The Anxious To Secure PODCAST
Welcome to Anxious to Secure - the podcast for anyone who feels anxious in love and wants to feel calm, confident, and connected. If you’re chasing an emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner… If you’re attaching out of fear, not love… Your relationship is running on survival mode. (I’ve been there - and it can change.) 🤍 I’m Jula: an anxious attachment coach + certified life coach. In just 6 months, I became a more secure version of myself 🫳🏻🎤 Now I help you stop overthinking every text and feel safe, even when your partner pulls away. If you’re tired of the doubt, panic, and never feeling enough: this is for you. Let’s get you into your Secure Era. 🖤
Episodes
grab your daily anxious-to-secure rewriting protocol so you no longer freak out when he pulls away.
If you don’t feel like a priority in your relationship right now, with your dismissive avoidant partner… this episode will feel like a mirror 🪞💔
Because you have communicated your needs. You’ve tried to explain. You’ve tried to get closer.
And somehow… they shut down more. They pull away. They get defensive. And suddenly you feel l...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
If you keep overthinking texts, chasing reassurance, and feeling stuck in a hot and cold relationship… this is for you
In this episode, Jula breaks down the 5 signs you’re stuck in an anxious attachment + dismissive avoidant toxic cycle and why it feels SO hard to leave even when you want to
You’ll understand what’s really happening in your nervous system, ...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
How to break the anxious avoidant cycle without chasing him ❤️🩹
In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant couples get stuck in the same painful push and pull cycle and how YOU can finally break it without begging for reassurance, overthinking every text, or losing yourself in the relationship
If your partner pulls away, needs space, shuts down emo...
Five things you should NEVER say to your avoidant partner UNLESS you want to trigger him to shut down or get defensive...
If you keep thinking “why is he shutting down when I just ask for the bare minimum?” this is for you
In this episode I break down the exact communication patterns that accidentally trigger defensiveness, distance, or emotional shutdown in avoidant partners.
You’ll understand: ➞ why “you never…” instantly crea...
hills I will die on as someone who healed their anxious attachment…
Ever feel like your world falls apart when your partner pulls away? ⛈️ Like you’re overthinking texts, chasing reassurance, and still feeling not enough?
This episode is for you.
In this raw and honest talk, I share the hills I will die on after healing my anxious attachment style and stepping into earned secure attachment 🧠💛
We go deep into why anxious attachmen...
Is your avoidant partner pulling away… or actually trying?
here are CLEAR signs he IS trying (and he DOES want you.)
If you have an anxious attachment style and you're constantly overthinking your relationship, checking your phone, and wondering “does he even care?”… this episode will change how you see EVERYTHING.
Because here’s the truth no one tells you: When an avoidant partner tries… it doesn’t look obvious.
No long texts. ...
Ever wondered: do avoidants even care? Does he even love me if he pulls away? If you have an anxious attachment style, this episode will hit 🧠⛈️
Because it often feels like YOU are the only one trying… while your avoidant partner shuts down, pulls away, and says nothing
But what if that “distance” is not lack of care… but a different kind of emotional growth? 👀
In this episode, I break down 3 signs your avoidant partner is bec...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
If you keep ending up with emotionally unavailable partners… if you feel anxious when he pulls away, overthink every text, and wonder “why does this ALWAYS happen to me?”…
this episode is going to feel a little confronting… and a lot empowering
Little warning: DON'T blame ME.. blame your PAST.
Because here’s the shift:
It’s not just that you’re attract...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
If attachment hasn't work - try it with DETACHMENT... :)
If you’re trying to detach from your dismissive avoidant partner, stop obsessing over your relationship, and finally feel calm again… this episode is for you 🖤
Because right now? You’re not “too in love.”
You’re stuck in anxious attachment, overthinking everything, replaying texts, and feeling like...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
Hands up if you have an anxious attachment and wonder… why do I keep being attracted to avoidant and emotionally unavailable men?
Then this one’s for you..
…and it’s starting to feel like a pattern you can’t break 🖤✨
At first, it feels SO good. There’s chemistry. There’s excitement. There’s hope
But then… He pulls away. He shuts down. He avoids emotional ...
Grab here your SECURE WOMAN PROTOCOL
to not freak out when he pulls away!
Are you still feeling anxious in your relationships? Wondering why things never seem to shift, even though you “know” your attachment style?
In this episode, I break down old vs. new attachment theory and show why being anxiously attached doesn’t have to be permanent.
You’ll discover why awareness alone isn’t enough, how childhood, sensitivity, and past exp...
All good guys are taken?
Think there are no secure, emotionally available men left? I’m here to show you why that’s not true… there are actually 620 MILLION single, secure men in the world 🌎 who could be a great match for you.
And the key?
Shifting your own attachment style makes finding them so much easier.
Attachment Library + more offers ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
In this episode: 00:00 Are all sec...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
If you want to heal anxious attachment and stop losing yourself in relationships, this episode is for you.
Finally, break the anxious-avoidant cycle.
Why do anxious women attract avoidant partners?
Why does the relationship feel like your WHOLE world? And why does everything fall apart after the honeymoon phase?
Attachment Library + more offers ➞ http...
If you're anxious-attached, here are ways to stop your anxious attachment!
Attachment Library + more offers ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
The Secure Woman Protocol (Workbook and 4 step daily rewiring routine)
How to stop anxious attachment. How to stop being anxious in a relationship. How to stop chasing an avoidant partner.
If you feel everything intensely… If you overthink his mood, his tone, his ...
Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Trap a huge part of my breakthrough a few years ago, just before I started becoming securely attached.
Before I just could NOT understand...
Why does he pull away when you try to get closer? Why does it feel like the more you love, the more distance you create? 🌪
THIS will make so much more sense when you go deeper on attachment theory.
If you’re anxiously attached and dating (or married to) ...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
How to thrive with an avoidant man, love an avoidant partner, and stop chasing in an anxious–avoidant relationship 🖤✨
If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re in a relationship with an avoidant man, this episode will feel painfully familiar 👀
I break down the anxious–avoidant cycle in simple words and show you why neutral moments suddenly...
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to not freak out when he pulls away!
Avoidant attachment or narcissist? If you’re anxiously attached and dating someone emotionally unavailable, this question can feel impossible to answer.
In this episode, I explain the difference between avoidant attachment style and narcissism, and why anxious partners so often confuse the two.
Some behaviors look similar on the surface, but the intention, ...
In this episode, we break down the Brooklyn Beckham family situation through attachment theory 🧠✨ because THIS will reveal the truth, what's actually happening in the beckhams family life NOT gossip.
NOT drama.
NOT taking sides (well..maybe a little) let me know WHICH side you are on, TEAM Victoria or TEAM Nicola?
But real PSYCHOLOGY behind love, loyalty, power, and fear of abandonment
From one EX-anxious attached girl, to you, so...
If you’re still anxiously attached… If you still overthink texts If silence feels like danger If you’re tired of feeling “too much” or not enough
This episode is for YOU.
In this podcast, I share 26 practical, real-life things you can start doing in 2026 to finally heal anxious attachment and become SECURELY ATTACHED not just in love, but in life.
Because this work doesn’t just change your relationships. It changes your ANXIET...
36 LESSONS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, ATTACHMENT & SELF-WORTH 🎙✨🖤
This episode is for you if you’ve ever loved deeply… and lost yourself in the process 🫂💔
👇 RESOURCES 👇
💎 Courses ✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts
➞ https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety
💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
If you’ve ever: ➞ overthought every text �...
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