Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

Why Stress Triggers Porn Addiction — And How to Break the Pattern

If you struggle with porn addiction and find yourself relapsing whenever life gets stressful or overwhelming, this episode is for you. 

Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and expert in porn addiction recovery, reveals the hidden link between stress and pornography use — and how to break the cycle for good.

You’ll discover:

• Why stress and overwhelm often trigger p...

Welcome back! This is part three of a three-part series to help you make real progress on your healing journey.

In the first episode, we talked about five key skills every man needs to stop using porn. In the second episode, we looked at five relationship skills that help couples rebuild trust and feel close again.

Today, I want to share a simple framework that shows why people get stuck—and how to move forward faster. When I work ...

In today’s episode, we’re diving into five essential skills that will help you and your partner heal and grow after being impacted by pornography use.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure where to begin in the recovery process—or if you’re willing to do the work but just need direction—this episode is for you.

You’ll learn about practical, proven skills that have helped hundreds of couples make real progress and st...

Struggling with porn use isn't about who you are—it's about the approach you've been using. Fighting urges after they appear is too late.

The key is learning skills to prevent the first domino from falling. When you handle what causes porn use before urges start, freedom becomes possible.

In this 3-part s...

Today we're talking about something couples rarely discuss: when a husband's interest in sex drops after he stops using porn.

For wives, this can feel very confusing and hurtful. After working hard to heal the relationship, it's painful when intimacy doesn't return as expected. She might wonder, "Doesn't he find me attractive? Is he really getti...

In this episode, I'll show you my easy three-step plan to help you stop watching porn for good.

Many people think they just need to try harder to resist urges or avoid things that trigger them. But fighting these urges all the time is exhausting, and you're always worried about slipping up again.

I want t...

I'm excited to share something special with you today - a real-life deep dive session with John where we uncover the root cause of his pornography struggle and work through it together in a single call. 

Most men focus on surface-level solutions - having someone to call when triggered, avoiding certain situations, or just trying to resist temptati...

Jacob used to struggled daily with pornography and fantasy, but now he's completely free and feels good about himself again.

In the episode, we talk about the two-part approach most men miss - they focus on only one part, which is why they struggle for so long.

He shares the simple tools that helped him h...

Feel like you're fighting an impossible battle - trying to overcome pornography while juggling an already overwhelming life?

After thousands of therapy sessions, I've discovered something surprising: success doesn't always mean adding more to your plate.

Think of someone running up a downward-moving es...

When pornography appears in a relationship, it hurts both people deeply.

For wives, the pain and betrayal can feel like being trapped in an endless storm - each bad day stretches out forever, making even good moments feel temporary.

Husbands often feel stuck too, wondering if their efforts to change matter when they see their partner still hurting day after day.

In today's episode, we'll talk about real ways to deal with those bad ...

Not Being "Enough": Healing After Sexual Betrayal

When a wife discovers her husband's porn use or infidelity, one thought cuts deeper than all others: "I wasn't enough."

The pain of betrayal is devastating on its own, but believing it happened because of personal inadequacy makes healing feel impossible.

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle that seemed impossible to break? For Rob, porn became more than just a habit – it was an escape hatch from feelings of failure and not being good enough.

Like many of us, he saw himself as a ticking time bomb, always counting down to the next slip.

But this isn't a st...

When Pornography Breaks Your Marriage: First Steps to Healing

Finding out about a porn addiction feels like your world has shattered.

One moment everything seems fine, the next your marriage hits a brick wall. Trust breaks, security vanishes, and many wives feel completely lost, wondering if healing is even possible.

If you're in this dark place right now - whether you just found out or you're taking those first shaky steps toward ...

Breaking the "Try Harder" Trap: A New Approach to Quitting Porn

Maybe you've said to yourself, "This time will be different."

You delete the apps, block the websites, stay busy - maybe even make it a few weeks.

Then the urges hit harder than ever, and you're back...

When Healing Conversations Go Wrong –

When pornography damages a relationship, couples need to talk about the pain to heal.

But these conversations often hit a wall: he gets defensive, sounds like a robot, or just shuts down.

This leaves her feeling even more ...

A Story of Freedom: From 20-Year Struggle to Success

Meet Tyler, a man who fought pornography addiction for over two decades.

Like many, he worried this struggle would be permanent, especially after so many failed attempts to quit.

But today, his story is different.

What changed? Instead of just trying to avoid temptation, Tyler learned specific skills to handle triggers.

In today's episode, he shares exactly how he turned things a...

The 90-Day Freedom Trap: A Critical Warning

If you've been trying to quit pornography but can't stay free for more than 90 days, there's a crucial mistake you need to know about.

As a therapist, I see this same issue holding back almost every man who comes to me for help.

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