Off The Data Provided

In this week's episode, Dr.  Marcus C. Shepard breaks down the Institute for Family Studies' 2025 survey (https://ifstudies.org/report-brief/americas-demoralized-men-part-1) of over 2,000 young men (ages 18–29), exploring how definitions of adulthood are changing and how economic and educational shifts are reshaping life milestones.

The episode covers major findings on how many young men delay traditional markers like full-time wor...

In this episide, Dr. Shepard examines a recent Institute for Family Studies/YouGov survey (https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-one-role-gen-z-women-still-want-men-to-play) of 18–29-year-olds about dating and gender roles. The episode summarizes key findings showing that most Gen Z men and women prefer egalitarian dating arrangements, which include sharing date costs and household responsibilities, while still broadly agreeing that men s...

In this latest episode, Dr. Shepard breaks down the Institute for Family Studies' national survey of 5,275 unmarried young adults (ages 22–35) and shares what the data reveals about today’s dating landscape. The episode highlights key findings: 86% of young adults expect marriage but only about one-third are actively dating. Major barriers include finances, low self-confidence, and negative past experiences, while most men and wome...

On this episode, Dr. Shepard explores Dunbar’s Number, the idea that humans can meaningfully maintain about 150 social relationships. Drawing from Robin Dunbar’s book "How Many Friends Does One Person Need?," Dr. Shepard explains the social intelligence hypothesis that links neocortex size to social-group limits, breaks down the layered structure of relationships (from 3–5 closest friends to 1,500 recognizable faces), and describes...

In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard breaks down three internet era relationship behaviors: ghosting, orbiting, and breadcrumbing through what they mean, why they’ve become common, and how they affect both romantic and platonic connections.

Ghosting is the sudden withdrawal of communication without explanation; orbiting is staying digitally connected (likes, story views, occasional DMs) without real contact; breadcrumbing is givin...

In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard walks through Sherry Turkle’s "Reclaiming Conversation" and explores how smartphones and social media shift us from deep, face-to-face conversations to mere, shallow connections. He highlights terms like fubbing, whole-person conversation, solitude, punctuation in texting, maximizers vs. satisficers, multitasking vs. unitasking, intellectual serendipity, and weak vs. strong ties to explain why ...

Host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses Jonathan Haidt’s book "The Anxious Generation" and how the shift from play-based to phone-based childhoods has reshaped Gen Z’s social skills and mental health. The episode covers key concepts including real-world versus virtual-world communication, conformity and prestige bias, discovery versus defend mode, safetyism, anti-fragility, and the four opportunity costs of phone-based childhoods: soc...

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explains the family life cycle and the four core family communication patterns—consensual, pluralistic, protective, and laissez-faire—focusing on conversation and conformity orientations and how they shape family dynamics.

The episode ends with three practical tips for better family communication: reorienting relationships with restart conversations, managing words-thoughts-emotions, and setting boundaries, es...

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses a Wired article (https://www.wired.com/story/ai-relationships-are-on-the-rise-a-divorce-boom-could-be-next/) on the rise of AI relationships and their growing impact on marriages, including legal disputes and financial secrecy tied to chatbot companions.

He applies interpersonal communication concepts (investment, emotional closeness, trust, support) and Duck’s stages of relational breakdown, and clo...

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard reviews a new multi-country study reported by the Institute for Family Studies showing that couples who met in person report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger experiences of intimacy, passion, and commitment than couples who met online (https://ifstudies.org/blog/couples-around-the-world-who-met-in-real-life-are-happier-than-those-who-met-online).

The episode discusses possible reasons—such as shar...

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explains how verbal communication creates meaning—covering symbols, arbitrariness, abstraction, ambiguity, brute vs. institutional facts, and how language evaluates and organizes experience.

He outlines communication rules (regulative and constitutive), punctuation, totalizing, loaded language, and offers practical guidelines: use person-centered language, specify levels of abstraction, qualify generalizations...

In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explores nonverbal communication—what it includes, how it interacts with words, and types like kinesics, haptics, proxemics, paralanguage, and environmental cues—plus practical guidelines for monitoring and interpreting nonverbals to avoid miscommunication.

The episode closes with an Ask Dr. Shepard segment about ghosting, offering a respectful “pre-ghosting” message template and advice on how ...

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard examines the Institute for Family Studies article "The Sex Recession," (https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-sex-recession-the-share-of-americans-having-regular-sex-keeps-dropping) explaining how the share of Americans having regular sex has fallen from 55% in 1990 to 37% in 2024. The  decline is linked to fewer partnered adults, reduced face-to-face time, and shifting socialization driven by smartphones and digital...

Host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard breaks down what emotions are and how framing rules, feeling rules, surface acting, deep acting, emotional intelligence, and emotional competence shape the way we feel and express ourselves. He offers practical guidelines for owning feelings, using specific language, and creating a supportive climate for emotional conversations.

The episode closes with an Ask Dr. Shepard segment on dating fatigue, offerin...

In this episode of Off the Data Provided, Dr. Marcus C. Shepard delves deep into the realm of modern friendships, exploring a compelling CNN article by Christian Rogers titled "Some of You Are Bad Friends, and That's Why You're Lonely" (https://www.cnn.com/2025/08/02/health/signs-you-are-a-bad-friend-wellness)  The discussion touches on the increasing challenges men face in forming friendships, the importance of the friendship form...

Join Dr. Marcus C. Shepard in an insightful episode of "Off the Data Provided" as we delve into the art of creating positive communication climates. Explore essential terms and concepts like confirmation and disconfirmation, defensive and supporting climates, and the role of conflict in communication. Discover valuable guidelines for nurturing healthy communication climates, ensuring your interactions foster understanding and conne...

In this episode of "Off the Data Provided," host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard delves into the complexities of making, building, and maintaining friendships in adulthood. Exploring concepts like the seeds of connection and parasocial relationships, the discussion revisits key elements such as investment, emotional closeness, trust, support, and external pressures affecting modern friendships. With insights backed by studies and expert view...

In this episode of Off the Data Provided, Dr. Marcus C. Shepard dives into the intricate world of Celine Song's new film, "Materialist." Join us as we unravel the complexities of modern relationships through the lens of two love types: Eros and Pragma. Through engaging discussions, we explore the contrasts of romantic passion and the practicality of love.

The conversation highlights how these dynamics play out in the lives of the f...