Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery
Did you marry the man of your dreams, only to now find alcohol seeping into every part of your family? As a woman of faith, committed to your vows, do you struggle to walk out your convictions amidst the chaos and confusion that has devastated your marriage? Do you wish you had someone to confide in without judgment, consequences later or let’s be honest, hearing the worst advice EVER from well meaning people? Despite your relentless efforts, do you feel betrayed, stuck in a cycle, praying for a breakthrough and wondering if things really will be ok? This is how everything was in my marriage for SO long!! I get it! In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it. I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”. In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident. Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.
Episodes
In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped overseas and emotional bombs are going off in your own home.
With growing tensions between Israel and Iran and news of U.S. involvement, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the global instability. But for Christian wives married to alcoholics, the chaos isn’t just out there—it’s also right he...
How do you know if someone is safe to talk to about your marriage, your alcoholic husband, or the chaos addiction is causing in your home? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we explore a powerful litmus test to help Christian wives of alcoholics discern who they can trust with their story—and who might cause more harm than help.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you should open up to a friend, family member, pastor, or counselor a...
Are you the only one paying attention to the warning signs? What even are the warning signs for Liver Disease and Liver Cirhossis and when to expect them. There may be NO symptoms or concerns at this time, but looking in the future has you concerned? Maybe you are seeing his yellowing eyes, his constant fatigue, his mood swings? Let's unpack this together.
The only one praying for his health — while he shrugs it off?
If that’s yo...
As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I’m furious.” In this episode, we’re opening up the conversation about anger—what Scripture really says, why it’s not a sin to feel it, and how to move through it without shame.
We’ll unpack the emotional toll of carrying an unfair burden, the conflict between Christian service and soul...
Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process.
In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos still hurts, and you deserve peace.
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Why obsessing over the “right” l...
Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace.
In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defines a “real alcoholic”—and why understanding this framework may help, but it’s not you...
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called to love and support—but when codependency creeps in, it can be hard to tell if our actions are helping or hurting.
In today’s episode, I share two simple but powerful questions—your litmus test—to help you decide where a boundary might be needed. These questions will help you check your mo...
In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Think of boundaries not as walls to keep your husband out, but as a protective dome that creates space between you and the chaos of addiction. This distance isn’t about punishment—it’s about preserving your well-being and protecting your children.
If you're a Christian wife navigating life w...
Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking!? Active Addiction comes with all kinds of twisted thinking in the mind to justify otherwise unhealthy behavior. In this powerful episode, we delve into the intricate journey from a husband's perspective as alcohol steadily takes command over life. I'm joined by my husband, who courageously opens up about the deep, internal conflict he faced during his battle with alcoholism tryi...
In this powerful episode, Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU!, I share a story I heard in Al-Anon that stopped me in my tracks—a story that helped me see how my efforts to “smooth things over” in a home affected by alcoholism were actually hurting more than helping.
Children don’t need everything to look okay. They need someone who is okay—someone stable, trustworthy, and emotionally safe. As Christian wives and moms navigatin...
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Our kids are looking to us for guidance on how to navigate all of this. They can get caught up in the confusion and the family disease of alcoholism. As the wife of an alcoholic and the momma to these souls, and future ACOA members what can you be doing to help them to get through this too!? Our role is so important mommas!!
What legacy are you leaving for your kiddos? Whe...
The impact of alcoholism on me was IMMENSE! However, my kids were experiencing all of this too through the littlest eyes and innoent hearts! I did not used to know how to lead them through all of this! Addiction really impacted our family! I have learned SO many tools and nuggets of wisdom over the years that helped me to navigate what our family was experiencing! If you are a mamma bear, you don't want to miss this episode highlig...
Tune in to hear ONE thing that God taught me during this painful lonely season. Being married to an alcoholic who thinks that everything is FINE is SO frustrating! Active addiction is exhausting. AA says that Alcohol is "Cunning, Baffling and Powerful" and it is SO True. The one person that I wanted to talk to was the one person who was also hurting our family, so who else could I talk to? I didn't want my friends and family to kno...
Today hear the ONE thing I did that helped me to start leaning on those that God had placed in my life. To bear someone else’s burden is a powerful expression of love and compassion, reminding us that we are not meant to walk through life alone. I needed friends and family to support myself and my children and ultimately my husband through this mess. Don't miss this episode! We all need each other ♥ God has a design to bear one ano...
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When the confusion and gaslighting are a normal way of life in your alchoholic marriage, and life is flying at you so fast, it is so hard to even recognize where to begin setting BOUNDARIES. Today I share my top foundational boundaries to begin with. Setting boundaries is never an easy task when addiction is present. Listen in to find out why I believe this is the place to start to protec...
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Lying about drinking is SO COMMON in alcoholic marriages! Christians are not immune to the lying and gaslighting! Have you experienced this? I never want to accuse someone of doing something, but if the proof is there it is SO CONFUSING for us as wives!
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It is the ultimate question! Join me as I pour out my heart on this topic that often took me captive and ran through my head on repeat! I didn't want to have to make an impossible choice! Do you find yourself thinking about these two options and trying to decide what to do? This is VERY common!!
If I stay how do I shelter them from the impact of what they see in our home?
If I leave how ...
“ I feel like his mother!”
Did you get married expecting a spouse and a life partner? Do you need someone to lean on and instead end up picking up all of the slack PLUS handling his stuff too? Are you struggling with conflicting thoughts on how to navigate these feelings? We will dive into the reasons that I believe contribute to this dynamic especially for Christian wives!
As alcohol takes over, the level of dependency increases a...
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Do you attend meetings already? If not, why? What options are even out there? What are the barriers you face? There are so many resources for us wives and I want to share a few with you today! Do not walk this journey alone! Alcoholism in the home is defeating and exhausting. I have found so much ho...
How to support ideas of Recovery in the New Year! Did your husband mention a New Years Resolution to cut back drinking? Are you praying he will walk into REVOVERY this Year? Do you wish he would make some kind of a commitment for change? Anything would give you hope at this point!! Tune in to hear how you can support recovery and future conversations. It isn't easy to offer support to him when things are already so painful, but thi...
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