The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

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"Why can't I find a secure partner?"

Let me share with you 5 reasons why...

Ever wondered why the “safe” ones feel boring... or why you keep falling for hot/cold dynamics that leave you spiralling?

You're not broken. You're just wired to seek love that feels familiar - not safe.

Hi, I'm Jula — The Anxious to Secure Coach 🖤

I used...

Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells at work — even when no one’s mad at you? 😰 Constantly reading between the lines of Slack messages? Replaying convos in your head for hours? Avoiding conflict, hiding your voice, and lowkey doubting yourself even though you're SMART as hell?

🖤 You might be experiencing anxious attachment at work.

In this juicy episode, we're diving deep into something not enough people are talking about �...

You’ve been told: “Just give them space”...

But that’s NOT the whole story ✶ And if you’re anxiously attached... You’ve probably felt like giving space only makes it worse 😮‍💨

Hi, I’m Jula — anxious attachment coach + podcast host 🖤 I’ve been where you are... spiraling after “I need time” texts And what I’ve learned? It’s not about giving more space... It’s about giving something else entirely 🧠

 In this episode, I’ll show yo...

MYTH: Manifestation is about your vision board, your scripting journal, or how many times you say your affirmation...

👉 But here's the REAL tea: It’s not about the method - it’s about the moment. It’s about the state your body and brain are in when you're calling in what you want 🧠💭 It’s about your frequency aka your energy. Your nervous system is either saying “I’m safe to receive this” or “This is a threat”... And it’s happeni...

Why You Keep Attracting the SAME Type of Guy (It's Not What You Think) I used to roll my eyes at manifestation until I discovered the neuroscience behind it.

Turns out, you're already manifesting every single day - even when you don't believe in it. And if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who pull away the second you get close, there's a scientific reason why.

That's when I learned how to actually manifest healt...

Defensiveness KILLS relationships, not overnight but slowly. Painfully.

Like emotional water damage, you don’t notice until the floor caves in. 

In this episode, relationship coach Jula (hi! that’s me) breaks down:

✶ Why your avoidant partner gets defensive-especially when all you want is closeness ✶ How anxious attachment can unknowingly trigger the "Four Horsemen" ✶ Gottman’s game-changing research on communication patterns tha...

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🎧 Listen now BEFORE you turn 30:

(Or honestly… even if you’re already past it ✨ this still hits.)

If you're in your 20s, anxiously attached, and OVER second-guessing yourself in relationships, friendships, or your life path ...this episode is a wake-up call 📱🖤

I’m breaking down 10 brutally honest lessons I wish someone had told me before I ke...

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How to Use ChatGPT as Your 24/7 AI Therapis...

How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)

Feeling stuck in overthinking, overgiving, or over-controlling in your relationships?

You’re not alone.

This episode is for the women who feel EXHAUSTED from constantly doing, fixing, proving, and chasing... but deep down, just want to feel safe enough to soften, trust, and receive love without fear of abandonment.

In this powerful episode, I w...

🖤 WHEN HE DOESN’T TEXT BACK... (it's NOT about him. You DON'T need his reassurance.)🖤

🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" —

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(It's packed with tools to calm your anxious brain &

Finally stop spiralling after every “seen” or emoji reply)

If your stomach drops every time he leaves you on read… If your brain screams “he’s pulling away” when there’s no re...

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🎙️ 10 Ways to Start Decentering Men in 2025

(To Stop Chasing Male Validation + Choose YOU) | Anxious to Secure Podcast

✨ Tired of obsessing over HIS texts, HIS moods, HIS validation? ✨ Ready to stop letting your anxious attachment call the shots? ✨ Want to feel like the main character in YOUR life again?

Let’s go 💃✨

In this episode of Anxious to Secure, ...

Ready to EXIT Your Insecure Era? 🖤✨

10 Things I would NOT Do Anymore as the Secure, Best Version of Myself

(bye bye Anxious Attachment - HELLO Secure Attachment)

In this episode of The Anxious to Secure Podcast, I’m sharing the TOP 10 things I used to do when I was stuck in anxious attachment mode 😩... that I no longer do as the secure, grounded, high-self-worth version of me.

These are the patterns I’ve let go of ✨ Because fee...

Do you constantly need reassurance in your relationship?

Are you always seeking validation from your partner and feeling anxious when they don't respond?

I get it - I used to be the same way.

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure PODCAST, I'll show you how to stop needing constant reassurance and finally feel certain from WITHIN.

The only, empowered and independent way to go in relationships.

You'll learn WHY your anxious atta...

How to Feel Chosen, Seen & Valued in Your Relationship (Without Chasing or Overgiving) 🖤✨ PART 5 of the "Meet Your Relationship Needs" Series ✨🖤

If you’ve ever felt like… 🔸 You're always giving more than you receive 🔸 You're tired of feeling invisible or not good enough 🔸 You're constantly second-guessing texts, convos, and even your place in the relationship...

This episode is your permission slip to stop chasing ✋ and ...

🎙️ How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Trap | Anxious to Secure in Love 🧠💬

If you feel stuck in a confusing hot-and-cold relationship dynamic, this episode is your lifeline. We’re breaking down how to break the anxious-avoidant trap—even if your avoidant partner isn’t doing the work (yet).

You'll learn the exact steps to go from anxious to secure, without begging for closeness or obsessing over every text 🖤

This episode will he...

🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How to Know If an Avoidant Likes You | Anxious Attachment Relationship Advice

Is your partner emotionally distant... or just not that into you? 😳 If you're anxiously attached, this question can spiral you FAST.

💭 “Are they avoidant and scared of intimacy—or are they just not interested?”

In this episode, I'm breaking down the 4 CLEAR SIGNS so you can finally stop second-guessing:

✨ How avoidants ...

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🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less 

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🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)

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Stop Mothering Your Man:

How Anxious Attachment Kills Attraction & How to Break Free

In this episode, we dive deep into the destructive cycle of mothering your...

🤍 ON SALE: STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)

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🔄 Feel like the more you reach for connection, the more your partner pulls away? Girl, same! I've been there too! In this How to Connect with Your Avoidant Partner - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle guide, I'm sharing everything that worked for me! I'm spilling ALL

the tea on why you feel ...

Are you tired of constantly seeking approval and validation from your partner?

Yes?? Then THIS episode is for you.

10 powerful micro habits that help you detach from your need for approval and transform your anxious attachment into secure confidence.

Learn practical ways to detach yourself from someone without compromising your relationship.

These simple two-minute practices will help you stop seeking external validation and reclai...