January 22, 2025 • 19 mins
Laura chats about losing her hair, Britt chats about her fears that her fiancé MAY not care quite as much as she does about their wedding, and we unpack whether it's ever okay to admit you have a favourite child.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Ben Brady, your worth,
our windows down, my worlds in the dust.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Only good babug all day.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
I've done much, but yeah I'm not.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
I'll big get and what I want. It don't matter
where rades.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
This is the pickup, Hi, guys, It's the pickup with
Britt Hockley and Laura Ben.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
Happy hump day everyone, Laura, I am dead set living
the stuff of nightmares right now. Okay, I just need
to set the scene for a second. Everyone listening right now.
You might not know I actually live in Laura's house. Sorry,
not your house.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
You don't live like in my basement. You live in
your own house, but it's my old house. You moved
into my ex apartment.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
Yep, I moved into Laura's old apartment. So Laura was
there for a few years now. I've been there for
a few years. And Laura, you remember, how could you forget?
You had that hectic Huntsman infestation.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Like out of control.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
One day I moved the curtain and because I saw
one Huntsman and then about seventy baby Huntsman's just.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Like it was like Jumanji. They just went up the wall.
It actually makes me feel sick.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I know, I know what you're gonna say. They're back,
aren't they.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
So they've been back the last couple of days, so
I obviously need to do some kind of a bomb.
They've been like sporadically around the house, and it's I
live alone, so I have to be like the man
of the house that gets to them out.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I've always thought, gosh, BRIT's so manly, thank You's rugg it's.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
The facial hair.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
So this morning I.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Woke up and I slowly lifted.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
My silk mask off my face because I do sleep
in a silk eye mask, and straight in front of
my face was not only a huntsman, it was a
huntsman eating another huntsman, like right in front of my eyes.
I felt like David Attenborough like with an up close experience,
and I thought, no, one huntsman's not enough. They're gonna
(01:51):
have to have a fight and consume the other huntsman
like six inches.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
From my face.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
You know what the resolution to this is burn the
house down. Yeah, you have to move you just that's
what we did, and for some reason you moved in there.
You've been asking for this, this whole time. Do you
know what I didn't think bear with me. It might
not have been eating it, or maybe it was eating it.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
But maybe it was sex. Maybe they were fornicating.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
That's so I hope you look forward to all the
baby spiders that you're going to have in hearing stuff
all coming off on the show. Something I've spoken about
a little bit recently. If you haven't heard of it,
shock horror. I am losing a lot of hair at
the moment, and.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
On your head, on my head, yeah, unfortunately, it's nowhere else.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
But it's something that I don't think people talk about much,
and this is women who are going through hair loss.
I'll put my hand up and I'll say that's me. Well,
I have finally got a diagnosis, and look, it's something
I want to talk about because you talk about male
hair loss a lot, but I think it affects women
just as much as it does men.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
I agree, and I think so many people will be
able to relate. So I'm glad you're talking about that.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Over the last actually it's been happening for like the
last couple of years, but specifically over the last couple
of months, I have lost a frightening amount of hair.
And I know that we often like socially talk about
men losing hair and male pattern hair loss is like,
that's not something that's unfamiliar to anyone.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
But I don't think.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Female hair loss gets a lot of time. And I
have been shocked by how many women have reached out
to say that they've either experienced it or they're going
through the exact same thing.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
It's also because it's more accepted for men to do
it like we have.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
It's more acceptable to go You're allowed to, but you're not.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
No, because we have these beauty standards for women that
are so much higher than they are for men. There
is the sexiest bald men competition, you know, but for women,
people don't say that. People aren't saying, oh my god,
look a those bald patches, she's hot.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Like yeah, people don't quality I want the sexiest bald
woman competition.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I'll vote for you.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
No, but seriously, you are going ball a little bit,
I am.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
It actually started off the back of The Bachelor. I
went through this like ridiculous amount of stress. When that
show finished that I lost a copious amounts of hair.
That was the very first time I ever went and
saw a hair specialist. Now, over the years, it's been
getting progressively worse, and I would say at the moment,
it's the worst it's ever been. Like, it's no longer
going through fluctuations of improving.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I'm just going bald.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
For you.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
It's not patent balding, Like there's not big chunks. It's
almost just an overall thinning, right.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I think that most women who
have had kids have had some fluctuations. But the reason
why I wanted to talk about it is because there
is so much shame and there is so much embarrassment
when you are a female and you are going through
losing your hair, and even myself, like it's something that
I've questioned whether or not I wanted to talk about
(04:38):
it on national radio. So I wear my hair back
in a bun pretty much every day. And if you
ever see me not wearing my hair in a bun,
it's because I have some very heavy duty extensions clipped
in and someone who is much better at doing hair
than I am. They have worked their magic to try
and make it look as full as possible, but from
the back it's not gone great. So I went finally
(05:00):
had a follow up appointment with another hair specialist around it.
And so there's many different kinds of hair loss that
you can go through. Some of them are genetic, there's alopecies.
