find in our own relationship: using personal growth tools in ways they were never meant to be used. We talk about how easy it is, once you’ve done a lot of healing and communication work, to slip into correcting, analyzing, or psychoanalyzing your partner — all under the guise of “using the tools.”

If you’ve ever caught yourself turning relationship tools as ...

This week we’re diving into the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is going to like you — and why that’s actually okay. We talk through our own experiences with rejection, wanting to be misunderstood, and the pressure to manage how people see you. It’s an honest, unstructured conversation about what it looks like to release that weight and stay grounded in who you are.

If you’ve ever felt the urge to shrink, shape-shift, or peop...

Ever feel totally fine… until your partner seems a little off? And suddenly you’re questioning yourself, replaying conversations, or wondering if you did something wrong? That’s outsourcing your self-worth — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it.

In this episode, we break down why your partner’s mood or behavior can feel like it determines your value, how this pattern quietly shows up in relationships, and what it act...

Ever notice how when one part of your life feels off, everything else starts to feel a little off too? In this episode, we explore how all areas of your health:  mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and even financial are deeply connected.

We talk about why you can’t truly feel well if you’re neglecting one area, how imbalance shows up in subtle ways, and what it actually looks like to bring yourself back into alignm...

We think we want “I’m sorry,” but what we’re really craving is to be seen in our pain. In this episode, we share a story from one of our own past fights and talk about why apologies sometimes don’t land the way we hope they will. Because not all of the pain is from the moment—it’s often old, living in our bodies and showing up when we least expect it. We’ll unpack what it really means to feel seen, and how to repair in a way that b...

Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection, which is the unconscious defense mechanism that makes us see our own wounds, insecurities, and traits in others.

We talk about why projection is so sneaky, how it keeps both people stuck, and what to do when you’re either the one projecting or the one being projected onto. You’ll hear...

We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up about the sneaky, unintentional ways she's tried to control situations or people, and how manipulation can quietly show up in our relationships, families, and even faith.

We explore what manipulation actually is (and isn’t), why we do it, and how fear, control, and learned behavior play a role...