Backpacking Through ADHD

Turning 50 has a way of pulling everything into focus, and for me, that meant finally understanding the winding, often misunderstood journey so many ADHD women walk. In this episode, we explore “Lost Girl Syndrome,” a term that describes how ADHD in girls and women is so often missed, masked, and misunderstood. From the report cards that said “she’s bright, but…” to the emotional toll of constantly trying to keep it together...

I used to think that in order to collaborate or connect, I had to dilute parts of myself. That the tangents, the emotional spirals, the ideas that came in bursts—those things had to be hidden or softened. But I’m learning that the right people don’t just tolerate those things—they value them. They don’t need me to edit who I am. They just need me to be honest. When I stop over-preparing and just show up as myself—interruptions, rab...

In this episode of Backpacking Through ADHD, we’re exploring what it means to live in the gray space between ADHD, anxiety, and identity. If you’ve ever felt misdiagnosed, mislabeled, or just misunderstood, this one’s for you. I share my own story of discovering ADHD later in life and how anxiety shaped so much of my experience before I had the language to understand what was really going on. We’ll talk about masking, the emotional...

Ever feel like you’re doing everything and getting nowhere? Like your brain is spinning while your body stands still? This week, we’re unpacking ADHD paralysis, time blindness, and that strange mental traffic jam that leaves us frozen, yet totally overwhelmed. If you’ve been stuck, shaming yourself for not doing more, this episode is your reminder: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Let’s talk about what’s really happening, a...

Impulsivity is one of ADHD’s most misunderstood traits—often mistaken for carelessness or recklessness. But what if impulsivity isn’t a flaw? What if it’s a signal, a strength, even a kind of intuition? In this episode, I unpack the difference between impulsivity and instinct, and explore how risk-taking can be a powerful tool for growth when we understand what’s really driving it. I share insights from my own leadership blindspots...

This week’s episode of Backpacking Through ADHD is inspired by the hat “I’ll Bring the Good Times”, and the unexpected star wearing it: my dog, Lucky. But behind the laughs and cuteness is a much bigger message. Joy isn’t something we earn after we’ve checked all the boxes. For ADHD brains, joy is the fuel, not the reward. In this episode, we’ll explore the science behind dopamine and why stimulation, play, and laughter are essenti...

This week on Backpacking Through ADHD, we’re diving deep into one of the most powerful and challenging concepts in ADHD family life: unconditional love. Inspired by the “Love Freely” hat, this episode explores what it means to show up with love in the moments that test us most. From parenting through meltdowns to forgiving ourselves for the mess, we talk about how ADHD brains crave connection, struggle with shame, and often need lo...

Ever feel like you need all the answers to feel okay? Same. This week’s episode is a day late—but right on time emotionally. Inspired by a hat with an upside-down question mark, we’re talking about sitting with uncertainty, asking better questions, and why curiosity might be our greatest ADHD superpower. I also share a moment with Grayson on the baseball field that changed everything. This one’s about flipping the script. Let’s go.

In this week’s episode of Backpacking Through ADHD, I’m leaning all the way into a theme that’s been on my heart—and sitting right on my head. My hat this week says Be the Kindness, and that’s exactly where we’re going together. This episode is a deep, emotional, and at times raw exploration of how kindness isn’t just a nice idea—it’s a powerful ADHD regulation tool. We talk about what kindness looks like in the middle of meltdowns...

In this deeply personal episode, I share my belated Mother’s Day tribute to the woman who raised a neurodiverse household without ever needing a diagnosis herself. My mom doesn’t have ADHD—but she parented three ADHD brains with grace, grit, and intuition that rivaled any expert playbook. Through stories, reflection, and a letter I never knew I needed to write, I honor the legacy of a woman who was our structure, our rhythm, and ou...

In the final episode of our “Under the Hat” series, we dive into the identity stories our ADHD kids tell themselves—and how those stories are often rooted in shame, perfectionism, and years of correction without recognition. From “I’m stupid” to “I always mess up,” we explore where these thoughts come from and how we can help rewire them. With insight from Kirk Martin’s Brain Boosters, the Child Mind Institute, and voices l...

In this episode of Under the Hat, we unpack the real, daily needs of the ADHD brain—movement, nutrition, sensory input, and the tools that actually help kids regulate and focus. Inspired by the Brain Boosters series and layered with personal experience, this episode explores what it means to fuel focus instead of forcing it. From fidgets to food routines, we’re building a survival kit that supports ADHD brains in real life—not just...

In this kickoff episode of my new series, Under the Hat: What ADHD Kids Wish We Knew, I take you inside the real struggles behind ADHD behavior and how we can reroute the parenting and teaching roadmap with compassion, structure, and calm. Inspired by the Calm Parenting Podcast and Kirk Martin’s Brain Boosters series, this episode is filled with hard-earned insight, practical tools, and stories that will resonate—whether you're par...

This week, I’m solo on the mic — and feeling it — as I dive into one of the hardest lessons for ADHD brains: patience. Inspired by a weekend stuck on I-70 (again), I’m sharing real stories, including the birth of my son, and unpacking why waiting feels so impossible for us. We’ll talk time blindness, emotional spirals, impulsive decisions, and how to build patience like a muscle — even when every part of you wants to hit the gas. I...

Today’s episode is a special one—because it’s personal. I’m sitting down with Matt Bonavita, an educator, dean, professor, and longtime advocate for neurodiverse students in New York City. But before I knew Matt the educator, I knew Matt the DJ—he was the one who rocked my wedding and taught me the power of letting go of rigid plans. We dive into everything from IEPs, emotional regulation, and the hidden lives of at-risk students, ...

In this week’s episode of Backpacking Through ADHD, I’m live from the Association of Zoos and Aquariums conference with a very special guest—Grayson Ponti, founder of ZANE and a passionate advocate for neurodiversity. We explore how zoos and aquariums can become more inclusive spaces for both visitors and professionals, especially those who are neurodivergent. Grayson opens up about his personal journey navigating autism and ADHD, ...

Saying no should be simple, but for ADHD brains, it’s anything but. Whether it’s people-pleasing, overcommitting, or feeling guilty every time you set a boundary, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking why ADHD makes both saying and hearing no so difficult, the role of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and how impulsivity and validation-seeking keep us stuck in the yes cycle.

We’ll also break down real strategies to set bo...

ADHD brains and food? It’s complicated. Whether you’re forgetting to eat, chasing sugar for a dopamine boost, or struggling to get your kid to eat anything besides Goldfish, you’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into how nutrition impacts focus, energy, and impulse control, the foods that help (and hurt) ADHD brains, and real-life meal solutions for busy families. Plus, we tackle the challenge of ADHD medication suppressing ap...