I genetically don't have a great track record. My dad
was bald at twenty two. So there's photos of my
parents getting married. I think my dad's like twenty four
(05:23):
when they got married, and he's so baldr.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
It's not looking good.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
He's got a really big mustache though, So it counts
for the facial hair that I also sprout from time.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
To time, which is weird. I'd love to know the
science behind that. Like your hair can't hold on on
your head, but just like a couple of centimeters down
it's thriving.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
That's weird.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I mean that was a joke.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Actually she's still thriving too, So fu're you're doing?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Okay, shut up, Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
So there's this thing it's called intelligent affluvium, and it's
something that I think a lot of women should know about.
So the thing with telligen a fluvium is is actually
a reversible cause of hair loss, which I just kind
of assumed that all hair loss was pretty permanent. And
is it happens when you've gone through lots of stresses.
So maybe you've been sick, maybe someone in your family's
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passed away, maybe you've been through a horrible time at work.
And for me, it's been like an accumulation of lots
of things. We had multiple people in our family passed
away last year. Work's been stressful, I've had babies back
to back. And what happens to your body is that
your body doesn't think that it needs to keep hair right, Like,
it gets rid of the things that doesn't need and
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it kind of goes into survival mode. But even when
you are good again, and even when things are thriving,
it's like your hair doesn't know how to turn itself
back on.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
So it's still like, well, we don't need.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
This, and you will just keep continuing to lose hair
until you go bored if you don't do something about
trying to stop that or figuring out the reasons for
why you're losing in the first place.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
I think this is such a good conversation because myself included,
outside of a hair transplant, I didn't know that you
could sort of restore or reverse hair loss. So I
think it's really important because so many women. I'm thinning
for sure. I have hair extensions as well, not like you,
but it's really.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Important for you don't have to establish that that's okay.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
I don't mean that badly, but I don't want to
be like I'm going to trump you because I'm not.
But my hair is definitely I wear extensions because my
hair is definitely thinning. But I think it's really important
for people to know now that like this is so relatable,
and so many women now might not have known that
they can go and see someone and possibly reverse what
they're doing.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
So what do you have to do to reverse it?
Speaker 4 (07:22):
Like, how do you stimulate the follicles again to remember
to grow?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Oh, there's a few different things.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
You can go on a permanent, long term medication, or
there's you know how you can do It's a thing
called PRP that's for your skin with.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
A platelet rich plasma.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So they take your own blood, they spin it and
they take the platelets out of it, and then they
inject it into your scalp. But then if that doesn't
work and you have tried all the options, a hair
transplant is the only long term viable solution. But most
people do have success with the other ones. So I'm
gonna try a few things first. But I guess I
wanted to talk about it for two reasons. I kind
(07:57):
of feel like one the related by piece, we've covered that,
But also I feel like if you claim the thing
that you're embarrassed about, people can't point it out, people can't.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Make fun of you, like a defense mechanism.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah, if I get to sit here and say, okay, guys,
it's actually something I'm really self conscious about. I've lost
so much hair recently, and it's something that makes me
really like they can get emotional about it because it
makes me really upset sometimes, but then it kind of
like de weaponizes it from other people being able to
use that against me as well. And yeah, I just
think there are so many women who whether you're going
through menopause or you've had kids, or just genetically you
(08:32):
drew a short straw, you're not the only one here.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
No, you're not the only one. The way you style
your hair, you can't notice.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I've gone good at it. Yeah, so it might not
serve me well forever, but it's okay for now.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
But I'm looking forward to the update and watching the
hair journey to see what happens. And I think everyone
in the car right now will think the same thing
that will be wanting to know if it works.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
You're the goat, what is it? The little guinea piece?
But I'll also be a you're.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
The farm manable off your goat. Hey, So I have
a wedding update Laura.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Recently, on our podcast Life Uncut, we were over on
our summer break and my fiance Ben filled in as
like a guest hosting position.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
We like interviewed him in the pod.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Yeah, it was me and Ben.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
We did some listener questions like people were already what
they wanted to know, and so we're getting married this
year in twenty twenty five, where in the throes of
wedding planning, and one of the questions was about how
his wedding planning going.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
And so I said to Ben, how is wedding planning going?
Speaker 5 (09:29):
You know?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
You answer that.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Has Ben been particularly involved up until this point? Because
I being that he's overseas, I don't really know how
much Ben is or isn't doing.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
There's the Internet. Let's just say that doesn't matter that
he's overseas. He has been sitting in every session with
our wedding planner.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Like he's involved.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Okay, for sure, I don't make decisions without him. He
doesn't make definitely doesn't make decisions without me. But one
of the questions was how's the wedding planning? And I
was like, oh, on the spot, I hadn't planned this.
I was like, I'm going to quiz him on three
questions about our wedding to see how much he knows.
And then I thought, oh, I don't want to embarrass
him in front of the listeners, and I don't want
to give him anything too hard. I'm going to give
(10:08):
him questions that I know he'll get right. So you
will not believe this. Listen to this audio.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
This is going to be a disaster. What date is
our wedding? It is too Oh my god, it's wrong.
