The Anxious To Secure PODCAST
Welcome to Anxious to Secure - the podcast for anyone who feels anxious in love and wants to feel calm, confident, and connected. If you’re chasing an emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner… If you’re attaching out of fear, not love… Your relationship is running on survival mode. (I’ve been there - and it can change.) 🤍 I’m Jula: an anxious attachment coach + certified life coach. In just 6 months, I became a more secure version of myself 🫳🏻🎤 Now I help you stop overthinking every text and feel safe, even when your partner pulls away. If you’re tired of the doubt, panic, and never feeling enough: this is for you. Let’s get you into your Secure Era. 🖤
Episodes
If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨
This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships — before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay.
In this podcast episode, I shar...
➞ Take the 3min FREE Attachment Quiz (3.7K others did before you) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
What I wish I knew when I was 20 about men. Truly. What would I wish I had known when I was 20? 🫂✨
These are the REAL truths about men I learned the hard way. As an ex–anxious attachment girl. Heartbroken. Overthinking every text 📱 Feeling insecure WAY too often 🥶⛈
If you have anxious attachment, this ep...
If you’re stuck chasing crumbs… overthinking every text… or getting attached to guys who give the BARE minimum — this episode is your wake-up call.
I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment makes you want the most unavailable guy… why your brain obsesses over mixed signals… and why you keep replaying his “hey” like it’s a love letter.
You’ll learn the 10 TRUTHS that flip the script — the ones that make HIM chase YOU.
No...
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imag...
જ⁀➴ (join 3K OTHERS!)
➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
(Know your type so you do the right work)
10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship)
If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★
These are the sneaky little...
Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET
To Stop Running On Autopilot
💎 CoursesON SALE:
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-ma...
✨ Imagine you’re done waiting for someone else to decide your mood, your worth, or your story. You’re ready to step fully into Main Character Energy and lead your life with confidence, joy, and magic 🦄
In this episode, we break down how anxious attachment quietly pulls you into side-character mode
and exactly how to flip the script
💛 Learn practical, everyday ways to own your energy, your choices, and your story...so you can fee...
Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz (Know your type so you do the right work)
➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
💎 CoursesON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they c...
…and the last one will shock you
7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman
How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️🩹📱
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine.
I’m breaking down the 7 things I would do completely differently if I dated again...
🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
This episode might break your heart a little…
but YOU need this little wake up call (because I would have THANKED anyone at least later realising this...)
Because today I’m finally saying t...
🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text
(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
Ever feel like the SECOND your partner p...
Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist
Feeling anxious in your relationship? Always worried about texts, attention, or being enough? You’re not alone. 😬
In this episode, I share 5 skills my clients used to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment style, feeling calm, confident, and safe in themselves and their relationships. ✨
Here’s a sneak peek: ➞ H...
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨
In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still ke...
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Do you catch yourself panicking when your partner doesn’t text back, rearranging your life to stay close, or feeling like love is a game you have to earn? 🖤✨
This episode uncovers why your mind goes into overdrive in relationships, replaying fears, doubts, and “what ifs.” Why does a simple text delay feel like abandonment?
Why do you over...
⚠️ Warning: After this episode, you might 01 fall in love with an avoidant or 02 see them through a completely different lens. Because what I’m about to share may change how you see avoidants forever 🤍🧠
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
If you’ve ever felt like the avoidant in your life is cold, distant, confusing, or hard to love… this episode will soften something in...
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤
Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there.
What changed, what worked, ...
Welcome back to back 02:
Do you ever check your phone twice just to make sure they didn’t ignore your last text? Over-plan a date, then feel stressed when it doesn’t go perfectly? Rehearse what to say next instead of actually being in the moment?
There’s nothing wrong with you. 🖤 Your nervous system has just learned to protect you — and right now, it’s overworking.
In this episode, I share tiny daily habits that help you step out ...
If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much “inner work” you do… your anxiety still runs the show.. this episode is going to change how you see healing 🖤
In this episode, I share 6 tiny feminine micro habits that helped me rewire my anxious brain and finally feel SAFE in love. No huge routines. No big life changes. Just small, daily shifts in how you do things, not what you do.
Because anxious attachment is actually stuck masc...
Ever wondered how to SPOT an avoidant early on, or what a securely attached partner actually looks like?
Dating can feel like a minefield when you have an anxious attachment, right? 🧠
You meet someone, start to get attached, and only later realize they’re emotionally unavailable. They pull away. You overthink.
Suddenly, you’re stuck in the same anxious spiral, replaying the same patterns again and again.
In this episode, I’m show...
Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
Too Much Masculine Energy? The Hidden Link to Your ANXIOUS Attachment
You chase, they pull away.
You panic, they withdraw. It’s exhausting. 🧨
Ever catch yourself texting again even though you already asked if t...
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