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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This this year, guys Morality Monday on a Friday. The
scenario is this woman who you're about to hear, says
that her daughter was invited to Disneyland for an entire
week by her dad's side of the family, but her
other kids, who he is not responsible for, the kid's
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step siblings, I guess, were not invited. So this woman says,
the original kid can't go.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
I am the mother whose daughter was invited to Disneyland
by her dad's side of the family, and I am
not allowing her to go unless the rest of the
kids are invited. I have six kids in total, so
she has five sisters and brothers ranging from fifteen to one.
I am not going to allow one child to go
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to Disneyland. Every kid's dream is Disneyland. How what did
you feel as a child if you hit sisters and
brothers and one of your sisters was invited to Disneyland.
You were watching them pack, You are watching them shop,
you know.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
For clothes for the trip.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
You were watching her leave for Disneyland with her Mickey
Mouse ears.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Well, first of all, you get the Mickey Mouse ears
at Disneyland. You're not gonna wear the Mickey Mouse ears
too Disneyland, so let you make the money, like, let's
keep for First of all, she didn't have the Mickey
Mouse ears yet. Second of all, and I want to
know eight five to five, five, nine one one three
five you can call them texta the same number. But guys,
this is ridiculous, Like you're telling me that if I
have a child with a woman and then we break
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up and she moves on and does whatever, that I
can't do. I can't take my kid on a vacation
because she has step siblings. I mean, I guess in
a perfect world, everybody loves everybody and it's you know,
but what interaction do I have with my ex's kids?
Probably not much, if any. And yeah, I guess in
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a perfect world everybody goes to Disneyland and the whole
family and maybe I don't know, but I hate to
sound insensitive, I really do. But if it's my child
and my ex moves on and has more kids and
as a family with somebody else, I'm not responsible for
that family. I'm responsible for my family. I'm responsible for
my kid. So if I want to take my kid
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to Disneyland during my visitation time, then I think I
should be able to do that, and I don't think
that the other person should be able to say my
ex in this case hypothetically should be able to say
no because her kids can't go. I mean that that's
not fair to my kid. It's also not my responsibility
to take all of them too. That's assuming I even
really do anything with those kids.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
Yeah, you're not wrong at all, because on top of
that too, Disney is expensive. Yes, like I understand, like
that's not the point of this, but when you think
about it, all, Okay, so let's take all six kids
and five are not mine. I mean, if you can,
if you got it like that you.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Wanted to in them. I think he would.
Speaker 4 (03:01):
I don't This man doesn't seem I don't know him,
but he doesn't seem like a terrible father.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
He wants to take his kid to Disney, like.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
I'm sure like if he wanted to or he I
don't know, had the funds, but like, you can't expect
all the rest of the kids to go somewhere, you
know what I'm.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Saying, or not that that's not dad.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
Yeah, I'm so torn with this one. Yeah, I am
really because I feel I feel for the other kids.
Of course, and that they you know, she's right about
you know, them watching their sibling go and make those
memories without them. And I understand that happens when you
have a blended family. I wish so I wouldn't take
the stance of she can she can't go, but I
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would make an effort to make sure that I can
create a trip for all of my kids to go.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
So you know, you can go with your dad this time.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
But I would be telling my kids like, hey, mommy's
saving up and I'm going to take all of you.
You know, but right now her dad wants to spend
time with her and allow her to go do that
because she doesn't deserve to be robbed of that experience
with her father. But I do understand the mother wanting
to protect the other keyids and there in their feelings
towards their siblings.
Speaker 6 (04:03):
Right in the end, the peace of the home, right, Yeah,
you know, those other siblings might end up resenting her
because she got to do all this fun stuff. And
again it's not the dad's fault at all, like he
should be able to do what he wants.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
But yeah, I wouldn't do an no.
Speaker 6 (04:17):
I would be like, okay, well then how do I
make it up to maybe that's a blended family.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Excuse me, that's what a blended family is.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
You know, there's things where you sit out on things
that you get to go to. You know, like I
come from one, right, My sister and I have different fathers,
but I've never felt robbed because that was her dad.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, I mean, I just I think that that's that's
that's kind of up to the mom to deal with
to figure out how to how to do that with
the kids that she's had. I mean, I feel like
that's probably also something that she should have considered along
the way, because because that dad has a right to
have moments with his child, and I don't think those
should be thwarted because because he doesn't want to take
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five other children. Yeah, And I also think it's kind
of a lesson, right, Like you know, you say to
the other kids, like, well, not everybody gets to do
everything all the time. And maybe you don't say it
like that, but I mean, she has a different dad.
That doesn't mean that she's not you know, part of
the family, but I mean it also means that she's
allowed to have I mean, what is the dad not
allowed to give her Christmas presents, right, is the dad
not allowed to give her birthday presents? Is? I mean,
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I don't know. I think this is a mom problem,
and unfortunately it is as as someone who also is
you know, my parents got divorced and and and I
had to go visit with my dad for a while,
and he, you know, he he married another woman and
then she had kids, and it was all you know,
when we were together, it was all about making it equal,
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which was really annoying by the way, because I'm like, Dad,
I'm your kid, like my Amanda, and I like, you're
supposed to take care of us, Like I don't care
about these kids. Wow, be equal? You know why time
about equal. I didn't sign up for this, Like you're
the one that married the lady. I didn't marry a lady.
You know, these are your kids, So that there's that. Yeah,
And I understand what Jason was saying about creating a device,
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But at the same time, I don't think that means
that he or anyone doesn't get to do the thing
that they want to do for their kid, because their
job is to provide for their kid, not six kids.