You just got that wrong. It's the wrong month, but
it's the right date.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Oh okay, well I'll see you in the wrong month.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I can't believe.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Ben didn't know our wedding date. He did not know
the day to turn up and marry me.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Wait, why did we don't need to beep out when
it's the wrong date. Anyway, there's so many other dates.
It could be like no one with the paparazzi going
to be like, well they ruled that one out, so
now we know.
Speaker 4 (10:52):
No, because no, we do have to there is a
reason because he got the number right, but a month out.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
And I said, he got a month.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
Out, he'll just be a little bit late for the
wedding and entire month. And then I was like, how
am I at this point where I have to.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Like, you've been turning up what are you doing?
Speaker 4 (11:09):
Do you have Joe Rogan in the background, Like, what
are you listening to when we're on these wedding meetings?
Speaker 3 (11:13):
He didn't know anything about alwind?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
What were the other questions that were asked?
Speaker 4 (11:16):
So the only question that he knew he got one right.
The only question he knew was the catering, what food
he gets to eat?
Speaker 1 (11:24):
That doesn't shock me, But I want to know what
were the other questions that he got wrong.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Who our wedding planner is.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
He doesn't know who they are, but he's been on
meetings with them.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
Yep, and they listened. The wedding planner listened and wrote
to us.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
That's horrified, laughed, they laughed.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Does he know the venue?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Probably not off the top of his head.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
No, okay, I have a question for you, because this
is particularly bad. Would so he would screen red flags
to any normal person. But let's play devil's advocate, because
Ben is actually a nice guy. He's not you know,
shocked you said about like he's actually well, just talk
about it the other guys that you've dated, so he's
you know, he picked a good one. But I wonder
if it's because you've just taken the reins on this completely,
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so you kind of organize the wedding planner. You have
been the more dominant person in the wedding planning, and
I feel like he's just taken a mental back seat.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Not that that's okay, but I just think he's done it.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Well, yeah, he has done it. He doesn't know the day. Yeah,
evidently I don't think this is fair, right.
Speaker 4 (12:15):
I think the buck always falls on the woman to
do that. Like women are supposed to be the organizers.
Women are supposed to be the ones that want to
that dream of their wedding since there were kids. I'm
not that person, Like I might not be a normal woman.
I would be happy if someone else planned my wedding
and I knew nothing about it.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'd be happy to turn up and just turn up
on the day.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yeah, But do you think he's taken a back seat
because he's like, even what he said at the beginning,
he's like, well, I'm not going to make decisions about
stuff because everything has to be vetoed by you anyway.
So he's like, Oh, I'm just kind of gonna check
out of this a little bit, which is bad. You
really don't want your husband to check out your wedding,
do you.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
He hasn't even checked in. He doesn't know where to
check in.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
What was Matt Like, Matt, I can't use Matt as
a benchmark for comparison, and like, I hate myself by
saying this because I know it's annoying for everyone.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Matt, who's my husband.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
He is not your typical male like he in our
household is the organizer. He's the one that books the
kids doctors appointments, make sure that they get vaccinated.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
He's the one who like organizes swimming.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
So when it came to our wedding, he also used
to be an event manager back in the day, so
he is the most organized person when it comes around
to that stuff. And he was like, I've organized our cakes,
I've organized our flowers and then he just sent me
an itinery. So I just rocked up with my dress
and I was ready. But even like when we go
on holidays, he plans and books everything, so I kind
of I mean, I know I hit the jackpot, but
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I also feel guilty because I know it's not normal.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
You might remember back to a conversation that I initially
had when we started the wedding planning, and I said
to Ben, all right, let's talk.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
How do you envision the wedding. What are the main
things you see?
Speaker 4 (13:47):
And I meant things like location, church, or outdoors, like
the big things.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
I was like, tell me what you see.
Speaker 4 (13:54):
And he had this really serious moment where he was
really considering. I was like, oh, this is going to
be good, and he said, I think I want an
ice cream truck.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
That should have been the red flag.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Now, Britt, I want to talk to you about the
big age dog question that I think everyone has always asked.
Whether it's about your own parents, or maybe you're a
parent yourself and you've been asked at about your children
that you have birds and the bees. No, I'm not
going there at this time. Slot It is about whether
or not parents do in fact have a favorite child.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
Oh, I'm gonna go yes, I think absolutely they do.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, Okay, when you think about your own parents, do
you think your mum and dad had a favorite kid?
Speaker 2 (14:36):
You're one of four, I'm one of four.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Obviously it was me.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yes, when you were a child, it was you. I
don't believe it for one second.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
When I was a child, hands down, No, No, I
was low on the Richter scale of the four of us.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
But I think I developed well, and I think that
I like one.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
I think that I wasn't a favorite child, but I
reckon I am as an adult.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Oh you think you got better? Like a fine wine.
