Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Christian Pankhurst joins Jayson to talk about group work. What does “healing” really mean? What do transformative arcs in group therapy look like? Should the facilitator be part of the group? Can group work replace one-on-one therapy? How can you stay well as a healer? How should facilitators deal with projection? Stay tuned until the end to hear Christian and Jayson share their self-care strategies.

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• 2:22 - Emergent ...

How should you coach someone whose partner isn’t doing the work? Jayson breaks it down. How should coaches and therapists get their clients to focus on themselves? Should clients leave or stay with an impossible person? Why is it so important for clients to have their feelings validated? How can you help your clients take responsibility for not speaking up? Don’t miss this insightful look at a difficult situation.

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Dr. Will Van Derveer joins Jayson to discuss the uses and misuses of psychedelic drugs. He shares his background, his work in integrative psychiatry, and the limitations of conventional mental health treatments. Dr. Van Derveer also explores the therapeutic potential of ketamine, MDMA, LSD, psilocybin, and more.

Are there people who shouldn’t use psychedelics? If you’re going to use them, what are some best practices? Don’t miss thi...

Are you stuck in victimhood? Jayson breaks down how to invert the victim triangle and make the shift from victim to author. What’s the difference between blame and responsibility? Is being in the victim seat always a bad thing? Stay tuned until the end when Jayson shares one important question you should always ask your clients - and yourself.

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• 0:55 - The victim/drama triangle
• 5:08 - The difference between blame and res...

What if today were your last day on Earth? Jayson is joined by author and retired Navy SEAL Commander Mark Divine for his 3rd time on the show to discuss finding your purpose on this planet, meditation vs. psychedelics, developing mental and physical toughness, and much more. Don’t miss Mark’s exhortation for coaches at the end.

Mark Divine is a retired Navy SEAL, bestselling author, and transformative thought leader, inspiring comp...

Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddressed? Have you been seeing a practitioner for years without making real progress? If you're struggling to see results, you won’t want to miss this episode.

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• 5:26 - Your story isn’t being challenged
• 6:35 - Sessions feel like a coffee date
• 7:36 - Therapy feels like a fri...

What does it mean to follow your deepest calling? How do you get clear on what actually matters and act on it today? Jayson sits down with executive coach John O’Connor to explore what it takes to create real transformation.

They get into symbolic sovereignty, creating a clear vision, and how deep callings can emerge from deep traumas. Jayson shares what it means to earn your black belt in relationships, they discuss why music is a ...

Jayson breaks down the problems with one common strategy—people-pleasing and how it relates to the core inner conflict. What are the childhood roots of people-pleasing? Why do people-pleasers become resentful? Why do integrated individuals make better coaches and therapists? Tune in to this insightful episode to learn how to stop betraying yourself in the context of your relationship.

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• 1:37 - Client example
• 5:43 - The c...

Jayson sits down with Duane Mullner to talk about the role of the therapist or coach. Why is the here and now so important? Can clients help their coaches and therapists? How should you prepare for a session? What should you do with a client who isn’t making progress? How can you help clients who are stuck in victimhood? Don’t miss this chance to hear Duane Mullner share the wisdom he has accumulated over his long career.

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Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with astrology and Gene Keys? Can it give you a tough-love wake-up call? Stick around until the end to learn how you can use AI to get the most out of your therapy sessions!

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• 2:40 - Ways to use AI as a client
• 4:52 - Using AI for constructive criticism
• 7:50 - Astrology
• 10:27 - T...

Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or therapist? What are the downsides of using AI to coach yourself? Stay tuned until the end of the episode to find out how you can thrive—rather than just survive—as a coach or therapist in the age of AI.

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• 5:42 - Price point
• 9:10 - Who will lose their jobs?
• 12:53 - What A...

If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it’s important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experience of being a client and breaks down how you can make sure you’re getting the results you want. Is it ever okay not to make progress? Learn how to advocate for yourself, prepare for your sessions, stay accountable to friends and family, and much more in this episode!

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Clinical psychologist Alexandra Solomon joins Jayson to offer valuable advice for therapists and coaches. What are the unique challenges of working with men in couples work? How should therapists and coaches manage countertransference? What common issues are individuals bringing to therapy these days? And how can therapists help people most effectively? Find the answers to these questions—and more—in this insightful episode!

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What’s wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems?

Jayson explains why it’s better to offer understanding rather than jumping in with solutions—and how people are more likely to come up with their own answers when they feel truly heard.

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• 0:03 - What's wrong with "fix-it" mode?
• 3:49 - Reflecting instead of fixing
• 7:08 - Giving people space to come up with their own solutions
• 8:30 - Understanding fi...

How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yourself to coach effectively? How can you teach your clients the skills they need to develop, and what does that process look like? Don’t miss this insightful episode.

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• 0:36 - You have to have successful relationships
• 7:05 - Skill acquisition
• 13:27 - Don't be uncomfortable with i...

Jayson breaks down motivational interviewing. What is it? Can you force your clients to change? What should you do if a client is ambivalent about change? Is your client placing value on the right things? Whether you're a coach or a client, you won’t want to miss this insightful episode.

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• 1:50 - Placing value on the right things
• 3:34 - Motivational interviewing
• 5:57 - Ambivalence about change
• 11:37 - You can't for...

Jayson explores the pros and cons of coaching. Is coaching more effective than therapy? He discusses the lack of standards in coaching, the absence of trauma training, and the potential shallowness of the approach. Jayson also examines why prioritizing results over feelings can be problematic. However, he also highlights why coaching can sometimes be a better option than therapy. Why choose coaching? Tune in to find out.

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