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In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “All my life I’ve been attracted to the same sex, going back to early childhood (elementary school age). I’ve heard we’re born straight, gay, or bi. I’ve heard as a Christian that it’s a sin. I believe it is. I have never acted upon with it another man, only in thought and through fleshly pleasures. I am saved and baptized. I believe in God, in Christ. I’ve accepted Him as my creat...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do you avoid sexual sin when you are single and unmarried? You know what the Scripture says about it. But you know also that the other person is only interested in one thing. It will lead to the consummation of the relationship before marriage, and results from a low standard, one would assume or say."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—...

In this episode, Dr. Betters, in response to "Will I Know My Abuser in Heaven?", answers the question, "I feel that abusers get away with their actions both on Earth and in Heaven. As a Christian, I know I need to forgive my abuser, but where is the justice for those of us left scarred by the abuse? I believe not all sins are equal. Christians should speak up and report abuse—spiritual forgiveness doesn’t eliminate l...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am getting married in a month, and I just found out my fiancée was sexually abused as a child. Knowing this, how should I prepare for my wedding night and our first year of marriage?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more t...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hello, I am a college-age female, and I feel that God has left me. I feel like I always tried to follow his path even when none of my family went to church. I felt all my life that God was telling me to go one direction in ministry and then, when it was time to apply for schools and I told people, they told me that was not my calling. I feel like I don't have direction a...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My only question is this, and no one has been able to answer it so far. If God knew there would be murderers and people tortured and blown up and raped, etc., why would he create this world even if it’s only temporary? I can’t believe that God would allow that kind of suffering to exist, knowing beforehand it would. You may say it’s free will and we chose it. That well may be...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "What if the pain of life has become too hard to bear? What if there have been too many substantial losses to handle life? Will we simply die with broken hearts in the end? God hears us and tells us so in scripture, so why can't we seem to be comforted?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mar...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How are we to rejoice in sorrow?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despa...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My friend's dad just died. When I am around my friend, I don't know what to say to her. What do you say to a grieving person?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in t...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do we say that the Lord restored Job's losses when he lost 7 sons and 3 daughters? I understand he had 10 more children, but how could that possibly be seen as a restoration?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more t...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Due to various health issues, I have not been able to attend church for the past several months, is that sinful?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is so...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I suffer from Chronic Fatigue and I am exhausted all of the time. I’m only in my 40’s but I feel like I am wasting my life. I spend most of my time resting and the few things I am able to do during the day I spend most of that time thinking about how soon I can go back to bed. It makes me so sad. How can I still make my life meaningful instead of just a waste?"

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In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “Does it really matter to pray if we or a loved one is sick? In that God doesn't change his mind. Our lives are already set...does praying to be well actually do any good?”

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "The Bible says that 'God works all things together for the good of those who love him (Rom 8:28)'. How is God using my physical pain for good? What good can come from terrible pain that probably will have no end?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless ...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Within the first weeks of marriage, I knew my husband was abusive. I’ve lived with the abuse for years and I’ve hidden it because I don’t want people to think badly of him – especially his boss. He is very charming in his work and socially. I try not to trigger him, but I’m exhausted and afraid. I was taught God hates divorce. So I feel like that is not an option, but is this...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I was homeschooled and involved in the local church, considered a good kid. During the pandemic, I was isolated and lonely and I discovered a whole other world of beliefs. I question everything about God. Our world is so messed up, so many terrible things happen, including friends who have died from drugs and one who even committed suicide. You say God is sovereign and I can ...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up as a church kid, my parents were leaders in the church. The church was like a second family. But as an adult I am seeing how mean church people are – how they use people – and think nothing of betraying people like my parents. I can’t stand going to church and I have such anger and bitterness. I don’t want to be like this but I can’t let go of the hurt. Help."<...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am terrified. I am not a Christian. I asked Jesus into my heart when I was a child, and I went to church with my family whenever the doors were open. But now that I’m an adult, I see how sinful I am, and when I ask God to forgive me, I don’t feel anything. I can’t ask anyone for help because they think I’m a wonderful Christian woman. How can I know for sure I’m a Christian...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I asked Jesus into my heart when I was a child. I am in my twenties and nothing about the Christian faith is attractive to me – I question whether there is even a God. Am I going to hell?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challeng...