I sucked as a kid, but now doing okay, as
an adult, one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
I grew into it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
It's funny because I have two kids and so and
I like one.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
No.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
No, I think when you're a parent, like it's an
expectation that you will be like absolutely not like I
love my children equally and you do. But there's definitely
different things about them that you like.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
That are different.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
Right.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
But I think about my own family and my mom.
I was one of three kids, and I would put
money on the fact that my little brother was the favorite.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
My mom would deny it still to this day.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
But I reckon he's the favorite just because he was young,
and he was cute, and he was the last baby
of the household. Hasn't your mom sort of said that. No, No,
my mom would never be that cruel. I don't think
that you can.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
You're not allowed to say you have a favorite, but
you can't not have a favorite. Like, your kids are
going to be so different. Some are going to be
easier to deal with, Some are going.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
To be more tolerable.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Some are going to be nice, Some are going to
be self I want of a better word. Some are
going to be nicer, probably more successful. You can't help
the fact that some kids are going to be easy
kids than others, and of course that's going to make
you maybe enjoy being around them at that period of
time more.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Parenting really is a spectacular joy sometimes and then on
the other hand, you just described it so perfectly to tolerable. Look,
the reason why we're talking about this is because there's proof. Now,
scientific data has come out. There's been a recent study
that's come out of the American Psychology Association which says
that even though we might not think that we have
a favorite child, subconsciously, you may prefer one over the other.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
So this is what it says.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Parents may be more inclined to confer the favorite child
award to daughters and also to children who are agreeable
and conscientious. Yeah, that's also another way to say tolerable. Yes,
but both mothers and fathers statistically preferred daughters over sons.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Scandalous.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
You know a story you've just reminded me of with
my parents. My parents are still together now to be
married forty seven years.
Speaker 4 (16:54):
They have a great relationship, But growing up I was
always closer to my dad, like I think I had
wound him around my little finger.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
My mum and I clashed a lot.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
In hindsight, I realized that that's because we were so similar.
But I remember this one time where I asked Mom
if I could get my belly button piersed everyone else
had it Pierce.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I was in high school and she said absolutely not.
When you're eighteen, do what you want.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
Then I went to my dad and I was like, hey, Dad, Mom.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Said I could get my belly Pierce. She said, you'd
have to take me though full manipulation.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
No wonder, he won't the favorite child as a kid,
you're an asshole.
Speaker 4 (17:26):
Well, he took me because I was. I reckon I
was his favorite child, and later on in life I
always thought I pulled the wool over his eyes. He's
like I knew, He's like I knew I'd get in
trouble from your mother.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
You know. He had a soft spot for me. So
I think that was because I was one of the favorites.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I think it probably was. I have a bit of
a theory around favorite kids. I don't think it's static.
I think it changes depending on whichever child is the
easiest child at the time. Like, I love both my
kids equally, but some days one of them is just
a little bit easier to deal with than the other.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
So I can understand why. Sometimes it fluctuates.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Hey we've got Jamie. Call in. Hi Jamie.
Speaker 5 (18:00):
Hey guys, how are we Jamie?
Speaker 2 (18:01):
What's going on?
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Have you got a favorite child?
Speaker 5 (18:03):
I do, I certainly do. I have four daughters, and
it's my third born. I don't know why. What are
the agents of all of them? The older two are
heading towards the teenage years. That's the time we've got
a baby who's still kind of like a potato. Also
also to the favorites the four year old.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
So you think it's because they're just at the easier
age right now? Do you think that that was going
to change that favoritism.
Speaker 5 (18:24):
I don't know. I thought in my head, I thought,
when the baby comes, like, I'll like the baby more,
maybe because she's not a person yet, like a potato,
little potato.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
I'm a question for you.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Do you feel guilty at all about verbalizing this because
this stuff you take to the grave.
Speaker 5 (18:39):
Not even slightly. The kids know and everything you've told them.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
No, you can't tell.
Speaker 5 (18:44):
Them, yeah, well aware, how do you tell them? The
older two assumed they already knew. I don't know. She
just got me wrapped around her finger. There's something about
the four year old.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Then you've one baby doesn't care yet, but trust me,
she can't wait.
Speaker 5 (18:57):
She will.
Speaker 4 (18:58):
But at the older kids, Jamie, when you tell them,
how do they feel about it?
Speaker 3 (19:02):
How do they react? Do they a bit upset about it?
Do they put their care less?
Speaker 5 (19:06):
Make you care less because Daddy doesn't have favorites and
Daddy loves them all equally.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Oh thank god Daddy stepped up to the plate with
that one. Then you're like, sorry, this is my little sweetheart.
Speaker 5 (19:16):
He's trapped with his four daughters forever.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
I'm sugar, I'm sugarth. That you put your voice on
national radio.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
You've got a favorite child.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Look, I mean, Jamie is brave. But I would say
that there are people out there who absolutely have favorite children.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Everyone.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
No, they don't. All I disagree. Not everyone has a
favorite child.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
I absolutely love my daughters equally, but at different times,
one is easier than the other. It's not about like favoritism, though,
but I do think my kids have favorite parents.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
That's a whole other conversation.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Yeah, that's for another day.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
That's for another day.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
I'm done. Let's absolutely get out of here.
