Project Confidence

Project Confidence

Project Confidence is your weekly guide to break free from the comparison trap and become confidently content. In digestible 10–15 minute episodes, we explore how comparison harms your self-worth, relationships, and joy. But we don’t stop at awareness, we’ll guide you in intentionally SOARing beyond comparative thinking. Learn to replace comparison with appreciation, inspiration, and self-recognition. New episodes drop every Thursday to help you reclaim confidence, embrace growth, and live a more fulfilled life.

Episodes

October 16, 2025 12 mins

Have you ever heard a piece of advice that everyone seems to love, but it just doesn’t sit right with you? In this episode, Kathie explores why not every message is meant for every person. She shares the story behind her “Do what makes you happy” sweatshirt, how it encourages her to stop people-pleasing, but made someone else cringe, and unpacks how the same message can help or hurt depending on who we are, what we’re struggling wi...

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Bonus episode! Kathie introduces her new Soaring Past Comparison booklet—a hands-on guide to help you move beyond comparison with confidence. Listen for a quick overview and grab your free shipping code while it lasts!

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In this episode, I share my embarrassing moment about not knowing the real words to the Star-Spangled Banner and the lesson we can take from it: how easy it is to take well-intentioned words and our brain twists them into something limiting or discouraging — without even realizing that wasn't the message intended.


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October 2, 2025 10 mins

We don’t all respond to life the same way—and that’s a good thing. In this episode, I talk about how our reactions can look very different, even opposite, and still be "right." Too often, we label a response as “wrong” just because it doesn’t match our own, and wish others would respond the same way we do. But different perspectives and reactions can benefit us all.

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Relationships don’t always stay the same—and when they shift, it can feel like grief. Too often, we compare what we had to what we have now, or what we had envisioned for the future, with what became reality, which only deepens the bitterness. In this episode, I talk about how comparison shows up in changing relationships and how the SOAR method can help us acknowledge the loss, release resentment, and embrace what is. Instead of s...

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September 18, 2025 11 mins

In this episode, I share one of my silliest but most effective coping strategies: singing songs in my head. From Never Enough when I feel unappreciated, to Let It Go when I’m frustrated, to One More Day when life feels overwhelming. Each song helps me acknowledge my feelings, process them, and then move on. Plus, music has a way of lifting my mood (and in my head, I’m a phenomenal singer!). Join me for a fun conversation about how ...

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In this episode, I share a personal story about my son’s oral motor dysfunction and the way it opened my eyes to how often our judgments of others are really comparisons in disguise. When we assume, criticize, or label someone, we’re often measuring them against how we think they should be, and that steals compassion from our connections and builds walls of hurt. Join me as we explore how shifting from judgment to understanding can...

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September 4, 2025 11 mins

We’ve all heard of “Resting B-Face”—that label slapped on someone whose neutral expression looks unapproachable or unfriendly. In this episode, I unpack why it’s really just another form of comparison that damages confidence and keeps us from genuine connection. Instead of judging others against how we think their face should look, we can challenge those snap judgments and give people a chance. Let their actions, not their resting ...

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August 28, 2025 15 mins

In this episode, SOARing in Real Life, I refresh the SOAR steps for overcoming comparison and walk through two real-world scenarios: a neighbor bringing homemade bread and scrolling through social media seeing a friend’s summer trip. Hear how to apply each step to turn comparison into appreciation, inspiration, and recognition.

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In this episode of Project Confidence, Kathie gets real about the pressure to have a “perfect summer,” especially when everyone else’s feeds are full of waterfalls, beach days, and golden-hour glow. She shares her own behind-the-scenes moments, from falling and straining a muscle to kids bickering over snacks and a phone that took an unexpected swim.

Social media might show the sunshine, but it rarely shows the stress, mess, and eve...

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June 19, 2025 15 mins

In this episode of Project Confidence, we delve into how comparison in the workplace, particularly when it becomes ingrained in company culture, can subtly undermine collaboration, morale, and employee retention. While some comparison is natural behind closed doors during hiring or promotions, bringing it out into the open (like public rankings or performance charts) can do more harm than good.

I share a real-life story about a comp...

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Comparison isn’t just a woman’s issue—it’s a human one.
This week on Project Confidence, we’re exploring how men experience comparison. It often hides behind ambition or the pressure to succeed, disguised as the rat race, the trophy wife, the perfect body, or the high-paying job.

From status and career to sports and fatherhood, comparison affects men in powerful and harmful ways. Recognizing it is the first step toward rising above i...

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In this episode, Kathie shares two contrasting stories of youth soccer coaches, one who used comparison to motivate, leaving his players discouraged and defeated, and another who turned the game around by using appreciation, inspiration, and recognition. You’ll learn how powerful a leader's words can be, and how replacing comparison with encouragement can shift a team’s energy, build confidence, and lead to greater connection a...

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Have you ever loved something, but comparison kept stealing your joy?

In this episode of Project Confidence, Kathie shares a personal story about starting Zumba and how constant comparison to the more experienced dancers nearly ruined it for her. Despite showing up week after week, the insecurity didn’t go away… until she tried something different: she moved to the front of the room.

Sometimes, when comparison keeps showing up in the...

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May 22, 2025 13 mins

In this episode, Kathie shares a powerful story from a family race where her youngest daughter crossed the finish line last—and proudly declared, “I’m the last winner!” It’s a reminder we all need: competition doesn’t have to come with comparison.

Kathie breaks down the difference between healthy competition and harmful comparison, and why tying your self-worth to someone else’s performance is a losing game. You’ll learn how to shif...

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When my daughter came home raving about the crepes she ate at a friend’s house and then said she’d never tried them because I was so lazy, I felt that familiar pang of mom guilt. But instead of spiraling into comparison, I took a step back. In today’s episode, we’re talking about what to do when someone else invites us into a comparison trap. Whether it’s a comment from a child, a post on social media, or a friend’s offhand remark,...

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In this episode of Project Confidence, we explore how to let go of the pressure to be super mom (or dad) and find confidence in your parenthood by embracing your unique strengths. Instead of comparing ourselves to the picture-perfect lives we see online or the achievements of other moms, we learn how to recognize what we do well. From being the calm in chaos to the bedtime storyteller or the memory-maker, this episode is a reminder...

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Social media can be a breeding ground for comparison. But just because it naturally happens doesn't mean you have to let it drag you down and drown you in comparison. In this episode of Project Confidence, we explore how to turn social media comparison into meaningful connection. Instead of allowing highlight reels to chip away at your confidence, you’ll learn how to shift your mindset and use socail media to build community, not s...

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Have you ever walked into a room and instantly felt like you didn’t belong? Like your title, your role, or your story wasn’t “impressive enough” to matter?

In this episode, I’m sharing a time when I shrank myself down and let comparison steal my confidence. I’ll talk about how that mindset affected the way I introduced myself and interacted with others, and how everything changed when I started owning who I am.

If you’ve ever struggl...

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April 17, 2025 12 mins

In this episode, I share a personal story about how our big spring break plans to hike and sandboard in Southern Utah were suddenly canceled when my son broke his foot just days before the trip. What started as a huge disappointment turned into a beautiful reminder: life doesn’t always go as planned—but that doesn’t mean it can’t still be meaningful.

We explore how to honor your feelings when things fall apart, the power of pivoting...

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