Speaker 5 (06:10):
Absolutely, no, you're right, You're right in that and I
grew up in a spot where like I would be
allowed to go on this trip with my dad. But
then my sister was very much like, if you bring
something home, like say, he drops me off with McDonald's
at home at her house with all the other kids,
I think you, as a father, you should buy McDonald's for.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
All the kids in the house.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
I agree, stuff like stuff like that, but yeah, don't
stop her from going on the vacation.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
You're right, well, I would argue, you don't have to
buy McDonald's for all the kids. Just don't make it
so that the kids eating the food in front of
the other ones, Like take the kid to McDonald's and
then bring the kid home, and I guess you know,
then you run the risk of the kids saying, well,
I just got to go to McDonald's. But again, you know,
I don't know. I don't see how this is much
different from going to school and the kid in your
class got to do something you didn't get to do.
It's like, I realize you're not family, but those parents
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are not responsible for me just because I'm friends with
the kid and I didn't get to do the thing.
I mean, come on, how many times in life. Do
people you know and love get to do a thing
that you don't get to do, And it's just that
sort of life, right, I mean, and I don't think
it's someone else's parents' obligation. Now, in a perfect world,
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everybody get If you've ever been in a divorced situation,
then you know this is not necessarily how it This
is usually not how it goes. But in a perfect world,
everybody gets along and then maybe they the old dad
and mom and stepdad and stepmom and everybody gets together
and says, hey, you know what would be fun is
let's go to six Flags. Let's go to Disneyland, and
then they plant it together and they figure out how
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to pay for it and everybody gets to go. That
is not usually how it goes, So I think you
could expect a situation more like this than that. Hey, Kristen,
good morning, Welcome, Hi, good morning, Hi. What do you
think this woman on TikTok is saying that her child
with her ex can't go to Disneyland with her ex
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child's father because she has since moved on had more
kids with someone else and it wouldn't be there to
the other kids, even though the other kids are not his.
Speaker 7 (08:11):
Yeah, I think it's ridiculous that she is acting that way.
I think that the other like the one child, should
be able to go with her dad, And if she
wants the other five kids to go, like she should
pay for it. She shouldn't expect like her ex to
pay for her kids with somebody else. Like, if they're
going to pay for the trip for them to go,
then fine, they can go. But if you're not paying
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for it, how do you expect someone else to pay
for your kids with somebody else to go on a
trip to Disney which is super expensive?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Well, that's the thing, Christ And it's not like maybe
let's let's say the ex moved on, I had one
kid with someone else. Maybe we figure that out, like
one kid, but we're talking about hundreds, if not thousands
of dollars, Yeah, to take someone to Disneyland, right, do
that time? Five more? However, many more kids she said
she had. That's not tenable, that's not real. You can't, right, And.
Speaker 7 (09:02):
You're paying for their food the whole time. They're gonna
want some like that's a lot of money that you're gonna.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Be Yeah, and you're robbing your kid of experiences because
you can't afford to do it with the group. But
then again, the child who's missing the experience didn't have
any say in the fact that you moved on and
had a bunch of other kids.
Speaker 7 (09:20):
That's you think that he's robbing the other kids, but
like you're robbing this Like yeah, you're right, you're like
you're robbing the kid that he wants to take to Disney.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
I just think it's unfair.
Speaker 7 (09:30):
I feel like in that situation, like when the other
daughter goes to visit the dad, do you send all
the other five kids with her, Like, no, you don't.
You just send the one daughter whose like dad. That
is not all the other kids.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Right right, Kristen, thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Thanks you too, Glad you call?
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Uh Diane is here?
Speaker 8 (09:51):
Hi Diane, Hi, good morning guy.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Y you can name everybody because we're half the people
are gone, so it's it's a simple conversation. Yeah, And
what did you want to say that?
Speaker 8 (10:09):
Oh? I want to say that is not fair for
period that what if she is doing to the one daughter,
If you want those other kids from your previous relationship
or past relationship whatever to go pay for that on
your own And it's not his responsibility.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Yeah, no, I mean I think we all agree on that.
It's it means, it means no trip because the guy's
not going to pay for six kids. I mean, I
don't know how many people can do that anyway.
Speaker 8 (10:37):
No, that's selfish.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Yep, yeah, yeah, I agree. Hey, Diane, thanks for callin,
Thanks for listening. Have a great day, you two guys. Yeah,
a lot of people are saying uh in the text
that they would basically do it and then justly yeah okay, fine,
oh I won't take I won't take the kid, okay fine,
and then they and then take anyway.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Yeah, don't take my kid across the just hurt my feelings.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Right, Yeah, I don't. I don't know. I mean I hope,
I hope none of you find yourself in that situation.
But I mean, it's hard enough to take care of
one kid. I don't know why you're obligated to take
care of a bunch of others that you didn't really
have any part in. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
I want to be messy for two seconds. This is
why you got to choose your baby daddy really.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
Carefully, because the other five kids can go too with
their father.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
How about that crazy idea.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Well, and you could make the argument that a family
of six may not be able to go to Disneyland
because he is really expensive. He talks about that before,
and that does suck. And I recognize that that, you know,
he's an experience that those kids may not get. But again,
if I have one kid and one responsibility, and then
that that is ultimately my priority. And I don't know
why I'm robbing the child of experiences because I can't
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take a bunch of kids. I didn't I'm not involved
with necessarily. So yeah, uh wait a minute, So I
got to take care all your kids too with another guy,
Like we're talking about no.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Girls, take them kids at the carnival.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
Okay, that's extensive too. I don't know. Hey, how about
this nice public park over here, they gonna slide over.
I get you. I'll get you some Mickey ears off
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