Good pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Ben Brady, your worth,
our windows down, my worlds in the dust.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Only good babug all day.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
I've done much, but yeah I'm not.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
I'll big get and what I want. It don't matter
where rades.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
This is the pickup, Hi, guys, It's the pickup with
Britt Hockley and Laura Ben.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
Happy hump day everyone, Laura, I am dead set living
the stuff of nightmares right now. Okay, I just need
to set the scene for a second. Everyone listening right now.
You might not know I actually live in Laura's house. Sorry,
not your house.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
You don't live like in my basement. You live in
your own house, but it's my old house. You moved
into my ex apartment.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
Yep, I moved into Laura's old apartment. So Laura was
there for a few years now. I've been there for
a few years. And Laura, you remember, how could you forget?
You had that hectic Huntsman infestation.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Like out of control.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
One day I moved the curtain and because I saw
one Huntsman and then about seventy baby Huntsman's just.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Like it was like Jumanji. They just went up the wall.
It actually makes me feel sick.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I know, I know what you're gonna say. They're back,
aren't they.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
So they've been back the last couple of days, so
I obviously need to do some kind of a bomb.
They've been like sporadically around the house, and it's I
live alone, so I have to be like the man
of the house that gets to them out.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I've always thought, gosh, BRIT's so manly, thank You's rugg it's.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
The facial hair.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
So this morning I.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Woke up and I slowly lifted.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
My silk mask off my face because I do sleep
in a silk eye mask, and straight in front of
my face was not only a huntsman, it was a
huntsman eating another huntsman, like right in front of my eyes.
I felt like David Attenborough like with an up close experience,
and I thought, no, one huntsman's not enough. They're gonna
(01:51):
have to have a fight and consume the other huntsman
like six inches.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
From my face.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
You know what the resolution to this is burn the
house down. Yeah, you have to move you just that's
what we did, and for some reason you moved in there.
You've been asking for this, this whole time. Do you
know what I didn't think bear with me. It might
not have been eating it, or maybe it was eating it.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
But maybe it was sex. Maybe they were fornicating.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
That's so I hope you look forward to all the
baby spiders that you're going to have in hearing stuff
all coming off on the show. Something I've spoken about
a little bit recently. If you haven't heard of it,
shock horror. I am losing a lot of hair at
the moment, and.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
On your head, on my head, yeah, unfortunately, it's nowhere else.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
But it's something that I don't think people talk about much,
and this is women who are going through hair loss.
I'll put my hand up and I'll say that's me. Well,
I have finally got a diagnosis, and look, it's something
I want to talk about because you talk about male
hair loss a lot, but I think it affects women
just as much as it does men.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
I agree, and I think so many people will be
able to relate. So I'm glad you're talking about that.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Over the last actually it's been happening for like the
last couple of years, but specifically over the last couple
of months, I have lost a frightening amount of hair.
And I know that we often like socially talk about
men losing hair and male pattern hair loss is like,
that's not something that's unfamiliar to anyone.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
But I don't think.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Female hair loss gets a lot of time. And I
have been shocked by how many women have reached out
to say that they've either experienced it or they're going
through the exact same thing.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
It's also because it's more accepted for men to do
it like we have.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
It's more acceptable to go You're allowed to, but you're not.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
No, because we have these beauty standards for women that
are so much higher than they are for men. There
is the sexiest bald men competition, you know, but for women,
people don't say that. People aren't saying, oh my god,
look a those bald patches, she's hot.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Like yeah, people don't quality I want the sexiest bald
woman competition.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I'll vote for you.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
No, but seriously, you are going ball a little bit,
I am.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
It actually started off the back of The Bachelor. I
went through this like ridiculous amount of stress. When that
show finished that I lost a copious amounts of hair.
That was the very first time I ever went and
saw a hair specialist. Now, over the years, it's been
getting progressively worse, and I would say at the moment,
it's the worst it's ever been. Like, it's no longer
going through fluctuations of improving.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I'm just going bald.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
For you.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
It's not patent balding, Like there's not big chunks. It's
almost just an overall thinning, right.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I think that most women who
have had kids have had some fluctuations. But the reason
why I wanted to talk about it is because there
is so much shame and there is so much embarrassment
when you are a female and you are going through
losing your hair, and even myself, like it's something that
I've questioned whether or not I wanted to talk about
(04:38):
it on national radio. So I wear my hair back
in a bun pretty much every day. And if you
ever see me not wearing my hair in a bun,
it's because I have some very heavy duty extensions clipped
in and someone who is much better at doing hair
than I am. They have worked their magic to try
and make it look as full as possible, but from
the back it's not gone great. So I went finally
(05:00):
had a follow up appointment with another hair specialist around it.
And so there's many different kinds of hair loss that
you can go through. Some of them are genetic, there's alopecies.
