Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Are you ready to Talk To Me? Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships). Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together. None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone! So if you're ready... Let's talk... Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe

Episodes

This is Harder Than I Thought It Would Be with Stephanie May Wilson

April 22, 2025 • 59 mins
Today on the show I talk to Stephanie May Wilson, who after having twins, and moving to another country, is processing the fact that life has been harder than she expected it to be…and she’s struggling. What do you do when life feels harder than you expected, and you start to question yourself? Is it supposed to be this hard? And is it this hard for others? What do you do when your personal inadequacies start to creep in, and how d...
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When is it Time to Take Medication for Depression & Anxiety?

April 15, 2025 • 39 mins
Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you.  Today on the show I talk to Daniel, who is asking how he should know when it’s time to consider depression medication. As Christians, we believe in prayer, we believe that God can heal us, and we believe that He is able to heal…so when do we make...
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I Say Yes When I Should Say No

April 8, 2025 • 31 mins
Today on the show, Alison talks to me about the fact that she finds herself saying “YES” to the needs and requests of others, when she really should be saying no, because she doesn’t have the bandwidth or capacity to do it, and she finds herself bitter, burnout, and resentful. Why does she have this pattern and where does it come from? Today on Talk To Me, we dig deep and find out where this pattern started and the answer will surp...
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What Do I Do With These Hard Emotions? with Annie Downs

April 1, 2025 • 53 mins
On this episode I have an on-air counseling session with Annie F. Downs who talks to me about a difficult season she faced after facing a breakup followed by the devastating loss of her nephew followed by physical health struggles all in the same time-period, dealing with grief upon grief upon grief. We talk about all the difficult feelings that come up during hard seasons when we’re feeling overwhelmed, and what on earth we’re sup...
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Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable Men

March 25, 2025 • 27 mins
What happens when you seem drawn to the same type of person, but that “type” is someone who is emotionally unavailable? Why are certain people drawn to these types of unhealthy cycles of relationships, and how do you break the cycle? Today I talk to Erica, who is tired of emotionally unavailable men, and wanting to understand her role in attracting these types of relationships. Listen into this powerful conversation! You can al...
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Healing From a Relationship I Made Up in My Mind

March 18, 2025 • 37 mins
Is it possible to get attached to a relationship you made up in your mind? Today Denise calls in to talk to me, because she’s struggling to let go of a relationship that she has been imagining in her mind, and wanting to embrace reality. After many years of casually interacting with someone that she has feelings for, she’s ready to let it go and move forward into a realistic perspective of their relationship. But she needs help…so ...
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Second Guessing the Break Up

March 11, 2025 • 32 mins
Katie comes to talk to me today about a breakup that she's second guessing. We processed why she broke up with him, and then talk through some of her regrets. What happens when you look back and realize you might have made a mistake in breaking up? Where do you go from there? How do you know whether or not it was the right decision? This episode is powerful for anyone who can relate to second-guessing yourself after a breakup.  Yo...
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Struggling with Singleness with Anthony O'Neal

March 4, 2025 • 42 mins
Today I’m joined by entrepreneur Anthony O’Neal, for this on-air counseling session where we process his feelings and desires as a successful, single, bachelor. He’s building his life, his business, and his world…but he has no one to share it with, which takes a toll on him emotionally. We talk about what to do with the desires, how he’s handling singleness, and so much more. It’s a powerful conversation so make sure to tune in! Y...
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She Keeps Triggering Me with Brooke and Wiley

February 25, 2025 • 59 mins
On this episode of Couples Therapy I talk with Brooke and Wiley, who are struggling with his over-reactive triggers to simple questions. Wiley is tired of her questions, but Brooke feels like she can’t ask anything without it turning into a fight, and she’s not sure how to deal with it. We turn the tables on Wiley and help him identify why this might be the case, and how to begin identifying the root cause of his triggers. It’s a p...
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We're In a Stressful Season with Jimmy and Irene Rollins

February 18, 2025 • 58 mins
On this episode of Couples Therapy, I sit down with my friends and pastors Irene and Jimmy Rollins who are in a seriously stressful season of life right now, which is starting to impact their marriage. The build-up of stress has caused new tensions, and without the old unhealthy coping skills of addiction to default to — they’re having to pave a new path this time around. We talk through the stress they’re facing, and how they can ...
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Why Do We Keep Having the SAME Fight?

February 11, 2025 • 66 mins
Have you ever wondered, “Why do we keep having the same fight?” Today on Talk To Me, I have an on-air Couples Therapy session with Jeff and Michelle who don’t understand why, after all of their years in marriage ministry and helping other couples, they can’t seem to help themselves. They keep having the same fight over and over again (and you’ll be surprised when you find out what it’s about). I help them get to the roots of the r...
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Newlywed Struggles with Kait and JJ Tomlin

February 4, 2025 • 62 mins
Couples Therapy is BACK!!! And I am so excited about the couples we have joining us for the month of February for the Couples Therapy Series.  So what’s the newlywed stage really like for Instagram Relationship influencers Kait and JJ Tomlin? Today in this on-air session, I dig deep with Kait and JJ and talk through some of the newlywed struggles and hardships that have come in these early years of marriage and getting used to one ...
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Reset from Body Shame

January 28, 2025 • 39 mins
Today we talk to Susie who has struggled with body shame for many years, and is trying to break free. Body shame can impact people of all ages and stages of life, and for Susie, it’s been holding her back in many areas. She’s looking for a RESET in how she views herself and freedom from self-critique and self-hatred. I help her unpack where her body shame began, and give her steps to take in order to move toward freedom in this are...
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RESET from Too Much Screen Time

January 21, 2025 • 32 mins
Today on Talk to Me I am joined by Kelsey who is struggling with scrolling. She doesn’t know why she defaults to scrolling on her phone when she wants to, and often needs to, do something different. We go deeper and unpack the WHY underneath her behaviors, and find that her screen time is actually a signal of something else going on underneath the surface. If you’ve ever struggled with too much screen time, this episode will help g...
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Reset from Unhealthy Relationships

January 14, 2025 • 44 mins
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relati...
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Reset from Worst Case Scenario Thinking

January 7, 2025 • 49 mins
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe it’s your relationship with food.  Maybe you’...
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Baggage in Our Marriage with Dave & Ann Wilson

December 31, 2024 • 59 mins
Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people… Dave and Ann Wilson! I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years. ...
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Why Can’t I Ask For What I Need?

December 24, 2024 • 33 mins
Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships whe...
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Do I Have Dad Wounds? with Jonathan Pokluda

December 17, 2024 • 57 mins
Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we ...
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Am I Healed Enough To Date?

December 10, 2024 • 35 mins
Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?” After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed… And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow i...
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