I genetically don't have a great track record. My dad
was bald at twenty two. So there's photos of my
parents getting married. I think my dad's like twenty four
(05:23):
when they got married, and he's so baldr.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
It's not looking good.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
He's got a really big mustache though, So it counts
for the facial hair that I also sprout from time.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
To time, which is weird. I'd love to know the
science behind that. Like your hair can't hold on on
your head, but just like a couple of centimeters down
it's thriving.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
That's weird.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I mean that was a joke.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Actually she's still thriving too, So fu're you're doing?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Okay, shut up, Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
So there's this thing it's called intelligent affluvium, and it's
something that I think a lot of women should know about.
So the thing with telligen a fluvium is is actually
a reversible cause of hair loss, which I just kind
of assumed that all hair loss was pretty permanent. And
is it happens when you've gone through lots of stresses.
So maybe you've been sick, maybe someone in your family's
(06:06):
passed away, maybe you've been through a horrible time at work.
And for me, it's been like an accumulation of lots
of things. We had multiple people in our family passed
away last year. Work's been stressful, I've had babies back
to back. And what happens to your body is that
your body doesn't think that it needs to keep hair right, Like,
it gets rid of the things that doesn't need and
(06:26):
it kind of goes into survival mode. But even when
you are good again, and even when things are thriving,
it's like your hair doesn't know how to turn itself
back on.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
So it's still like, well, we don't need.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
This, and you will just keep continuing to lose hair
until you go bored if you don't do something about
trying to stop that or figuring out the reasons for
why you're losing in the first place.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
I think this is such a good conversation because myself included,
outside of a hair transplant, I didn't know that you
could sort of restore or reverse hair loss. So I
think it's really important because so many women. I'm thinning
for sure. I have hair extensions as well, not like you,
but it's really.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Important for you don't have to establish that that's okay.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
I don't mean that badly, but I don't want to
be like I'm going to trump you because I'm not.
But my hair is definitely I wear extensions because my
hair is definitely thinning. But I think it's really important
for people to know now that like this is so relatable,
and so many women now might not have known that
they can go and see someone and possibly reverse what
they're doing.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
So what do you have to do to reverse it?
Speaker 4 (07:22):
Like, how do you stimulate the follicles again to remember
to grow?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Oh, there's a few different things.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
You can go on a permanent, long term medication, or
there's you know how you can do It's a thing
called PRP that's for your skin with.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
A platelet rich plasma.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So they take your own blood, they spin it and
they take the platelets out of it, and then they
inject it into your scalp. But then if that doesn't
work and you have tried all the options, a hair
transplant is the only long term viable solution. But most
people do have success with the other ones. So I'm
gonna try a few things first. But I guess I
wanted to talk about it for two reasons. I kind
(07:57):
of feel like one the related by piece, we've covered that,
But also I feel like if you claim the thing
that you're embarrassed about, people can't point it out, people can't.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Make fun of you, like a defense mechanism.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah, if I get to sit here and say, okay, guys,
it's actually something I'm really self conscious about. I've lost
so much hair recently, and it's something that makes me
really like they can get emotional about it because it
makes me really upset sometimes, but then it kind of
like de weaponizes it from other people being able to
use that against me as well. And yeah, I just
think there are so many women who whether you're going
through menopause or you've had kids, or just genetically you
(08:32):
drew a short straw, you're not the only one here.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
No, you're not the only one. The way you style
your hair, you can't notice.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I've gone good at it. Yeah, so it might not
serve me well forever, but it's okay for now.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
But I'm looking forward to the update and watching the
hair journey to see what happens. And I think everyone
in the car right now will think the same thing
that will be wanting to know if it works.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
You're the goat, what is it? The little guinea piece?
But I'll also be a you're.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
The farm manable off your goat. Hey, So I have
a wedding update Laura.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Recently, on our podcast Life Uncut, we were over on
our summer break and my fiance Ben filled in as
like a guest hosting position.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
We like interviewed him in the pod.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Yeah, it was me and Ben.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
We did some listener questions like people were already what
they wanted to know, and so we're getting married this
year in twenty twenty five, where in the throes of
wedding planning, and one of the questions was about how
his wedding planning going.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
And so I said to Ben, how is wedding planning going?
Speaker 5 (09:29):
You know?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
You answer that.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Has Ben been particularly involved up until this point? Because
I being that he's overseas, I don't really know how
much Ben is or isn't doing.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
There's the Internet. Let's just say that doesn't matter that
he's overseas. He has been sitting in every session with
our wedding planner.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Like he's involved.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Okay, for sure, I don't make decisions without him. He
doesn't make definitely doesn't make decisions without me. But one
of the questions was how's the wedding planning? And I
was like, oh, on the spot, I hadn't planned this.
I was like, I'm going to quiz him on three
questions about our wedding to see how much he knows.
And then I thought, oh, I don't want to embarrass
him in front of the listeners, and I don't want
to give him anything too hard. I'm going to give
(10:08):
him questions that I know he'll get right. So you
will not believe this. Listen to this audio.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
This is going to be a disaster. What date is
our wedding? It is too Oh my god, it's wrong.
You just got that wrong. It's the wrong month, but
it's the right date.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Oh okay, well I'll see you in the wrong month.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I can't believe.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Ben didn't know our wedding date. He did not know
the day to turn up and marry me.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Wait, why did we don't need to beep out when
it's the wrong date. Anyway, there's so many other dates.
It could be like no one with the paparazzi going
to be like, well they ruled that one out, so
now we know.
Speaker 4 (10:52):
No, because no, we do have to there is a
reason because he got the number right, but a month out.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
And I said, he got a month.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
Out, he'll just be a little bit late for the
wedding and entire month. And then I was like, how
am I at this point where I have to.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Like, you've been turning up what are you doing?
Speaker 4 (11:09):
Do you have Joe Rogan in the background, Like, what
are you listening to when we're on these wedding meetings?
Speaker 3 (11:13):
He didn't know anything about alwind?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
What were the other questions that were asked?
Speaker 4 (11:16):
So the only question that he knew he got one right.
The only question he knew was the catering, what food
he gets to eat?
Speaker 1 (11:24):
That doesn't shock me, But I want to know what
were the other questions that he got wrong.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Who our wedding planner is.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
He doesn't know who they are, but he's been on
meetings with them.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
Yep, and they listened. The wedding planner listened and wrote
to us.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
That's horrified, laughed, they laughed.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Does he know the venue?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Probably not off the top of his head.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
No, okay, I have a question for you, because this
is particularly bad. Would so he would screen red flags
to any normal person. But let's play devil's advocate, because
Ben is actually a nice guy. He's not you know,
shocked you said about like he's actually well, just talk
about it the other guys that you've dated, so he's
you know, he picked a good one. But I wonder
if it's because you've just taken the reins on this completely,
(12:00):
so you kind of organize the wedding planner. You have
been the more dominant person in the wedding planning, and
I feel like he's just taken a mental back seat.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Not that that's okay, but I just think he's done it.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Well, yeah, he has done it. He doesn't know the day. Yeah,
evidently I don't think this is fair, right.
Speaker 4 (12:15):
I think the buck always falls on the woman to
do that. Like women are supposed to be the organizers.
Women are supposed to be the ones that want to
that dream of their wedding since there were kids. I'm
not that person, Like I might not be a normal woman.
I would be happy if someone else planned my wedding
and I knew nothing about it.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'd be happy to turn up and just turn up
on the day.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yeah, But do you think he's taken a back seat
because he's like, even what he said at the beginning,
he's like, well, I'm not going to make decisions about
stuff because everything has to be vetoed by you anyway.
So he's like, Oh, I'm just kind of gonna check
out of this a little bit, which is bad. You
really don't want your husband to check out your wedding,
do you.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
He hasn't even checked in. He doesn't know where to
check in.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
What was Matt Like, Matt, I can't use Matt as
a benchmark for comparison, and like, I hate myself by
saying this because I know it's annoying for everyone.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Matt, who's my husband.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
He is not your typical male like he in our
household is the organizer. He's the one that books the
kids doctors appointments, make sure that they get vaccinated.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
He's the one who like organizes swimming.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
So when it came to our wedding, he also used
to be an event manager back in the day, so
he is the most organized person when it comes around
to that stuff. And he was like, I've organized our cakes,
I've organized our flowers and then he just sent me
an itinery. So I just rocked up with my dress
and I was ready. But even like when we go
on holidays, he plans and books everything, so I kind
of I mean, I know I hit the jackpot, but
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I also feel guilty because I know it's not normal.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
You might remember back to a conversation that I initially
had when we started the wedding planning, and I said
to Ben, all right, let's talk.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
How do you envision the wedding. What are the main
things you see?
Speaker 4 (13:47):
And I meant things like location, church, or outdoors, like
the big things.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
I was like, tell me what you see.
Speaker 4 (13:54):
And he had this really serious moment where he was
really considering. I was like, oh, this is going to
be good, and he said, I think I want an
ice cream truck.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
That should have been the red flag.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Now, Britt, I want to talk to you about the
big age dog question that I think everyone has always asked.
Whether it's about your own parents, or maybe you're a
parent yourself and you've been asked at about your children
that you have birds and the bees. No, I'm not
going there at this time. Slot It is about whether
or not parents do in fact have a favorite child.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
Oh, I'm gonna go yes, I think absolutely they do.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, Okay, when you think about your own parents, do
you think your mum and dad had a favorite kid?
Speaker 2 (14:36):
You're one of four, I'm one of four.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Obviously it was me.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yes, when you were a child, it was you. I
don't believe it for one second.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
When I was a child, hands down, No, No, I
was low on the Richter scale of the four of us.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
But I think I developed well, and I think that
I like one.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
I think that I wasn't a favorite child, but I
reckon I am as an adult.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Oh you think you got better? Like a fine wine.
I sucked as a kid, but now doing okay, as
an adult, one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
I grew into it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
It's funny because I have two kids and so and
I like one.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
No.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
No, I think when you're a parent, like it's an
expectation that you will be like absolutely not like I
love my children equally and you do. But there's definitely
different things about them that you like.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
That are different.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
Right.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
But I think about my own family and my mom.
I was one of three kids, and I would put
money on the fact that my little brother was the favorite.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
My mom would deny it still to this day.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
But I reckon he's the favorite just because he was young,
and he was cute, and he was the last baby
of the household. Hasn't your mom sort of said that. No, No,
my mom would never be that cruel. I don't think
that you can.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
You're not allowed to say you have a favorite, but
you can't not have a favorite. Like, your kids are
going to be so different. Some are going to be
easier to deal with, Some are going.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
To be more tolerable.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
Some are going to be nice, Some are going to
be self I want of a better word. Some are
going to be nicer, probably more successful. You can't help
the fact that some kids are going to be easy
kids than others, and of course that's going to make
you maybe enjoy being around them at that period of
time more.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Parenting really is a spectacular joy sometimes and then on
the other hand, you just described it so perfectly to tolerable. Look,
the reason why we're talking about this is because there's proof. Now,
scientific data has come out. There's been a recent study
that's come out of the American Psychology Association which says
that even though we might not think that we have
a favorite child, subconsciously, you may prefer one over the other.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
So this is what it says.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Parents may be more inclined to confer the favorite child
award to daughters and also to children who are agreeable
and conscientious. Yeah, that's also another way to say tolerable. Yes,
but both mothers and fathers statistically preferred daughters over sons.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Scandalous.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
You know a story you've just reminded me of with
my parents. My parents are still together now to be
married forty seven years.
Speaker 4 (16:54):
They have a great relationship, But growing up I was
always closer to my dad, like I think I had
wound him around my little finger.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
My mum and I clashed a lot.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
In hindsight, I realized that that's because we were so similar.
But I remember this one time where I asked Mom
if I could get my belly button piersed everyone else
had it Pierce.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I was in high school and she said absolutely not.
When you're eighteen, do what you want.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
Then I went to my dad and I was like, hey, Dad, Mom.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Said I could get my belly Pierce. She said, you'd
have to take me though full manipulation.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
No wonder, he won't the favorite child as a kid,
you're an asshole.
Speaker 4 (17:26):
Well, he took me because I was. I reckon I
was his favorite child, and later on in life I
always thought I pulled the wool over his eyes. He's
like I knew, He's like I knew I'd get in
trouble from your mother.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
You know. He had a soft spot for me. So
I think that was because I was one of the favorites.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I think it probably was. I have a bit of
a theory around favorite kids. I don't think it's static.
I think it changes depending on whichever child is the
easiest child at the time. Like, I love both my
kids equally, but some days one of them is just
a little bit easier to deal with than the other.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
So I can understand why. Sometimes it fluctuates.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Hey we've got Jamie. Call in. Hi Jamie.
Speaker 5 (18:00):
Hey guys, how are we Jamie?
Speaker 2 (18:01):
What's going on?
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Have you got a favorite child?
Speaker 5 (18:03):
I do, I certainly do. I have four daughters, and
it's my third born. I don't know why. What are
the agents of all of them? The older two are
heading towards the teenage years. That's the time we've got
a baby who's still kind of like a potato. Also
also to the favorites the four year old.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
So you think it's because they're just at the easier
age right now? Do you think that that was going
to change that favoritism.
Speaker 5 (18:24):
I don't know. I thought in my head, I thought,
when the baby comes, like, I'll like the baby more,
maybe because she's not a person yet, like a potato,
little potato.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
I'm a question for you.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Do you feel guilty at all about verbalizing this because
this stuff you take to the grave.
Speaker 5 (18:39):
Not even slightly. The kids know and everything you've told them.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
No, you can't tell.
Speaker 5 (18:44):
Them, yeah, well aware, how do you tell them? The
older two assumed they already knew. I don't know. She
just got me wrapped around her finger. There's something about
the four year old.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Then you've one baby doesn't care yet, but trust me,
she can't wait.
Speaker 5 (18:57):
She will.
Speaker 4 (18:58):
But at the older kids, Jamie, when you tell them,
how do they feel about it?
Speaker 3 (19:02):
How do they react? Do they a bit upset about it?
Do they put their care less?
Speaker 5 (19:06):
Make you care less because Daddy doesn't have favorites and
Daddy loves them all equally.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Oh thank god Daddy stepped up to the plate with
that one. Then you're like, sorry, this is my little sweetheart.
Speaker 5 (19:16):
He's trapped with his four daughters forever.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
I'm sugar, I'm sugarth. That you put your voice on
national radio.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
You've got a favorite child.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Look, I mean, Jamie is brave. But I would say
that there are people out there who absolutely have favorite children.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Everyone.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
No, they don't. All I disagree. Not everyone has a
favorite child.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
I absolutely love my daughters equally, but at different times,
one is easier than the other. It's not about like favoritism, though,
but I do think my kids have favorite parents.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
That's a whole other conversation.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Yeah, that's for another day.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
That's for another day.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
I'm done. Let's absolutely get out of here.
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